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She's your queen tooo beeeeee, not really Vol. Mixed Signals

post #1 of 50
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Whatup. Anywho an old shorty I used to like back in high school has ventured into my life. Back in high school I was a big goof, always joking and playing and most girls didn't take me serious when I tried to step to them. "You're cute but you play too much." whomp, blah etc. This girl was another one of those. 4 years later I don't know how but we started texting each other. Text messaged progressed, until one day I suggested we 'face time' each other. Blah, it was just a suggestion because I hadn't seen her in a while and I figured that would be the closest chance I would have of getting to. We get on and we rap for a good 3-4 hours; don't remember much of the convo but I had her smiling and laughing. Skipping ahead, after we facetimed she started to text me every morning and call every night. She hit me with the "I was just calling to say goodnight." once around 1=2 in the morning. I thought that meant something lol, then would text me throughout the day "IMY" blah, I thought she was lying. Eventually I suggested we should have lunch together, we did, she laughed and smiled the whole time. I'm out chea thinking I'm winning with my dreamgirl.....no. I go home one night and my pops tells me that everyone's leaving and I'll have the crib to myself for a week. Jesus himself looked down and nodded, life was great. Since I had the crib, I suggested she come over, of course. She came twice (not in real real life) during the week once she brought ice cream, and another just because. Everything was perfect. We had been to a couple events together (free outside concert, I forget the other spot) so I was thinking she liked me, blah etc. That weekend begins to roll around and she just fades away. I'm not the type to bug so I figured to give her space and be cool. I didn't hear from her until the next Tuesday when she gives me the excuse of being "busy". Time passes, she doesn't hit me up like she used to; we go from speaking every 10 minutes to every couple days. She come out and says she was trying to make it work with her ex, this is in the middle of us "talking". I don't remember what I said, I think I tried to downplay the situation. We start to gradually pick up little by little. More time passes and my fam goes out of town again, of course she gets an invite. That weekend came and went instead of coming through she went out with her friends partied and threw up, I felt better idk why 'shrugs'. I tell her I'm not tripping because she couldn't come and I guess she started feeling bad/guilty or something. She makes it up by taking me to lunch yesterday, same old chuckles and smiles. Ah ha but when I text her this morning suggesting we progress, she responds that's not what shes wants. Haven't text her since. I know my story is long and boring but hey #nobodycares, and it feels good to talk about.

Definitely think it's time for me to give that one up. Advice always appreciated, from ppl in relationships especially, not someone else foreveralone like me. Don't mind my screenshots let me simpCheck, dont mind my L on that last screenshot either for pics, blah etc.

Background info on ex.
She tell me they talked for 3 years, they are both virgins. He cheats on her with some other chick, then loses his virginity to said other chick. Other chick moves away, he tries to get back with the girl I like, would not happen. He still calls and hit her on twitter everyday, mad awkward, overly possessive dude. For some reason she tried it again though, urhmm to my knowledge she told me he didn't mash only ate the bocks, on multiple occasions.

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post #2 of 50
Don't waste your time. She wants you to put in work while the ex pounds those guts. I'd pass if I were you.
post #3 of 50
I wanna have sex with her.
post #4 of 50
Thread Starter 
optimus -thats what i was thinking man
hendrix -do you see the struggle that comes with that
post #5 of 50
Yeah man, sounds like me before I met my girl. She's confused, crazy, whatever. It seems like women today love giving mixed signals. Not cool. This happened so many times and I got so annoyed with this, I shut chicks down before anything happened. But it's an L, and not even a bad one. She wasn't up front with you. Had she been honest, things would have been put in better perspective. Sounds like she takin the L. He cheats on her and she still goes back? That's *$$ backwards but oh well.
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NTNY: '01-'02, '04-'08, '11-'12.

Trickin' ain't the route/that's even if you got it/there's a method to you holdin' it when they can't do without it....


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post #6 of 50
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Originally Posted by OptimusADL

Don't waste your time. She wants you to put in work while the ex pounds those guts. I'd pass if I were you.


This. OP came through with pics as well smiley: pimp
post #7 of 50
Just move on she seems to be playing around. You let your feelings be known and she said she wasn't feeling that idea. No need in wasting time.
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Ya ever seen a wolf, man?
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To the 25th power!
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post #8 of 50
edit her name out bro, you know how these herbs are on nt.
post #9 of 50
Definitely playing games with you, I'd probably get out now. Is she still a virgin? and please tell you have at least made out with her
post #10 of 50
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Originally Posted by MPLSdunk

edit her name out bro, you know how these herbs are on nt.

hahahahaha too late!
post #11 of 50
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Originally Posted by airheaddd

optimus -thats what i was thinking man
hendrix -do you see the struggle that comes with that

You put it out there that you wanted to move forward and she declined. You seem like you actually like her so keeping in contact would probably be more annoying then anything. 

I think you could probably get her if you gave her the full court press but that is alot of work. Might be worth it though because she seems like the type that once she likes you she really likes you.

post #12 of 50
Seems to me that you're very attentive to her emotional needs and hes very attentive to her physical ones. She likes being around you because she thinks you're cool, funny, fun to be around, etc but I guess she figures she cant see herself with you cuz shes too into her ex to give you a shot.

My personal opinion is to move on and pursue other options. Once she sees that she doesnt have you on lock down then maybe she will snap out of that trance that homeboy has her in.
post #13 of 50
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by JayHood23

Seems to me that you're very attentive to her emotional needs and hes very attentive to her physical ones. She likes being around you because she thinks you're cool, funny, fun to be around, etc but I guess she figures she cant see herself with you cuz shes too into her ex to give you a shot.

My personal opinion is to move on and pursue other options. Once she sees that she doesnt have you on lock down then maybe she will snap out of that trance that homeboy has her in.



this, but she makes her ex out to be some creep that won't stop calling, I doubt he's getting anything.
but I shall fall back.
post #14 of 50
**$@* playing games. You the backup guy when her ex pisses her off again. Keep it movin bruh
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post #15 of 50
def edit the name before they PM her this page.

I know it's toguh but you gotta give it up. Shorty aint feeling you like that.

I was in a similar situation but it took forever to leave it alone. I got to smash tho so it was all good.
post #16 of 50
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Originally Posted by airheaddd

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Originally Posted by JayHood23

Seems to me that you're very attentive to her emotional needs and hes very attentive to her physical ones. She likes being around you because she thinks you're cool, funny, fun to be around, etc but I guess she figures she cant see herself with you cuz shes too into her ex to give you a shot.

My personal opinion is to move on and pursue other options. Once she sees that she doesnt have you on lock down then maybe she will snap out of that trance that homeboy has her in.



this, but she makes her ex out to be some creep that won't stop calling, I doubt he's getting anything.
but I shall fall back.

Trust, if she really wanted to be rid of him she could, but yea dont be her puppet
post #17 of 50
IMO, you didn't build any sexual tension with her fast enough. When an ex is still involved, you need to be working on trying to smash her ASAP. When she said she was a virgin (which is a damn lie), that was your chance to persuade her to let you smash, but make it seem like she's the one trying to have sex with you.
post #18 of 50
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Originally Posted by whyhellothere

**$@* playing games. You the backup guy when her ex pisses her off again. Keep it movin bruh
post #19 of 50
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Originally Posted by airheaddd

Quote:
Originally Posted by JayHood23

Seems to me that you're very attentive to her emotional needs and hes very attentive to her physical ones. She likes being around you because she thinks you're cool, funny, fun to be around, etc but I guess she figures she cant see herself with you cuz shes too into her ex to give you a shot.

My personal opinion is to move on and pursue other options. Once she sees that she doesnt have you on lock down then maybe she will snap out of that trance that homeboy has her in.



this, but she makes her ex out to be some creep that won't stop calling, I doubt he's getting anything.
but I shall fall back.

At least she was honest. She isnt going to chase you. You are going to have to be the aggressor. It really just depends on if you want to put in work or not.
post #20 of 50
Not only mixed signals, but she really just don't know what she's doing right now.
She'll learn eventually.


Move on.
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post #22 of 50
Curve that homie. You said you was feelin her back in the day and nothin popped and she came to you 4 years later.

So, do you for a while and when she gets her head straight she'll come back around. If not, well you wouldn't have invested to much time and energy into the situation.
post #23 of 50
OP is really not that hard to decipher, you are a rebound...she's insecure and is using you as a safety blanket till her "loser" ex gets his act straight which he may never do and she will be hung up on him...even if it doesn't happen now, do you want to be with someone who dowdy let go of the past??...do you want to develop true feeling for this individual who will drop you in the blink of an eye?...nah man...dead that insecure chick.
post #24 of 50
Thread Starter 
I greatly appreciate all the input peeps.

mastamind -idk about her 'virginity' when we first started rapping she said that dude didn't beat, a couple of days ago she said he did idk
optimus -as much as I enjoyed the chase, that txt I got this morning was my cue to pull out
jayhood -she cried on the phone one day rapping about how it's so much easier said than done, talking about how hard 'bonds' are to break. but I can assure you it will not be me texting her b
ksteezy -i hear you dude, she tries to make it out like she's done with him, I ain't hearing that. They broke up Valentines Day, idk how he's still around. I'm not one to invest my time and energy where its not needed/appreciated
post #25 of 50
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so when she shoots me the "I miss you, I'm sorry" blah text a few days from now, do I respond/how should I respond or should I just ignore?
post #26 of 50
Great thread, especially since pics were actually provided.

now onward, it seems like she actually was interested in having something with you at the start. But you took too long to make that "bridge". From my experience, you need to constantly keep those bridges open and move forward. Whether its kissing, smash etc. If you don't make those bridges, females will just lose interest. And although it may SEEM like she still has some interest, she doesn't.

Point blank, you took a lot longer than expected to make your move, and she has lost interest and put you in the friend zone :/
learn from this lesson and move on
post #27 of 50
Personally, I'd prolly ignore the text for a few days ten just be all like"sup" and act like I ain't give damb anymore cus I don't. That's just me man. Oh yea, Rolaholic has a good point imo, if you're interested in her ask her straight what she wants. If she's still on some "idk herp derp" type steez, then just be all like cool and keep it moving pimpin. There is so much more p out there worth your time it isn't worth the headache sticking this one around. Take my advice with a grain of salt btw. Do what feels right to you, but remember you're putting yourself on the line. Feelings included.
post #28 of 50
She playing games OP,don't waste your time. If she wants to be serious,let her make the move and not you. When she texts you ignore it and if she texts you again just straight up ask what she wants from you. Does she want to be friends or more than friends. By the way you described her,she likes you more as a friend.smiley: ohwell
post #29 of 50
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Originally Posted by airheaddd

so when she shoots me the "I miss you, I'm sorry" blah text a few days from now, do I respond/how should I respond or should I just ignore?


Well i wouldn't hang out with her for a while. Just play the "busy" role. and pleeease don't respond with the "i miss you too, lets talk smile.gif" linesmiley: sick
post #30 of 50
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Originally Posted by airheaddd

so when she shoots me the "I miss you, I'm sorry" blah text a few days from now, do I respond/how should I respond or should I just ignore?


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