Official NT dad thread: can the dads get love

Any dad's in here have a job interview and was offered a job when your partner was going to give birth in a couple of months?

I have a job interview next week for a really good opportunity and I'm just trying to get some feedback if anyone else was in a similar situation and how you handled it?
 
Fozzy Badfeet said:
Any dad's in here have a job interview and was offered a job when your partner was going to give birth in a couple of months?

I have a job interview next week for a really good opportunity and I'm just trying to get some feedback if anyone else was in a similar situation and how you handled it?
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I haven't been in a similar situation, but I would recommend waiting to tell them that until they call you with the offer. The only reason I would mention it during the interview is if they ask you about your personal life. If not, then it can wait.
 
Lucho said:
I haven't been in a similar situation, but I would recommend waiting to tell them that until they call you with the offer. The only reason I would mention it during the interview is if they ask you about your personal life. If not, then it can wait.
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This is what I was thinking. I've read and have been told that I should notify them after I sign the job offer. I guess its a good position to be in...But I just want to make sure that I'll have a couple of days to be with my wife during and after she gives birth.
 
Thanks for all the love fellas!

This is my 2nd son. Now I have 2 girls and 2 boys.
It was an amazing experience because I actually delivered the baby myself!
(Well wife did the real work, I was just nice wit the hands for the completion).
I was a lil nervous, but I was confident since my wife is really knowledgeable
in this area and has tons of nurse and midwife friends.

It was a very spiritual time. I prayed over my wife til she fell asleep. Then I woke her
in the am and she instantly went into labor. She labored in bed for couple more hours
then when it was go time, she chose to stand up.

I put my hand on his head once it came out. We didn't know the sex, and he was facing the
other direction, so all I saw was hair. I said "thats my son!" Then she pushed out more and he
slid into my arm. Then something strange happened. I felt some sort of surge
rush through my body from the top of my skull to the tail of my spine. It was weird
and exhilarating at the same time. Then I flipped him over to check the sex, and
the canon confirmed it. :nthat: :nthat: :nthat:

Since then, they both have been check out and everything and now are knocked out next to me
as I type this. I'm so blessed. May all of you continue to be blessed more abundantly.
 
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Fellas the last few days have been a whirlwind of emotions for my wife and I.

I dont know if any of you all have ever experienced a loss during pregnancy but it just happened to us. We lost our twins at 4 months (17 weeks gestation).I would love to hear from any of you all that have... i think it will help me to cope and comfort my wife.

It was so unexpected and sudden no warnings no signs. She was past the high risk period for miscarriage. We were in the second trimester. We just found out we were having a boy and girl on Sunday, we had an ultrasound lady come to her parents house and i had my fam on face time. Went to see kevin hart sunday night...took pics with her showing her lil bump and look sexy. Monday was just normal. Went to bed, she got up to pee a couple times throughout the night like she always done, no issues. The last time she went to pee at like 4 am on tuesday she couldnt and felt something blocking. from there everything just becomes unbelievable and unexplainable. Her water broke, they call it a premature rupture. We been in the hospital since 5am tuesday. we will be going home sometime tonight.

ill spare all the other details about how hard we fought to preserve their lives but it was just nothing we could do after she got an infection. this is just such a crazy feeling. i wasnt prepared to grieve... had no idea this could happen man. its gonna be tough moving on. I was looking forward to fatherhood man...i just dont get it.
 
:frown: Sorry to hear that, Ace. I don't even know what to say. You guys are certainly in my thoughts.
 
Ace, I'm sorry to hear that bro. My wife had a tubal/ectopic pregnancy that resulted in a miscarriage the first time we got prego, but it was early and the emotions were still rough so I can't begin to imagine what you're going through. Conceiving after that didn't take long, and she ended up having two perfectly healthy and uneventful pregnancies afterward. All I can say is that grieving is a necessary and normal part of the process, but try to keep your head up and try again when she's ready. Crazy things happen for no apparent reason, but it's all part of your journey. In our experience, it brought us closer as a couple and made us cherish our kids THAT much more. God bless.
 
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Ace, I'm truly sorry to hear about your babies..While I've never had a situation like yours, I have went through failed IVF with my ex-wife..And I know it's not even close to what you're going through, I remember how devastated we were..It was extremely heartbreaking and I can't even imagine the pain you both are going through..I'll say a prayer for you and your wife tonight that God keeps you in His arms and takes away the hurt and anguish you both are going through right now..God bless you sir..
 
Sorry to hear that Ace. I hear ppl in this situation name them to help them cope.
 
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I'm so sorry to hear that, Ace. Having already lost a brother and sister, I can kind of imagine what you must be going through. I'm sure losing a child, or twins in your case, is even worse and I hope time can help heal you and your wife's pain.

My older brother's wife was actually 4 months behind mine on her pregnancy. We were already way too ahead of ourselves regarding how they'll be tight with each other growing up. Unfortunately, two weeks before mine was born, they lost theirs and it was so hard to try to not be so happy around them. My wife couldn't even go to their house or the funeral because she would just emotionally break down and I didn't like her like that. He and his wife never even saw my baby until last week, when she turned 3 weeks old. It's definitely a very difficult scenario for everyone involved, my prayers go out to your family.
 
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ace rawstein ace rawstein I'm sorry for your loss fam. I've been through a miscarriage before and it's definitely a whirlwind of emotions. My girl wasn't as far along as your wife, so I can imagine being almost halfway to the finish line makes the feelings that much more intense, especially given the uniqueness of twins.

It's crazy how we often take life for granted and don't think about how hard it was just for us to get here and be healthy. I just prayed for you and your wife. I know you're going through it too, but make your wife feel comfortable and loved right now. Take some time off to make sure she's ok.
 
Damn ace rawstein ace rawstein sorry to hear bro. My wife and I had a miscarriage when we were trying for my son and it puts u in a zone where your trying to understand it. Give your ol lady time to heal emotionally but don't pull away. Give her her space but be there to be strong for her and vice versa. Yall will get through this.
 
Ace Rawstein said:
Fellas the last few days have been a whirlwind of emotions for my wife and I.

I dont know if any of you all have ever experienced a loss during pregnancy but it just happened to us. We lost our twins at 4 months (17 weeks gestation).I would love to hear from any of you all that have... i think it will help me to cope and comfort my wife.

It was so unexpected and sudden no warnings no signs. She was past the high risk period for miscarriage. We were in the second trimester. We just found out we were having a boy and girl on Sunday, we had an ultrasound lady come to her parents house and i had my fam on face time. Went to see kevin hart sunday night...took pics with her showing her lil bump and look sexy. Monday was just normal. Went to bed, she got up to pee a couple times throughout the night like she always done, no issues. The last time she went to pee at like 4 am on tuesday she couldnt and felt something blocking. from there everything just becomes unbelievable and unexplainable. Her water broke, they call it a premature rupture. We been in the hospital since 5am tuesday. we will be going home sometime tonight.

ill spare all the other details about how hard we fought to preserve their lives but it was just nothing we could do after she got an infection. this is just such a crazy feeling. i wasnt prepared to grieve... had no idea this could happen man. its gonna be tough moving on. I was looking forward to fatherhood man...i just dont get it.
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Damn fam. Sorry to hear about your loss :smh:

Its hard thing to overcome, especially for her. My girl and I had 2 miscarriages before we had out son, 2 years apart. I definitely know what you're going through. That middle of the night bathroom scream scares the **** outta you when she wakes you up out of your sleep.

Theres no easy way of getting past it. The first time I was just trying my best to grasp the entire situation, and to calm my girl down. The 2nd time, I can't lie, I shed a couple tears. I thought we could never have a baby.

Come to find out, my girl has a short cervix. We didn't find out until we finally had our son, and she went through a procedure to have it reinforced to carry the weight of the baby.

We were past the high risk period also, but since she had a short cervix, her entire pregnancy was considered high risk. It was a blessing that my son made it because right near delivery, he became too heavy for the stitches they reinforced him in with. She was ready to give birth at any point, and her doctor kept pushing the date back. With that type of procedure, after reinforcing the child, you have to have a scheduled birth date, because they have to force the labor and undo the procedure to make sure the stitches and everything don't permanently damage her body.

I'm not sure if your girl has the same issue, but it sounds very much like it. Especially with twins. That twice the weight and twice the pressure on her body. From what the doctor told us, gravity was just too much for her body. She couldn't support the weight on her own.

I hope you guys steamroll through this though fam. I know its hard, and I know your girl probably has a million things going through her head. The best thing to do is just be there for her. Whatever she needs. Try to keep her away from other pregnant women :lol: Believe me man, every time we even walked past a woman with kids or having a kid, my girl would get emotional. But its just part of the process.

Talk to your girl, see where her heads at. If you guys know you want kids, and its something you planned for, reassure her that you guys will have kids, just like she wants and theres nothing wrong with her. You can't stress that enough. Women have miscarriages every day. Its common, and there are ways to help prevent it. We never thought there was, until they caught it on an ultrasound the 2nd time. Then we educated ourselves and took the necessary precautions before having our son.

I can't stress that enough though, theres nothing wrong with your girl. Theres nothing wrong with you guys. Me and my girl were blank minded as to why it kept happening, and she thought it was her fault. She thought she was working and stressing too much, she thought she just wasn't able to have kids, she thought it was the food she ate, she though it was how she was laying in bed, she was looking for every excuse to blame herself, but I had to reassure her that it was not her fault. I didn't have any answers :lol: but thats the one I did have. It wasn't her fault, and we were going to make it through.



Its been a long 4 years between the losses, and my boy finally being born and now a little over a year old. But I'll tell you like this fam, all that pain you may feel now, will be reversed 100 times over with happiness when you finally make it to that finish line. W never thought we would make it, but we did. And I appreciate being a father 100x more now because unfortunately I know what that loss feels like.

So after these long couple of months without yambs (even when you are cleared to have sex again, your girl will be paranoid. It WILL frustrate you after a while. But thug it out), hop back on that horse if you guys feel fit to. And take every paranoid precaution. Ask every question at the doctor, read every blog, website, etc. to gain that knowledge on how to prevent whats happened.

Sometimes its something like an infection, or sometimes its complicated and needs surgery like my girl. But either way, I'm rooting for ya'll man

Sorry for the wall. But its a sensitive subject for me :lol:
 
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Damn Ace, condolences dude.

thoughts and prayers are with you homie.

every time i get stressed out or frustrated, i just remember that I have a healthy baby (well not so baby anymore) girl and a loving wife who had a good pregnancy. She did lose 10lbs during her first trimester though because she couldn't keep anything down and the Dr. had to put a standing order for an IV on her.

I see these posts about miscarriages, babies who are abandoned, etc. and i appreciate what i have that much more. i see how fortunate i am and don't want to take that for granted so i don't trip over a lot of the things i used to trip about anymore.

Here's a semi-recent pic of my baby... although it might be 3-4 months ago...LOL

fatherhood is AWESOME!!!

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