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Having a chick like that in your life really open your eyes , her telling you that story can only mean one thing she want you in them guts next time .
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Having a chick like that in your life really open your eyes , her telling you that story can only mean one thing she want you in them guts next time .
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Ben Gordon on the bulls had the meanest step back game in the league at that time!You know Ben Gordon is washed right
29 over here, 30 in less than 2 months
I'm talking about right now
It's happened a couple times with me. Each time I had drank too much and had recently smashed a much better looking chick (minimum 2-3 pts higher) within a day or two prior
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im a uconn fan but I never liked him or okafor...I guess its there style of play
man you honestly think so? cause I have no clue why she told me it ..all I told her was she can be herself around me I won't judge her...she did say something about me gaining points towards "the prize"
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im a uconn fan but I never liked him or okafor...I guess its there style of play
man you honestly think so? cause I have no clue why she told me it ..all I told her was she can be herself around me I won't judge her...she did say something about me gaining points towards "the prize"lol..
I was honestly joking but idk you told her you weren't gonna judge but honestly the last thing I would want is a chick to be that open & telling me that some other dude was digging in her guts a few days ago ... Funny thing is this chick told me the same thing tonight about getting enough points .
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yea man thats weird lol...idk im not gonna puzzle myself over it
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im a uconn fan but I never liked him or okafor...I guess its there style of play
man you honestly think so? cause I have no clue why she told me it ..all I told her was she can be herself around me I won't judge her...she did say something about me gaining points towards "the prize"
They won ya'll a title lol.
And if ur letting any girl talk to you like that... Come on man
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sittin at my desk lowkey balling right now
damn bros...
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you got to rise above playboy life goes on. believe that, it's ok to let it out, just realize that there is always a tomorrow for you
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"Earning points to get the vagina"
That's a new one to me, lol..
To quote Young Thug and T.I.P.
"If ain't about the money, ***** you can miss me wit it, ***** you can miss me wit it, Turn Up"...
Don't get caught up in her job title. Some of these corporate women can be the biggest THOTS walking...
That sounded like some Jedi Mind Trick sheningans..
Tread Lightly..
That's a new one to me, lol..
To quote Young Thug and T.I.P.
"If ain't about the money, ***** you can miss me wit it, ***** you can miss me wit it, Turn Up"...
Don't get caught up in her job title. Some of these corporate women can be the biggest THOTS walking...
That sounded like some Jedi Mind Trick sheningans..
Tread Lightly..
So I just came back from visiting my girl's job...
She loved it ofcourse, all her co-workers came out of nowhere to start talking to us.
Making them laugh and all, I knew damn sure a hand full of them were checking me out because they keep coming around in circles 1 nurse became 2 nurses, then 2 nurse became 3 nurses... ect.
After a few, dipped out and went home. All of a sudden, Wifey texts me out of nowhere "Don't come to my job again! These THIRSTY ******* didn't know you were my man, they thought you were visiting a patient!! lmao"
Gotta admit though... there were a few eye candies in there.
She loved it ofcourse, all her co-workers came out of nowhere to start talking to us.
Making them laugh and all, I knew damn sure a hand full of them were checking me out because they keep coming around in circles
1 nurse became 2 nurses, then 2 nurse became 3 nurses... ect.After a few, dipped out and went home. All of a sudden, Wifey texts me out of nowhere "Don't come to my job again! These THIRSTY ******* didn't know you were my man, they thought you were visiting a patient!! lmao"
Gotta admit though... there were a few eye candies in there.
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Just want to know what you guys think of how I dealt with a tough situation last night. It was a very long phone call but I will try to keep it brief...
My girl called and told me she was accepted into a study abroad program in Australia in the spring. We both knew before seriously dating that this would probably happen but it's official now. She was really worried about what would happen to us and wanted to talk about it even though I told her we'd just deal with it when it came time she was really concerned and wanted it addressed last night.
After a very long phone call I basically told her that we'd have an open relationship with these conditions:
-Both of us can hook up with whoever we want during the 5 months she's gone
-We will not tell or discuss with eachother if we hooked up with other people
-We will not ask eachother if we were hooking up with other people. I told her she'd really have to be ok with this part because it wouldn't be fair to come back and pry to see how many other girls I hooked up with. I wouldn't discuss it with her or ask her and we should both just assume we did hook up with a few other people. It could only lead to jealousy and problems discussing it.
Now the alternative was that we remain faithful which was just highly unlikely, would feel like torture since it's already hard enough waiting every two weeks to see her, one of us would probably get hurt and feel betrayed, and we would be fighting and the relationship would probably end on a bad note. OR, we straight up breakup which we weren't willing to do because we have a really great relationship right now.
With the route we took, we will be able to see eachother when she comes back and see where to go from there.
What y'all think?
My girl called and told me she was accepted into a study abroad program in Australia in the spring. We both knew before seriously dating that this would probably happen but it's official now. She was really worried about what would happen to us and wanted to talk about it even though I told her we'd just deal with it when it came time she was really concerned and wanted it addressed last night.
After a very long phone call I basically told her that we'd have an open relationship with these conditions:
-Both of us can hook up with whoever we want during the 5 months she's gone
-We will not tell or discuss with eachother if we hooked up with other people
-We will not ask eachother if we were hooking up with other people. I told her she'd really have to be ok with this part because it wouldn't be fair to come back and pry to see how many other girls I hooked up with. I wouldn't discuss it with her or ask her and we should both just assume we did hook up with a few other people. It could only lead to jealousy and problems discussing it.
Now the alternative was that we remain faithful which was just highly unlikely, would feel like torture since it's already hard enough waiting every two weeks to see her, one of us would probably get hurt and feel betrayed, and we would be fighting and the relationship would probably end on a bad note. OR, we straight up breakup which we weren't willing to do because we have a really great relationship right now.
With the route we took, we will be able to see eachother when she comes back and see where to go from there.
What y'all think?
In my opinion... and because this kind of happened to one my girl's bestfriends.
It won't work out. Just move along and if it's meant to be and the fire is still there when she comes back. Then take it from there.
Atleast, if you guys did do anything and see other people, it was because you guys aren't together.
5 months is along time... and given an open relationship, she may eventually fall in love with another dude (it happened to my girl's friend).
It's easy to say you want to stay together, because it hasn't hit you yet, when she's gone for 9,10,11,12 weeks. Then that's when it hits the fan.
It won't work out. Just move along and if it's meant to be and the fire is still there when she comes back. Then take it from there.
Atleast, if you guys did do anything and see other people, it was because you guys aren't together.
5 months is along time... and given an open relationship, she may eventually fall in love with another dude (it happened to my girl's friend).
It's easy to say you want to stay together, because it hasn't hit you yet, when she's gone for 9,10,11,12 weeks. Then that's when it hits the fan.
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I was in a ldr before and had a side chick that turned into my girlfriend of two years eventually because this chick did everything for me, even moved and followed me to DC after college. I definitely didn't fall in love with my ex, but I did grow to love her. She's more concerned about that happening again with me. She knows she's not going to fall in love or get serious with anyone over there because it'd be pointless since she's leaving in 5 months and will never see those people again. She's more worried about me developing something local and then forgetting about keep trying our relationship when she gets back because I'll have something more convenient.
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And that's why I told her that she'd really have to be ok with the fact that she can't ask me anything I've done when she's gone; and I won't be asking her. That this has to be an equal thing and not one of us having our cake and eating it too.
Says that she won't be actively looking to hook up with guys but with the amount of attention she draws and being in college in another country, throw in some alcohol...I'm not stupid. I'm also not stupid enough to sit around and wait for her when I'm 25 with a decent job and dope new apartment in DC.
It sucks but this seems like the only option with a chance of being back together again. Just gonna have to see if it's still there when she gets back. But I am going to enjoy these next 4-5 months with her while she's still here.
Says that she won't be actively looking to hook up with guys but with the amount of attention she draws and being in college in another country, throw in some alcohol...I'm not stupid. I'm also not stupid enough to sit around and wait for her when I'm 25 with a decent job and dope new apartment in DC.
It sucks but this seems like the only option with a chance of being back together again. Just gonna have to see if it's still there when she gets back. But I am going to enjoy these next 4-5 months with her while she's still here.
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lol man when she said I was earning points I said what we are 16 and am I supposed to be some trained dog or somethin...she kinda got salty but oh well...but I appreciate your feedback"Earning points to get the vagina"
That's a new one to me, lol..
To quote Young Thug and T.I.P.
"If ain't about the money, ***** you can miss me wit it, ***** you can miss me wit it, Turn Up"...
Don't get caught up in her job title. Some of these corporate women can be the biggest THOTS walking...
That sounded like some Jedi Mind Trick sheningans..
Tread Lightly..
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naw I checked her on itThey won ya'll a title lol.
And if ur letting any girl talk to you like that... Come on man
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It's only 5 months son, you two should be able to stay faithful
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Hennessy I don't believe I've ever had any problem with anything you've ever mentioned on here or said.
But this is completely unreasonable on your part.
Honestly Selfish
5 months
5 months??????????
you can't be faithful to someone you claim you have feelings for, for 5 months??
Shes going to study Abroad. Have you ever done that??? it's not all fun and games as one may think, you have a full school schedule (usually) and yes you do have time to party. but it's not that much
and if you honestly don't trust her enough to NOT do her thing. Then why even be with her.
This is all about you and you not being able to be faithful.
it's as Hawaii said
^^^^ And the fact that she is even considering this ridiculous ultimatum you've thrown up means she really cares about you and in her heart of hearts is praying you dont step out.
No disrespect to your girl,
But was she a Thot before (I hate that word btw) to think that she would even step out on you and go to another dude???
if It was a year + I'd somewhat understand.
but 5 months. porn is free on these here interwebz.
Honestly if you can't last 5 months just break up with her completely.
I hate to sound so harsh but thats just ridiculous. she's going to experience life, further her education, and you drop something like that on her????
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It wasn't like I just dropped this on her as an ultimatum. We decided together.
When we first talked about this. She was against the open relationship and wanted to stay exclusive because she couldn't imagine me being with anyone else and I was fine with that. Then after having talked to her best friend yesterday, they were talking about it together and she wondered if it could really work like that. She wasn't a thot before we met at all. She had just lost her virginity to some guy to get it out of the way two weeks before I met her so I'm her second and really the only person she's ever been with.
So she tells me last night she's not going to be looking to hook up with anyone but she's a very social and physical person and it wouldn't mean anything but it could happen. I agree. And she mentioned how I told her before in the relationship that if she ever hooked up with someone else while in this ldr I said I would at least expect her to have the decency to let me know because I would want to end the relationship right there and move on. And so she was afraid of losing me if she hooked up with someone and told me. But she said to me that she feels if I ever cheated on her she would probably be able to look past it because she likes me so much, and admitted that she was flawed in that way. Where I on the other hand have zero tolerance. I was kinda surprised she felt that way honestly.
So then I told her if she isn't 100% sure she can be faithful for 5 months then we'll just have an open relationship but she shouldn't expect me to just wait around for her. Then she freaked out it almost sounded like she was about to cry when she was on the phone I could tell it really bothered her. She told me then how she was afraid I'd fall in love with someone else because I have before. I told her that took place over the course of a year and was more of me growing to love someone and it was more convenient to be with them than actually falling in love with them. Told her she'd be coming back and we'd definitely be seeing eachother again. She now feels it's more of a risk to her to have the open relationship I guess because there's less chance of me hooking up with someone I guess but the fact that it'd be local and could have potential to lead to more. With her it's just like she hooks up with them and never sees them again once she leaves. But ultimately...she thought it was the best way to approach the situation.
I dunno. Kind of reassessing after what you said tdogg. I don't wanna get a free pass or anything it was only because of what she said how she wasn't totally sure. But now I think some of the scenarios of what could happen might have made her (and I) realize that we really do wanna stay committed because we do care a lot and we may need to revisit this and talk about it again.
When we first talked about this. She was against the open relationship and wanted to stay exclusive because she couldn't imagine me being with anyone else and I was fine with that. Then after having talked to her best friend yesterday, they were talking about it together and she wondered if it could really work like that. She wasn't a thot before we met at all. She had just lost her virginity to some guy to get it out of the way two weeks before I met her so I'm her second and really the only person she's ever been with.
So she tells me last night she's not going to be looking to hook up with anyone but she's a very social and physical person and it wouldn't mean anything but it could happen. I agree. And she mentioned how I told her before in the relationship that if she ever hooked up with someone else while in this ldr I said I would at least expect her to have the decency to let me know because I would want to end the relationship right there and move on. And so she was afraid of losing me if she hooked up with someone and told me. But she said to me that she feels if I ever cheated on her she would probably be able to look past it because she likes me so much, and admitted that she was flawed in that way. Where I on the other hand have zero tolerance. I was kinda surprised she felt that way honestly.
So then I told her if she isn't 100% sure she can be faithful for 5 months then we'll just have an open relationship but she shouldn't expect me to just wait around for her. Then she freaked out it almost sounded like she was about to cry when she was on the phone I could tell it really bothered her. She told me then how she was afraid I'd fall in love with someone else because I have before. I told her that took place over the course of a year and was more of me growing to love someone and it was more convenient to be with them than actually falling in love with them. Told her she'd be coming back and we'd definitely be seeing eachother again. She now feels it's more of a risk to her to have the open relationship I guess because there's less chance of me hooking up with someone I guess but the fact that it'd be local and could have potential to lead to more. With her it's just like she hooks up with them and never sees them again once she leaves. But ultimately...she thought it was the best way to approach the situation.
I dunno. Kind of reassessing after what you said tdogg. I don't wanna get a free pass or anything it was only because of what she said how she wasn't totally sure. But now I think some of the scenarios of what could happen might have made her (and I) realize that we really do wanna stay committed because we do care a lot and we may need to revisit this and talk about it again.
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Been lurking for awhile but I had to say something on this. That route only leads to the "Best Male Friend Zone". Sadly I am speaking from experience. She'll just want to talk and talk and talk cause she feels that you wont judge her.
im a uconn fan but I never liked him or okafor...I guess its there style of play
man you honestly think so? cause I have no clue why she told me it ..all I told her was she can be herself around me I won't judge her...she did say something about me gaining points towards "the prize"lol..
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Damn forreal man I haven't been friend zoned since like 9th grade what can I do to turn it around
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Those chick that with only have two sex partners are still something serious. You got to let your girl live. I will still say it's only five months, get out a venture the District
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Not everyone that comes into your life is supposed to stay. Just the conflicts you two guys are having says to me that the decision is clear cut but you guys are too scared to face the harsh realities. Let her go and if it's meant to be then it shall. Trying to force or place stipulations (from both parties) will just make things harder. There is always a fine line you walk in relationships but sometimes you have to take hard stances and stand by your convictions. If you are truly in love, like my bro Tdogg and Hawaii said, 5 months ain't ish. Plus we live in a technological era of FaceTime and Skype. If you two cant ride this out and be faithful to each other now, please don't even consider marriage or moving in. My wife gets hit on regularly( even while pregnant) and I trust her and she knows who is at home. If your girl really is about loyalty then this conversation shouldn't have even come up. Yes it's realistic to believe that things might dive south and you guys might hook up with others, but your foundation of trust should always be precedent. There is a red flag in all of this for me, can't quite put my finger on it but insecurities, trust, something seems off.
But I wish you two the best, sometimes in life it's better to do the hard things even when you don't want to..
Peace
But I wish you two the best, sometimes in life it's better to do the hard things even when you don't want to..
Peace
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