Not really. There is a lot to it. so sorry for the story but
1. If she shows the ability to have patience with me and wait until im ready it will say a lot to me about our future. We both want the same things out of life (a house, a family etc). But love isn't enough when its forever. You need to be able to work together as a team really
2. I will be in a better financial place. Have a lot of college debt that i plan to knock out in the next 2 years so i can get funds together for a ring and a house
3. Her family doesn't believe in moving in with your spouse pre engagement. I want to respect her family's wishes and do it "the right" way. I want them in my life long term and to respect me as a man for respecting their wishes. I don't want to get off on the wrong foot of forever.
My girl is wildly emotional and its kind of what i love about her. Her heart is huge and she loves me more then i can comprehend. So she just knows what she feels and it really hurts her that i don't reciprocate those emotions and jump in with two feet without looking down. Im just too much of a realist
But in regards to point number 2. Wouldn't moving in help you? You guys would split living expenses, rent etc. Sounds like you would get out of college debt faster that way.