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My girl and I have been together for about 4 months now. I think I know the answer, but I think me being a stubborn 20 y/o won't admit it. Break-up seemsto be the only option, but here goes, I'll try to make it short and provide cliff notes for the lazy bums.
Like most girls, is emotional, but this one has a complicated past, not going to get into details but she's been hurt before. She tends to rely on weed toget her out of bad moods or negative thoughts about what has happened to her in the past... to give her an "escape". I do NOT smoke, but some of herfriends have and do, but are well aware of my disposition for the greenery. Since being together, she has blazed a LOT less, like maybe once every 3 weeks orso. For this, I truly appreciate it because she used to be an everyday head. Going from everyday to every blue moon is a huge thing, especially for somethingshe relies on.
Over this time, I've learned more and more about her, and realized when she gets in these "depressed" like moods about her past or about how"much better my life is on track" than hers, that I can only just leave her be, and give her time to come back to me and come back to her senses.
We broke up a month after we were together because she felt I had it together way better than she did and that she was too much for me to handle emotionallygiven my current work and school situation (work all the time and have 17 credit semesters). She immediately missed me, and I told her I'd need some timeto think. 3 weeks later, we were back together, after I had seen some significant emotional changes in her.
Things have been pretty good with the exception of a few drunken nights. Every time she drinks = emotions run high = gets angry with me for no reason = I haveto calm her down somehow.
We spent the weekend at a major college for halloween where she got more drunk than I, and I tried to watch out for her from receiving booty slaps and boobgrabs and such... I mean, it was halloween. She felt I was trying to control her, when I was simply trying to protect her, and shield her from unwantedtouchers. Needless to say, that was about 2 hours of crying from her.
Nothing happened again until 3 weeks ago at a friend's party where I showed up late to, and she was trashed by the time I got there. I tried to watch herdrinking cause it looked like she was about to puke, and that turned into 3 hours of taking her keys away, her fighting me, telling me to "get the F outof her way, etc.", until I was finally able to drive her home.
Flash forward to tonight, great night at a friend's house drinking, we bounce kinda early cause she's drunk, and she's cool with it, but I get afull breakdown of why she's emotional and why she depends on weed to get by for about 20 minutes, but things were okay. I really listened. She came homewith me and we continued talking. Out of nowhere she decides her past experiences were too much for me to handle or for her to be around me so she insists ondriving drunk back home. (Mind you, she already has a reckless driving for the night we first broke up that she has yet to pay or go to court for, she wasactually semi-drunk but the cop was nice and let her off). I let her bounce but I drop her purse because she says "Just go back to bed, I don't needyou, I've done this for over 20 years by myself, with no one else's help (something she says all the time)" She gets pissed and rolls.
Now I'm left here thinking, is this really worth it? Why am I so stressed over this broad? We have so much in common, and get along so well, it's justwhen she drinks, she wild's out and is uncontrollable. I only drink probably twice a month. I know how I get, and prefer to play it safe. What to do NT?
Cliff Notes:
GF of 4 months, I'm 20, junior in college
Relationship is great with the exception of the nights the GF drinks
She gets emotional too easily, mostly when drunk
Broke up once b/c I couldnt handle the emotions
Thought there was change, for at least a few months, now it's back to the same stuff
Depends on weed to deal with problems, I never smoke, and never have planned on it.
Like most girls, is emotional, but this one has a complicated past, not going to get into details but she's been hurt before. She tends to rely on weed toget her out of bad moods or negative thoughts about what has happened to her in the past... to give her an "escape". I do NOT smoke, but some of herfriends have and do, but are well aware of my disposition for the greenery. Since being together, she has blazed a LOT less, like maybe once every 3 weeks orso. For this, I truly appreciate it because she used to be an everyday head. Going from everyday to every blue moon is a huge thing, especially for somethingshe relies on.
Over this time, I've learned more and more about her, and realized when she gets in these "depressed" like moods about her past or about how"much better my life is on track" than hers, that I can only just leave her be, and give her time to come back to me and come back to her senses.
We broke up a month after we were together because she felt I had it together way better than she did and that she was too much for me to handle emotionallygiven my current work and school situation (work all the time and have 17 credit semesters). She immediately missed me, and I told her I'd need some timeto think. 3 weeks later, we were back together, after I had seen some significant emotional changes in her.
Things have been pretty good with the exception of a few drunken nights. Every time she drinks = emotions run high = gets angry with me for no reason = I haveto calm her down somehow.
We spent the weekend at a major college for halloween where she got more drunk than I, and I tried to watch out for her from receiving booty slaps and boobgrabs and such... I mean, it was halloween. She felt I was trying to control her, when I was simply trying to protect her, and shield her from unwantedtouchers. Needless to say, that was about 2 hours of crying from her.
Nothing happened again until 3 weeks ago at a friend's party where I showed up late to, and she was trashed by the time I got there. I tried to watch herdrinking cause it looked like she was about to puke, and that turned into 3 hours of taking her keys away, her fighting me, telling me to "get the F outof her way, etc.", until I was finally able to drive her home.
Flash forward to tonight, great night at a friend's house drinking, we bounce kinda early cause she's drunk, and she's cool with it, but I get afull breakdown of why she's emotional and why she depends on weed to get by for about 20 minutes, but things were okay. I really listened. She came homewith me and we continued talking. Out of nowhere she decides her past experiences were too much for me to handle or for her to be around me so she insists ondriving drunk back home. (Mind you, she already has a reckless driving for the night we first broke up that she has yet to pay or go to court for, she wasactually semi-drunk but the cop was nice and let her off). I let her bounce but I drop her purse because she says "Just go back to bed, I don't needyou, I've done this for over 20 years by myself, with no one else's help (something she says all the time)" She gets pissed and rolls.
Now I'm left here thinking, is this really worth it? Why am I so stressed over this broad? We have so much in common, and get along so well, it's justwhen she drinks, she wild's out and is uncontrollable. I only drink probably twice a month. I know how I get, and prefer to play it safe. What to do NT?
Cliff Notes:
GF of 4 months, I'm 20, junior in college
Relationship is great with the exception of the nights the GF drinks
She gets emotional too easily, mostly when drunk
Broke up once b/c I couldnt handle the emotions
Thought there was change, for at least a few months, now it's back to the same stuff
Depends on weed to deal with problems, I never smoke, and never have planned on it.