I've been in denial a long time, I'm finally officially woke now, all he way woke.
Gonna have to move on from this relationship.
Just total bs and mind f***. Ish can change from one day to next or one week to next.
Obviously it's holidays and I'm still not on my feet so I'll be neutral until the time comes with her. She wants me as a BFF but then all this ish about next level grown up ish. I even text that today and she is like "it is what I want" all I think about is manipulation from her. Btw she had been diagnosed bi polar before if you been here a long time or remember my old screen name and topics. She's gotten better over the years but she prob just more in control of it now like a stable mature version now but she is a total mind f*** and diva. I can't do this anymore.
FYI been dealing with her since 2005 lot of ups and downs and time off and on. I can't hold on because of history and memories good and bad been thru a lot. This isn't fair, I don't wish anything bad on her but this I can't do. I know she would flip s*** if I told her today leave me alone seriously. It's always about her, always.
She isn't gonna go quietly. You're gonna get her hitting you up for years. Do it though, you already know you're in for a hell storm. Probably wanna get rid of all your social media too. She'll be on there stalking every damn pic. That's a serious headache right there, to keep her or to fire her.
The thing is they are all a broken record and pull the same tricks. Once you are up on that it's easy to flip the relationship to you being in control but then watch out for the suicide. There really is no winning with a bi polar chick. I don't know how irrational your girl is but **** I feel your pain.
thanks for all the advice guys
and i know i cant just dead her..........everything youre saying is right
ive done that before, made my life hell, i explained to a friend already im gonna have to be just cold af and no emotion like i care at all, itll finally break her, i think thats a good plan. she knows how to say the right things and turn everything back on her and make you keep loving her
block my phone, change numbers, etc, ive done all these things in the past...............she will drive to my place and be in the middle of the street you guys have no idea all the ish ive been thru
Let me take a stab at your current situation based on what you've posted here on NT, Audi.
1.) You were in a nearly fatal accident that you're still recovering from. Put it simply: you almost DIED, fam. The fact that you're fighting through this with a smile and positivity is testament to your character.
2.) You posted the other day about your girl talking about you getting her a Chanel bag (red flag #1).
3.) You post today in this topic about how she's bi-polar (red flag #2 and grounds to just leave ASAP) and how she's basically manipulative ("all the ish ive been thru" <--- all that needs to be said -- red flag #3).
I think this is going to be tough as you've been with her for 10+ years, but I agree with being cold. Absolutely no remorse, no supplicating to her demands (she'll pull some psycho shh, trust me), no explaining why you're leaving her (she'll try to test you and your manhood by calling you names, goading you into yelling at her so she can play the victim card, etc.).
She'll grovel and spin around like Larry from the 3 Stooges, but you just cut it off clean. Record everything if you have to (in case she goes to the cops) to cover your bases. Don't change your # / social media either. Why would you trouble yourself with all that work just to ignore one chick?
This is YOUR LIFE. Don't let anyone, let alone a bird, dictate your emotions and what you wanna do for yourself. Best of luck.
Edited by Slighted - 11/27/15 at 4:22pm