Females of NT, do you mind being approached in a non-social setting?

I actually thought about making this thread today when I was on the metro and I read a female friend's facebook status about guys hitting her up.

It's like, guys shouldn't approach you at work because it's unprofessional and you're working.
He shouldn't approach you at the gym because that's not what you're there for.
He shouldn't approach you on a social networking site because that's not what you're there for.
The club is obviously not where anyone plans on meeting anyone for anything other than a hook up.
And when you are on the street you are unwilling because that isn't a social setting.
So where exactly does that leave for a random guy to meet you?

It basically sounds like females won't date a guy unless he's a friend or associate of one her friends.  Which for someone like me (out of college; has a small group of friends) really sucks.
 
I actually thought about making this thread today when I was on the metro and I read a female friend's facebook status about guys hitting her up.

It's like, guys shouldn't approach you at work because it's unprofessional and you're working.
He shouldn't approach you at the gym because that's not what you're there for.
He shouldn't approach you on a social networking site because that's not what you're there for.
The club is obviously not where anyone plans on meeting anyone for anything other than a hook up.
And when you are on the street you are unwilling because that isn't a social setting.
So where exactly does that leave for a random guy to meet you?

It basically sounds like females won't date a guy unless he's a friend or associate of one her friends.  Which for someone like me (out of college; has a small group of friends) really sucks.
 
Originally Posted by KingofIlladelph

I actually thought about making this thread today when I was on the metro and I read a female friend's facebook status about guys hitting her up.

It's like, guys shouldn't approach you at work because it's unprofessional and you're working.
He shouldn't approach you at the gym because that's not what you're there for.
He shouldn't approach you on a social networking site because that's not what you're there for.
The club is obviously not where anyone plans on meeting anyone for anything other than a hook up.
And when you are on the street you are unwilling because that isn't a social setting.
So where exactly does that leave for a random guy to meet you?

It basically sounds like females won't date a guy unless he's a friend or associate of one her friends.  Which for someone like me (out of college; has a small group of friends) really sucks.
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I agree with all your sentiments KingofPhilly
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Originally Posted by KingofIlladelph

I actually thought about making this thread today when I was on the metro and I read a female friend's facebook status about guys hitting her up.

It's like, guys shouldn't approach you at work because it's unprofessional and you're working.
He shouldn't approach you at the gym because that's not what you're there for.
He shouldn't approach you on a social networking site because that's not what you're there for.
The club is obviously not where anyone plans on meeting anyone for anything other than a hook up.
And when you are on the street you are unwilling because that isn't a social setting.
So where exactly does that leave for a random guy to meet you?

It basically sounds like females won't date a guy unless he's a friend or associate of one her friends.  Which for someone like me (out of college; has a small group of friends) really sucks.
Click to expand...
I agree with all your sentiments KingofPhilly
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Originally Posted by KingofIlladelph

I actually thought about making this thread today when I was on the metro and I read a female friend's facebook status about guys hitting her up.

It's like, guys shouldn't approach you at work because it's unprofessional and you're working.
He shouldn't approach you at the gym because that's not what you're there for.
He shouldn't approach you on a social networking site because that's not what you're there for.
The club is obviously not where anyone plans on meeting anyone for anything other than a hook up.
And when you are on the street you are unwilling because that isn't a social setting.
So where exactly does that leave for a random guy to meet you?

It basically sounds like females won't date a guy unless he's a friend or associate of one her friends.  Which for someone like me (out of college; has a small group of friends) really sucks.
Click to expand...
Totally agree.  Why do we have to have a middleman complete this transaction?  Girls feel that if their friends can vouch for you then your good to go, but friends especially people 24+ don't really want to do that these days because they don't want to get blamed for setting people up if the relationship goes sour.  All we can do is keep trying and hopefully find a girl with an open mind to an honest attempt at sparking something.
 
Originally Posted by KingofIlladelph

I actually thought about making this thread today when I was on the metro and I read a female friend's facebook status about guys hitting her up.

It's like, guys shouldn't approach you at work because it's unprofessional and you're working.
He shouldn't approach you at the gym because that's not what you're there for.
He shouldn't approach you on a social networking site because that's not what you're there for.
The club is obviously not where anyone plans on meeting anyone for anything other than a hook up.
And when you are on the street you are unwilling because that isn't a social setting.
So where exactly does that leave for a random guy to meet you?

It basically sounds like females won't date a guy unless he's a friend or associate of one her friends.  Which for someone like me (out of college; has a small group of friends) really sucks.
Click to expand...
Totally agree.  Why do we have to have a middleman complete this transaction?  Girls feel that if their friends can vouch for you then your good to go, but friends especially people 24+ don't really want to do that these days because they don't want to get blamed for setting people up if the relationship goes sour.  All we can do is keep trying and hopefully find a girl with an open mind to an honest attempt at sparking something.
 
Originally Posted by KingofIlladelph

I actually thought about making this thread today when I was on the metro and I read a female friend's facebook status about guys hitting her up.

It's like, guys shouldn't approach you at work because it's unprofessional and you're working.
He shouldn't approach you at the gym because that's not what you're there for.
He shouldn't approach you on a social networking site because that's not what you're there for.
The club is obviously not where anyone plans on meeting anyone for anything other than a hook up.
And when you are on the street you are unwilling because that isn't a social setting.
So where exactly does that leave for a random guy to meet you?

It basically sounds like females won't date a guy unless he's a friend or associate of one her friends.  Which for someone like me (out of college; has a small group of friends) really sucks.
Click to expand...
This is a great reply.
 
Originally Posted by KingofIlladelph

I actually thought about making this thread today when I was on the metro and I read a female friend's facebook status about guys hitting her up.

It's like, guys shouldn't approach you at work because it's unprofessional and you're working.
He shouldn't approach you at the gym because that's not what you're there for.
He shouldn't approach you on a social networking site because that's not what you're there for.
The club is obviously not where anyone plans on meeting anyone for anything other than a hook up.
And when you are on the street you are unwilling because that isn't a social setting.
So where exactly does that leave for a random guy to meet you?

It basically sounds like females won't date a guy unless he's a friend or associate of one her friends.  Which for someone like me (out of college; has a small group of friends) really sucks.
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This is a great reply.
 
Originally Posted by krazy88s

I see what you're saying. Some females just chase the same guy that other females are chasing. Whereas a guy will chase whatever he sees. I highly doubt the guy in Paco jeans is ugly too, but females get hit on all the time. So I'm guessing they're tired of less desireable guys trying to holla. Or at least what they think is the less desireable guy.

And some girls will give their numbers no matter what. Most do it to get you the hell out of their face.
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Co-signing this..

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OP, the places you listed "resturants" & "transportation stops"are the only place to holla at something on the go. I don't have the balls to do that because their are to many people around, and I'll jus feel so uncomfortable getting turned down in front of alot of people
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Originally Posted by krazy88s

I see what you're saying. Some females just chase the same guy that other females are chasing. Whereas a guy will chase whatever he sees. I highly doubt the guy in Paco jeans is ugly too, but females get hit on all the time. So I'm guessing they're tired of less desireable guys trying to holla. Or at least what they think is the less desireable guy.

And some girls will give their numbers no matter what. Most do it to get you the hell out of their face.
Click to expand...


Co-signing this..

+

OP, the places you listed "resturants" & "transportation stops"are the only place to holla at something on the go. I don't have the balls to do that because their are to many people around, and I'll jus feel so uncomfortable getting turned down in front of alot of people
tired.gif
 
Man... it's called a judgment call. We make them everyday, and so do they.

See a girl you like? Avoid grabbing her arm with a discretionary "don makkame turn dis rape into dat murrdaaa"


1. MAKE EYE CONTACT. even if it risks seeming creepy. most females are so insecure they will try to look away on that "he's looking at something on my face"
2. Smile. Your smile is a lot more attractive than you may think and mean muggin a chicken isn't going to help the stitch.
3. Act. Chances are if you are on her level and she is at all single or likewise, she will smile back. Just by smiling at her (or even a slight wave) you've probably already made her day. I say this because... well let's be honest, no one has smiled at her in days since everyone is on twitter and facebook on their Androids.
4. Say: Hey how's it going". That really is all you need. People recommend to make conversation about an observation in that setting but that is almost always a REACH. The fact is that body language in the art of flirting is 80% of the outcome. The actual conversation content makes up for about 5% of the outcome and unless you are MAD funny it isn't really going to help.
Most important part vvvv

5. Keep it short. Running out of convo will destroy the whole situation. It doesn't need to be more than a few exchanges of words+smiles. Tell her the following:
'Listen.. I gotta run, I'm meeting friends and I'm a bit late. I'd love to continue this conversation some time... we should kick it some time. Here's my number:..."

Your giving her your number so that she can make that decision. Her handing you digits could be a front. Plus if she calls... she really is interested. Telling her you are meeting friends allows her to understand you are not a creep loner.

That should work out in a non social, non-introduced setting.
 
Originally Posted by KingofIlladelph

I actually thought about making this thread today when I was on the metro and I read a female friend's facebook status about guys hitting her up.

It's like, guys shouldn't approach you at work because it's unprofessional and you're working.
He shouldn't approach you at the gym because that's not what you're there for.
He shouldn't approach you on a social networking site because that's not what you're there for.
The club is obviously not where anyone plans on meeting anyone for anything other than a hook up.
And when you are on the street you are unwilling because that isn't a social setting.
So where exactly does that leave for a random guy to meet you?

It basically sounds like females won't date a guy unless he's a friend or associate of one her friends.  Which for someone like me (out of college; has a small group of friends) really sucks.
Click to expand...
tired.gif
 
Originally Posted by KingofIlladelph

I actually thought about making this thread today when I was on the metro and I read a female friend's facebook status about guys hitting her up.

It's like, guys shouldn't approach you at work because it's unprofessional and you're working.
He shouldn't approach you at the gym because that's not what you're there for.
He shouldn't approach you on a social networking site because that's not what you're there for.
The club is obviously not where anyone plans on meeting anyone for anything other than a hook up.
And when you are on the street you are unwilling because that isn't a social setting.
So where exactly does that leave for a random guy to meet you?

It basically sounds like females won't date a guy unless he's a friend or associate of one her friends.  Which for someone like me (out of college; has a small group of friends) really sucks.
Click to expand...
tired.gif
 
Man... it's called a judgment call. We make them everyday, and so do they.

See a girl you like? Avoid grabbing her arm with a discretionary "don makkame turn dis rape into dat murrdaaa"


1. MAKE EYE CONTACT. even if it risks seeming creepy. most females are so insecure they will try to look away on that "he's looking at something on my face"
2. Smile. Your smile is a lot more attractive than you may think and mean muggin a chicken isn't going to help the stitch.
3. Act. Chances are if you are on her level and she is at all single or likewise, she will smile back. Just by smiling at her (or even a slight wave) you've probably already made her day. I say this because... well let's be honest, no one has smiled at her in days since everyone is on twitter and facebook on their Androids.
4. Say: Hey how's it going". That really is all you need. People recommend to make conversation about an observation in that setting but that is almost always a REACH. The fact is that body language in the art of flirting is 80% of the outcome. The actual conversation content makes up for about 5% of the outcome and unless you are MAD funny it isn't really going to help.
Most important part vvvv

5. Keep it short. Running out of convo will destroy the whole situation. It doesn't need to be more than a few exchanges of words+smiles. Tell her the following:
'Listen.. I gotta run, I'm meeting friends and I'm a bit late. I'd love to continue this conversation some time... we should kick it some time. Here's my number:..."

Your giving her your number so that she can make that decision. Her handing you digits could be a front. Plus if she calls... she really is interested. Telling her you are meeting friends allows her to understand you are not a creep loner.

That should work out in a non social, non-introduced setting.
 
suprised no one said this

whip it out : in the street, at the grocery store, in the elevator, in common hallways, at church, on the bus, at a stop sign, at the mall, at a restaurant, during an exam, at work, etc.

67% of the time it works on cloudy days
 
suprised no one said this

whip it out : in the street, at the grocery store, in the elevator, in common hallways, at church, on the bus, at a stop sign, at the mall, at a restaurant, during an exam, at work, etc.

67% of the time it works on cloudy days
 
suprised no one said this

whip it out : in the street, at the grocery store, in the elevator, in common hallways, at church, on the bus, at a stop sign, at the mall, at a restaurant, during an exam, at work, etc.

67% of the time it works on cloudy days
 
suprised no one said this

whip it out : in the street, at the grocery store, in the elevator, in common hallways, at church, on the bus, at a stop sign, at the mall, at a restaurant, during an exam, at work, etc.

67% of the time it works on cloudy days
 
Ehhhh, my opinion...If you want that number from that girl on the street, just go for it. Go to her, try to spark a conversation or something, make sure its semi-interesting at least, and then when one of the two parties has to depart, you hit her with the "We have to continue this conversation" or something of the sort and then bam, there it is lol.

Even if you try to approach her and it doesn't work, its better than not giving yourself a shot at all to me. A lot the times, success with females comes when you let go of your fear of rejection or humiliation imo.
 
Ehhhh, my opinion...If you want that number from that girl on the street, just go for it. Go to her, try to spark a conversation or something, make sure its semi-interesting at least, and then when one of the two parties has to depart, you hit her with the "We have to continue this conversation" or something of the sort and then bam, there it is lol.

Even if you try to approach her and it doesn't work, its better than not giving yourself a shot at all to me. A lot the times, success with females comes when you let go of your fear of rejection or humiliation imo.
 
suprised no one said this

whip it out : in the street, at the grocery store, in the elevator, in common hallways, at church, on the bus, at a stop sign, at the mall, at a restaurant, during an exam, at work, etc.

67% of the time it works on cloudy days
 
suprised no one said this

whip it out : in the street, at the grocery store, in the elevator, in common hallways, at church, on the bus, at a stop sign, at the mall, at a restaurant, during an exam, at work, etc.

67% of the time it works on cloudy days
 
suprised no one said this

whip it out : in the street, at the grocery store, in the elevator, in common hallways, at church, on the bus, at a stop sign, at the mall, at a restaurant, during an exam, at work, etc.

67% of the time it works on cloudy days
 
suprised no one said this

whip it out : in the street, at the grocery store, in the elevator, in common hallways, at church, on the bus, at a stop sign, at the mall, at a restaurant, during an exam, at work, etc.

67% of the time it works on cloudy days
 
funny how this thread is addressed to females yet 99% of those who replied are men.

just saying.
 
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