Welcome to the South my man. Have you ever visited Charlotte?
Pros: Southern hospitality...trust me...you'll see what i'm talking about when you live here - people are nice, hold doors open for you, etc. Cost of living is madd afordable . I work for a huge bank here in Uptown CLT, up until last year...I lived in Uptown near Bank of America stadium, just signed a contract to build a home in south CLT a few weeks back. What I paid to lease a 1bedroom condo is a little less than what i'm paying to build a new 3bd/loft/office/2car garage home on the south side. So, I think no matter where you end up residing...you'll see the prices are MUCH lower than in NYC. A few hrs drive from the mountains and the coast. A ton to do here in CLT, center city activities, 2 lakes surround CLT (Norman and Wylie). NIce weather year round. Crime is low, you get the ocassional situation that pops up from time to time, but trust me...overall...a really nice city "to raise a family in".
Cons: Public transportation is lacking. We have city buses of course but only have one route train route. It only goes from Uptown to south CLT (hence the reason why I built in south CLT), a route from Uptown to UNCC (my alma mater) is being constructed but will not be finished for a few years. It sometimes gets madd hot in the summers, upper 90's. The weather in the winter can go like this...week 1 are 40's, week 2 are 60's, week 3 are 50's, week 4 is lower 70's. Seriously. So, you'll be rocking heavy winter coats one week and then shorts the next week. FYI.
I'm sure I missed a few things but tried to hit on the major ones. Good luck with the move man. Any Q's, you let us know.