Dating a woman with children

Why do people automatically assume your lame when your on NT?

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You're lame cuz you're on NT and if given the choice, would rather start your life with someone lacking kids as opposed to one with?

And you're less of a man because of it?

Some of you all think too lowly of NTers man, I swear...
 
The thread needs to die

Nothing wrong with not wanting to date females with kids

Nothing wrong with wanting to date women with kids


Stop trying to make people take in your view point

Stop calling single parents damage goods


Dating single parents is a hassle



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SunDOOBIE said:
You 'dated plenty of single mothers' when you were younger and you didn't 'grow up with a single mother'

So basically you're basing your OPINION about dating single mothers on STATISTICS?

Duly noted!
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and facts are facts and personal opinions/experiences is that...personnal experiences... to which personal experiences doesnt trump facts...again like i said early in my example of black women...stat aka fact wise 6 outta 10 are overweight/obese etc... i could go all my life dating meeting inshape slim black women...but just because all the black women i meet/date are slim...doesnt mean that 6 outta 10 arent overweight/obese. Now if i said the majority all the ones I encountered werent fat etc...

Again your personal accounts experiences doesnt change what is true/factual overall...it just changes what is true/factual overall in YOUR LIFE. This isnt a thread about insert a particular person experiences and the caliber of single mothers they meet date... this is a GENERAL topic...about GENERAL single mothers in our society.

And there is lies the problem ppl are saying oh well the general census, majority isnt true..because it isnt true in my personal life. Now if this thread was called shuttleworth/doobie etc... dating history with single mothers...id understand and youd have a point...But the thread isnt titled as such.

Now if yall want to have a thread in which the subject is your personal accounts/encounters with dating single moms go head i aint even mad. But this thread isnt it.
 
ninjahood said:
yo b, thats all cute and all and im glad that you happy and all that, but da fact remains:

chick with no kids > chick with kids if everything else is equal.

how does this need to be explained any further?
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thank you famb... 25 pages summed into this.

Js34 is making it seem like those super cool, dime breezys that make paper are common, the the ones that made bad decisions are in the minority.

Not everybody can smash super dope single mombs like you famb... Majoroty of NTers is lame in your eyes so take that into account...

You cool famb... But you gotta be realistic. Not every single mother is as cool as the one your dealing with... A MAJORITY OF THRM ARENT.
 
JesusShuttlesworth34 said:
*Drops Mic and walks off the stage..."

This is like when B Rabbit just served up Pop A Doc....








Some of us do have lives...fun lives off NT. I been here for a grip and try to give back and encourage and lift up some of the younger members to stop thinking so negatively!


Ask what happened to PB who tried to flex and harass my first girlfriend a few weeks ago at my farewell party:

Insert Pic Here But Don't Want to Get Banned Again!
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I have the same thing with except my girls are actually my girls...and they are by me and my lady.... but somehow you having the same thing minus them being yours and minus having the long term relationship with the mother and growing and going through life together makes you more of a man...lol man the wind musta blew that cape over your eyes if you cant see how foolish you sound.

So to be clear let me get this str8....

Man meets single unattached girl...get to know one another..grow and mature together, wait until they are emotionally and financially stable and decide to raise a family is the signs of two immature ppl, two ppl who arent real

Yet a man who meets a girl...and buys/believe whatever half truths some chick says to which why she was young and decided to have a kid yet wasnt emotionally or financially stable or able to care for child... comes and helps and plays a father like role, and essentially helps correct the mistakes of her past is a real man and thee two of them are more mature and made better choices.... lol um ok makes alotta sense there buddy.
 
ninjahood said:
yo b, thats all cute and all and im glad that you happy and all that, but da fact remains:

chick with no kids > chick with kids if everything else is equal.

how does this need to be explained any further?
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So why are you still living at home though? (serious question Eddie?)

I'm saying that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What is your idea of better isn't the same as mine and vice versa. Don't try to push your belief as fact. It's yoru feeling or opinion, no matter how "popular" it is. You have gotten by with your quest for E-Fame on here but do nothing with it......PB and Myself noted that about you. You are content with being "that guy" on NT. Kudos to you good sir enjoy DA LIFE.
 
shoelyesses said:
I have the same thing with except my girls are actually my girls...and they are by me and my lady.... but somehow you having the same thing minus them being yours and minus having the long term relationship with the mother and growing and going through life together makes you more of a man...lol man the wind musta blew that cape over your eyes if you cant see how foolish you sound.

So to be clear let me get this str8....

Man meets single unattached girl...get to know one another..grow and mature together, wait until they are emotionally and financially stable and decide to raise a family is the signs of two immature ppl, two ppl who arent real

Yet a man who meets a girl...and buys/believe whatever half truths some chick says to which why she was young and decided to have a kid yet wasnt emotionally or financially stable or able to care for child... comes and helps and plays a father like role, and essentially helps correct the mistakes of her past is a real man and thee two of them are more mature and made better choices.... lol um ok makes alotta sense there buddy.
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This was so poorly written and reeks of uneducated youth. I'm good man. Have a nice day. "One Day It Will All Make Sense." You are speaking hypothetically with no substance and no real world virtue or experience.

Have a nice life my dude.

Common sense is anything but common folks.
 
ricky409 said:
thank you famb... 25 pages summed into this.

Js34 is making it seem like those super cool, dime breezys that make paper are common, the the ones that made bad decisions are in the minority.

Not everybody can smash super dope single mombs like you famb... Majoroty of NTers is lame in your eyes so take that into account...

You cool famb... But you gotta be realistic. Not every single mother is as cool as the one your dealing with... A MAJORITY OF THRM ARENT.
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I was using reverse logic my dude. I am on NT all day at work and have been for the better part of 13 years! I don't consider myself a "loser" but If others do....I guess I'm the biggest Nerd/Loser there is.

I was just providing my experience as a voice for the opposition as it is easy to snowball on NT and just run with some outlandish stuff. I know she is a rare rare rare bread my man as it would take one like that (sort of like my Mom) in order for me to date one.

I used to be just like you young dudes, that's why I came in here to give back and provide perspective because when you mature and grow.....you will see things different at 27 as you did at 17. Trust.

Goooooood looks Handullz.
 
JesusShuttlesworth34 said:
ninjahood said:
yo b, thats all cute and all and im glad that you happy and all that, but da fact remains:

chick with no kids > chick with kids if everything else is equal.

how does this need to be explained any further?
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So why are you still living at home though? (serious question Eddie?)

I'm saying that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What is your idea of better isn't the same as mine and vice versa. Don't try to push your belief as fact. It's yoru feeling or opinion, no matter how "popular" it is. You have gotten by with your quest for E-Fame on here but do nothing with it......PB and Myself noted that about you. You are content with being "that guy" on NT. Kudos to you good sir enjoy DA LIFE.
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who gives a **** about my "e-fame"?
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this is real life im talkin bout.

i seen my ex pushing a carriage with da dude she messes with now, da kid ain't his and da overwhelming feeling of laughter

came over me as i diddy popped away.

a chick with a kid is at a disadvantage to a chick without a kid, doesn't matter how much you spin it to your comfortability level.

da fact remains. so many women without kids that got their heads on right, why settle on one who already made a serious life choice?

i rather be a father to a kid with a chick doing all da first time...thats important to me, i aint with da second hand single mother's lookin

for "stability from a male figure for their kids they should've had with her baby father" life...
 
LDJS said:
same can be said about your choices...but you gotta live with them and thats fine... If you feel as though your a better man then others cause you taking on the responsibilities of some other guy, and rightin the wrongs some chick may have done in her past more power to ya.

You right i especially like the youth part seeing as i am easily your elder...so much so i could be your father (no low blow just stating facts)

But if caping makes you feel like a man, good for you...if that was the example lead and taught to you thats great. But i prefer being with a woman and we have/raise our kids...and you prefer waiting for a girl to have kids with other dudes and then being with her, and raise someone else kids.

Apple and oranges. Hell you could hook up with a chick with 6 kids and 6 daddies if ya like...and if that makes you feel more of a man, more mature etc... then the next man who decides to meet a girl and have a long term relationship and kids with just her...thats great...but generally speaking it does not. And its more likely you could be a mark/simp/trick... trying to play step daddy, than a guy who is with the mother of his kids and raising his kids.
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Age is just a number and you obviously cannot read my man. I am not with the Single Mother any longer. Nice try though. I'd be willing to bet a nice sum that I am doing "better" in life than you.

You have no angle....therefore you lost this debate my "son."
 
LDJS said:
same can be said about your choices...but you gotta live with them and thats fine... If you feel as though your a better man then others cause you taking on the responsibilities of some other guy, and rightin the wrongs some chick may have done in her past more power to ya.

You right i especially like the youth part seeing as i am easily your elder...so much so i could be your father (no low blow just stating facts)

But if caping makes you feel like a man, good for you...if that was the example lead and taught to you thats great. But i prefer being with a woman and we have/raise our kids...and you prefer waiting for a girl to have kids with other dudes and then being with her, and raise someone else kids.

Apple and oranges. Hell you could hook up with a chick with 6 kids and 6 daddies if ya like...and if that makes you feel more of a man, more mature etc... then the next man who decides to meet a girl and have a long term relationship and kids with just her...thats great...but generally speaking it does not. And its more likely you could be a mark/simp/trick... trying to play step daddy, than a guy who is with the mother of his kids and raising his kids.
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ninjahood said:
who gives a **** about my "e-fame"? :lol: this is real life im talkin bout.

i seen my ex pushing a carriage with da dude she messes with now, da kid ain't his and da overwhelming feeling of laughter

came over me as i diddy popped away.

a chick with a kid is at a disadvantage to a chick without a kid, doesn't matter how much you spin it to your comfortability level.

da fact remains. so many women without kids that got their heads on right, why settle on one who already made a serious life choice?

i rather be a father to a kid with a chick doing all da first time...thats important to me, i aint with da second hand single mother's lookin

for "stability from a male figure for their kids they should've had with her baby father" life...
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Alas, I am not impressed by your front and "facade" of being a Hood Dude on here Eddie. You can type words however you want to man, but I have seen your rodeo for years and it is what it is.


You can pull the wool over the eyes of the sheep...but those who have seen you on here for over a decade know what time it is.

Keep up the good work Eddie.
 
JesusShuttlesworth34 said:
This was so poorly written and reeks of uneducated youth. I'm good man. Have a nice day. "One Day It Will All Make Sense." You are speaking hypothetically with no substance and no real world virtue or experience.

Have a nice life my dude.

Common sense is anything but common folks.
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how so i gave facts figures and percentages...whereas all you presented was your PERSONAL accounts... again this isnt the dating life and experiences of shuttleworth. If that be the case id wholeheartly agree with you... because it would be based on your accounts and your life. But we arent talking about your life and your relationship. And unlike you i can speak on you personally because you put your situation and your experiences out there i did not. So for you to say the things you said shows a level of immaturity, lack of decorum etc... all the very things you said you have that makes you a better man and able to date single moms.

Like i said your situation is you...no one said you was lying etc.. accused you of tricking etc... But you are basically dismissing other peoples personal experiences...along with the general census, just because they dont coincide with yours, or they arent what has happen in your life.
 
Just outta curiosity. What are the percentages based off of. How many people did they survey, what age groups, ethnicities, regions etc.
 
I was going to respond to the "young dudes" remark, being that I'm 35, but LDJS bluntly summed up how I feel about someone who is disturbed by generalizations, generalizing.

NT isn't a bunch of teens and young twenty-somethings my dude. Some of us speak from experience and I have a lot of it. But carry on with your crusade.

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Now I see this has become a pissing contest with the "I'm doing better than you" crap. Why?
 
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ninjahood said:
who gives a **** about my "e-fame"? :lol: this is real life im talkin bout.

i seen my ex pushing a carriage with da dude she messes with now, da kid ain't his and da overwhelming feeling of laughter

came over me as i diddy popped away.

a chick with a kid is at a disadvantage to a chick without a kid, doesn't matter how much you spin it to your comfortability level.

da fact remains. so many women without kids that got their heads on right, why settle on one who already made a serious life choice?

i rather be a father to a kid with a chick doing all da first time...thats important to me, i aint with da second hand single mother's lookin

for "stability from a male figure for their kids they should've had with her baby father" life...
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Alas, I am not impressed by your front and "facade" of being a Hood Dude on here Eddie. You can type words however you want to man, but I have seen your rodeo for years and it is what it is.


You can pull the wool over the eyes of the sheep...but those who have seen you on here for over a decade know what time it is.

Keep up the good work Eddie.
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:lol: rex ryan will let u know da ninjahood ON NT

Is da exact ninjahood OFF NT..

Eff i look like lowering my standards? Ill let folks

Who wanna play daddy fall into that if thats what they wish. A cat like me? My MOTHER raised me

Not to mess wit potential headaches of that sort,

And i thank her for droppin jewels on me early cuz

Da last thing she wants for her only son is to deal

With family court baby mama drama that wasn't

Your to begin with... **** is like walkin into a

scorched earth battlefield and bodies is already

Stinking up da foxholes when you could've easily

Went to a place conflict free.
 
Some of you guys are taking this too personal and are getting sensitive. This thread is basically barber shop talk. Just because some of you guys wife'd up a single mother does not make you a bad person nor her being damaged goods. This thread is about in general. Of course a few fall between the cracks.

Lets stick to the topic

a blinkin said:
Say you meet a woman. She seems really down to earth. Had a decent head on her shoulders. Decent job and career goals. Early 30s. Has a kid or two.

Would you pursue anything serious with her? Just look at her as a milf? Keep it strictly platonic?

Discuss.
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Pretty much the NT answer is (by popular response) NO to starting a serious relationship. Yes to looking at her as a MILF and strictly platonic.

It's cool to read the debate. I thought having a serious relationship with a single mother was a simp move but it's just not my cup of tea.
 
Reading through this. I think its indisputable. If you have a woman that possesses every attribute you look for in a partner and she has a kid and if that same woman were to have those same attributes without the kid, if someone had a choice to choose from, id say 99% of men would choose the option that doesn't include the kid.

That said not every dude that dates a girl with a kid and accepts the kid and everything is a simp, just like every guy dating a girl without kids isn't an alpha male.

I could see generalizations and assumptions as those are part of society but every case is different to me.
 
It's real simple. If the single mother has the qualities that you look for in a relationship then so be it. There is nothing wrong with having a relationship with a single mother.

Not to come at anyone's neck but Ninja you were raised by a single mother correct? Is there anything wrong with her? She takes care of business and held down her responsibilities like a real single mother is suppose to. What I'm getting at is that not all single mothers are hood rats, jump off etc.

Also there is nothing wrong with a man not wanting to deal with a woman that already has kids. Depending on the woman that package could come with a lot of drama and baggage.

It all comes down to the guy. I just feel you shouldn't rule someone out just because of their past.
 
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Rex Ryan said:
Reading through this. I think its indisputable. If you have a woman that possesses every attribute you look for in a partner and she has a kid and if that same woman were to have those same attributes without the kid, if someone had a choice to choose from, id say 99% of men would choose the option that doesn't include the kid.
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END OF DISCUSSION
 
I actually thought the average age on here was like 24-29, so all the pre-teen/young kid comments have been throwing me off. Good discussion though.
 
Peep Game said:
I actually thought the average age on here was like 24-29, so all the pre-teen/young kid comments have been throwing me off. Good discussion though.
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yo peep if layla had 3 kids by 3 diffrent dudes lets say , scott steiner, gene snitsky, and ricky davis ( since she was a heat dancer) would you still wife ?
 
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