Mature Discussion Thread: At what age should you move out your mother's basement/parent's house?

Wr said:
Some cultures, you don't move out til you are married. It's a way of saving your money to spend it on what really matters. Your future family. Not wasting money that could have bought land, house and take care of things on apartments and leases. That money is gone forever and you can't get it back.
You have no idea how many older people I work with that say stuff like,
"If I hadn't wasted so much money on apartments, clothes,doing what I thought people my age should be doing, I coulda had everything I wanted by 30"
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This is pretty much it. I'm in the my mid 20's and have been working full time since graduating college and I don't see the need to live on my own until I get married or some extenuating circumstances pop up before then.

My parents own their house so I pay the utility bills as a form of "rent". I'd much rather help my parents out then paying some landlord who  doesn't give 2 ***** about me.

My mother needed some dental work done and it cost aroun $1200 in addition to what insurance covered. I offered to pay and that made me geniuely happy.

My brother is studying for an MA and will finish with about $17k in student debt. I told him that if he graduates and finds a full time job, I'll pay that off for  him. Again, that would make me very happy.

My parents certainly don't need my money but I just see it as the less they spend now, the more they have when they retire.

I can live on my own but what would be the point? I'd just be flushing money down the toilet and that would be irresponsibly vis-a-vis my obligation to helping out my family at present or in the future. If my family needed financial help and I couldn't give it to them because I spent it living on my ow when I didn't need to then that would be a pretty ****** excuse.

I realize that not everyone is fortuante enough to have a family that they get along with or that even wants them there so everyone is different. However, living on your own is very, very overrated. It doesn't signal anything in and of itself. If I made a 100K+ like some of my friends, would I live on my own? Maybe. At that salary I could probably have the best of both worlds. However, I make half that so I can't have my cake and eat it too. I have to choose what's more important.
 
I still live at home. I graduated 2 years ago and have been earning a pretty good wage for the past two years. I pay $400 rent and pay for the cable and internet at my house. Me and my gf don't plan on tying the knot anytime soon. Though i plan on moving out in 2-3 years, for right now, i see no reason too.

Plus i want to pay for my wedding cash and put down 50 percent down on my 1st house, and the only way i am going to be able to do that if i continue to live at home for a few more years.
 
I agree that living with your parents shouldn't looked by down upon. In many cases there's no real reason for some people to leave their parent's house. If you're contributing to the cost/upkeep of the place I don't see the problem.
 
When you can afford to, don't rush into debt and stress. That said, I believe you should be working on it as soon as you graduate HS. May not be now or even 4 yrs from now, but have a plan. This is omitting any variables that would require you to stay of course.
 
Wr said:
I guess being young and giving all your money away is what that is nowadays.
Having bills is not cool. No matter what age. The longer you can go with out it the better imo. Once the start, they don't stop. It's an endless cycle of due dates.
Not everybody situation is the same. Especially with the amount of broken homes out there.
If you are moving out and leaving a sick or elderly parent on there own, you may want to re-think why you are moving out in the first place.
If you are moving out to keep up with what you think is a "societal norm" you're not doing it right.
You simply move out when you can afford it. Media got peoples heads messed up thinking there's an exact time to move out. Everybody on different clocks.
Honestly i feel this thread comes up because of the pressure.
If people judge negatively you because of this, they aren't really the people you need in life.
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all my friends still live with their parents and they have great jobs too,and are all 25 im the only one from my homies that has ever moved out, but yeah if your parents are telling you to leave and if you're just leaching then they aint going to put up with that, but in this day and age you got grown people moving back in with their parents, professionals too,to cut back on bills,i got one girl im talking to who is a psychology major works for the county as a social worker makes great money and moved back in with her parents to cut down.

i moved out when i was 19 but before that i hooked my parents up with money to help out, then later i moved back in with em so we could rent a house together, if you're worried about what other people think then you will have a hard time in life, social norms change daily.
 
having bills is not cool.

not having or being able to start being responsible for yourself is not cool also.
 
Can't really say a specific age., because it depends on what you're trying to accomplish.

I'd say a year after you graduate college or grad school and if you didn't go to college 3-4 years after high school. (21-22).

But If you graduated college in like 08 and you're still at your moms crib, yeah there's something wrong with that.

The real question here though is what kinda parents people be having that let them stay in the house into their late 20's? My parents aint eem going for that in no way shape or form :lol:
 
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The answer is when you can afford it if you are older.

If you are younger and can afford it you still might not be mature enough yet.

Its a case by case situation.
 
I find that a lot (I'm not saying most, but a LOT) of people that move out young have MAD assistance from their parents.
 
I did when I moved away for college. However everyone is different. If you can live at home and save money....do it.
 
Pretty much every older person I know whose opinion is worth a damn has told me the same thing: "live at home for as long as you need and save up as much money as possible."
 
honestly i agree with the live for as long as you could until you get yourself established but then theres some ppl especially dudes that your like 35 living with your parents thats a problem esp if your single and got nothing going for you..but everyone is different..
 
23 is about right... most graduate from college that age so if you think u the man then leave the house n be broke...
 
a lot of my friends are back in their parents crib.. dudes are in their mid-late 20s

when rent average is 1500$ here... nobody is really breaking ppls balls about not moving out. thats 1500$ for 600sq feet worth of living space, excluding utilities. 

its so cold in Cali
 
Moved out at 21 doin iight didnt really have a choice things where kind of going crazy so had to man up wish I had stayed home longer for finacial reasons moving out tho has helped me mature
 
If you live in NY, its hard to be on your own that young. I'm 24, I'm currently renting from my mother, i pay half of what anyone else would pay but i definitely still eat her food lol. Once I'm out my car lease I'll be moving out.

Rent for a one bedroom in a crappy area is still like $1000. unless your trying to live with room mates
 
damn man yall be going broke trying to stay on yall own in the big city.... how do yall afford to even go out
 
r0cs finest said:
shatterkneesinc said:
I am 25

everyone i know including me, is still living with their moms, even those that are working

nyc rent is just :smh: dam hipsters
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DMV area too
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Cats in NYC who doing da "independent" thing i know either hunking down with

Roomates piled up in cramped apts, living in rented out rooms which is common

Out here, or living in legal or iilegal cut up apts from basements, or on section 8.

I thank my lucky stars im in apt which just mom dukes, soon as she says i graduate

Im keepin my cribs & she's out to DR.

Most affordable spots in NYC is da bx...hipster proof :smokin
 
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