Sober Life (can you still socialize?)

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I used to drink and smoke, lost some relationships....realized it was me being unhappy with my situation: dysfunctional family, life direction etc.)

what would happen is i'd over drink: i'd take my frustrations out on people close to me.



Now i'm done drinking, and smoking....doing my best to address these issues sober.


but i still want to go out/socialize, but I don't want to be considered a downer if i'm not partying like i used to, or taking shots with the group etc.


anyone else been through something like this?

anyone socialize sober? thoughts?
 
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Yea man there pretty of people that go out with their boys and dont drink. I am not one of them nothing against it.
 
I have some friends that don't drink or smoke, and they have a good time with us even when we're drunk. It depends on you honestly, I don't think they'll care very much.
 
this is dope, thanks for the responses fellas...glad i made this thread
 
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me sober = me drunk, I'm the same way 
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depends on the person, if you have a great personality, happy, open mind and not judgmental, then you'll be straight. 
 
i'm edge i don't drink or smoke and i always go out with the homies or my girl to bars and clubs if you're a social person in general you shouldn't have a problem, especially if your friends understand and respect your beliefs.
 
Used to be a big pothead but i cut that out since the beginning of this year as well. I realized **** ain't cool needing a blunt just to go to sleep at night. Being high wasn't even fun or exciting anymore, that altered mind state became...normal. Oh you're tired? Smoke. Bored? Smoke. Girl broke up with you? Smoke. Smoke when im happy, smoke when im sad, hell smoke because its tuesday. That's when i knew i had to change. That behavior aint normal, had to cut off a couple "homies" that didnt understand that. I still think weed is awesome and while I dont think it necessarily makes you lazy or a bum, it does however makes you content with not doing anything. Whenever I do start again i'll treat it like a supplement for life as opposed to A WAY OF LIFE

TL;DR - Weed is cool, but only sometimes
 
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Going through the same thing. I'm not the most outgoing person, but I'm slowly learning and getting socially better. It's hard especially being in college with all of these temptations, and since I'm so used to smoking almost everyday and drinking almost every weekend. I have lost some "friends" since the new year when I began to stop, but more will come. Op were in this thang together!
 
blazinRook said:
I used to drink and smoke, lost some relationships....realized it was me being unhappy with my situation: dysfunctional family, life direction etc.)

what would happen is i'd over drink: i'd take my frustrations out on people close to me.



Now i'm done drinking, and smoking....doing my best to address these issues sober.


but i still want to go out/socialize, but I don't want to be considered a downer if i'm not partying like i used to, or taking shots with the group etc.


anyone else been through something like this?

anyone socialize sober? thoughts?
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like someone said before, if they dont wanna be around you because youre not drunk or high, theyre not really your friends.

and from your own post you dont even sound happy with your own drinking and smoking habits. It sounds to me like youre worried more about how youll look to them, than about what you yourself are feeling.

and i dunno about you, but i come first. im not going to do anything that makes me feel unhappy so i can fit in with a group. theres no group in the world i want to be a part of that bad that ill compromise myself (part of the reason i didnt join a frat) If you really want to put it into perspective, have you ever been the only sober guy at a party? That ish will wake you up quick. Everyone else looks just short of mentally handicapped while you're there like ...this is stupid. Im going home.

I'll leave you with an excerpt from some of my favorite literature. From the good book of "No Makeup Today," verse 2, and it reads: "And you aint gotta get drunk...to have fun. You aint gotta get drunk to have fun. Have fun." Kendrick Lamar.
 
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Never was a big drinker but i can go out and have a blast without sippin

Me and my boys would have more fun than anyone and we dont even need to drink or nothing
 
I decided to get sober 2.5 years ago. Best decision I ever made. Went to rehab, halfway & IOP. Drinking is my drug of choice by far. Done drugs/got high but wasn't my thing. I go to AA meetings to stay focused. There I found new friends and learned how to live life sober.

I do still keep in touch with old friends and they support me 100% and like this new version of me.

The first year is hard. But it gets better and it gets easier. Over the last 6 months to a year is when I really started benefitting. I have an awesome gf, reconnected with my dad who I haven't seen in 11 years and bought my first home.

It takes & effort. You have to care. I live one day at a time & it's worth it.

Life is good.
 
being sober is a life of true freedom.

Weed, Cigs, Blacks, Alcohol, drugs, porn, gambling ect is straight bondage.

Feels good to wake up everyday without worrying about these things ruling over you

You become a stronger person spiritually, mentally, and physically when you are free from bondage

Also the money saved is :D


OP, In my experince having Sober friends are ultimatly better in the long run, because consistent high/drunk friends usually make poorer decisions in life
 
i'm not worried if my friends will accept me or not, they support me. just wondering if going out is weird/awkward.

and it's not like i'm fiending, (sometimes i do want to reset at the end of the week when i'm stressed, but I have been practicing more productive ways to de-stress).

it'll be different for me to be sober while going out, but u guys r right in saying that it shouldn't stop me from kicking it, having fun etc.


daps to everyone goin through similar situation trynna get their life right
 
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I found I could not drink responsibly. The hangovers were lasting three days and affecting my work output and sleep patterns. I gave up binge drinking. I'll have a glass of wine with dinner on occasion, but the days of drinking 25 beers while watching football all day are over. Feels good man.
 
Last time I smoked weed was during the Super Bowl and I'm gonna try to chill out until at least the summer.

It's easy for my not to drink when I'm by myself, but my family drinks and it's hard to say no when mom dukes breaks out a bottle of wine and everyone's enjoying themselves.

I went to an NBA game recently and on the way to the arena I crushed a whole 40 in a matter of like 20 mins. After the game I had the worst headache of my life until the middle of the next day. That's when I realized that I'm getting old and need to give my body a break.

He'll, I'm working hard just to drink water (kidneys ended up shutting down a couple years ago and dehydration could kill me if it gets bad enough) let alone sober up.

I'm down for a Sober 2014 thread or something like that. I'm really gonna go for it. It's very hard, though, to be the sober guy when your only excuse is your just not doing it right now. I always fall into the "why not?" Excuse and then feel bad about the lack of self control.
 
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me sober = me drunk, I'm the same way :nthat:
depends on the person, if you have a great personality, happy, open mind and not judgmental, then you'll be straight. 
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Same. I'm not a sloppy drunk. I just mellow out and chill.
 
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Good job OP. I know a couple good friend of my that should also consider this route.

you can always find a way to socialize with ppl simply by JUST TALKING TO THEM. You dont need no liquid courage to meet girls
 
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