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Hazeleyed Honey wrote:

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um ppl only tell u what they want u to know. i mean ur first statement pretty much negates all else said. ppl are ashamed of diseases because of the stigma behind it. so if someone lies and/or decieves about having a std, im pretty sure they are dishonest about how many partners they been with. 

um sex is sex oral sex is still sex. if thats the case then all *+$!# chicks are virgins. as far as your friend goes, unless ur a fly on the wall or in her back pocket u really dont know if all she is saying is true. 

key example all these girls that so call say they on bc etc and they still get preggers. i mean if you look stat wise u have almost a better chance of hitting the lottery percentage wise then getting preggers using bc. so either most of these chics is lying and/or not taking bc properly or girls between the ages of 14/15 - 22 are the most luckiest s.o.b.'s on the planet. 

So as you can see plenty of ppl no offense esp. women will put 100 on 10.
  

She is lying if she denies having an STD, but she just doesn't disclose it to everyone she gets with. I agree she needs to disclose that information. 

However, how many of you who have one night stands or casual sex ask about your partner's sexual history or health even when using protection? Are you really going to depend on the person to say, yea, I am clean and run with it? Some people don't know their sexual health and some think they are clean and aren't. and some know and lie. 

True but its different in not knowing as oppose to knowing and not caring. Also I still stand by my statement of I seriously doubt this chic isnt a part, at least sometimes of team raw.

Hence, it is YOUR responsibility to get each other tested if you really want to make sure you are both clean, and then get down to business once you see that there is a clean record of sexual health. That is the only way you will truly know. But how many people even do that? 

At the end of the day, you are just assuming about this girl's promiscuity and historical past. You know that it can take having sex with ONE person to get infected? Maybe she is not disclosing this information because of the stigma and she thinks she is not putting others in danger when she is having sex with them without breakouts and with a condom. However, viruses can still be spread even without symptoms showing when it comes to genital herpes, even though it is less than a 5% chance of that happening. I believe both consensual adults should disclose all of that.

Maybe I am assuming but its more so then likely she is promiscuous. Lets go with this I have only had sex 1 time theory. The fact that she says she has casual sex with ppl kinda negates she is this every blue moon I occasionally have disease filled sex with strangers unbeknownst to them. Plus like you said even if we go with this "oh I only have sex when I dont have outbreaks" which btw moreso then not is b.s. I seriously doubt she doesnt give head. And you can have herps in the mouth throat etc and she doesnt even no its going on in her mouth.

As for my friend, she never got to have vaginal sex. Don't think she'd lie about it because she wants to lose it. There is no reason for her to. I guess people have different interpretation of what consists of losing your virginity. 

There is no reason for anybody really to lie, there is no reason for alot of things esp. when it comes to sex/relationships ppl do, but ppl do them anyways and often times lie about it.

All I saying is if some chic says I aint loose and im like wifey material i just have a uncurable disease, have casual sex with strangers, and not tell them about said disease, but even though I dont know you, imma be real with you and we can still do our thing whenever im not on my outbreak status.

I mean see it for what it is. she openly says she has casual sex. So I guess this whole got it from 1 time would suggest that she began having casual sex and being reckless AFTER she got the disease. While this maybe true, if i had to place money on it id bet it was her having casual sex that led her to std.