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the hate is strong....let if flow through you berkeley. I mean...ya guys gotta stop putting the P on a pedestal.
OP....she dumped you B....get over it. Realize that you loss this one but you'll win the war. I only realize it now but we crave what we lost because when we lose it we lose something we took for granted and was our comfort zone.
If you feel like pleading your heart to her then go do it, if you feel like re-uping your game and then trying to spit game to her then do that. Just realize both of these approaches won't guarantee you entry back to that girls heart.
At the end of all this you should you ever meet her again you should just tell her that she made you a better man (your future self) whether that's with or without her. Give that **** some closure, don't go over and above like a simp because these days we often give praise to others more than the work we put into ourselves.
And that's that.
OP....she dumped you B....get over it. Realize that you loss this one but you'll win the war. I only realize it now but we crave what we lost because when we lose it we lose something we took for granted and was our comfort zone.
If you feel like pleading your heart to her then go do it, if you feel like re-uping your game and then trying to spit game to her then do that. Just realize both of these approaches won't guarantee you entry back to that girls heart.
At the end of all this you should you ever meet her again you should just tell her that she made you a better man (your future self) whether that's with or without her. Give that **** some closure, don't go over and above like a simp because these days we often give praise to others more than the work we put into ourselves.
And that's that.
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I've been thinking of trying to rekindle a friendship with my ex. I've thought about trying to contact her, or writing her an email about what I've realized 6 weeks later. The few times I checked her twitter recently she definitely had a few tweets referring to me. But then I feel there's really no point... I miss spending time with her, but there's really no point....
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That chick with the crazy mom.
Aw hell naw man. Let it go.
You were all rustled over Django, let it go
Leave that girl alone
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Hey I didn't say I was gonna do it... just that a small part of me wanted to. Like I said, there is NO point. I'm good.
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Not necessarily. Being responsible and making the right decisions illustrates growth and maturity regardless if you're a highschool dropout or a post grad student. You can't just simply generalize that education and being successful can win anyone back. Everyone's priority is different, don't judge but be curious.
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If you really did take her for granted and she's being indifferent now it's probably over for good.
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Coming from a fap master
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It depends on the relationship. Before I dated my most recent ex, I was single for 2 years... once I embraced it, it was wonderful. I messed with a few here and there but nothing serious. Having no commitments to anyone and doing what I truly wanted to do... was wonderful. I'm kind of excited for this summer now remember that... just gotta make it through this damn winter.
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keep your head up...plenty of fish in the sea.....etc
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didnt read where are the pics?
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I can't take a grown man seriously who complains about being single on v-day
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Coming from the dude that made a thread asking how do you know if a girl is checking you out
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yo someone told me this, if you depend on someone to make you feel better or about yourself, your not doing it right. cause that how it sounds like. I was in a 5 year relationship and yes i would feel down and when i got that text or call i just lit up like no other, but when **** hits the fan i had no where to run to for help but me. barely had friends like 3 they never had gf's. it took me 1.5-2 years to get over her yeah it hurts bad. but at the end of the day you make yourself happy you clean your own **** you tuck yourself to bed you feed yourself you dont depend on others to wipe your own *** its you!
best thing is move on do you and the yambs will come along and you wont even notice cause youll be too busy doing you. I've been single for 3 years now and i tell it was the best thing she ever did to me, i bettered myself, got a job that paid a load with only HSs degree,going back to a degree (26 years old and starting over from ground zero, yes ima dumbie) hit the gym looking better then ever. Got a few one nighters here and there. Me my ex had dim sum last year, she was going through a break up and she said she was young and dumb and said sorry n all this BS wanting to start over. i told her straight up, thanks for leaving me cause i would never be where i am now (good without her) her face looked like she been swimming through salt lake. I tell man your young go out and have fun theres lots of yambs to be discovered my man!
best thing is move on do you and the yambs will come along and you wont even notice cause youll be too busy doing you. I've been single for 3 years now and i tell it was the best thing she ever did to me, i bettered myself, got a job that paid a load with only HSs degree,going back to a degree (26 years old and starting over from ground zero, yes ima dumbie) hit the gym looking better then ever. Got a few one nighters here and there. Me my ex had dim sum last year, she was going through a break up and she said she was young and dumb and said sorry n all this BS wanting to start over. i told her straight up, thanks for leaving me cause i would never be where i am now (good without her) her face looked like she been swimming through salt lake. I tell man your young go out and have fun theres lots of yambs to be discovered my man!
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because those are two related things?
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I decided to give her her space. We spoke today and she told me she went out on a date.
F****** sucks!
I didn't even get a chance to say anything. But I only blame myself. I practically pushed her away. I've just been sittin in the house with nothin to do the past couple days.
I don't think it helps that I pretended not to care either. Some of ya'll are right, I really need to just move on and better myself like she's done. As far as some new/part-time yambs...idk. I've thought about it...met a few girls on campus thats diggin me, so why not?
But, I just hate that I hurt her and wasted her time. The only thing I can be happy about is that she still says she loves me, so, there's a little hope for the kid.
She said we can still hang out sometime, but not all the time. I guess I had to learn what its like to take some one or anything for granted. As far as VDAY...gonna chill by myself. If I'm lucky, she'll want to spend time with me, but I'm leaving it up to her.
I might do another update if anything happens in the near future, if not, then its been real folk!
Holllaaa!!
F****** sucks!
I didn't even get a chance to say anything. But I only blame myself. I practically pushed her away. I've just been sittin in the house with nothin to do the past couple days.
I don't think it helps that I pretended not to care either. Some of ya'll are right, I really need to just move on and better myself like she's done. As far as some new/part-time yambs...idk. I've thought about it...met a few girls on campus thats diggin me, so why not?
But, I just hate that I hurt her and wasted her time. The only thing I can be happy about is that she still says she loves me, so, there's a little hope for the kid.
She said we can still hang out sometime, but not all the time. I guess I had to learn what its like to take some one or anything for granted. As far as VDAY...gonna chill by myself. If I'm lucky, she'll want to spend time with me, but I'm leaving it up to her.
I might do another update if anything happens in the near future, if not, then its been real folk!
Holllaaa!!
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I still don't think it's too late for you.
Let her know man your feelings that's not considered begging.
At least you'll know for sure instead of going through years wondering what if you would have swallowed your pride and let her know how you really feel.
Text her man, but not to bug her but to see what's good.
If she really giving you the stink face like that and don't want anything to do with you then keep it moving, but from how things sounds I think she still wants to be with you and you know you want to be with her.
You gotta remember this site is made up of mostly high school kids who most likely aren't even smashing anything yet let alone can give relationship advice.
Go for her OP if she's really worth as much as you say she is then go for it fool.
You'll regret it brah because these chicks out here is slim pickings with a lot of luggage and bodies on their resume so think before you just write off a good chick thinking she'll be easily replaceable.
I say for VDay you push up and let her know that you want her to spend it with you. I mean give her space but start doing stuff you weren't before. I'm pretty sure she was always the one initiating communication between the two of you... she was always calling or contact you and you never did until she made an effort to.
What's going to hurt to try OP... nothing what some random idiots on a message board poking fun at you.
You think she's the type of girl to go bragging to other's that she got you on a leash pulling you along and got it like that...nah she doesn't seem that type and if she was then you wouldn't be here.
You need to drop the act of Mr. Machismo and swallow your pride and let your ego go or else she's really going to go elsewhere. You can't expect her to keep running behind you and you acting like whatever, but when the tables are turned you then want to start showing you care. Like someone else said you can't treat someone special to you like they're your rag doll.
You're about to loose something good and special and you know it homie, but you acting all nonchalant like everything is all good and it's not.
She's telling you about going on the date and other things maybe to see your reaction so she can know where you stand on wanting to get back with her... you don't know for sure. I mean if I broke up with someone that I cared for I wouldn't let them know I was out trying to find a replacement because I know if would raise feelings on that person, but if maybe telling them things like going on a date one could get a reaction to see if the other still cares to determine if to still try and salvage whatever you could.
I want an update fool because now you got me all into your sh..
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^^^ Thanks a lot man!
Probably the most useful thing I've read this whole time!
I think it only takes some balls to put myself out there like there. I'm just so used to just bein like, "whatever, it is what it is". Def will hope for the best and update!
Peace.
Probably the most useful thing I've read this whole time!
I think it only takes some balls to put myself out there like there. I'm just so used to just bein like, "whatever, it is what it is". Def will hope for the best and update!
Peace.
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You have to send her something for V-Day. Don't get sappy, but maybe tell her you miss her and to have a happy V-Day, etc.
I'm in the same situation as you. I was to work things out with my ex. I broke it off with her and now I'm trying to rekindle things with her a year and a half later. I've told her she's my ideal girl, and she's told me I'm the ideal guy. The only problem is right now she doesn't have the same feelings for me and she wants to do her own thing. At this point, I just have to show her I care and all that and then let her come to me, if she does. I was depressed for a while, but I've bounced back. Only time or the next love of your life can heal you now.
I'm in the same situation as you. I was to work things out with my ex. I broke it off with her and now I'm trying to rekindle things with her a year and a half later. I've told her she's my ideal girl, and she's told me I'm the ideal guy. The only problem is right now she doesn't have the same feelings for me and she wants to do her own thing. At this point, I just have to show her I care and all that and then let her come to me, if she does. I was depressed for a while, but I've bounced back. Only time or the next love of your life can heal you now.
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Text her something straight from your heart on V-Day... A text for her to wake up too! (Best way to start off her day, she'll think about you)
Even if she doesn't text you back. Atleast you sent it!
Even if she doesn't text you back. Atleast you sent it!
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damn OP im somewhat in the same boat as you.
Best thing is to give space. Just do you right now.
Keep things friendly and dont burn any bridges.
As for what everyone else is sayin, Do something nice for V Day. A rose or two wouldnt heart and a card with your feelings.
Goodluck man, i hope you get her back.
Best thing is to give space. Just do you right now.
Keep things friendly and dont burn any bridges.
As for what everyone else is sayin, Do something nice for V Day. A rose or two wouldnt heart and a card with your feelings.
Goodluck man, i hope you get her back.
