Official NT dad thread: can the dads get love

[lucho]

I felt the first two weeks were the hardest with the baby eating every 2 - 3 hours. When the baby sleeps, you guys should sleep. We didn't do that with my first, but did with our second and it made it more manageable. 

So my son is potty trained now. Seemed like overnight it just clicked and he wanted to start using the big boy potty. Man it's nice not to change 2 kids' diapers anymore. 

 

[jrp44]

Yeah 1 week in and him having to eat every 2-3 hours is pretty tiring. Seems like the day just flies by because once you feed him, change him, and chill its almost time to do it all again. ...I go back to work tomorrow . Kinda looking forward to getting into a routine at least

 

[Kimchi Papi]

I felt the first two weeks were the hardest with the baby eating every 2 - 3 hours. When the baby sleeps, you guys should sleep. We didn't do that with my first, but did with our second and it made it more manageable. 

So my son is potty trained now. Seemed like overnight it just clicked and he wanted to start using the big boy potty. Man it's nice not to change 2 kids' diapers anymore. 

Brother lucho speaks the truth... When the baby sleeps, you guys should sleep. Resist the urge to do chores or whatever while the baby sleeps. Take naps with the baby because you'll be rested & better able to handle things.

Also, don't keep the house quite while the baby sleeps. Let him or her get used to sleeping in a "normal" environment.

Don't get cooped up in the house either. Once the initial couple of weeks pass, get out & about with the baby.

 

[wavy daddy]

Don't get cooped up in the house either. Once the initial couple of weeks pass, get out & about with the baby.

This right here. You HAVE to get fresh air, give your girl 50 bucks and tell her to get or nails done or somethin. If shes on maternity leave, when you get home let her rest or get out the hoise. You have to take care of the baby and the mom real talk.

 

[lpheat22]

Ok bros, wifey and I been talking and we might start to make a sibling for our daughter.

I must say man this time last year was the worse year of my life, all due to my wrong doings.

If any advice for new parents / husbands - always put your wife first, always be there for her.

Its hard bros once you put all your time in effort into being a great dad, you forget to be a great husband and its hard to truly balance both of those.

You're onto something, but I don't think it's exclusive to being a good dad or husband. It comes down to ALL your priorities, including your hobbies, friendships, work, etc. I put my kids at the top, followed by my wife, then the rest of my family, and my business.
Unfortunately this typically means there's no time left for my own hobbies or friendships, but I'm ok with that. As a husband and father you'll get in trouble when you start placing your own priorities ahead of your family, IMHO.

Idk if I can just give up all my things though. I need time for me to destress and re-focus. I do all I can to make sure her only worry is our daughter but man sometimes it's tough juggling it all around. I do feel though I'm usually the last person to get taken care of. 5 months into this I'm loving it but also stressed at the same time.

 

[dathbgboy]

Ok bros, wifey and I been talking and we might start to make a sibling for our daughter.

I must say man this time last year was the worse year of my life, all due to my wrong doings.

If any advice for new parents / husbands - always put your wife first, always be there for her.

Its hard bros once you put all your time in effort into being a great dad, you forget to be a great husband and its hard to truly balance both of those.

You're onto something, but I don't think it's exclusive to being a good dad or husband. It comes down to ALL your priorities, including your hobbies, friendships, work, etc. I put my kids at the top, followed by my wife, then the rest of my family, and my business.
Unfortunately this typically means there's no time left for my own hobbies or friendships, but I'm ok with that. As a husband and father you'll get in trouble when you start placing your own priorities ahead of your family, IMHO.

Idk if I can just give up all my things though. I need time for me to destress and re-focus. I do all I can to make sure her only worry is our daughter but man sometimes it's tough juggling it all around. I do feel though I'm usually the last person to get taken care of. 5 months into this I'm loving it but also stressed at the same time.

As a dad/husband, you are the last person to get taken care of. I do nothing but work, school, family. Occasionally I play ball at night but usually everything else gets in the way. U gotta have time for you or the stress will get to you and you'll become resentful.

 

[wayniac211]

Meh. Me time is overrated. That's what NT is for.

 

[Fozz]

I know how you guys feel. I've been staying up late just to have an hour or two to myself when everyone is sleeping.

Used to play ball, but haven't done so...So now, I either play some PS4 or edit photos and blog.

I communicate with my wife when I would need a 'break'...Last year, I had a Saturday morning to watch Star Wars...This year, I plan on doing the same. 

I keep reminding myself that as tired, annoyed, stressed, I am from work or from life. My wife and kid is always an option to decompress and relieve stress...

 

[lpheat22]

Ok bros, wifey and I been talking and we might start to make a sibling for our daughter.

I must say man this time last year was the worse year of my life, all due to my wrong doings.

If any advice for new parents / husbands - always put your wife first, always be there for her.

Its hard bros once you put all your time in effort into being a great dad, you forget to be a great husband and its hard to truly balance both of those.

You're onto something, but I don't think it's exclusive to being a good dad or husband. It comes down to ALL your priorities, including your hobbies, friendships, work, etc. I put my kids at the top, followed by my wife, then the rest of my family, and my business.
Unfortunately this typically means there's no time left for my own hobbies or friendships, but I'm ok with that. As a husband and father you'll get in trouble when you start placing your own priorities ahead of your family, IMHO.

Idk if I can just give up all my things though. I need time for me to destress and re-focus. I do all I can to make sure her only worry is our daughter but man sometimes it's tough juggling it all around. I do feel though I'm usually the last person to get taken care of. 5 months into this I'm loving it but also stressed at the same time.

As a dad/husband, you are the last person to get taken care of. I do nothing but work, school, family. Occasionally I play ball at night but usually everything else gets in the way. U gotta have time for you or the stress will get to you and you'll become resentful.

Ya and that's the last thing I want.

Any of you heavy sleepers? I am and it makes it tough to get up at night when the baby is crying. That's my girls issue right now is she's the one getting up. I try and get up but man sometimes I'm completely out. She's a light sleeper so it's easy for her.

 

[youngthundercat]

 
I keep reminding myself that as tired, annoyed, stressed, I am from work or from life. My wife and kid is always an option to decompress and relieve stress...

thats the truth...once i pull up to the house and walk through those doors, all the nonsense from work is gone. 

for me my lady is going back to work next week and my daughter has started daycare. my schedule is great bc im off during the week and have the house to myself. 

so i hoop, PS4 and take care of things needed. 

 

[Blake P]

Idk if I can just give up all my things though. I need time for me to destress and re-focus. I do all I can to make sure her only worry is our daughter but man sometimes it's tough juggling it all around. I do feel though I'm usually the last person to get taken care of. 5 months into this I'm loving it but also stressed at the same time.

I don't think it's about giving your things up, it's about putting them to the side.  I know some dads who get off work and go straight to the gym, bar, etc. because they feel they need time to themselves.  Do you, but for me that's the precious time my kids are still awake and I can spend with them for a few hours before bed.  Only THEN can I think about doing something for me if the house is straight and my wife has another agenda that doesn't involve me.

 

[Fozz]

Ya and that's the last thing I want.

Any of you heavy sleepers? I am and it makes it tough to get up at night when the baby is crying. That's my girls issue right now is she's the one getting up. I try and get up but man sometimes I'm completely out. She's a light sleeper so it's easy for her.

I used to be. But I just adapted to waking up from the slightest noise by my daughter. And I already knew my wife wasn't going get out of bed to see why our daughter was crying 

 
thats the truth...once i pull up to the house and walk through those doors, all the nonsense from work is gone. 

for me my lady is going back to work next week and my daughter has started daycare. my schedule is great bc im off during the week and have the house to myself. 

so i hoop, PS4 and take care of things needed. 

Word. My daughter is walking now so to see her walk to me every time I come home is great.

My wife stays home with her, so I do my best to give her a break and have some alone time. It's a challenge at times, especially since she's dealing with post-partum depression, but I know what I have to do to make sure my daughter and her are taken care of.

Just very thankful that my wife understands that I need breaks from time to time. She was even pushing me to trade my PS4 for a PS4 Pro yesterday. As excited as I got, I wasn't in the mood cause my back was hurting 

 

[rhinosport]

Idk if I can just give up all my things though. I need time for me to destress and re-focus. I do all I can to make sure her only worry is our daughter but man sometimes it's tough juggling it all around. I do feel though I'm usually the last person to get taken care of. 5 months into this I'm loving it but also stressed at the same time.

I don't think it's about giving your things up, it's about putting them to the side.  I know some dads who get off work and go straight to the gym, bar, etc. because they feel they need time to themselves.  Do you, but for me that's the precious time my kids are still awake and I can spend with them for a few hours before bed.  Only THEN can I think about doing something for me if the house is straight and my wife has another agenda that doesn't involve me.

I agree.
They are only small once. Spend as much time possible with them. Once they're grown, you wish you did.

 

[lpheat22]

Ya and that's the last thing I want.


Any of you heavy sleepers? I am and it makes it tough to get up at night when the baby is crying. That's my girls issue right now is she's the one getting up. I try and get up but man sometimes I'm completely out. She's a light sleeper so it's easy for her.

I used to be. But I just adapted to waking up from the slightest noise by my daughter. And I already knew my wife wasn't going get out of bed to see why our daughter was crying 

 




thats the truth...once i pull up to the house and walk through those doors, all the nonsense from work is gone. 




for me my lady is going back to work next week and my daughter has started daycare. my schedule is great bc im off during the week and have the house to myself. 


so i hoop, PS4 and take care of things needed. 

Word. My daughter is walking now so to see her walk to me every time I come home is great.

My wife stays home with her, so I do my best to give her a break and have some alone time. It's a challenge at times, especially since she's dealing with post-partum depression, but I know what I have to do to make sure my daughter and her are taken care of.

Just very thankful that my wife understands that I need breaks from time to time. She was even pushing me to trade my PS4 for a PS4 Pro yesterday. As excited as I got, I wasn't in the mood cause my back was hurting 

Ya I'm trying to adjust, it's tough.

Idk if I can just give up all my things though. I need time for me to destress and re-focus. I do all I can to make sure her only worry is our daughter but man sometimes it's tough juggling it all around. I do feel though I'm usually the last person to get taken care of. 5 months into this I'm loving it but also stressed at the same time.

I don't think it's about giving your things up, it's about putting them to the side.  I know some dads who get off work and go straight to the gym, bar, etc. because they feel they need time to themselves.  Do you, but for me that's the precious time my kids are still awake and I can spend with them for a few hours before bed.  Only THEN can I think about doing something for me if the house is straight and my wife has another agenda that doesn't involve me.

I agree.
They are only small once. Spend as much time possible with them. Once they're grown, you wish you did.

I can't do the gym right after work. I go home and see my girls first. After I try but sometimes I get home and start doing things for her and there goes my gym time. Still trying to find that balance.

 

[Grine]

Shoot I bring baby girl to the gym with me

 

[lucho]

That work-life balance is tough early on because the babies schedule is just constantly changing. Now, both my kids go down at 7pm, so a couple days a week i get to go workout after they go down. On the other days, me an wifey just chill and bs until bed time. She usually goes to bed around 830, so i am usually the one getting the kids' bags ready for day care and cleaning up the house a bit.

 

[Kimchi Papi]

On my son's old soccer team, he had a kid that was one of 9... The ages ranged from 15 (almost 16 then) to an 8 or 9 month old. The mother found out she was pregnant with baby #10. She was a stay at home mom who also home schooled all the kids. I can't even imagine the work load she has. All of them were great kids to. The father is working for a defense contractor & got a huge promotion but had to move the family to Seattle (jet city) last year.

When I chit catted with the mother during practice back then, she said she usually would force herself to get to bed by 12-12:30AM every day but even then she still had lots she could've done. She got the older kids to get involved in helping & she kept the youngsters in line.

Both parents always seemed calm & what not. Again, I can't even imagine 10 damn kids...

 

[Los Angeles]

lpheat22 u got a 24hr pass?

 

[SneakerProSr.]

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I see why high chairs have seat belts now

 

[a55a5in11]

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I see why high chairs have seat belts now

Already got the captain Morgan stance down

 

[lpheat22]

lpheat22 u got a 24hr pass?

Ya I do but latest I can hit the and get sleep is probably 7 or 8. I gotta get up at 5 to start getting ready.

 

[T0INE]

I see why high chairs have seat belts now

Looks like something is going down based on SneakerPro Jr. expression. 

 

[celticspride34]

I think it's almost time ...

 

[wayniac211]

I think it's almost time ...

Congrats. You're savagery will get you 4+ kids

 

[celticspride34]

I think it's almost time ...

Congrats. You're savagery will get you 4+ kids

I'm getting snipped Shortly after this is over ...