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Man...I got the shock of my life last night 
One of my best friends last night not only confessed that he liked men as well as women, but that he also had feelings for me since college
Look, I've had and still have other gay friends and female friends, but this is completely different cause dude was like a brother to me. Him being bisexual/gay/whatever isn't what changed how I thought of him (it wasn't even a shock really, cause dude always had some feminine tendencies and interests), but the whole idea of someone I considered to be family confessing his real feelings towards me...
I really don't know what to do. I'm not angry or digusted; I'm sad because I feel like a good friendship that I had is gone now. He said "I don't expect you to feel the same since I know you're straight. But I just had to let it out because I don't want to hold on to this anymore. We've gone through some @#$% before and we're still cool today, and I hope we can still be cool even after this, but I understand if you don't want to be friends anymore."
I don't believe it's that easy to just forget it and move on with the friendship like nothing happened. To me, something like that only happens on TV. I've had female friends confess their feelings for me before, and even though we're on good terms today, it's just not the same as before. No serious conversations, no making plans to kick it, only talk when we're at the same party or via FB/IG posts, etc. They basically became acquaintances instead of friends, but like I said, I never minded much cause I wasn't THAT close to them.
So what do you guys suggest I do/say? I know a bunch of idiots will come in here and say ":x" "pepper your angus" and all that other 12 year old BS, but I know there's some mature dudes on here who can give good advice.
And yes, I'm posting this on NT instead of talking to my other friends about it, because they're all cool with him too, and I don't want to stir up any potential drama especially since I'm the only one he told this to.
One of my best friends last night not only confessed that he liked men as well as women, but that he also had feelings for me since college
Look, I've had and still have other gay friends and female friends, but this is completely different cause dude was like a brother to me. Him being bisexual/gay/whatever isn't what changed how I thought of him (it wasn't even a shock really, cause dude always had some feminine tendencies and interests), but the whole idea of someone I considered to be family confessing his real feelings towards me...
I really don't know what to do. I'm not angry or digusted; I'm sad because I feel like a good friendship that I had is gone now. He said "I don't expect you to feel the same since I know you're straight. But I just had to let it out because I don't want to hold on to this anymore. We've gone through some @#$% before and we're still cool today, and I hope we can still be cool even after this, but I understand if you don't want to be friends anymore."
I don't believe it's that easy to just forget it and move on with the friendship like nothing happened. To me, something like that only happens on TV. I've had female friends confess their feelings for me before, and even though we're on good terms today, it's just not the same as before. No serious conversations, no making plans to kick it, only talk when we're at the same party or via FB/IG posts, etc. They basically became acquaintances instead of friends, but like I said, I never minded much cause I wasn't THAT close to them.
So what do you guys suggest I do/say? I know a bunch of idiots will come in here and say ":x" "pepper your angus" and all that other 12 year old BS, but I know there's some mature dudes on here who can give good advice.
And yes, I'm posting this on NT instead of talking to my other friends about it, because they're all cool with him too, and I don't want to stir up any potential drama especially since I'm the only one he told this to.
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