TAY: IT'S A MAN THING GINA

I've been lurking for quite some time in this thread but I'm in the same situation as ballin. I just started at a new school. Everyone here seems cliquish. School is know as a research university not really too much going on on campus. Even though I'm not going down without a fight drought season is inevitable.

My girl already hit me up the other night with the 'I miss you" feels, but still wants time apart/things ended. Talking about how she wants me in her life, but wants time on her own . She said it herself that it's selfish, so she said what I was low key thinking.

Fairest thing I thought to say was we'll talk soon, let things work themselves out.

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Question.. how far down the line would you guys label as "soon" ? I'm certainly not going to sit around and slump, gonna do my own thing; but it would be nice to hear from hear again at some point to see what's going on.

2-3 months is good for a nice little check-up

lamekilla said:

8 hours is usually enough time for a chick to cool off if she's mad at you for something really stupid, right??

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Care to expound on your wrong doing??

louislagerfeld said:

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I mean if you're taking public transit there's occasionally cute girls that also take the bus/train or w/e, I know because I see cute girls sitting at bus stops all the time

those are the best women to talk too since obviously neither of you have a set of wheels.

As far as getting at women w/ a whip, probably not gonna happen bruh girls just won't respect you if they have to pick you up constantly

She's tryna combine the best of both worlds. Not be lonely (have you) and also go out and live the worry free single life (not with you).

Give her space and pretend like it's over fam. No need to be her emotional crutch while she lets her box explore new meat or make it easy for her to transition her emotions to another. She won't miss a thing if you're hanging around waiting. Her decision to split, let her reach out when she's ready, don't wait.

Mark Antony said:

Give her space and pretend like it's over fam. No need to be her emotional crutch while she lets her box explore new meat or make it easy for her to transition her emotions to another. She won't miss a thing if you're hanging around waiting. Her decision to split, let her reach out when she's ready, don't wait.

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Seems like a fair way to play it. I'm definitely not gonna sit around and wait. Just figured because things didn't end harshly that there was still room to reach out to her at some point, because she was genuinely upset over the situation. I know all broads are the same when it comes down to it, but I know of her past before ever starting things up with her myself, and her ex messed her up . That's why she's indifferent about keeping things going long-term with me at the moment. All reflects back to her ex. And it's not feelings that she wants to get back with him, it's feelings of regretting being with him in the first place and all that.

ehhh nevermind

DLee23 said:

13 hours and 42 minutes, then act like you barely even remember what happened. most effective if one of you has slept in that time

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Sounds legit. I'm actually using this

mugen81 said:

Care to expound on your wrong doing??

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Basically this chick I'm messing with is half belizean half Italian and she told me this when we first met. She made a comment about her hair frizzing up when it got wet and me being half asleep still said "I didn't know Hispanic hair does that"

lamekilla said:

Sounds legit. I'm actually using this


Basically this chick I'm messing with is half belizean half Italian and she told me this when we first met. She made a comment about her hair frizzing up when it got wet and me being half asleep still said "I didn't know Hispanic hair does that"

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Lol...
Just explain to her that you were tired at the time and apologize for being out of pocket. A mature,level headed young lady will accept and probably tease you about it for the duration of your friendship/hook-up,etc...
I have said alot worst, so this definately will be a gauge for you to see if you want to deal with the headache/worth of conflict over something that little....
The way she handles this will indicate future dealings with her..

Just got out of a relationship
Im boutta be a savage now bruhs

lamekilla said:

DLee23 said:

13 hours and 42 minutes, then act like you barely even remember what happened. most effective if one of you has slept in that time

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Sounds legit. I'm actually using this

mugen81 said:

Care to expound on your wrong doing??

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Basically this chick I'm messing with is half belizean half Italian and she told me this when we first met. She made a comment about her hair frizzing up when it got wet and me being half asleep still said "I didn't know Hispanic hair does that"

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Tell her according to ninjahood shes hispanic

Shell understand

YeezusDisciple said:

 

lamekilla said:

 

DLee23 said:

13 hours and 42 minutes, then act like you barely even remember what happened. most effective if one of you has slept in that time

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Sounds legit. I'm actually using this

 

mugen81 said:

Care to expound on your wrong doing??

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Basically this chick I'm messing with is half belizean half Italian and she told me this when we first met. She made a comment about her hair frizzing up when it got wet and me being half asleep still said "I didn't know Hispanic hair does that"

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Tell her according to ninjahood shes hispanic

Shell understand

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Belize formerly known as BRITISH Honduras is not Hispanic.  I wish I'd known NH was goin around spreading falsehoods, woulda put a stop to that.

Tay famb let me know if it's me or something else.

I've been with this girl going on 6 years. Ever since I was 15 she's loyal as hell down for me and all that crap. Here's the thing when we have our disagreements I feel like I'm missing out on my bachelorhood. I talk to other girls when we argue but they bore me. Either that or I just feel it's disrespectful to talk to other girls. Either way I can't do nothing with another girl because she's always in the back of my mind when I'm just texting a rand girl when we aren't talking to each other. Any advice is appreciated

Velle23 said:

Tay famb let me know if it's me or something else.

I've been with this girl going on 6 years. Ever since I was 15 she's loyal as hell down for me and all that crap. Here's the thing when we have our disagreements I feel like I'm missing out on my bachelorhood. I talk to other girls when we argue but they bore me. Either that or I just feel it's disrespectful to talk to other girls. Either way I can't do nothing with another girl because she's always in the back of my mind when I'm just texting a rand girl when we aren't talking to each other. Any advice is appreciated

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I know what you saying bruh, Especally if you have spent all your younger years with her it will feel like your missing out, It just depends on whether you see yourself being with her in future

Prettyboy RY7 said:

I know what you saying bruh, Especally if you have spent all your younger years with her it will feel like your missing out, It just depends on whether you see yourself being with her in future

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Exactly man but it's like shoot when we are arguing it's like why would I have to put up with this. Then I end up getting back with her cause I miss her it's tough man

Wes1erTheGunner said:

Mann i think i would've had a sure thing had a made a move on this girl last night, only thing is she's my best friends older sister. Its crazy cus I've been friends with her brother for over a decade but this was our fist time just hang out with each other 1 on 1. Like the scene was perfect;me and her on the couch,  house to ourselves (hers), her giggling and sh*t, even chilled in her guest bedroom for a little bit.... she started talking about her type of guy and it was literally a description of me, even made a lil joke about it. i should've just said f it and pulled the trigger. Her brother lives in a different city, and we're all adults, I'm 28 shes 29 and hes 27, but the fact that shes my boys sister messes with me. i got her number, we'll see what happens

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@Wes1erTheGunner I'm a little late on this but honestly your homie probably won't even mind.
You don't sound like you're in it just to smash and bounce and if you're a good dude your homie would rather you be with her than some lames she may of been with before (assuming she has if she's 29 and single, no kids?)

I say talk with her first see if that connection is really there.
Then talk to your boy, man up and just be like yo, I'm really feeling your sister
hell one of my boys practically begged me to save his sister from dudes who were ******** on her.


like you said yall aren't 18,19,17
yall are mature adults who have been through life. she could be your love and you holding out because of your boy. dont let that get in the way

Jokingly told one of my girls she's getting 6-8 inches tonight. And it's going to snow.

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louislagerfeld said:

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I mean if you're taking public transit there's occasionally cute girls that also take the bus/train or w/e, I know because I see cute girls sitting at bus stops all the time

those are the best women to talk too since obviously neither of you have a set of wheels.

As far as getting at women w/ a whip, probably not gonna happen bruh girls just won't respect you if they have to pick you up constantly

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I use public transportation for my work commute because it's much easier. I don't have my own car yet, but I drive my momma's van whenever the hell I want(word to Kendrick).

And yea I know about the good looking chicks on there, there was one on the bus stop today on my way home from work. We ended up getting on the same bus, I froze though and didn't say anything, plus I don't have a phone at this moment since the screen on my Nexus 4 cracked.





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ChampCruThik said:

Jokingly told one of my girls she's getting 6-8 inches tonight. And it's going to snow.

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you a fool man

Man wearing a suit n being young gets you hella looks from chicks on the metro in DC lol

I think I potentially messed up with a yamb for the future..I met her last Thursday kicked with her all night & basically all Sunday....I smashed already btw..I'm takin her out tommorrow but I regret asking her I don't want her to get the impression I'm going to be takin her out all the time..maybe I'm just trippin idk but I feel kinda corny for doin it

Somehow, someway... a girl thinks I'm trying to date her

First time for everything smfh.

Never wait around for a female while she has "me time". Nothing positive can come from that. If she really wanted it to work there would be no breaks and other such childish things. When a woman says that 9/10 there is someone else. Sad reality but that's just how it goes. Work on yourself and talk to new chicks. It helps you not think about the old girl and gives you new yambs. Need I say more.

Arguments are for the young and immature...
What I mean by that is as you grow and have more relationships you will see that all the "slamming doors", "yelling in public"," chasing after her" is straight arduous and asinine.
Once you realize your worth, you will transition into calmer methods when conflicts occur. Nothing wrong with healthy discussions or different viewpoints but that type of behavior is unacceptable as you grow older. Young relationships are hard to keep together for the long run. Do some succeed? Absolutely, but those are very rare. What people don't realize is that wants,desires,hobbies,career path, etc.. are all factors in how relationships become either weaker or stronger. When you are younger you don't have the coping skills to decipher what love really is or what lust/loyalty truly is..
Many people confuse the two and stay in unhealthy, co-dependent relationships just so they can feel wanted and love. Nothing wrong with letting someone go, sometimes it's needed to find your true path.
Break-ups or "Breaks" should never be considered if you truly love someone. Either you fight for them, seek counseling or voice your true feelings for said person, if they feel they can't reciprocate the same exact feelings, move on, say your piece and make an absolute clean break. Women like to hold on to one until they get another. DO NOT BE THAT GUY, IE-THE SAFETY BLANKET... Always put your self first, I do in my relationship because I don't need a woman to make me great but I do enjoy how a woman compliments me. Meaning any relationship should be like Voltron, working together for a common goal and purpose. Being a bachelor has its perks and strengths but nobody wants to walk this earth alone, I don't care how big of a pimp, playa, YAMB GOD you are, you want somebody to help smooth this thang out(word to 3 Stacks)...
I admit I miss my single days sometimes because I didnt have to worry about someone else's happiness,health and well being, but once you meet the right fit, things change.
I love coming home to my wife and chilling, talking about life, playing video games and lighting one up. It's no better feeling then looking at someone that generally has an interest in you and who you are.. Can all this end tomorrow? Sure can and I know reality from fairytale but man these streets and women ain't no joke,I truly hope I am never a bachelor again, lol...
All of this is to say enjoy life as much as possible, don't depend on a woman for happiness but more for companionship and conversation. If its not working, move on until you find your fit. You are doing yourself a disservice holding on to "Hope"...
Love thy Self,Family,Friends first and everything else will fall into place later...