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You put yourself in a horrible situation.
You do everything for her and it isn't even making her happy anymore.
You can't fix that.
You do everything for her and it isn't even making her happy anymore.
You can't fix that.
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You put yourself in a horrible situation.
You do everything for her and it isn't even making her happy anymore.
You can't fix that.
You do everything for her and it isn't even making her happy anymore.
You can't fix that.
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Your heart and head are in the right place. I can speak from personal experience, but I don't come to NT to put my life out there for everyone to dissect. Just keep planning and looking at that exit sign. To rush out of a marriage is just as foolish as rushing into one.
I won't talk about my own life, but I'll be more than happy to tell you about my cousin who was in the exact same situation as you are now. He did all the right things (bought a house, put her through school, worked hard, coached his daughter at softball, etc.) and chick did him dirty in the end. She was used to the fast life with D-boys too. She would always try to make him into someone he wasn't and would even tell him things like "I don't like when you say/do this..." "that makes you sound weak/not confident" right in front of me.
And I knew my dude was not weak, he was just trying to be a family man and provide for his kids and wife. He wasn't into running the streets anymore or any that. But she had that desire for that fast life. They had their problems over and over, one big one was dude came home from being off-shore (oil rig) once and found out that she had been letting another $!%+$ stay in there house and having his kids call him daddy. She took my cuz's money and bought this $!%+$ a phone and gave him money to flip into dope...
He was going to divorce her then. Moved out and everything. Had the papers drawn up, but low and behold, she's pregnant with child number three and he finds out through DNA that it's his, so he tries to make things work against his own people's wishes and at the risk of looking like a fool (trying to be the bigger man).
Well fast forward through much more triflingness (a few years) and bull and she just came to dude recently and told him that he's not the kind of man she wants to be married to.
Take what you can from that story my dude and don't end up like my cousin. Even though he had to go through all of that he's gonna be cool. You be cool to brah.
I won't talk about my own life, but I'll be more than happy to tell you about my cousin who was in the exact same situation as you are now. He did all the right things (bought a house, put her through school, worked hard, coached his daughter at softball, etc.) and chick did him dirty in the end. She was used to the fast life with D-boys too. She would always try to make him into someone he wasn't and would even tell him things like "I don't like when you say/do this..." "that makes you sound weak/not confident" right in front of me.
And I knew my dude was not weak, he was just trying to be a family man and provide for his kids and wife. He wasn't into running the streets anymore or any that. But she had that desire for that fast life. They had their problems over and over, one big one was dude came home from being off-shore (oil rig) once and found out that she had been letting another $!%+$ stay in there house and having his kids call him daddy. She took my cuz's money and bought this $!%+$ a phone and gave him money to flip into dope...
He was going to divorce her then. Moved out and everything. Had the papers drawn up, but low and behold, she's pregnant with child number three and he finds out through DNA that it's his, so he tries to make things work against his own people's wishes and at the risk of looking like a fool (trying to be the bigger man).
Well fast forward through much more triflingness (a few years) and bull and she just came to dude recently and told him that he's not the kind of man she wants to be married to.
Take what you can from that story my dude and don't end up like my cousin. Even though he had to go through all of that he's gonna be cool. You be cool to brah.
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Your heart and head are in the right place. I can speak from personal experience, but I don't come to NT to put my life out there for everyone to dissect. Just keep planning and looking at that exit sign. To rush out of a marriage is just as foolish as rushing into one.
I won't talk about my own life, but I'll be more than happy to tell you about my cousin who was in the exact same situation as you are now. He did all the right things (bought a house, put her through school, worked hard, coached his daughter at softball, etc.) and chick did him dirty in the end. She was used to the fast life with D-boys too. She would always try to make him into someone he wasn't and would even tell him things like "I don't like when you say/do this..." "that makes you sound weak/not confident" right in front of me.
And I knew my dude was not weak, he was just trying to be a family man and provide for his kids and wife. He wasn't into running the streets anymore or any that. But she had that desire for that fast life. They had their problems over and over, one big one was dude came home from being off-shore (oil rig) once and found out that she had been letting another $!%+$ stay in there house and having his kids call him daddy. She took my cuz's money and bought this $!%+$ a phone and gave him money to flip into dope...
He was going to divorce her then. Moved out and everything. Had the papers drawn up, but low and behold, she's pregnant with child number three and he finds out through DNA that it's his, so he tries to make things work against his own people's wishes and at the risk of looking like a fool (trying to be the bigger man).
Well fast forward through much more triflingness (a few years) and bull and she just came to dude recently and told him that he's not the kind of man she wants to be married to.
Take what you can from that story my dude and don't end up like my cousin. Even though he had to go through all of that he's gonna be cool. You be cool to brah.
I won't talk about my own life, but I'll be more than happy to tell you about my cousin who was in the exact same situation as you are now. He did all the right things (bought a house, put her through school, worked hard, coached his daughter at softball, etc.) and chick did him dirty in the end. She was used to the fast life with D-boys too. She would always try to make him into someone he wasn't and would even tell him things like "I don't like when you say/do this..." "that makes you sound weak/not confident" right in front of me.
And I knew my dude was not weak, he was just trying to be a family man and provide for his kids and wife. He wasn't into running the streets anymore or any that. But she had that desire for that fast life. They had their problems over and over, one big one was dude came home from being off-shore (oil rig) once and found out that she had been letting another $!%+$ stay in there house and having his kids call him daddy. She took my cuz's money and bought this $!%+$ a phone and gave him money to flip into dope...
He was going to divorce her then. Moved out and everything. Had the papers drawn up, but low and behold, she's pregnant with child number three and he finds out through DNA that it's his, so he tries to make things work against his own people's wishes and at the risk of looking like a fool (trying to be the bigger man).
Well fast forward through much more triflingness (a few years) and bull and she just came to dude recently and told him that he's not the kind of man she wants to be married to.
Take what you can from that story my dude and don't end up like my cousin. Even though he had to go through all of that he's gonna be cool. You be cool to brah.
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thats #!$@!+ up
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thats #!$@!+ up
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He's not on NT, so it is what it is.
Y'all don't know him and I doubt he would mind me telling the story if it's going to help someone out. *kanyeshrug*
Y'all don't know him and I doubt he would mind me telling the story if it's going to help someone out. *kanyeshrug*
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He's not on NT, so it is what it is.
Y'all don't know him and I doubt he would mind me telling the story if it's going to help someone out. *kanyeshrug*
Y'all don't know him and I doubt he would mind me telling the story if it's going to help someone out. *kanyeshrug*
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This may cost money but its a good resource. BTW, do you WANT to work things out/be with her FOR YOURSELF?? you only mentioned staying for they ideal parenting situation....
and you have issues in writing/spelling ect. Not tryin to be an ***, but its bad.
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This may cost money but its a good resource. BTW, do you WANT to work things out/be with her FOR YOURSELF?? you only mentioned staying for they ideal parenting situation....
and you have issues in writing/spelling ect. Not tryin to be an ***, but its bad.
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Damn man I feel so sorry for you right now because of the position you're in.
Also to the ppl saying you have to make sacrifices why would I do that? For love? As someone already said growing up means not enjoying yourself. If that's the case which it is then marriage will never be in my life.
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Damn man I feel so sorry for you right now because of the position you're in.
Also to the ppl saying you have to make sacrifices why would I do that? For love? As someone already said growing up means not enjoying yourself. If that's the case which it is then marriage will never be in my life.
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with all that was said ... the fact that you stated that she tells her girls or sister (i forget) ... we used to be in the club / drinks / valet ... etc ... if thas where her mindset it at ... you need to bounce ... you did all that for her and she doesn't get it ... she wants a bad boy ... she ain't trying to make it work ...
maybe that isn't what you want to hear but is marriage counseling gonna real help ...
is she a good mother to your child at least ?
maybe that isn't what you want to hear but is marriage counseling gonna real help ...
is she a good mother to your child at least ?
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with all that was said ... the fact that you stated that she tells her girls or sister (i forget) ... we used to be in the club / drinks / valet ... etc ... if thas where her mindset it at ... you need to bounce ... you did all that for her and she doesn't get it ... she wants a bad boy ... she ain't trying to make it work ...
maybe that isn't what you want to hear but is marriage counseling gonna real help ...
is she a good mother to your child at least ?
maybe that isn't what you want to hear but is marriage counseling gonna real help ...
is she a good mother to your child at least ?
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Wait so you married her after a past like that? Didn't she show ANY signs of being childish?
Man you guys better start telling these females how it is. If she wants to jet set and live the "high life" then she doesn't seem too mature man. I want go in out of respect for you but you need to check her man.
Man you guys better start telling these females how it is. If she wants to jet set and live the "high life" then she doesn't seem too mature man. I want go in out of respect for you but you need to check her man.
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Wait so you married her after a past like that? Didn't she show ANY signs of being childish?
Man you guys better start telling these females how it is. If she wants to jet set and live the "high life" then she doesn't seem too mature man. I want go in out of respect for you but you need to check her man.
Man you guys better start telling these females how it is. If she wants to jet set and live the "high life" then she doesn't seem too mature man. I want go in out of respect for you but you need to check her man.
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hey man this is life...you have to try your best to make right by your kids as well as yourself...if honestly your doing everything for this girl and she's not reciprocating it in any way shape or form then you need to cut that *%$*# out...Because she will definitely do some heinous !%#@ to you in due time.
If divorce is the only option and since she's a bottomfeeder I say start taking your money out in $1000 increments from the bank and just hiding whatever money you have at your mom or sister or whoever you trust 100000% house. If you transfer funds to someone in divorce proceedings the judge will go after them...you need to think in a worst-case scenario mode right now.
Don't let her have half when she contributed nothing. Play it up that you want to make things work with her WHILE you are getting your money away from her...I really hope you don't let her handle anything financial if so then you need to be careful...very very careful.
If it can work through counseling then god speed but if not then you need to protect your %+# and watch out for your kids because guess what...when she takes half of whatever you got you think all of that is going to the kids??? Nope thats going towards a coach pocketbook and some other unnecessary !%#@.
Of course marriage as well as most other relationships involve compromise but if what you posted is true you've done your share of it already 2 fold. GL
If divorce is the only option and since she's a bottomfeeder I say start taking your money out in $1000 increments from the bank and just hiding whatever money you have at your mom or sister or whoever you trust 100000% house. If you transfer funds to someone in divorce proceedings the judge will go after them...you need to think in a worst-case scenario mode right now.
Don't let her have half when she contributed nothing. Play it up that you want to make things work with her WHILE you are getting your money away from her...I really hope you don't let her handle anything financial if so then you need to be careful...very very careful.
If it can work through counseling then god speed but if not then you need to protect your %+# and watch out for your kids because guess what...when she takes half of whatever you got you think all of that is going to the kids??? Nope thats going towards a coach pocketbook and some other unnecessary !%#@.
Of course marriage as well as most other relationships involve compromise but if what you posted is true you've done your share of it already 2 fold. GL
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hey man this is life...you have to try your best to make right by your kids as well as yourself...if honestly your doing everything for this girl and she's not reciprocating it in any way shape or form then you need to cut that *%$*# out...Because she will definitely do some heinous !%#@ to you in due time.
If divorce is the only option and since she's a bottomfeeder I say start taking your money out in $1000 increments from the bank and just hiding whatever money you have at your mom or sister or whoever you trust 100000% house. If you transfer funds to someone in divorce proceedings the judge will go after them...you need to think in a worst-case scenario mode right now.
Don't let her have half when she contributed nothing. Play it up that you want to make things work with her WHILE you are getting your money away from her...I really hope you don't let her handle anything financial if so then you need to be careful...very very careful.
If it can work through counseling then god speed but if not then you need to protect your %+# and watch out for your kids because guess what...when she takes half of whatever you got you think all of that is going to the kids??? Nope thats going towards a coach pocketbook and some other unnecessary !%#@.
Of course marriage as well as most other relationships involve compromise but if what you posted is true you've done your share of it already 2 fold. GL
If divorce is the only option and since she's a bottomfeeder I say start taking your money out in $1000 increments from the bank and just hiding whatever money you have at your mom or sister or whoever you trust 100000% house. If you transfer funds to someone in divorce proceedings the judge will go after them...you need to think in a worst-case scenario mode right now.
Don't let her have half when she contributed nothing. Play it up that you want to make things work with her WHILE you are getting your money away from her...I really hope you don't let her handle anything financial if so then you need to be careful...very very careful.
If it can work through counseling then god speed but if not then you need to protect your %+# and watch out for your kids because guess what...when she takes half of whatever you got you think all of that is going to the kids??? Nope thats going towards a coach pocketbook and some other unnecessary !%#@.
Of course marriage as well as most other relationships involve compromise but if what you posted is true you've done your share of it already 2 fold. GL
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No matter what you do, do it when your child is still very young and not able to fully comprehend the situation. There is a point where it would become too late to act and if you do, it'll hurt your child (mentally) in a major way.
If it's not working out, it's not working out. Simple as that. There is no point in dragging it out and in fact it could hurt your child more if you two do stick together.
Having your child grow up in a fractious home all her life is most likely worse than forcing your child to have parents who are divorced.
If it's not working out, it's not working out. Simple as that. There is no point in dragging it out and in fact it could hurt your child more if you two do stick together.
Having your child grow up in a fractious home all her life is most likely worse than forcing your child to have parents who are divorced.
