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She just texted me and told me never to contact her again
I can't believe this.....
dont trip off one girl fam, there will be plenty more
Am I in the wrong? Upset g/fs family on Christmas....
dont trip off one girl fam, there will be plenty more
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What was the mother actually doing, though?
Regardless, You didn't do a thing wrong. Period. You left your family to satisfy you girl and her mom. That's time you could have spent with your own peeps on a day that's all about family.
If the mom wants to be upset, let her. She was inconsiderate about you taking time out of your day just to go over there. Two hours was more than enough time to have gotten to know each other. It's her fault for not making more of an effort after you already put some forth.
You told her the truth, no matter how she wants to take it. If your girl can't understand that, reevaluate things.
Regardless, You didn't do a thing wrong. Period. You left your family to satisfy you girl and her mom. That's time you could have spent with your own peeps on a day that's all about family.
If the mom wants to be upset, let her. She was inconsiderate about you taking time out of your day just to go over there. Two hours was more than enough time to have gotten to know each other. It's her fault for not making more of an effort after you already put some forth.
You told her the truth, no matter how she wants to take it. If your girl can't understand that, reevaluate things.
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Not saying you in the wrong but women are much more sensitive youngin, shouldve approached the situation differently.
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The best thing to do is to respect what she said. Don't contact her. Period.
She will realize her family was tripping. She will realize you were right. She will realize that she was acting off impulse and emotions.
Then she'll contact you. At which point you can tell her to go to hell. Her and her crazy *** family.
She will realize her family was tripping. She will realize you were right. She will realize that she was acting off impulse and emotions.
Then she'll contact you. At which point you can tell her to go to hell. Her and her crazy *** family.
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Wait this guy is a guest in this woman's house. I don't know how yall were raised but all that "called her out" stuff isn't even an option. Then dude disrespected my dude that works at staples too. All because he was about to miss a movie. Dude has no respect for older people or other peoples houses. Sometimes you gotta take a L to win and he didn't want to. Made himself look like a clown in the process. Cragmatic should be apologizing not her
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There's other fish in the sea. If they acted like that before you went off, you saved yourself a lot of trouble. Was this just someone you wanted to **** or could this have been a serious thing? Sometimes you just need to shut up and take the L especially in another person's home.She just texted me and told me never to contact her again
I can't believe this.....
Anyway, just take this as a learning experience. You did your part by going out of your way on Christmas day by spending time with her family. I personally believe an hour is overstaying your welcome if you aren't kin, but you stayed two hours and stayed more before the incident. You lost your Christmas with your family. Something you can't get back to please her and they still weren't happy.
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Sounds like the mom did you a favor.She just texted me and told me never to contact her again
I can't believe this.....
You went out with her for 3 months b, thats nothing. Take your time, move on, and look back and realize this was a good thing.
Dysfunctional families are headaches, sad to say.
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Hope you guys are right.
The thing is we have gotten into arguments before because of how her mom treats her and me trying to get her to stand up for herself, we told each other we wouldn't let her family get in the way....
The thing is we have gotten into arguments before because of how her mom treats her and me trying to get her to stand up for herself, we told each other we wouldn't let her family get in the way....
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Sounds like a crazy, irrational broad.
Leave her
Leave her
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You did the right thing...your time is important. She can see you another time.
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You had a right to be upset but as a guest in her house you should have not went off on her on something so small as a movie. I understand that you left your family and had plans but you could have easily left without having to go through what happened.
But you only been with the girl for three months. She will either come back after a couple days or you will find someone else.
But you only been with the girl for three months. She will either come back after a couple days or you will find someone else.
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Why didn't u go talk to her in those 2 hours when u was chillin?
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pics of the mom?
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It is too early. Way too early. That's a serious step in the relationship.
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UNO, DOS, TRES.
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And you must be an old fart who thinks because of your age you DESERVE respect. Who treats their guest with disrespect of a disappear act on a first appearance? It's beyond the point of the movie imo, he didnt even want to rush it and was enjoying his Holidays with his own family. This woman pushed the fact of meeting him, then disses him with not being around to get to know him. F her and anyone who sides with the heffer..... Take a L Pfftttt A loser would say that.
And if you gon throw shots about Best Buy, retaliation is a MUST with the Staples comment. Sisters throwing jabs at him being employed and female trait men in here talking about backing down. haahaaa Some of yall straight B-Made
I was raised to respect women, and my elders.... but if I'm not given respect, don't give it.
It's EARNED where I'm from, IDGAF how long you been on this Earth or longer than me, we are ALL humans. We have ALL had struggles, and We can ALL be respectful to one another, regardless of age or gender.I'm 26 too, not just some young buck on a rant.
To clarify for the less intelligent, automatically elders get respect, but if you show disrespect... that ish GONE
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^^^ Thank you for that post, make's me feel better that I did the right thing.
I know it was only 3.5 months, but this was the best relationship I've ever had, including my 3 year one... I don't know what to do...
About to use a little bit of the rest of my stash tho and roll a
All I got.....
I know it was only 3.5 months, but this was the best relationship I've ever had, including my 3 year one... I don't know what to do...
About to use a little bit of the rest of my stash tho and roll a
All I got.....
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Not showing respect and disrespecting are two different things. Take mental notes and don't put yourself in that predicament again. You don't have to scream and shout with your mouth to make a loud statement.
Don't let your emotions cause you to act out even though everything you said was true and if you were in the right. Pay attention to the red flags and keep it moving.
You got the greatest Xmas gift of all.
Don't let your emotions cause you to act out even though everything you said was true and if you were in the right. Pay attention to the red flags and keep it moving.
You got the greatest Xmas gift of all.
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Look at the results of his actions....he's on NT, no girl, and her fam hates him.
All he had to do was play it cool but he "called her out" which is actually a female trait. I don't care if my girls parent's are in the KKK. I'm playing it cool off the first meeting and not poppin' off on nobody in their house. I can handle myself like a man.
You young bucks think you deserve so much respect but you never been through nothing in your own life. Do you even know that mans life and why he works at Staples? Its just a clown move.
Why would a secure man "call out" his girls mother in her house? What do you gain? What does it prove? Just because you don't say everything on your mind doesnt' make you weak
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Actually, no. There's a different between taking the higher road and displaying class rather than stooping to their level in THEIR house, which is what you seem to miss here. The last thing I want to do is antagonize someone in their home. This could have turned out a lot worse for OP had the people he yelled at been about that life or just felt like slapping fire out of him for the hell of it. What's done is done, but he should have taken the higher road, left and cut her off rather than being told "don't contact me anymore." Her family is trash so its not a loss for him, but you do have to conduct yourself in a proper manner when in someone else's home regardless of how they make you feel. She's mad that you want to see a movie, don't argue with her and the fam, just leave. Its that easy.
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i take no disrespect but i'm also not gonna cause drama. as soon as it started popping off i'd have just walked out of the crib and left. eff it. you knew her three months. not even worthy of arguing with her crazy family.
