Dating a woman with children

DCAllAmerican said:
And she deserves it right?

Her having 5 kids shouldn't matter. God will find a man for her that isn't insecure about raising another man's kid like most of you NTers :rolleyes
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A woman's past decisions don't matter now? 5 kids??? :lol: :smh: I hope you're just ******g around man.

What does insecurity have to do with raising, paying for and dealing with the drama that comes with a woman with kids? How about I don't want your bad decisions ******g up my life? Is that insecurity? How about chances are she's going to get knocked up again and I don't want to be trapped? How about she may be partly to blame for her single status and isn't gf/wife material?

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I'm in shock at some of these responses. I don't know if it's because a lot of you come from single parent homes and your mom had an S on her chest in your eyes and you think she deserved better, but be honest with yourselves if that's the case. I can tell you right now that my biological mother wasn't worth a damn. She got married twice. Neither worked out. She had kids with both my father and another dude (before marrying and divorcing both). THEN she tried to trap a third dude and he wasn't having it so now she's stuck old and lonely leaching for a living.

I've seen ALL angles of the game with relatives, friends who decided to play step-dad, and as a divorced father. Knowing what I know about all the women in these situations, you're better off not rolling the dice on that instant family relationship.

I feel like I'm in the Twilight Zone and in this episode dudes don't want to look out for their own best interests and instead are worrying about making a woman comfortable who, if she didn't have her current predicament, probably wouldn't **** with their simp ***** to begin with.

A lot of silly **** going on in here.
 
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Brolic Scholar said:
A woman's past decisions don't matter now? 5 kids???
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I hope you're just ******g around man.

What does insecurity have to do with raising, paying for and dealing with the drama that comes with a woman with kids? How about I don't want your bad decisions ******g up my life? Is that insecurity? How about chances are she's going to get knocked up again and I don't want to be trapped? How about she may be partly to blame for her single status and isn't gf/wife material?

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I'm in shock at some of these responses. I don't know if it's because a lot of you come from single parent homes and your mom had an S on her chest in your eyes and you think she deserved better, but be honest with yourselves if that's the case. I can tell you right now that my biological mother wasn't worth a damn. She got married twice. Neither worked out. She had kids with both my father and another dude (before marrying and divorcing both). THEN she tried to trap a third dude and he wasn't having it so now she's stuck old and lonely leaching for a living.

I've seen ALL angles of the game with relatives, friends who decided to play step-dad, and as a divorced father. Knowing what I know about all the women in these situations, you're better off not rolling the dice on that instant family relationship.

I feel like I'm in the Twilight Zone and in this episode dudes don't want to look out for their own best interests and instead are worrying about making a woman comfortable who, if she didn't have her current predicament, probably wouldn't **** with their simp ***** to begin with.

A lot of silly **** going on in here.
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Stop it with the four pages letters. DC post reeked of sarcasm and he already stated he wouldnt want a lady with kids
 
Brolic Scholar said:
A woman's past decisions don't matter now? 5 kids??? :lol: :smh: I hope you're just ******g around man.

What does insecurity have to do with raising, paying for and dealing with the drama that comes with a woman with kids? How about I don't want your bad decisions ******g up my life? Is that insecurity? How about chances are she's going to get knocked up again and I don't want to be trapped? How about she may be partly to blame for her single status and isn't gf/wife material?

:lol:

I'm in shock at some of these responses. I don't know if it's because a lot of you come from single parent homes and your mom had an S on her chest in your eyes and you think she deserved better, but be honest with yourselves if that's the case. I can tell you right now that my biological mother wasn't worth a damn. She got married twice. Neither worked out. She had kids with both my father and another dude (before marrying and divorcing both). THEN she tried to trap a third dude and he wasn't having it so now she's stuck old and lonely leaching for a living.

I've seen ALL angles of the game with relatives, friends who decided to play step-dad, and as a divorced father. Knowing what I know about all the women in these situations, you're better off not rolling the dice on that instant family relationship.

I feel like I'm in the Twilight Zone and in this episode dudes don't want to look out for their own best interests and instead are worrying about making a woman comfortable who, if she didn't have her current predicament, probably wouldn't **** with their simp ***** to begin with.

A lot of silly **** going on in here.
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shoefreakbaby said:
Stop it with the four pages letters. DC post reeked of sarcasm and he already stated he wouldnt want a lady with kids
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I'm just speaking my mind and hopefully helping some of these younger cats out. What's it to you anyway? Are you a single mother?

Brb... recalibrating my sarcasm detector. I figured DC was playing devil's advocate or that his account got hacked because that sounded nothing like him.
 
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I was with a girl who had a kid with her ex- fiance (who was locked up at the time I got with her:lol:). Honestly, I didn't have to do @#$% with/for him besides play Temple Run with him when he was bored. You can't generalize every single mom and say she's trying to trap you or make you raise her child. She was dead serious about not having any more kids until she was married and always made me strap up. I guess I'm a simp according to some "alpha males" on here, but I couldn't care less what anyone thinks besides the person I'm with

Things didn't end well with her, not because of her kid, but because she was crazy as @#$% with her sudden mood swings :smh: :lol:
 
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Brolic Scholar said:
I'm just speaking my mind and hopefully helping some of these younger cats out. What's it to you anyway? Are you a single mother?

Brb... recalibrating my sarcasm detector. I figured DC was playing devil's advocate or that his account got hacked because that sounded nothing like him.
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Nope Im far from a single mother.
And my parents have been together since teens.



Post as you please papi , but I just thought it was obvious DC was kidding.

I do wonder why some of you seem angry at dudes who decide to do this.




SFC415 said:
I was with a girl who had a kid with her ex- fiance (who was locked up at the time I got with her:lol:). Honestly, I didn't have to do @#$% with/for him besides play Temple Run with him when he was bored. You can't generalize every single mom and say she's trying to trap you or make you raise her child. She was dead serious about not having any more kids until she was married and always made me strap up. I guess I'm a simp according to some "alpha males" on here, but I couldn't care less what anyone thinks besides the person I'm with

Things didn't end well with her, not because of her kid, but because she was crazy as @#$% with her sudden mood swings :smh: :lol:
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You are "proving" their point, cause according to them she is single for a reason
 
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shoefreakbaby said:
Nope Im far from a single mother.
And my parents have been together since teens.



Post as you please papi , but I just thought it was obvious DC was kidding.

I do wonder why some of you seem angry at dudes who decide to do this.
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I'm not angry just more so stressing that they can do better same for a chick getting knocked up by a dude with multiple kids by multiple women.
 
JJ Watt said:
Shoefreak was talking to Brolic in terms of being angry, and seeing him describe his mother and upbringing you can see why he's upset at the notion of single mothers :lol:
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I thought she was speaking in general but that's where I stand if you know you can do better why settle
 
shoefreakbaby said:
Nope Im far from a single mother.
And my parents have been together since teens.



Post as you please papi , but I just thought it was obvious DC was kidding.

I do wonder why some of you seem angry at dudes who decide to do this.
You are "proving" their point, cause according to them she is single for a reason
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I guess. I don't see the connection between a woman who happens to have a kid being overly emotional and being a money hungry jumpoff, which a lot of dudes here are saying is the case. Yea she was crazy with the mood swings but she wasn't a bad or manipulative person at all. I don't see how I simped/acted like a sucker when I literally didn't have to do @#$% for her kid besides be friendly with him
 
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SFC415 said:
I guess. I don't see the connection between a woman who happens to have a kid being overly emotional and being a money hungry jumpoff, which a lot of dudes here are saying is the case. Yea she was crazy with the mood swings but she wasn't a bad or manipulative person at all. I don't see how I simped/acted like a sucker when I literally didn't have to do @#$% for her kid besides be friendly with him
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Naw every single mom is not a gold digger that got knocked up. But I still go with coming with baggage hence her mood swings and locked up fiancé
 
No feelings hurt over here. Like I said, I'm just trying to give dudes the fair warning.

If I was the sensitive type I wouldn't put details of my personal life on a message board. I accept my responsibility for my failures and my successes and don't feel ashamed of my experiences. They made me who I am.
 
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rrlegend said:
Naw every single mom is not a gold digger that got knocked up. But I still go with coming with baggage hence her mood swings and locked up fiancé
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That's a fair point, I was just specifically addressing the comments about all single moms trying to trap dudes for $ or have them raise their kids. I knew what I was getting in to, but her ex was gonna be in jail for the next 20 years, so I said @#$% it :lol: Found out about the mood swings a lot later.

I mean, you can't say every single mom is a JO. Are single mothers whose partners have died, abandoned them, gone to prison for something horrible (like my ex), etc. all JOs? Think logically before you call them all @#$@@#

A lot of NTers post about not having their fathers in their lives and how their mothers busted their @#$ off to raise them. I guess they're all JOs now too
 
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JJ Watt said:
NT only smashes / dates super model Virgins who on a scale of 1-10 are 12s :lol:

Majority of dudes ain't better than these females with "high" standards but wanna sit there and cast stones
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So much truth to this. To keep it funky, if your a guy that's well off, has a decent job/career, takes care of themselves and looks decent, you have every right to pick and choose from the many options out there and you have every right to be picky and not not date females that fit your standard or don't pass all your requirements.

However, when a dude who isn't doing much with themselves life wise, has nothing going on for them and they wanna be picky when they necessarily aren't a prize themselves is comical to me.
 
SFC415 said:
That's a fair point, I was just specifically addressing the comments about all single moms trying to trap dudes for $ or have them raise their kids. I knew what I was getting in to, but her ex was gonna be in jail for the next 20 years, so I said @#$% it :lol: Found out about the mood swings a lot later.

I mean, you can't say every single mom is a JO. Are women whose partners die, abandon them, go to prison for something horrible (like my ex), etc. all JOs? That's not a fair statement to make
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No doubt it's not fair but no matter what different type of qualifiers we put on the reason she's single with a kid she's still single with a kid at the end of the day. Like I said power to the men that do that it's not for me tried it a few times but all ended up poorly all for different reasons . Man it's almost to the point now that I won't even consider a relationship with a chick unless she was raised by a mom and a dad but that's a whole other topic
 
Rex Ryan said:
So much truth to this. To keep it funky, if your a guy that's well off, has a decent job/career, takes care of themselves and looks decent, you have every right to pick and choose from the many options out there and you have every right to be picky and not not date females that fit your standard or don't pass all your requirements.

However, when a dude who isn't doing much with themselves life wise, has nothing going on for them and they wanna be picky when they necessarily aren't a prize themselves is comical to me.
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But dudes can be hella choosey due to the sheer numbers of women to men . Why wouldn't you want your s/o to meet as many requirements as you have for what you want in a mate
 
I really don't buy the "oh she's single with a kid for a reason" argument for every woman.

Every case is different imo. I'm far from a simp or a captain save a and I personally would prefer not to be in a serious relationship with a woman with kids at this point in my life but if j were to find an exception to the rule. I'd analyze their individual situation to figure them out.

Its extremes on both sides but I kinda have a middle ground stance on the situation as a whole
 
Rex Ryan said:
I really don't buy the "oh she's single with a kid for a reason" argument for every woman.

Every case is different imo. I'm far from a simp or a captain save a and I personally would prefer not to be in a serious relationship with a woman with kids at this point in my life but if j were to find an exception to the rule. I'd analyze their individual situation to figure them out.

Its extremes on both sides but I kinda have a middle ground stance on the situation as a whole
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Pretty much what I was trying to say
 
Rex Ryan said:
So much truth to this. To keep it funky, if your a guy that's well off, has a decent job/career, takes care of themselves and looks decent, you have every right to pick and choose from the many options out there and you have every right to be picky and not not date females that fit your standard or don't pass all your requirements.

However, when a dude who isn't doing much with themselves life wise, has nothing going on for them and they wanna be picky when they necessarily aren't a prize themselves is comical to me.
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And this is why, everyone finds someone.
Another mans treasure....

Not all dudes have the total package, (looks, money, personality)
You gotta take what you can get.

We cant all be doctors :lol:
 
rrlegend said:
But dudes can be hella choosey due to the sheer numbers of women to men . Why wouldn't you want your s/o to meet as many requirements as you have for what you want in a mate
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You can be choosy but that doesn't mean your going to get what your looking for. A well off dude with his stuff straight can be choosy and will have numerous options to choose from and is in a position to pick and choose and decline whoever without a care in the world.

Frankie the borderline obese head cashier working the graveyard shift at KFC who plays world of Warcraft for hours on his spare time with his cyber buddies has the same freedom to be just as picky and choosy if he wants however more then likely he won't have the quality options available that a well off successful decent looking dude would have.
 
Rex Ryan said:
You can be choosy but that doesn't mean your going to get what your looking for. A well off dude with his stuff straight can be choosy and will have numerous options to choose from and is in a position to pick and choose and decline whoever without a care in the world.

Frankie the borderline obese head cashier working the graveyard shift at KFC who plays world of Warcraft for hours on his spare time with his cyber buddies has the same freedom to be just as picky and choosy if he wants however more then likely he won't have the quality options available that a well off successful decent looking dude would have.
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No doubt about that I'm not sayings dude is gonna find someone that meets everything on his "list" but by him just being a man with confidence goes a long way . We all seen those dirtball looking dudes with dimes asking ourself how did he pull that . As long as a dude doesn't settle there will always be something better coming along , atleast in my experience
 
Agreed completely on the confidence part. Just in general confidence goes a long way. I've seen some bummy dudes bag nice looking women but its rare you see a dude with his stuff together with a girl that's below him. Dudes need to remind themselves that these females no matter how beautiful they are poop and fart like we do and shouldn't be put on a pedestal strictly off their looks.
 
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