Dating a woman with children

Young ThunderCat said:
Coming from a 28 yr old man with a good job, no kids, both parents in my life, and never dated a single mother in my life. There's a lot of naive lil boys posting in this thread. Talking pure foolishness.
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i wonder how many of these guys who seek out single mothers, are a product of this themselves...and have a psychological attraction to said women, due to it reminds them of their moms...their moms struggle, and in a sick,twisted way unbeknown to them are trying to save their moms vicariously...by dating a women who subconsciously reminds them of their mothers?
 
All I can say is, in reality, you never know who you're going to vibe with. Dont be stupid and pass something up because of some childish *** notion that sound good as hell.

Its not going to hurt to date, again DATE(NOT WIFE) a woman with a child/children. Dudes on here acting like their credit score is gonna drop if the date a chick with kids. If you like the chick, you like the chick, dont be so ******g judgmental. What if your dad left your mother when you were little, you'd want her to be alone for the rest of her days?
 
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superblyTRIFE said:
Well then I guess I should play the lottery, because my former single mother wife fits none of those categories.


1. College graduate

2. Kids by same dad. Had our kid after marriage at the age of 36

3. Had all kids after being married

4. Was 16

5. Parents are still married


I beat the odds. As do many others. So the facts don't always correlate with the reality on the other side of the coin. And yes, there is a flipside to all those Jerry Springer, baby daddy drama type broads. I know because I've lived it. I won't deny that wifing up an immature, single mom isn't a good idea. But let's stop acting like all single moms are the scourge of the earth.
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one you said former....and second just because you beat the odds doesnt mean the odds arent there. Hell ive hit the lottery...scatch offs kinda big a few times before in my life...and i rarely play buy a ticket... still doesnt change the fact the odds are 1 to 100,000...

And to play the game...being dating based on one successful venture in which the odds are heavily against you is foolish.

It would be like me saying hell i know the getting a big scratch off is 1 in 100,000 but since ive only played 5 times and hit 2/3 times...f it...imma quit my job etc... and str8 play the lottery based on my success of hitting, and negate the fact that the odds are heavily against me repeating.

I never said dating single women is a bad thing, nor am i against it, but the numbers/facts indicate the odds of you winning...aka getting someone good is heavily not in your favor. And also i never said all..matter fact i gave factual statistics... and the facts are the facts... its overwhelmingly favors what alot of guys in here are saying.

So congrads you lucked up...beat the odds, but to suggest they dont exist, or say nah it isnt true cause i beat the odds is misleading.
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Yeah, former as in she was single with kids when we met. She's not single now.

And I don't think I've ever said odds don't exist, playboy. In fact, quite the opposite if you go back and read my posts. I fully accept the fact that there are a plethora of terrible single moms out there who would be horrible to date. But there are also those who don't fall into that category. That's ALL I'm saying.
 
I couldn't imagine a dude actively pursuing a single mother on some. You need to have a kid/kids as a prerequisite in order for me to date you lmao
 
NO guys without kids are SEEKING out women with kids. :lol:

But we know some have to reach to make a point.
 
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From experiences with people I know, it really takes a specific type of guy to want to take on the challenges of dating a girl with kids. I have two cousins that did it and they are doing fine but I will say they are not alpha males and sort of like/need that type of women to tell them what to do all the time. But still, thank god there are people like this to take on the responsibilities of someone else's kids. I would hate for a woman with a child to never meet someone else after the facts. I for one could never date a girl with kids but honestly I can't even take care of myself properly. I am just too jealous for my own well being.
 
rrlegend said:
fellow nfc south brethren what dont you agree with ? i can see alot of dudes are talking about hood rat baby mommas and are generalizing but its not like they are lying .
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I just can't get down with all the generalizing, you can't help who you vibe with.


Perfect example I go out one night meet a chick, she's dope as hell. We get to exchanging texts and calls still vibing. I let her know I'm not looking for nothing to serious. She lets me know she has a kid and wont dare try to introduce the kid to me.We start kicking it, smash, and she wants nothing from me money wise. She has a great head on her shoulders, college grad and good job. Me and this lady truly enjoy each other, but I'm not suppose to entertain her bc she has a seed and I don't? Foolishness. Dudes acting like they have to wife every women they meet. And another note the older you get the greater the chance of meeting a good girl with a kid. It is what it is with our generation.
 
"I'd never touch a single mom"..... Goes to drayah thread "I'd save!" "I'd wife"..... Yeah..... Some of y'all don't know what y'all are talking about. Nobody wakes up and says I want a single mom now! It just happens
 
Mr Fongstarr said:
From experiences with people I know, it really takes a specific type of guy to want to take on the challenges of dating a girl with kids. I have two cousins that did it and they are doing fine but I will say they are not alpha males and (they) sort of like/need that type of women to tell them what to do all the time. But still, thank god there are people like this to take on the responsibilities of someone else's kids. I would hate for a woman with a child to never meet someone else after the facts. I for one could never date a girl with kids but honestly I can't even take care of myself properly. I am just too jealous for my own well being.
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I think you're on to something...

I'm not going to generalize and say that ALL men who are successful in relationships with women who have kids are this way, but the ones that I have known in the past tend to be the pushover types who put up with way more than they should.

I knew this old man who got roped into raising two teenage girls who didn't even like him and he ended up having a new kid with the mother in his mid 50s when he was getting ready to retire. :smh: He was her boss and she got them both fired and ended up juicing dude of all his money and basically keeps him in the back room of the house like a pet. :lol:

Now that he has a kid he can't do ****. He once told me that when he met her he had everything in order: his own house, a Benz and then he got his nose wide open and got caught smashing her at work and that was the end of that.

I feel sorry for the dude, but he's definitely a captain. He goes to bat for his "daughters" and they have no love for him and disrespected him constantly throughout the years. I've even seen the wife straight up disrespect him in front of a house full of people on multiple occasions.

Couldn't be me. **** that.
 
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jordan23dotcom said:
"I'd never touch a single mom"..... Goes to drayah thread "I'd save!" "I'd wife"..... Yeah..... Some of y'all don't know what y'all are talking about. Nobody wakes up and says I want a single mom now! It just happens
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see this i dont agree with the double talk , ive seen people in real life pull this call the broad a jump and as soon as she let them hit raw and keep the baby they boo'ed up 
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just be true to yourselves fellas 
 
Brolic Scholar said:
Mr Fongstarr said:
From experiences with people I know, it really takes a specific type of guy to want to take on the challenges of dating a girl with kids. I have two cousins that did it and they are doing fine but I will say they are not alpha males and (they) sort of like/need that type of women to tell them what to do all the time. But still, thank god there are people like this to take on the responsibilities of someone else's kids. I would hate for a woman with a child to never meet someone else after the facts. I for one could never date a girl with kids but honestly I can't even take care of myself properly. I am just too jealous for my own well being.
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I think you're on to something...

I'm not going to generalize and say that ALL men who are successful in relationships with women who have kids are this way, but the ones that I have known in the past tend to be the pushover types who put up with way more than they should.

I knew this old man who got roped into raising two teenage girls who didn't even like him and he ended up having a new kid with the mother in his mid 50s when he was getting ready to retire. :smh: He was her boss and she got them both fired and ended up juicing dude of all his money and basically keeps him in the back room of the house like a pet. :lol:

Now that he has a kid he can't do ****. He once told me that when he met her he had everything in order: his own house, a Benz and then he got his nose wide open and got caught smashing her at work and that was the end of that.

I feel sorry for the dude, but he's definitely a captain. He goes to bat for his "daughters" and they have no love for him and disrespected him constantly throughout the years. I've even seen the wife straight up disrespect him in front of a house full of people on multiple occasions.

Couldn't be me. **** that.
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That would've happened to him kids or no kids...
 
He would've been disrespected by her kids even if she didn't have kids?

Huh?

I think he went that route because he got caught with his meat in the buns at work by a woman who only wanted him for financial stability so she could continue to live beyond her means and splurge on her daughters. He was stuck with her once she decided she was going to have the baby and the trap worked.

Like I said earlier, a lot of these mothers won't be too upset when they get pregnant again. It's nine months for them and 18 years for you.
 
Brolic Scholar said:
He would've been disrespected by her kids even if she didn't have kids?

Huh?

I think he went that route because he got caught with his meat in the buns at work by a woman who only wanted him for financial stability so she could continue to live beyond her means and splurge on her daughters. He was stuck with her once she decided she was going to have the baby and the trap worked.

Like I said earlier, a lot of these mothers won't be too upset when they get pregnant again. It's nine months for them and 18 years for you.
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What you're talking about deserves its own thread. The "trap" is real but we're talking about all forms of single mothers, not just the worst possible ***** possible lol
 
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jordan23dotcom said:
What you're talking about deserves its own thread. The "trap" is real but we're talking about all forms of single mothers, not just the worst possible ***** possible lol
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but the thing is...and its kinda funny is ppl keep saying why everyone is taking about the worse case scenario and being bias...as if ppl are being unrealistic...and going overboard. But the thing is that these so called worse situations...arent the worst...stat wise that is...they are the majority. And are above the average.

And i think thats the problem, especially in our society...As long as ppl negate, ignore the facts...and try to highlight the 1 in a million who are the opposite of what most of these guys are stating.. It is almost like saying its cool/ok. Almost encouraging, advocating being a baby momma.

I know all isnt like some of the stories etc... that have been said in here...but facts are facts...And majorityis this way. So to someone saying making a generalization...about these women...in all actuality you are making a generalization..by overlooking the truth/facts and dismissing them and highlighting the far and few in between that dont fall into these categories  most have said in here. 

If for example someone said most of the single mothers especially blacks had kids young never married and have kids by mutliple men...how is that a generalization when statistically 78.2% of single black mothers this applies to?

Is that saying all every last one is....NO, but if someone said damn near every single black woman is a baby momma with multiple daddies...How are they generalizing if 8 outta 10 times it is true? 
 
Brolic Scholar said:
He would've been disrespected by her kids even if she didn't have kids?

Huh?

I think he went that route because he got caught with his meat in the buns at work by a woman who only wanted him for financial stability so she could continue to live beyond her means and splurge on her daughters. He was stuck with her once she decided she was going to have the baby and the trap worked.

Like I said earlier, a lot of these mothers won't be too upset when they get pregnant again. It's nine months for them and 18 years for you.
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I think he's getting at the situation were daughters or no daughters, she could have still got pregnant by him and be living off him.

Even still, at 50+ that ***** should know better.
 
This thread got me thinking about nas song the world produce by kanye too many what ifs.
 
Brolic Scholar said:
He would've been disrespected by her kids even if she didn't have kids?

Huh?

I think he went that route because he got caught with his meat in the buns at work by a woman who only wanted him for financial stability so she could continue to live beyond her means and splurge on her daughters. He was stuck with her once she decided she was going to have the baby and the trap worked.

Like I said earlier, a lot of these mothers won't be too upset when they get pregnant again. It's nine months for them and 18 years for you.
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I mean he would've gotten ran over by women regardless. His "daughters" disrespect him because the mother does.
 
Mr Fongstarr said:
From experiences with people I know, it really takes a specific simpish type of guy to want to take on the challenges of dating a girl with kids. 
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Fixed.  

Case in point..................

I have two cousins that did it and they are doing fine but I will say they are not alpha males and sort of like/need that type of women to tell them what to do all the time. 
 
jordan23dotcom said:
"I'd never touch a single mom"..... Goes to drayah tshopd "I'd save!" "I'd wife"..... Yeah..... Some of y'all don't know what y'all are talking about. Nobody wakes up and says I want a single mom now! It just happens
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I told cats from jump street id never do anything other then smash that broad cuz she got kids.

Single mothers is like coppin clothes @ da thrift shop second hand used status

...a kid i know goin out w/ a broad with 4

Kids and he aint got any... All i could do is laugh.
 
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If for example someone said most of the single mothers especially blacks had kids young never married and have kids by mutliple men...how is that a generalization when statistically 78.2% of single black mothers this applies to?
 
Is that saying all every last one is....NO, but if someone said damn near every single black woman is a baby momma with multiple daddies...How are they generalizing if 8 outta 10 times it is true? 
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Truth hurts....

As men with no kids da best thing ya can do for yourself is AVOID these potholes.....some of ya talkin

Like "yo chicks wit kids mad mature & chill" duh...

That's da trap, they got no choice but to drop da diva

Act cuz they finished out here as far as being prime

Time vagina, so instead of asking for that "max player deal" da BEST" thing they can do at this point

Is "midlevel exception" to "veterans minimum" and u got 2 kids? Forgot about

It..straight 10 day contracts....
 
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Just to back my cousins for a bit (and I agree with the simpish statements to a degree), we also do live in a different world then we used to, even if we are only talking about 10-20 years ago. With divorce rates so high as well as unwanted pregnancies, the chances of you dating someone with a kid is bigger than it used to be. Not all scenerios are bad and not all guys are simps. There are so many different type of scenerios that it is hard to say that all girls with kids are used goods. Some just made one bad decision where as others thought they were in love and found out sooner than later that it wasn't meant to be. Anyways......the only reason why I say this is cause my cousin's now wives are good people and their wive's kid has a really good head on their shoulder plus the other dad is invovled too. Overall, it's not as bad as it seems.
 
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