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Wait this guy is a guest in this woman's house. I don't know how yall were raised but all that "called her out" stuff isn't even an option. Then dude disrespected my dude that works at staples too. All because he was about to miss a movie. Dude has no respect for older people or other peoples houses. Sometimes you gotta take a L to win and he didn't want to. Made himself look like a clown in the process. Cragmatic should be apologizing not her
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She just texted me and told me never to contact her again frown.gif

I can't believe this.....


There's other fish in the sea. If they acted like that before you went off, you saved yourself a lot of trouble. Was this just someone you wanted to **** or could this have been a serious thing? Sometimes you just need to shut up and take the L especially in another person's home.

 

Anyway, just take this as a learning experience. You did your part by going out of your way on Christmas day by spending time with her family. I personally believe an hour is overstaying your welcome if you aren't kin, but you stayed two hours and stayed more before the incident. You lost your Christmas with your family. Something you can't get back to please her and they still weren't happy.

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She just texted me and told me never to contact her again frown.gif
I can't believe this.....

 

 

Sounds like the mom did you a favor.

 

You went out with her for 3 months b, thats nothing. Take your time, move on, and look back and realize this was a good thing.

 

Dysfunctional families are headaches, sad to say.

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post #34 of 265
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Hope you guys are right.

The thing is we have gotten into arguments before because of how her mom treats her and me trying to get her to stand up for herself, we told each other we wouldn't let her family get in the way.... mean.gif
post #35 of 265
Sounds like a crazy, irrational broad.

Leave her
post #36 of 265
You did the right thing...your time is important. She can see you another time.
post #37 of 265
You had a right to be upset but as a guest in her house you should have not went off on her on something so small as a movie. I understand that you left your family and had plans but you could have easily left without having to go through what happened.

But you only been with the girl for three months. She will either come back after a couple days or you will find someone else.
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Sounds like a crazy, irrational broad.
Leave her alone

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post #39 of 265
Why didn't u go talk to her in those 2 hours when u was chillin?
post #40 of 265

anyone else think three months was too early to be meeting parents anyway?.........only introduce family once the future is established between the two of you.

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post #41 of 265

pics of the mom?

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anyone else think three months was too early to be meeting parents anyway?.........only introduce family once the future is established between the two of you.


It is too early. Way too early. That's a serious step in the relationship.

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Originally Posted by Quincy Powell View Post

3 Months.

 

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Wait this guy is a guest in this woman's house. I don't know how yall were raised but all that "called her out" stuff isn't even an option. Then dude disrespected my dude that works at staples too. All because he was about to miss a movie. Dude has no respect for older people or other peoples houses. Sometimes you gotta take a L to win and he didn't want to. Made himself look like a clown in the process. Cragmatic should be apologizing not her

And you must be an old fart who thinks because of your age you DESERVE respect. Who treats their guest with disrespect of a disappear act on a first appearance? It's beyond the point of the movie imo, he didnt even want to rush it and was enjoying his Holidays with his own family. This woman pushed the fact of meeting him, then disses him with not being around to get to know him. F her and anyone who sides with the heffer..... Take a L Pfftttt A loser would say that. 

 

And if you gon throw shots about Best Buy, retaliation is a MUST with the Staples comment. Sisters throwing jabs at him being employed and female trait men in here talking about backing down. haahaaa Some of yall straight B-Made

 

 

I was raised to respect women, and my elders.... but if I'm not given respect, don't give it. 

 

It's EARNED where I'm from, IDGAF how long you been on this Earth or longer than me, we are ALL humans. We have ALL had struggles, and We can ALL be respectful to one another, regardless of age or gender.I'm 26 too, not just some young buck on a rant.

 

To clarify for the less intelligent, automatically elders get respect, but if you show disrespect... that ish GONE

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post #45 of 265
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^^^ Thank you for that post, make's me feel better that I did the right thing.

I know it was only 3.5 months, but this was the best relationship I've ever had, including my 3 year one... I don't know what to do... eyes.gif

About to use a little bit of the rest of my stash tho and roll a smokin.gif

All I got.....
post #46 of 265
Not showing respect and disrespecting are two different things. Take mental notes and don't put yourself in that predicament again. You don't have to scream and shout with your mouth to make a loud statement.

Don't let your emotions cause you to act out even though everything you said was true and if you were in the right. Pay attention to the red flags and keep it moving.


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post #47 of 265
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I absolutely hate g/f's moms. They expect you to go above and beyond just because your dating their daughter. I feel like you did the right thing because if you let them step all over you now....imagine how they'll view you in the future....No matter what I feel 75% of situations like this are a lose-lose.
I mean you could have had a better excuse than watching a movie...could've said some family from out of town was gonna be at your house and you needed to leave.
Just brush it off. When you see the mom next time treat her normally....don't hold no grudges....show her your the better man and just buy her some flowers....tell her you had bought some for your girl (which you might) and thought it would be nice that she (the mom) have some as well. Even after all this she still may be a ***** but you can walk away knowing you put your effort in.
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Now as far as that driveway situation is concerned....your totally wrong....your a sissy you should have had the cojones to atleast drive in with a video cam and drive back out....but NOOOOOO....you wanted to live to the next day so that your g/f's mom would get mad at you....punk *** *****.


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Wait this guy is a guest in this woman's house. I don't know how yall were raised but all that "called her out" stuff isn't even an option. Then dude disrespected my dude that works at staples too. All because he was about to miss a movie. Dude has no respect for older people or other peoples houses. Sometimes you gotta take a L to win and he didn't want to. Made himself look like a clown in the process. Cragmatic should be apologizing not her

And you must be an old fart who thinks because of your age you DESERVE respect. Who treats their guest with disrespect of a disappear act on a first appearance? It's beyond the point of the movie imo, he didnt even want to rush it and was enjoying his Holidays with his own family. This woman pushed the fact of meeting him, then disses him with not being around to get to know him. F her and anyone who sides with the heffer..... Take a L Pfftttt A loser would say that. 

 

And if you gon throw shots about Best Buy, retaliation is a MUST with the Staples comment. Sisters throwing jabs at him being employed and female trait men in here talking about backing down. haahaaa Some of yall straight B-Made

 

 

I was raised to respect women, and my elders.... but if I'm not given respect, don't give it. 

 

It's EARNED where I'm from, IDGAF how long you been on this Earth or longer than me, we are ALL humans. We have ALL had struggles, and We can ALL be respectful to one another, regardless of age or gender.I'm 26 too, not just some young buck on a rant.

 

To clarify for the less intelligent, automatically elders get respect, but if you show disrespect... that ish GONE


Look at the results of his actions....he's on NT, no girl, and her fam hates him.

 

All he had to do was play it cool but he "called her out" which is actually a female trait.  I don't care if my girls parent's are in the KKK.  I'm playing it cool off the first meeting and not poppin' off on nobody in their house.  I can handle myself like a man. 

 

You young bucks think you deserve so much respect but you never been through nothing in your own life.  Do you even know that mans life and why he works at Staples?  Its just a clown move.

 

Why would a secure man "call out" his girls mother in her house?  What do you gain?  What does it prove?  Just because you don't say everything on your mind doesnt' make you weak

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Wait this guy is a guest in this woman's house. I don't know how yall were raised but all that "called her out" stuff isn't even an option. Then dude disrespected my dude that works at staples too. All because he was about to miss a movie. Dude has no respect for older people or other peoples houses. Sometimes you gotta take a L to win and he didn't want to. Made himself look like a clown in the process. Cragmatic should be apologizing not her

And you must be an old fart who thinks because of your age you DESERVE respect. Who treats their guest with disrespect of a disappear act on a first appearance? It's beyond the point of the movie imo, he didnt even want to rush it and was enjoying his Holidays with his own family. This woman pushed the fact of meeting him, then disses him with not being around to get to know him. F her and anyone who sides with the heffer..... Take a L Pfftttt A loser would say that. 

 

And if you gon throw shots about Best Buy, retaliation is a MUST with the Staples comment. Sisters throwing jabs at him being employed and female trait men in here talking about backing down. haahaaa Some of yall straight B-Made

 

 

I was raised to respect women, and my elders.... but if I'm not given respect, don't give it. 

 

It's EARNED where I'm from, IDGAF how long you been on this Earth or longer than me, we are ALL humans. We have ALL had struggles, and We can ALL be respectful to one another, regardless of age or gender.I'm 26 too, not just some young buck on a rant.

 

To clarify for the less intelligent, automatically elders get respect, but if you show disrespect... that ish GONE

Actually, no. There's a different between taking the higher road and displaying class rather than stooping to their level in THEIR house, which is what you seem to miss here. The last thing I want to do is antagonize someone in their home. This could have turned out a lot worse for OP had the people he yelled at been about that life or just felt like slapping fire out of him for the hell of it. What's done is done, but he should have taken the higher road, left and cut her off rather than being told "don't contact me anymore." Her family is trash so its not a loss for him, but you do have to conduct yourself in a proper manner when in someone else's home regardless of how they make you feel. She's mad that you want to see a movie, don't argue with her and the fam, just leave. Its that easy.

post #50 of 265
i take no disrespect but i'm also not gonna cause drama. as soon as it started popping off i'd have just walked out of the crib and left. eff it. you knew her three months. not even worthy of arguing with her crazy family.
post #51 of 265
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Not showing respect and disrespecting are two different things. Take mental notes and don't put yourself in that predicament again. You don't have to scream and shout with your mouth to make a loud statement.
Don't let your emotions cause you to act out even though everything you said was true and if you were in the right. Pay attention to the red flags and keep it moving.
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I agree, you would have came out truly on top if you just said. "I'm sorry, but I left my family for this. And I have to work tomorrow, I don't have time for this. Peace." and just straight up and left them hanging.

There was nothing wrong with the little jabs, but they just weren't necessary, and it kind of turns you into the bad guy (even though you aren't). You do have to act differently when you're in someone else's hood, because no one will be objective or on your side when it comes to family. Also, if you're going through this at 3 months... bullet dodged.
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This belongs on a Dave Chappelle's "When Keeping it Real Goes Wrong"

"I don't like people playing on my phone!"


"Granny NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"  he's beating off in his room now instead inside some X-mas yambs laugh.gif

 

"please never contact me again" roll.gif

post #54 of 265
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Trust me, I did not scream or yell. I spoke very calmly and called the situation as I saw it. All I said was I left my family christmas party early to spend time with you and your family, and you have been off not even in the same room as I am the entire time I've been here, They then proceeded to attack me and my character, and I stood my ground...
post #55 of 265
In the heat of the moment, some things were said that shouldn't have been said.

You were the outsider looking to get into the fold. Even if you were forced by your gf - you still obliged.

In the future, just keep your cool. Be as respectful as you can be and get out of there. The first straw was talking down to the mother. You ****** yourself by getting into it with the bf and sister.

Had you left after you told off mom dukes, things could have been salvaged. But, you may have had a weak-minded girl on your hands who may not have really been ready for a relationship anyway. So you used a few bullets, but dodged the biggest one - the one aimed at you.

Live and let live bro. It's Christmas. We ain't got time for that. nthat.gif
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You gotta look out for numba 1 and you did that. Beeotch wasted 2 hours of your Christmas which couldve been well spent with your family. Shes wrong your right, tell her dont just back up her mom, look at it from your pov. Tell her all NT says they're wrong and text her the link to this page.

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You don't have to scream and shout with your mouth to make a loud statement.

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post #58 of 265
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Not showing respect and disrespecting are two different things.

 

Yep.

 

Just know you're probably better off - to be honest - who in their right mind puts down another persons way & means...my man said he works at BestBuy, not joogin' stones to kids. Like I said earlier it probably is for the better, who knows how far the independent blogger or her mother for that matter, will go w/ the disrespect. Words were exchanged.It happens..but it doesn't matter if y'all were in the Wendys drive thru or her house, it's beside the point.

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post #59 of 265
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Wait this guy is a guest in this woman's house. I don't know how yall were raised but all that "called her out" stuff isn't even an option. Then dude disrespected my dude that works at staples too. All because he was about to miss a movie. Dude has no respect for older people or other peoples houses. Sometimes you gotta take a L to win and he didn't want to. Made himself look like a clown in the process. Cragmatic should be apologizing not her

I agree, you gotta know when and how to pick your battles. Arguing with the girl's moms during the first time y'all meet wasn't smart.
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It wasn't the first time I've met her mom, I have met her mom 4-5 times before this happened.
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