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what if you have no strengths? |I
what if you have no strengths? |I
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Then create one. Pick up a hobby, read some books, do some community service, build an awesome shoe collection. Do Something!!!what if you have no strengths?
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Of course you do or you wouldn't be having this problem.
I'm not chastising you because I went through this myself but fortunately I changed ( I have been told I have mild Aspergers so that may have played a part).
You did say that you had confidence before and that didn't work but what's your definition of confidence? And who told you that confidence alone attracts women to men?
You're not a unique snowflake. Many people have this problem. The problem is a fear of rejection/low self esteem and they both feed off of each other.
Nobody can help you but you. There is no magical formula (apart from maybe being a celeb/ wealthy) where women are just throwing themselves at you. You're waiting for that.
You ever play Hold 'Em or Omaha? You know those people that strictly play their cards? They wait until they have a high pocket pair or something like AhKsJh10s and they always bust sooner or later. They're basically waiting for a lot of positive variance. What if it never comes or it comes too late?
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Say what you want to say but throwing in the towel after 23 years is not fear of rejection.
Something you would never understand.
If you dont get my problem then there is no reason to listen to your solution.
Something you would never understand.
If you dont get my problem then there is no reason to listen to your solution.
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The biggest thing is to find something about yourself in which you're confident. This will help to get a little self-esteem under your belt.
Afterwards, it truly is a numbers game. But you have to get out there. Who cares if you fail? Is it better to stay tightly closed in a bud or to bloom? Learning more about yourself by getting to know others is an invaluable experience.
Hopefully being confident in those things, if not yourself as a whole, won't make you overshoot the mark and screw your chances. Be cool; it's just poon.
Afterwards, it truly is a numbers game. But you have to get out there. Who cares if you fail? Is it better to stay tightly closed in a bud or to bloom? Learning more about yourself by getting to know others is an invaluable experience.
Hopefully being confident in those things, if not yourself as a whole, won't make you overshoot the mark and screw your chances. Be cool; it's just poon.
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everyone has strengths dude.There's probably many things about yourself that other people would find attractive.
are you a good cook?
well-read?
accomplished anything?
good dancer?
passionate about anything?
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Call it whatever you will. It's just semantics at this point.
Problems are like ********, right? There are 7bn people in this world and a multiple of that in problems. lol
Your first step is to stop feeling sorry for yourself because frankly nobody really gives a ****. That's the truth. Especially people like me. There are a lot of people like me. I really couldn't give less of a ****. I hope you solve it but if you don't, it's no sweat off of my back. People don't want to hear others whine about their problems. Especially when you want to meet women. Who want to be depressed?
Everybody has their problems. I have mine as well. Believe me. I have anti social tendencies and I tend to be an ******* as a default. Although I try to keep it in check.
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Edit: One of the biggest self confidence killers is knowing that so many 16 and 17 yr olds are smashing nowadays and ur older and you haven't. Its gotten to the point that I hate my birthdays since they make me feel like life is running out. Makes you question yourself and wonder if there's something wrong with you.
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Skills are built. They take time and effort.what if you have no strengths?
There's nothing wrong with not having any if you haven't put in the work.
Put in the work and then re-evaluate.
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Sex is not a destination, it is a journey. Find your own path.
This thread rocks btw.
This thread rocks btw.
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This! This! This! a thousand times this!
16 and 17 year olds? more like 13 and 14 year olds. |I
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Come out to McFadden's in the Gold Coast some time with me, hard not to get it in there.
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I feel the same exact way. I'm 22 almost 23 and never had a GF and still have my V-card. people are looking at me like what is wrong with you and now I starting to question myself and wonder what is wrong with me.
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Sex is not a destination, it is a journey. Find your own path.
This thread rocks btw.
Wise words.
Sunshine, are you tall?
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Story of my life. I know exactly how you feel man. I'm going through same thing right now and I'm 24. people look at me like i'm crazy when I tell them this. It like feel time is just running out for me. I went through a little depression last year because of this. I try not to think about it as much, but there are times when those negative thoughts come into my head and it bothers me. I could only blame myself for this and it's up to me to change it. a lot of really good advice has been posted in this thread so I will definitely use them. One of my New Year's Resolutions is to finally get a GF. don't know how long it's gonna take me but i hope it's soon.
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I guess I can relate but I can't. I lost my v-card late, but from 8th grade I basically had chicks offering me the draws. I'm just dumb picky so I didn't take up on the offer until later in life. But regardless, I still feel your struggle, but listen to this.
1. I don't care how old you are, if you ain't comfortable with yourself and are all depressed about it, you're making things a lot worse than they need to be.
2. Quality P ain't easy to come by for most dudes, I know guys who were considered "players" that struggled to bag good looking girls. They just smashed a few fattys and ugmo's in the meantime until a fly jawn offered the bunz.
3. You will get bunz one day, so why worry about when
4. Outside of star****ing and random sloring, sex is a result of a connection between two people. Making the connection is key, and everyone has people that they connect with. It's not hard to find that special someone if you're sociable.
1. I don't care how old you are, if you ain't comfortable with yourself and are all depressed about it, you're making things a lot worse than they need to be.
2. Quality P ain't easy to come by for most dudes, I know guys who were considered "players" that struggled to bag good looking girls. They just smashed a few fattys and ugmo's in the meantime until a fly jawn offered the bunz.
3. You will get bunz one day, so why worry about when
4. Outside of star****ing and random sloring, sex is a result of a connection between two people. Making the connection is key, and everyone has people that they connect with. It's not hard to find that special someone if you're sociable.
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Nope. 5'9" maybe 5'10" which is about average heigh for a guy. Dont meet many noticeably shorter than me. I would be taller but I have a bad case scoliosis so my spine is bent.
I am Nigerian. Did most of my early childhood in Switzerland. Did the rest in London. They are not inferior in medical equipment in the places I grew up before I moved to Chicago, I have sickle cell anemia on top of all this
But I still see the difference in my body from working out. it will be a long time coming. That is why I said I hope to have a decent body by summer 2014 It wont happen in the next 5 months for sure.
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same but I turn 24 on May 24. Never knew there were others. I am relieved but I wouldnt even wish this on my enemies so best of luck to you all.
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Nope. 5'9" maybe 5'10" which is about average heigh for a guy. Dont meet many noticeably shorter than me. I would be taller but I have a bad case scoliosis so my spine is bent.
I am Nigerian. Did most of my early childhood in Switzerland. Did the rest in London. They are not inferior in medical equipment in the places I grew up before I moved to Chicago, I have sickle cell anemia on top of all this
But I still see the difference in my body from working out. it will be a long time coming. That is why I said I hope to have a decent body by summer 2014 It wont happen in the next 5 months for sure.
Though 5'9 is short to me (im 5'9) most girls think that is an tall height
And you are Nigerian, girls love Nigerians.........
I have the sickle cell trait, I know how terrible it is and how it can mess with your growth
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For me, the key is confidence and the key to that confidence is being comfortable with your damb self which involves doing things or trying things you like or may have an interest in. Try to pick hobbies that tries to get yourself off your comfort zone and pick a hobby where a group of people involved. Another tip I have for you guys who are struggling is say hello to everyone you see and smile when you are doing it. Do this for lets say a month and after that month, start saying hello to every cute girl you see. The more you say hello, the less nervous you guys will get. Remember guys, not all girls will like you and do not take rejection personal, I usually think of it as a game. The more you practice your craft, the better you will eventually get. Also check out the youtube channel by simplepickup for tips, if Jesse can get a girl, you guys can get them too. Remember no matter what we all say it is all on you guys for the success, I could care less what happens to you guys honestly , just be confident guys. Worse case enroll in the simple pickup boot camp, I bet you guys can at least learn something from that.
FYI - I will try to compile a guide for you guys that I found helpful, if I have time.
FYI - I will try to compile a guide for you guys that I found helpful, if I have time.
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Sex is not a destination, it is a journey. Find your own path.
This thread rocks btw.
Wise words.
Sunshine, are you tall?
Yes; trade pics?
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You aint sunshine 
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Glamazons >>>>>>>>>>>
IDK I have always loved tall girls but I am too short to get one
Even though 5'9" is not short.... average height is nothing to be proud of(not the word I am looking for but you know what I mean)
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i've graduated high school! but as far as accomplished anything difficult or worth while? no..
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i've graduated high school! but as far as accomplished anything difficult or worth while? no..
Off topic, but is your SN about pokemon doe?
