Originally Posted by Maximus Meridius
These girls are selling the fantasy of sex to the public and they sleep with certain people to keep their name out there. It what it is. I'm not saying that's bad, do what you gotta do but Amber don't expect every man to approach you like they would approach Alicia Keys (she got a lil dirt on her too) ya'll are putting out totally different energies.
while i do in theory agree or admit that generally that if a woman is putting out explicitly sexual vibes, that woman should not be surprised that she get a certain vibe in response...however in principle & practice as men we should & need to be better...and the fact that i could theorize otherwise is and has been a failing of how many societies have positioned women's sexuality, which to my understanding, while i may disagree with the approach, is what the whole 'slutwalk' thing is about; women can be a sexual as they please without been put at fault or seen as deviant in the male gaze...
Originally Posted by getemgirls
Another thing, I find it odd that some men have a problem with women being able to attract the opposite sex "easier" than men. Do men secretly resent that or something?
There's a REASON men are "thirsty". This isn't just a human construct. Have any of you ****** ever had a fish tank? You never observed how the male fish will pester the females to no end, but ultimately she ends up choosing the one she wants? This is observed throughout nature in other species as well. The idea that it's a "bad thing" that women can use their sexuality as an advantage in certain situations is comical to me. They're practically on the BOTTOM of the totem pole in every other facet of life. They're at a disadvantage financially, physically, etc...but men want to wave the "Not Fair" flag at them being able to find partners without much effort?
not sure if the context of other examples in nature are super necessary/relevant, nature is so broad that you could draw all types of analogies to different ends; there may indeed be some parallel to make but the fact is at this moment in time women choose their partners, it what it is...i don't know if most men would admit it, but i'll be the 1st to say yes, especially when i was younger, took a whole lot effort, mental energy, & time to Get
as a young dude, while girls never seemed to stress about it at all, it was only a matter of who they could/should/would chose to smash. though i thought of it more as 'that is just what it is thing" i never bought into the sex shaming thing, after all the way i saw it that was going to be in benefit & my best interest if girls were more free!
it has been already plainly stated, the shaming does come from men believing it is easier for women to get a partner. while i still believe it is magnitudes easier for women and use to go along with those "a key that opens many locks is a master key and lock that opens with many keys is a poor lock" kinda aphorisms, that thinking takes away agency from women and places a passivity on women that is ridiculous. both men & women have sexual needs/want to have sex, and not necessarily one more or less than the other it is just that societal pressures on men & women go in opposite directions for some arbitrary reasons (at least in the world as it is today), that i happen to think women should be more selective about who they lay with (somewhat explained below) is beside the point...
as a maybe only interesting to me aside, while for most of human history it may have been true that women were at the "bottom of the totem pole," recently the trend is going towards women making more moves and having more options professionally, while many men are having trouble adapting to having less options but the expectations on the roles on men & women haven't really changed much-especially for men...it makes you wonder what will happen to to these norms/stereotypes if that trend continues...
I think it's extremely dangerous for men to believe that they're supposed to think with their **** by nature and that WE aren't supposed to be selective about who we bed. I don't understand coveting women that I have negative opinions about...and that it's normal because I'm a man. If I could pay to UN-**** half of the women I have in my life...I most certainly would. ****** need to treat their ***** the same way they think women should treat their vaginas.
maybe men could/should be more selective about their partners but as selective as women? the consequences just aren't the same, even with contraception being as effective as it is, there really isn't much to incentivize men being that selective. while i can think of many reasons women benefit by being more selective. i don't think that is a justification for men to think with their lower organ and i don't really think that is encouraged...men are selective but we're generally just not as selective women; i don't think it is likely that men could be as selective as women (barring some wild gender imbalance), or at the very least it seems women have many more requirements of their partners than men do...girls are socialized from young to place an outsized value on sex-perhaps because the way society tends to view women as vulnerable, whereas for boys it is more akin to a rite of passage
I know fear when I spot it. The ultimate truth is that most men are AFRAID of a reality where that double standard doesn't exist anymore.
Can you imagine a world where there was an equal playing field on this topic? Where women were the "savages" and that it was "normal" for them to want to **** everything moving?
Most ****** egos are so fragile they couldn't even entertain the thought.
you think? from the standpoint of every man caring for the women in their lives, probably...but as a single dude moving around, i'd think in that context it would be preferred, no? less pretense, more honest interaction maybe?
Originally Posted by All Ready
the messed up part is the chicks who are loose sexually are the coolest to chill with and talk to
the "good" girls are never honest and you can't shoot the s**t with em the same
it's hard to find the chick you can trust and talk to in a pure, honest way
don't know how true that is 'loose' women are the coolest to chill with but they certainly are, in my experience, the most straight up...the thing 'good girls' to me, is why they are/think of themselves as 'good girls' there are some that think there is an award to given at a later date based on that in & of itself and not their actual personality or they're just too nice...each has their pros & cons