Ain't nothing wrong with being selfish at this point in your life g. Selfishness gets a bad rap in society because of those who display it for the wrong reasons. When it comes to accomplishing your goals or what have you, a level of selfishness is necessary or you will fail. Nobody has ever gotten to the highest level of self actualization without being selfish, it's something you have to deal with when you want the most out of our finite time here, embrace that. Key is finding a woman who is as selfish when it comes to her own self development and therefore be the yin to your yang & build that castle with you.
As for not finding something interesting, you only touching joints you go to school with? You got your own spot man, find out where the young professionals are in your area and be great. Better to get at women who are outside your comfort zone.
It's proven to be more difficult than expected to ditch the college yambs. They're so... Convenient.
But I know I have to start looking elsewhere to meet women. Just taking some time doing so because I just moved here and I'm trying to get used to juggling my job and classes. I need to start exploring the town a bit more but the only people I know here are some frat brothers and they're still all on that undergrad life heavy. Need to start from scratch and make new friends to actually do more than just club/turn up.
Leaving my comfort zone is going to be tricky, but it'll get done.