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So many feels in this thread
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want to add onto what i said before
i cant stress enough that you need to cut her off . two people cannot go from being intimate and in a relationship to being strictly platonic friends . ever . and since shes the one who doesnt want to be with you right now , keeping in contact is only going to mess you up more emotionally . the key is making sure that you convey to her that cutting her off is coming from a place of strength and NOT from being butt hurt , angry , and revengeful . you need to in a very "matter of fact" way let her know that you are cutting her off/moving on because thats whats best for YOU
i cant stress enough that you need to cut her off . two people cannot go from being intimate and in a relationship to being strictly platonic friends . ever . and since shes the one who doesnt want to be with you right now , keeping in contact is only going to mess you up more emotionally . the key is making sure that you convey to her that cutting her off is coming from a place of strength and NOT from being butt hurt , angry , and revengeful . you need to in a very "matter of fact" way let her know that you are cutting her off/moving on because thats whats best for YOU
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Sorry, but treating a girl in a mediocre manner, will not evoke the action and words that home girl brought to OP. Love is love.. being treated "mediocre" does not inhibit love from flourishing.. Her "feelings" changed.. there is nothing you can do aside from being caked like Reggie Bush, that will keep her quiet and committed once that occurs.
Nothing says "love" like failing to put effort into a relationship, right?
People go around labeling everything "love" these days and fail to understand when their "love" falls apart.
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Dat brotherly love
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Do you mane! do you! dont even worry bout her. As long as you do you, shell either come back or keep it movin. Then you'll know what to do. If you keep thinking about ruining things then you will.
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Take a vacation. Go to Miami I guarantee you'll be cured. You'll realize that there are so many more women in the world that aren't on her bs. You'll come back and be able to be her friend with no problems. In fact she'll probably start to annoy you...well at least it worked for me lol
Seriously though, I like that one response "I'm doing what you want me to and am giving you space" always deflect everything on her and make her realize how wrong she is. Women always do that to us and make us feel like we messed up and second guess ourselves. Flip the script and make her work to comeback cuz I guarantee you once you keep the distance she's gonna wanna come back at some point
Seriously though, I like that one response "I'm doing what you want me to and am giving you space" always deflect everything on her and make her realize how wrong she is. Women always do that to us and make us feel like we messed up and second guess ourselves. Flip the script and make her work to comeback cuz I guarantee you once you keep the distance she's gonna wanna come back at some point
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This is the truth. Learn from the experiences of others. You have to cut her off and distant yourself and give yourself time to grieve. If she is always there it will slow down the healing process. I know how it is she is/was the greatest thing you had and you think you can't do better. That is not true. And if you keep this mentality you are going to be in a world full of hurt. You are young man just do your thing and take the time you need. Chances are you are not that into her if you aren't really trying to get at her like that. Its one of those she is gone moments. It will pass.
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something tells me you still love her.
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Best quote in the thread thus far
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Been there done that...
Replies in here on point too. You'll be hurting now, but once you get a new girl you will laugh at this situation. And I stress, do not go back to her, do not chase her!
Replies in here on point too. You'll be hurting now, but once you get a new girl you will laugh at this situation. And I stress, do not go back to her, do not chase her!
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She has already ****** 3 dudes by now ...conscious free, you're a learning curve at this point my dude.
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She wants new D
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Listen to these guys fam they're speaking the truth.. I wish this thread was around back in Nov when I got dumped by my ex, it would've helped me tremendously. I tried to talk to her and be logical but women aren't really logical creatures imo.. If you chase her you'll end up being mad at yourself for giving all that power to someone thatz not worth, plus you'll make yourself look like a lame to her.. Keep it moving fam, find some new yambs, join a gym read some books but whatever u do don't hit her up anymore.. She made her choice by dippin out on u so ler her live wit it..
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Thanks for the amazing advice in this thread everyone had great input
So I haven't replied to her but she has texted me a few times saying goodnight and I miss you.
I do want her back but it's best to leave it? I could see myself spending the rest of my time with her.
It's like shouldn't I reply at least something? Or you guys still say completely nothing?
So I haven't replied to her but she has texted me a few times saying goodnight and I miss you.
I do want her back but it's best to leave it? I could see myself spending the rest of my time with her.
It's like shouldn't I reply at least something? Or you guys still say completely nothing?
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You might just have to fade him brah.
Nah, but tell dude to cut the foolery ASAP.
If you do it in person keep your head on the swivel in case he throws that 2 pc.
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Very good points in here..
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Either don't reply, or be blunt with what you want. She's selfish, she doesn't get to have cake and eat it too while you lie over there in torment. No back and forth like **** is all good.
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Work on yourself.. Forget about her man, YOU deserve way better. Wake up in the morning with a purpose: go to the gym, improve your health, get a fresh haircut, but yourself some nice clothes and shoes, read a lot of books, and focus on yourself... This is a part of your life where God is testing you to see how you respond to it... Use this as motivation, learn from it and move on.. Focus on your own path, and I guarantee that the girl that is right for you will find you. Always stay humble
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tell her how you feel, if shes not hearing it, be aggressive like "i dont like being your friend, i want to be more." she responds, then you follow up with a "now you know im not going to leave you alone. stop kidding yourself." and proceed to hulk smash
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Sounds like a guilty text to me. Somebody hit that already OP. Move along.
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Pics of girl to further evaluate, and how old are yall.
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Ûgh she's calling
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dude, dont ignore us
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