Being a good man Vol: waiting it out for sex

IMO this is a no win situation. I know of girls who were "wifey" type girls and wanted to wait until marriage to give up the buns. The only thingthat happened was they found a guy who would marry them in a short period of time and they ended up divorced a few years later.

They felt they were better than other chics because the only man they ever slept w/ was their husband, when in reality all they did was make him sign alifetime commitment to smash..
 
Originally Posted by RKO2004

Originally Posted by yungmatt

Originally Posted by RKO2004

Originally Posted by P MAC ONE

A girl can give it up right away without being a skeezo.

Really? What if your daughter gave it up after a month?


By far the dumbest %+@% Ive read in this thread thus far...

So what your saying is that if you meet a female and you go on 5-7 dates with her in less than a month...Everything is clicking, chemistry is there and you feel like she might be the one...

Your telling me your gonna turn down the (( )) when the opportunity is there just because its been less than a month? Stupid to another level
Yes I would. And I have. My main focus pertaining to relationships is getting to know the girl. I'm trying to find a wife, not another notch on my belt.

I agree with you 100 percent. Honestly you get to the point where you have had so much sex it's boring. I mean once you have done it all and i mean ALLthere really isn't much satisfaction behind going around sleeping with a lot of women.

Now this may seem made romo to many of yall but im in a relationship right now where all my girl wants to do is %*@%. At first it was like ok that was cool buti really don't have it in me anymore to do it everyday. It gets boring and doesn't produce the same high.

However, i continue to do it because i feel like its my job as her bf to be ready wherever/whenever. I just wish I could find a girl that felt the same way asfar as connecting before we connect in other ways.

Either way this girl is cool cuz shes got wifey qualities so I guess im keeping her for now. But honestly once we are done I could see myself taking a 6 monthabstinence break no problem.
 
Originally Posted by Mr Anleu

Originally Posted by RKO2004

Originally Posted by yungmatt

Originally Posted by RKO2004

Originally Posted by P MAC ONE

A girl can give it up right away without being a skeezo.

Really? What if your daughter gave it up after a month?


By far the dumbest %+@% Ive read in this thread thus far...

So what your saying is that if you meet a female and you go on 5-7 dates with her in less than a month...Everything is clicking, chemistry is there and you feel like she might be the one...

Your telling me your gonna turn down the (( )) when the opportunity is there just because its been less than a month? Stupid to another level
Yes I would. And I have. My main focus pertaining to relationships is getting to know the girl. I'm trying to find a wife, not another notch on my belt.

I agree with you 100 percent. Honestly you get to the point where you have had so much sex it's boring. I mean once you have done it all and i mean ALL there really isn't much satisfaction behind going around sleeping with a lot of women.

Now this may seem made romo to many of yall but im in a relationship right now where all my girl wants to do is %*@%. At first it was like ok that was cool but i really don't have it in me anymore to do it everyday. It gets boring and doesn't produce the same high.

However, i continue to do it because i feel like its my job as her bf to be ready wherever/whenever. I just wish I could find a girl that felt the same way as far as connecting before we connect in other ways.

Either way this girl is cool cuz shes got wifey qualities so I guess im keeping her for now. But honestly once we are done I could see myself taking a 6 month abstinence break no problem.

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That must suck
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. How do you tell a chick "Hey quit being a horndog" with causingmassive problems?
 
Originally Posted by Mr Anleu

Originally Posted by RKO2004

Originally Posted by yungmatt

Originally Posted by RKO2004

Originally Posted by P MAC ONE

A girl can give it up right away without being a skeezo.

Really? What if your daughter gave it up after a month?


By far the dumbest %+@% Ive read in this thread thus far...

So what your saying is that if you meet a female and you go on 5-7 dates with her in less than a month...Everything is clicking, chemistry is there and you feel like she might be the one...

Your telling me your gonna turn down the (( )) when the opportunity is there just because its been less than a month? Stupid to another level
Yes I would. And I have. My main focus pertaining to relationships is getting to know the girl. I'm trying to find a wife, not another notch on my belt.

I agree with you 100 percent. Honestly you get to the point where you have had so much sex it's boring. I mean once you have done it all and i mean ALL there really isn't much satisfaction behind going around sleeping with a lot of women.

Now this may seem made romo to many of yall but im in a relationship right now where all my girl wants to do is %*@%. At first it was like ok that was cool but i really don't have it in me anymore to do it everyday. It gets boring and doesn't produce the same high.

However, i continue to do it because i feel like its my job as her bf to be ready wherever/whenever. I just wish I could find a girl that felt the same way as far as connecting before we connect in other ways.

Either way this girl is cool cuz shes got wifey qualities so I guess im keeping her for now. But honestly once we are done I could see myself taking a 6 month abstinence break no problem.

If you ever post a "NT, I just broke up w/ my GF" thread there will be a long line of NTers asking for her info.
 
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That must suck
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. How do you tell a chick "Hey quit being a horndog" with causing massive problems?
yea it does suck. Ive tried telling her several times actually and she makes it seem like its because either A. i dont like it (which is not truecuz it is great) or B. cuz im cheating. So at the end of the day im stuck just doing the deed pain or pleasure.

If you ever post a "NT, I just broke up w/ my GF" thread there will be a long line of NTers asking for her info.


lol i bet there would be. I'd post pics here but it would be kinda hot cuz i know she knows some guys who check NT. Somebody start a post your GF thread orsomething.
 
Originally Posted by RKO2004

Originally Posted by yungmatt

Originally Posted by RKO2004

Originally Posted by P MAC ONE

A girl can give it up right away without being a skeezo.

Really? What if your daughter gave it up after a month?


By far the dumbest %+@% Ive read in this thread thus far...

So what your saying is that if you meet a female and you go on 5-7 dates with her in less than a month...Everything is clicking, chemistry is there and you feel like she might be the one...

Your telling me your gonna turn down the (( )) when the opportunity is there just because its been less than a month? Stupid to another level
Yes I would. And I have. My main focus pertaining to relationships is getting to know the girl. I'm trying to find a wife, not another notch on my belt.
somebody cue the rock gif. this is how it's supposed to be when you are really talking about wifing a chick.

and what does chemistry have to do with anything? ive met chicks that I impress with wit and vice versa and we can hold good conversation, but honestly if youare looking for a potential wife, forget chemistry. how bout you get to know her like yall grew up together. learn to connect with her mind. how can youtruly get to know somebody in such a small amount of time? like you got to do your hw on her, know her ins and outs(no sexual innuendo), and really connect with her and that takes time.

damn all this sound so simpish, but for those of yall who are truely looking for the one....listen to that man. ifnot...proceed to do what you do until you get older and realize you need more than just diving in different chicks all the time
 
Originally Posted by Dirtylicious

... she's easy if she gives it up to early
... she's a tease if she doesn't (and then you drop her b/c you "have needs")

I'll take the easy girl any day of the week...I aint got time for the jibbi jabba
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Originally Posted by kicksgetmehigh

Originally Posted by Weekend Girl

Originally Posted by CROSSISOM

I think the problem is that people let sex dictate relationships (and their lives) too much. It leads to questions like "how long should you wait" because that's what you're weighing your relationship on.


There's different kinds of relationships though... you can have a sexual relationship without having a committed relationship. Sexual relationships are built on sex and committed relationships are built on respect (among other things). When you establish a sexual relationship before trust and respect it can potentially be problematic...
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True story.
Sooner or later, somebodys gonna be catchin feelings and get too comfortable not knowing that the other person doesn't feel the same way you do.


couldnt of said it better myself!!
 
Originally Posted by kicksgetmehigh

Originally Posted by Weekend Girl

Originally Posted by stoneyjax

yungmatt wrote:

My goal after meeting an attractive lady is always to get in her pants ASAP... How I feel after that happens is another story.

Some chicks keep my interest after im done, others dont.
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I mean... it depends on what your intentions are with shorty (relationship/jumpoff etc.) but if you were trying to be in a relationship with a female could you take her seriously if she gave it up the first night?
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Regardless whether she keeps you interested you'd have to wonder how many dudes been through that with ease before you.


If I'm tryin to establish a relationship and she gives it up the first night... I'll be wondering how many other dudes got the same ease of access?!

Exactly how I look at it too. Like Pac said "I dont want it if its that easy"
 
Originally Posted by JustinSane110

Originally Posted by kicksgetmehigh

Originally Posted by Weekend Girl

Originally Posted by stoneyjax

yungmatt wrote:

My goal after meeting an attractive lady is always to get in her pants ASAP... How I feel after that happens is another story.

Some chicks keep my interest after im done, others dont.
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basically


I mean... it depends on what your intentions are with shorty (relationship/jumpoff etc.) but if you were trying to be in a relationship with a female could you take her seriously if she gave it up the first night?
grin.gif
Regardless whether she keeps you interested you'd have to wonder how many dudes been through that with ease before you.


If I'm tryin to establish a relationship and she gives it up the first night... I'll be wondering how many other dudes got the same ease of access?!

Exactly how I look at it too. Like Pac said "I dont want it if its that easy"



That is about the best way to say it. I believe that waiting for sex brings meaning to a relationship. Treating sex like a journey helps build respect in arelationship. I know if it is a woman I can really see myself with, I a would wait. Hell for my ex-wife whom I married in Rome, I waited 6 months. Now themarriage didn't last, but we had a long realtionship. (I was 21 and a damn fool for marrying her though) I tell you what to me waiting is the differencebetween having sex and making love.

Well thats my 2 cents for now, I have a party to get back to, its my #%$@*%$ Bday NT. April babies, we fools.
 
Originally Posted by kicksgetmehigh

Originally Posted by MissKickBack

so ideally how long would you like to wait before putting it in?
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longest I've ever waited was a year.
To be quite honest... I'm not sure if I can wait that long again but 6 months is good enough IMO
You must be in high school. I can't remember the last time I had to wait more than a few weeks. Usually its 1-3 dates\hangouts
 
I've been thinking of doing this as well. I told myself the next time I meet someone, I will wait it out till we have sex.
 
Originally Posted by rowenarrow

Originally Posted by JustinSane110

Originally Posted by kicksgetmehigh

Originally Posted by Weekend Girl

Originally Posted by stoneyjax

yungmatt wrote:

My goal after meeting an attractive lady is always to get in her pants ASAP... How I feel after that happens is another story.

Some chicks keep my interest after im done, others dont.
laugh.gif
basically


I mean... it depends on what your intentions are with shorty (relationship/jumpoff etc.) but if you were trying to be in a relationship with a female could you take her seriously if she gave it up the first night?
grin.gif
Regardless whether she keeps you interested you'd have to wonder how many dudes been through that with ease before you.


If I'm tryin to establish a relationship and she gives it up the first night... I'll be wondering how many other dudes got the same ease of access?!

Exactly how I look at it too. Like Pac said "I dont want it if its that easy"


That is about the best way to say it. I believe that waiting for sex brings meaning to a relationship. Treating sex like a journey helps build respect in a relationship. I know if it is a woman I can really see myself with, I a would wait. Hell for my ex-wife whom I married in Rome, I waited 6 months. Now the marriage didn't last, but we had a long realtionship. (I was 21 and a damn fool for marrying her though) I tell you what to me waiting is the difference between having sex and making love.

Well thats my 2 cents for now, I have a party to get back to, its my #%$@*%$ Bday NT. April babies, we fools.

Happy Bday. I also use that Pac line. I would prefer a quality girl to make me wait a bit but I'm not gonna turn it down....
 
I guess I'm just not like most dudes. I just don't want to have sex with ANY chick, even if she is bad. I have to have some interest in being in arelationship with her AT LEAST. I choose who I sleep with very wisely too, I know too many dudes with kids and just plain unwanted drama because of that.I've only had sex with two women that I wasn't actually in a relationship with, and I kinda regret both of those. All the rest of the women were my"girlfriends" at the time. For me it's all about making love, so the potential for love at least has to be there. My current girl and my lastgirl were both virgins when I first met them (religious/moral beliefs). I waited a month for the first girl and three weeks for my current girl. I knowthat's not even really long but I wouldn't have minded waiting longer honestly. Sex isn't everything.

There has only been one girl that I had sex with on the first date. That whole night seemed magical though before the sex. Everything was going great beyondbelief, felt like we were meant to be together, amazing. The next morning in the bathroom had her saying she wanted to be Mrs. (Insertmylastnamehere). In theend it didn't work out, she ended up being kinda psycho, should have figured she was too good to be true. But after that first night I was sprung out ofthis world partly because of the sex. It didn't make me lose respect for her at all. Besides that, she was one of the sexiest girls I've ever met.


But when it comes to other extra-curricular activities besides intercourse...all bets are off =)
 
Originally Posted by Mr Anleu

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That must suck
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. How do you tell a chick "Hey quit being a horndog" with causing massive problems?
yea it does suck. Ive tried telling her several times actually and she makes it seem like its because either A. i dont like it (which is not true cuz it is great) or B. cuz im cheating. So at the end of the day im stuck just doing the deed pain or pleasure.



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Man just sit her down with the serious face and let herknow "I love you. But WE NEED TO SLOW DOWN!"
 
Originally Posted by bonafide hustla

Originally Posted by RKO2004

Originally Posted by yungmatt

Originally Posted by RKO2004

Originally Posted by P MAC ONE

A girl can give it up right away without being a skeezo.

Really? What if your daughter gave it up after a month?


By far the dumbest %+@% Ive read in this thread thus far...

So what your saying is that if you meet a female and you go on 5-7 dates with her in less than a month...Everything is clicking, chemistry is there and you feel like she might be the one...

Your telling me your gonna turn down the (( )) when the opportunity is there just because its been less than a month? Stupid to another level
Yes I would. And I have. My main focus pertaining to relationships is getting to know the girl. I'm trying to find a wife, not another notch on my belt.
somebody cue the rock gif. this is how it's supposed to be when you are really talking about wifing a chick.

and what does chemistry have to do with anything? ive met chicks that I impress with wit and vice versa and we can hold good conversation, but honestly if you are looking for a potential wife, forget chemistry. how bout you get to know her like yall grew up together. learn to connect with her mind. how can you truly get to know somebody in such a small amount of time? like you got to do your hw on her, know her ins and outs (no sexual innuendo), and really connect with her and that takes time.

damn all this sound so simpish, but for those of yall who are truely looking for the one....listen to that man. if not...proceed to do what you do until you get older and realize you need more than just diving in different chicks all the time
Thank you sir. I just want peeps to stsrt respecting each other and realize whats truly popping in life. I get great joy seeing my Brother and hisfamily. Its like "
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I want that one day". I know life isn'ta fairytale but I believe I can't make it work.

But seriously though, life is not about (()). Its a major part
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. Butfamily life is
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. Stop treating this girls like free samples.
 
Originally Posted by Dynasty Raider

I guess I'm just not like most dudes. I just don't want to have sex with ANY chick, even if she is bad. I have to have some interest in being in a relationship with her AT LEAST. I choose who I sleep with very wisely too, I know too many dudes with kids and just plain unwanted drama because of that. I've only had sex with two women that I wasn't actually in a relationship with, and I kinda regret both of those. All the rest of the women were my "girlfriends" at the time. For me it's all about making love, so the potential for love at least has to be there. My current girl and my last girl were both virgins when I first met them (religious/moral beliefs). I waited a month for the first girl and three weeks for my current girl. I know that's not even really long but I wouldn't have minded waiting longer honestly. Sex isn't everything.


I respect that. I mean my gf wants to go ahead and have sex after a month into the relationship. That's cool and everything but (call me crazy) I only feela 80% of feelings for her, and she's plain sprung for me. it would be her's and my first time so im kinda with it but not with it. I'm thinkingthat if she wants to go along with it, then i'm certainly not complaining about it, but what if 's keep popin in.

But i agree sex isn't everything. what's the point of love if all we ever did was have sex?? wouldn't that mean that we would have no form ofcompasion for the females? I mean real talk, I'd rather have a wifey I knew would be there for me than a good looking shawty that always gave it up.
 
Originally Posted by blackmagnus514

even if they !%!#+ themselves out?

its not an ideal world buddy.
I know. Its wishful thinking though.
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The world would be peacefuller though.
 
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