Hinge Takeover >>> Tinder, Bumble Pof

Sometimes I don't even wanna message these white joints on tinder. You go through their pictures and it's like a "rich kids on Instagram"tumblr :x

Pictures of them horseback riding, in the hamptons, chilling in front of some castle in Europe somewhere. Like damn would she even wanna go get coffee or walk around the park or is she expecting me to drop bread for courtside seats at a knick game.

Been talking to this Italian chick from LI. Hopefully I can parlay this into a date.
 
Exactly Azul. Regular cat like me getting by is going to have a task at hand impressing a chick that's traveled the world many times over. Doesn't help to be of color on there either tbh.
 
Sometimes I don't even wanna message these white joints on tinder. You go through their pictures and it's like a "rich kids on Instagram"tumblr :x

Pictures of them horseback riding, in the hamptons, chilling in front of some castle in Europe somewhere. Like damn would she even wanna go get coffee or walk around the park or is she expecting me to drop bread for courtside seats at a knick game.
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Travel Bragging :pimp:

You see this a lot on OkCupid too...not just from white chicks though.
 
Exactly Azul. Regular cat like me getting by is going to have a task at hand impressing a chick that's traveled the world many times over. Doesn't help to be of color on there either tbh.

Never think of yourself as inferior to any of these women, even if they come from wealthy families. Just be yourself, be confident. it doesn't take money for you to be a charming/interesting guy.
 
This thread is pretty entertaining. 
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Nevertheless I was on online dating for a couple of years using POF, OKC and Tinder for a bit. As many dudes have said before me it is a struggle when coming to the snow bunnies with most of them being picky and all. You just have to stay persistent and have good faith. Eventually something will come of it. 

For example one chick talked about liking country music and not wanting the BC. Eventually I charmed her and then we hooked up for a couple of months.
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  Even though nothing came of it, the moral of the story is you just have to keep at it. Just because they say one thing doesn't mean they actually mean it. 
 
Never think of yourself as inferior to any of these women, even if they come from wealthy families. Just be yourself, be confident. it doesn't take money for you to be a charming/interesting guy.
Yes.

If you're too scared to take the jumper, you're not getting the points. If you try, there's a chance the ball might go in :smile:

Tinder is no bueno to me so far. Lol.
 
Yes.

If you're too scared to take the jumper, you're not getting the points. If you try, there's a chance the ball might go in
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Tinder is no bueno to me so far. Lol.
Haven't had a match in a week. Chicks ain't ******* with the dark meat.
 
I'll check out Tinder every couple weeks or so just for fun.  Seems like if you don't for a while, whenever you sign back on all of the chicks who come up first liked you.  

Keep in mind too that girls gotta be looking at the age range you're in plus you gotta be within whatever distance they choose and vice versa.

I can't take it seriously though, it's like new age Hot or Not to me.  I'm sure people use it for real but I'm gonna bet there are a lot of people like me just using it for laughs.
 
I'll check out Tinder every couple weeks or so just for fun.  Seems like if you don't for a while, whenever you sign back on all of the chicks who come up first liked you.  
Keep in mind too that girls gotta be looking at the age range you're in plus you gotta be within whatever distance they choose and vice versa.

I can't take it seriously though, it's like new age Hot or Not to me.  I'm sure people use it for real but I'm gonna bet there are a lot of people like me just using it for laughs.

Been on it for 3 or 4 weeks and have my first meetup tomorrow.

I've gotten plenty of matches but I always trust girld I meet IRL more.

There are definitely girls who take it seriously. I've had to block some persistent ones :lol:
 
I got blocked by some chick on POF earlier cause I drew attention to something stereotypical in her profile that amounted to her being broke and hungry. I guess she got offended. What makes it worse is I looked at her bio again and she rephrased some of her stuff :lol: also, I'm not sure what the point is of sending a message, THEN blocking them. Seems like you should just block and move on,
 
^ I see what you did there :lol:


Have you guys had any luck with 35+ older women? I kinda feel like getting my jayhood23 jayhood23 on :evil:

What can a young cat like me do in order to bag older yambs? :nerd:

I'm thinking about retiring from the cougar game man, but the way to bag em is just be on that extra mature tip. It's just like pulling a younger chick except you can't bring attention to the age difference no matter what. Even if she says something about it, play it off and talk about something else.
 
Need help bros

So I played the game. Went on about five Tinder dates... one was ehh, one was lightyears out of my league, one was a parking lot make-out (even though she was 20 lbs over her pics), one was garbage (she smoked 3 cigs during the date :x) and another was free courtside NBA tickets and a post-game smash :evil: it pays to date girls with company tickets.

Then my sixth date was weird... because the girl was really cool. Her pics were accurate. She was funny and I liked talking to her.

Sparing you the details, blah blah we've hung out about four times now and I'm trying to figure out if I can take this exclusive (don't want to marry her, just want to keep progressing) or if there's five other Tinder dudes thinking the same thing about this girl. She's got me feeling some type of way. How can I decipher this on some Matthew McConaghey? I brought up Tinder yesterday and we both implied that we were exclusive... but I know rule number 1, I cannot trust these girls. I learned that a while back. Any insight?
 
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Sparing you the details, blah blah we've hung out about four times now and I'm trying to figure out if I can take this exclusive (don't want to marry her, just want to keep progressing) or if there's

My advice - something kind of similar happened last summer, met a real cool girl, had amazing chemistry, I wanted to be official, she agreed , asked her to be my girl on like the 3rd or 4th date. it fizzled out shortly after, for several other reasons, but one thing I learned from that series :smile:lol) is not to rush into anything exclusive/official, date steady for ~2 months, talk on the phone regularly, do your best to read her & her actions, is she introducing you to her friends? are you convinced she has feelings for you the same you do for her? etc. things like that can sometimes be red flags....


Tinder is no bueno to me so far. Lol.

Same, went on a 2 week hiatus but re-activated tinder out of desperation boredom, put new pics up...still can't line anything up :smh:

& I've liked every single profile in 10 mile radius and blocked the uglies...:lol: :lol: :lol: :smh:

I'm just making the effort to force myself to go out on friday nights and put up a few shots, I know it's gonna be the only way :nthat:
 
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Unfortunately I have to drinks in me to hit the practice line and put up some shots. Why Tinder helps a lot.
 
Sparing you the details, blah blah we've hung out about four times now and I'm trying to figure out if I can take this exclusive (don't want to marry her, just want to keep progressing) or if there's

My advice - something kind of similar happened last summer, met a real cool girl, had amazing chemistry, I wanted to be official, she agreed , asked her to be my girl on like the 3rd or 4th date. it fizzled out shortly after, for several other reasons, but one thing I learned from that series :smile:lol) is not to rush into anything exclusive/official, date steady for ~2 months, talk on the phone regularly, do your best to read her & her actions, is she introducing you to her friends? are you convinced she has feelings for you the same you do for her? etc. things like that can sometimes be red flags....

I mean yeah, she's said stuff to me like "you're stuck with me" and "that's why I like you" but I was burned so bad by this other girl about a year ago that I'll never believe that unless it's said over many many months.

Still she brought me to meet her roommate, invited me to meet her brother (no thanks lol), invited me to visit her at work, etc... we'll see

Unfortunately I have to drinks in me to hit the practice line and put up some shots. Why Tinder helps a lot.

Used to need at least 3 beers before meeting one of these birds, now I'm good sober, gotta have the f*** it mentality.
 
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Eh, you're overthinking it and moving a little too fast in your head.  4 dates?  That's not enough to try to establish something or discuss where you stand, be concerned about who else might come along or whatever.  You know little about her in the grand scheme of things no matter how much you've talked or you feel like you've clicked.

That's not to say it won't work out but you need to give it more time and see how things play out a little bit.  Most people that are interested in dating/being in a relationship are gonna be optimistic and might end up saying things like what you should do in the future or be comfortable enough to introduce you to friends and family but that's not enough to start planning like you're further in than you are.

It's good that things have gone well enough that you're even considering any of that and to me it's not a matter of "can't trust these girls"...that's the mentality of some jaded individuals who've actually been hurt but wanna act like they're above getting hurt and dudes who just mess with the wrong ones.  There are enough good females out there and she could be one, let the topic come up naturally...but not after a short time like that IMO.
 
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I mean yeah, she's said stuff to me like "you're stuck with me" and "that's why I like you" but I was burned so bad by this other girl about a year ago that I'll never believe that unless it's said over many many months.

Still she brought me to meet her roommate, invited me to meet her brother (no thanks lol), invited me to visit her at work, etc... we'll see

I think those are good signs, just keep everything steady for now, it doesn't hurt to maybe ask her how she feels about being in an official relationship at some point in the future, just gotta really listen and observe her answer, because if it's genuine excitement/happiness then good, but if her answer is the equivalent of "meh" that's not good
 
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It's good that things have gone well enough that you're even considering any of that and to me it's not a matter of "can't trust these girls"...that's the mentality of some jaded individuals who've actually been hurt but wanna act like they're above getting hurt and dudes who just mess with the wrong ones.  There are enough good females out there and she could be one, let the topic come up naturally...but not after a short time like that IMO.

Good advice man. Stork, you too. Alright so how long should I wait before bringing up the "official" thing?

Cause here's the thing... I don't despise this girl. Most girls are unfunny, boring, or annoying. This one is cool...

You can tell I'm bad at this. I used to think it was cool in college to run through girls a couple times in a semester and not care. But that was easy, this relationship stuff (or pre-relationship stuff) is hard. Im 25, I need to stop chasing the jumpoffs and find something solid, at least to make my mom stop asking :x thanks NT
 
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It's good that things have gone well enough that you're even considering any of that and to me it's not a matter of "can't trust these girls"...that's the mentality of some jaded individuals who've actually been hurt but wanna act like they're above getting hurt and dudes who just mess with the wrong ones.  There are enough good females out there and she could be one, let the topic come up naturally...but not after a short time like that IMO.

Good advice man. Stork, you too. Alright so how long should I wait before bringing up the "official" thing?

Cause here's the thing... I don't despise this girl. Most girls are unfunny, boring, or annoying. This one is cool...

You can tell I'm bad at this. I used to think it was cool in college to run through girls a couple times in a semester and not care. But that was easy, this relationship stuff (or pre-relationship stuff) is hard. Im 25, I need to stop chasing the jumpoffs and find something solid, at least to make my mom stop asking :x thanks NT


I'm not sure why you're so anxious on getting a permanent chick. If it clicks, it clicks. Let it come naturally. You have to remember you're playing the field right now. Don't settle for the first chick that arrives at your doorstep. You're 25, all the wifey talk can wait.
 
There's no set timeframe for anything...but 4 dates in is most definitely too early 99% of the time.  Just like it's too early to want to talk about (seems like you're pushing for) commitment, if y'all do deactivate your Tinders
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 and she ends up being the right girl at 25, that's great if it works for you.  You don't need to pass on her either just because you feel like you're young enough and there's time to just do your thing.

Mentally you need to take a step back every once in a while, be objective and re-evaluate.  It's tough if you're caught up in it like you are but what kind of advice would you give your best friend if he was in your spot?  If you think he'd need to chill a little...you need to chill a little.  Like I said earlier, she could be the right girl for you and vice versa but pushing too hard for it might not be the best idea so early, just see where it goes and things will happen naturally if it's worth getting into a relationship for real.
 
Mentally you need to take a step back every once in a while, be objective and re-evaluate. It's tough if you're caught up in it like you are but what kind of advice would you give your best friend if he was in your spot? If you think he'd need to chill a little...you need to chill a little.

Haha yup

Looking back at what I wrote last night, shoulda laid off some of those beers/:pimp: had me getting emotional on NT. Need to stay balanced
 
First Tinder date went well. Had dinner and then she ended up meeting us out while we were on a pub crawl. Didn't smash but set the foundation
 
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