Tips on approaching women. "UPDATE PG 6"

stories
learn to tell stories that women relate to.. guys are all factual and when we usually tell stories its like bullet points of what happend... a chick will tell a story that happened in a minute but fill 5 minutes of how they felt, and emphasize drama. learn to tell stories that are a good mixture of appealing to both emotion and logic to be a well rounded story teller.. try to have your stories end with either a joke or a morale.

talk with confidence and emotion
dont talk with a monotone. dont talk with with an upward inflection like everything you say is a question. talk with a downward inflection. dont talk to fast because it makes it seem like your afraid that if you slow down people will stop listening. don't be afraid to pause in between commas and sentences. put feeling and emotion into everything you say. it doesnt matter what you say most of the time its how you say it. to practice this read out loud and practice talking with enthusiasm

dont fap dont watch porn
seriously!! master your inner self and be better at controlling the world around you!

focus on yourself!
live an interesting life with interesting hobbies! be passionate about something, ANYTHING and you won't have to fake anything else

Best way to approach women is through a network of mutual friends and acquaintances.  Ask any female and they'll tell you they feel more comfortable talking to guys who are friends of a friend or at least share a similar network.

So your best bet is to find out when every friend and acquaintance you have is chilling or having a get together and make sure you're there.  Then apply all of the stuff these fine gentlemen have bestowed upon you.

JayHood23 said:

Like its been said before be confident and become one with rejection. The worst they can say is no and yea you might feel a little embarrassed but its part of the game.
If you do manage to engage them in conversation leave a little mystery to their imagination. Chop it up for a brief moment, then smoothly yet prematurely end the convo. Chicks get beasted on by 100s of dudes asking for their # but if you keep it chill they will want to know more about you and will become interested. It will be a change for them and women like things out of the norm when it comes to being hit on.
That approach shows them that you're different and they will think to themselves "well damn he didnt ask for my # or wasnt extra thirsty, he must not be too desperate"
Women seek attention and when you show them little they want more so will come looking for it.
For the guys that are into older women, approach them as if they are the same age as you. Never make them feel old or outdated. Let them know that they are just as attractive as that 20 something chick that's over in the corner with her girls. Be confident and assertive and know what you want from them because they are older and aren't trying to play games.
The straight forward approach always works, worst case they tell you that you're cute but no thanks.
These older women have heard it all and seen it all so they have one of two things on their mind, having the cobb webs beat off by a younger dude or just out to have a good time with friends. In 86% of these cases its the former

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this man makes some good statements...

i think you're approach would work really well on college campuses, and in smaller towns where you know you'll see them again...

repped...

Reading and getting tips from message boards isn't gonna help you bro. You either got the swag or you don't...swag meaning confidence and ability to not be and make things awkward.

As for the being presentable thing. Wear what's comfortable as long as it fits the setting...ball shorts, tank top/tee or v-neck, hoops shoes, whatever. Just don't look unapproachable. Smelling good helps. If you stink (bad breath, bad odor, etc) , you're not ever getting yambs. :x

tecca nena said:

stories
learn to tell stories that women relate to.. guys are all factual and when we usually tell stories its like bullet points of what happend... a chick will tell a story that happened in a minute but fill 5 minutes of how they felt, and emphasize drama. learn to tell stories that are a good mixture of appealing to both emotion and logic to be a well rounded story teller.. try to have your stories end with either a joke or a morale.
talk with confidence and emotion
dont talk with a monotone. dont talk with with an upward inflection like everything you say is a question. talk with a downward inflection. dont talk to fast because it makes it seem like your afraid that if you slow down people will stop listening. don't be afraid to pause in between commas and sentences. put feeling and emotion into everything you say. it doesnt matter what you say most of the time its how you say it. to practice this read out loud and practice talking with enthusiasm
dont fap dont watch porn
seriously!! master your inner self and be better at controlling the world around you!
focus on yourself!
live an interesting life with interesting hobbies! be passionate about something, ANYTHING and you won't have to fake anything else

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I had to bold this part....and to go into further detail, ill leave this in here, taken from another site.

Tip #9. Don’t Use “Trying For Rapport Tonality”

Don’t use dirty talk with a “trying for rapport” voice.

Trying for rapport has an upturn at the ends of sentences. I’m ending all of my sentences in a higher pitch. The voice is a littler higher and sloped UP on the end of the sentences when I’m seeking approval.

So you end up sounding overly friendly and needy.

It sounds like to the listener that you’re almost asking a question. Like you’re asking permission to continue at the end of every sentence.

It’s almost like you sound like you’re apologizing for even talking. Or that you’re constantly affirming to yourself that it’s okay to continue. Like you’re constantly looking for feedback from the woman to continue.

Ending on a high pitch at the end of every sentence, like you’re asking everything as questions, is a total giveaway to the girl that you’re coming from a place of lower social value and that you lack confidence in what you’re doing.

But the whole point of being a Bedroom Bull, a leader, and therefore a man, attractive and dominant, is NOT to be looking for a woman’s reaction or her approval for your dirty talking.

Fortunately, you can easily solve the “Trying For Rapport” problem by instead of ending your sentences in an upward tonality, you want to end them in just a neutral, flat or even slightly downward tonality at the end, just like you would if you were talking normally.

Don’t allow the ends of sentences to rise in pitch.
Tip #10. Speak With BREAKING Rapport!

Even more dominant and sexy is BREAKING rapport.

Breaking Rapport is where your tone slopes DOWN towards the end. It’s almost like you’re interrogating the girl, you’re skeptical, or shouting orders at her.

“Hey, you’re really sexy!!? Why don’t you take off your clothes and lay down on the bed for me, baby!!?”

See you’re tonality curves DOWN at the end of the sentence and it’s almost like an interrogation.

“Hey, what’s your name? Who are you??”

Talking in a breaking rapport voice is LEADING the interaction and it’s no longer SEEKING a good reaction from the girl. That’s what’s so attractive about it, because all the other guys a girl meets will be trying to kiss her *** or suck up to her in a seeking rapport voice.

MOST of your dirty talking should be done in this Breaking Rapport tonality. That’s what separates it from normal sexy talk, which is generally done in a more Neutral Rapport tonality.

Speaking in a Breaking Rapport tone will also put the girl into a Seeking Rapport reaction.

If you say to a girl, “Hey!! Take off your clothes!!” in breaking rapport, she’ll usually respond with seeking rapport like, “Um, um okay!” Her sentences will RISE at the end in trying for rapport in response to your breaking rapport. Which is what you want, because now the woman is the one who is seeking a good reaction from you, and you’re leading the talking dirty.

The sweet spot you want to hit is a mix of Neutral Rapport and a mix of Breaking Rapport with NO trying for rapport AT ALL.

approach her all quiet like, licking your lips and rubbing your hands a la Birdman and say: 'sup wit dem draws'!

Works every time!

never even thought about this voice stuff. good posts.

36 OUNCES said:

I had to bold this part....and to go into further detail, ill leave this in here, taken from another site.
Tip #9. Don’t Use “Trying For Rapport Tonality”
Don’t use dirty talk with a “trying for rapport” voice.
Trying for rapport has an upturn at the ends of sentences. I’m ending all of my sentences in a higher pitch. The voice is a littler higher and sloped UP on the end of the sentences when I’m seeking approval.
So you end up sounding overly friendly and needy.
It sounds like to the listener that you’re almost asking a question. Like you’re asking permission to continue at the end of every sentence.
It’s almost like you sound like you’re apologizing for even talking. Or that you’re constantly affirming to yourself that it’s okay to continue. Like you’re constantly looking for feedback from the woman to continue.
Ending on a high pitch at the end of every sentence, like you’re asking everything as questions, is a total giveaway to the girl that you’re coming from a place of lower social value and that you lack confidence in what you’re doing.
But the whole point of being a Bedroom Bull, a leader, and therefore a man, attractive and dominant, is NOT to be looking for a woman’s reaction or her approval for your dirty talking.
Fortunately, you can easily solve the “Trying For Rapport” problem by instead of ending your sentences in an upward tonality, you want to end them in just a neutral, flat or even slightly downward tonality at the end, just like you would if you were talking normally.
Don’t allow the ends of sentences to rise in pitch.
Tip #10. Speak With BREAKING Rapport!
Even more dominant and sexy is BREAKING rapport.
Breaking Rapport is where your tone slopes DOWN towards the end. It’s almost like you’re interrogating the girl, you’re skeptical, or shouting orders at her.
“Hey, you’re really sexy!!? Why don’t you take off your clothes and lay down on the bed for me, baby!!?”
See you’re tonality curves DOWN at the end of the sentence and it’s almost like an interrogation.
“Hey, what’s your name? Who are you??”
Talking in a breaking rapport voice is LEADING the interaction and it’s no longer SEEKING a good reaction from the girl. That’s what’s so attractive about it, because all the other guys a girl meets will be trying to kiss her *** or suck up to her in a seeking rapport voice.
MOST of your dirty talking should be done in this Breaking Rapport tonality. That’s what separates it from normal sexy talk, which is generally done in a more Neutral Rapport tonality.
Speaking in a Breaking Rapport tone will also put the girl into a Seeking Rapport reaction.
If you say to a girl, “Hey!! Take off your clothes!!” in breaking rapport, she’ll usually respond with seeking rapport like, “Um, um okay!” Her sentences will RISE at the end in trying for rapport in response to your breaking rapport. Which is what you want, because now the woman is the one who is seeking a good reaction from you, and you’re leading the talking dirty.
The sweet spot you want to hit is a mix of Neutral Rapport and a mix of Breaking Rapport with NO trying for rapport AT ALL.

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All this is good and all, but imo this is extra'd out.

Watching how your voice sounds? Really? It's JUST A GIRL be yourself, show interest with confidence all the while looking presentable & approachable and that's really all there is to it. If she goes for good, if she doesn't go for you, charge it to the game and go to the next one. Simple.

Don't be afraid to get rejected

That is the golden rule. The only fear you have is the fear of rejection/humiliation. Once you learn not to care the YAMB'S will come.

I just walk up to a chick and hit em with a swift What's up gorgeous or if I see something I can capitalize on I hit em with that, like just a random conversation starter.

I've been rejected before and I get pretty decent women. Just as long as your not a jerk you dont have anything to worry about.

JohnnyRedStorm said:

never even thought about this voice stuff. good posts.

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its cool to know, but that's too technical ...

Have you over thinking ... worried about how you sound instead of noticing her reactions ...

op ... don't worry about voice inflections.

IAMLegend2345 said:

Don't be afraid to get rejected

That is the golden rule. The only fear you have is the fear of rejection/humiliation. Once you learn not to care the YAMB'S will come.

I just walk up to a chick and hit em with a swift What's up gorgeous or if I see something I can capitalize on I hit em with that, like just a random conversation starter.

I've been rejected before and I get pretty decent women. Just as long as your not a jerk you dont have anything to worry about.

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rejection is the worst, then she'll tell her friends...next thing you know the whole town knows and then you're forever lonely.

sumrndmdude said:

rejection is the worst, then she'll tell her friends...next thing you know the whole town knows and then you're forever lonely.

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YNGY with that mentality.

handullz said:

i dunno famb...
i think looking to NT is like looking to the old head with alot of experience, simply b/c people wont pull punches. there are some gems on here, alont w/ the lulz.
what if he was brought up to be a simp? what if he doesnt know where to even start?
before the interwebz, cats would just go ask their player-made uncle... or some older person w/ game...

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Don't get me wrong, NT is a great place for knowledge & it's a place for communicating, what I meant by that was if you're sitting there trying to figure out what your next/first move should be then you're missing the moment itself. Likewise, if you're trying to rehearse a routine to use you won't come off natural forever or end up in a situation not made for you to be in because you didn't do it naturally for yourself.

In my experience you won't always get the girl, you won't always know what the right thing is to say, you won't always know what the girl truly thought about you, and you may not really know what you thought you saw in her after you revisit the situation...BUT if you're sitting there thinking about how the situation is or could go you've thought your way right out of the situation.

And to reference a comment I saw, "being yourself" for him might've led him to making the thread but at the end of the day you need to be yourself with your approach, if you're coming off as a clone of a book/magazine/forum/whatever you'll become predictable, generic, useless, and likely find yourself not pulling the girls you want after long once they catch on to you being a copy. It's great to get advice from others, you still have to adapt that to your own personality though and let your approach flow naturally. Females can be like sharks in the sense they can see your fear & timidness, and what female goes after a man they see as weak unless they have some ulterior motive?


There's some great info in here from what I've seen, the key though(and I'm pretty sure it was said) is to not copy an approach, but instead have your own with borrowed elements from what others have. That's the beauty of NT to get the information, but still my belief is if you have to ask you're thinking about it too much. Someone's approach will work for someone, I firmly believe that, no matter the approach type. With that said, I'm also a firm believer that as long as you stay true to your approach & keep it natural you'll attract the right kinds of people & be much better off.

Hope that helps someone

What do you guys think are some signs a chick wanna get approached?

quiet steps, from behind with a rag

Shorty Doo Wop said:

What do you guys think are some signs a chick wanna get approached?

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she pulls up her dress and shows a lil leg, thats when you know she's in heat!

Shorty Doo Wop said:

What do you guys think are some signs a chick wanna get approached?

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if she looks twice, you press twice, to break the ice and get her right.

If she glances over a couple times, go spit ... make two attempts at breaking the ice...

For the most part there's no signs famb... just gotta walk up and say what's on your mind.

Shorty Doo Wop said:

What do you guys think are some signs a chick wanna get approached?

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The "look", they're eyeing you.

If you're posted up somewhere and they come hang around your zone. Hanging around your vicinity.

Rejection :\
I gotta stop giving dambs.

handullz said:

if she looks twice, you press twice, to break the ice and get her right.
If she glances over a couple times, go spit ... make two attempts at breaking the ice...
For the most part there's no signs famb... just gotta walk up and say what's on your mind.

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Damb this exact thing happened to me at the supermarket like last week

Chick working there passed by me twice both times glancing at me

if a chick compliment something your wearing, she is interested or just a genuine compliment?

for example "nice shoes"

i dont know if you would consider this a pick up line or not, but i swear to god, "im sorry but you look really familiar.." has worked 75% of the time for me. easy to get conversation rolling from that point.

"I just noticed you notice me, and I want to put you on notice, I noticed you too"

To be honest the most objective advice I can give is never try the same approach twice. Mix it up, not just for effectiveness, but for fun. I would tell you specifics of my randomness, but I can't guarantee effectiveness, cuz I know y'all cats ain't pretty like me.

You can't be yourself .

Just act like Kanye

WWKD