I live a life of solitude.

Ive been a loner since I was a kid. Family gatherings I would come out my room to speak then right back in my room. Like someone earlier in this thread said people just dont care about other people. My perfect night day would be my burning a couple, putting on my headphones, and playing ncaa 14 :pimp:
 
Just moved across the country to Denver and I have nothing but solitude. Don't know anyone here besides co-workers which are mostly older, married women. I am an introvert and can only make friends with females, but I have a long distance girlfriend so not sure how to go about this. Wonder how this will turn out :smokin
 
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Just moved across the country to Denver and I have nothing but solitude. Don't know anyone here besides co-workers which are mostly older, married women. I am an introvert and can only make friends with females, but I have a long distance girlfriend so not sure how to go about this. Wonder how this will turn out
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Bro im in Denver too
 
Just moved across the country to Denver and I have nothing but solitude. Don't know anyone here besides co-workers which are mostly older, married women. I am an introvert and can only make friends with females, but I have a long distance girlfriend so not sure how to go about this. Wonder how this will turn out :smokin

Why?
 
A couple months ago on weekends I started driving myself to a different part of my city that I dont know so well and just walking around for 2-3 hours. Really interesting to see buildings & places you never knew were there.
Dat feel of freedom bruhs............I highly recommend it.
 
I'm still trying that balance of solitude and having company. Often find myself by myself long stretches.
 
This thread geniunely makes me happy because i know im not alone as far being a introvert... and im fine with it and accept it... i enjoy doing things on my own but sometimes i would feel insecure about it like going out to eat at a restaurant and wondering if im getting looked at... but now i take it with stride and dont even care anymore... at the same time im also trying to find that balance in life where i do want to be with someone like a significant other because i dont want to be one of those forever alone guys.... theres nothing wrong with that but its not for me...and i always hang out with my friends once in a while but its not the same :smh:
 
This thread geniunely makes me happy because i know im not alone as far being a introvert... and im fine with it and accept it... i enjoy doing things on my own but sometimes i would feel insecure about it like going out to eat at a restaurant and wondering if im getting looked at... but now i take it with stride and dont even care anymore... at the same time im also trying to find that balance in life where i do want to be with someone like a significant other because i dont want to be one of those forever alone guys.... theres nothing wrong with that but its not for me...and i always hang out with my friends once in a while but its not the same :smh:

Yeah I remember when I first went to the movies alone. I was sweating bullets waiting to get in the theater. Worrying the whole time what people thought of me.
After that it was easier and by the third time it was no big deal at all. No one really cares what someone is doing. And if they do....let them think whatever they want.
 
I'm writing an essay about this very subject could everybody do me a solid and give me some pros and cons about being an introvert and what separates you from others



I got reps
 
^ thats funny you that brought that up because I was thinking of writing a book on my life and labeling it Life as an introvert and would talk about my experiences as an introvert and dealing with people on a daily basis... I have been neglecting the idea because i just havent had time for it but I need to start doing it soon before I forget some of this stuff.... its going to be a work in progress though because I want it to cover my whole life so even if i got a book deal i wouldn't release it until later on in my life :lol:
 
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^ thats funny you that brought that up because I was thinking of writing a book on my life and labeling it Life as an introvert and would talk about my experiences as an introvert and dealing with people on a daily basis... I have been neglecting the idea because i just havent had time for it but I need to start doing it soon before I forget some of this stuff.... its going to be a work in progress though because I want it to cover my whole life so even if i got a book deal i wouldn't release it until later on in my life :lol:
you should start it soon here you have a lot of input if you need help homie
 
I love me time!  I have a tight circle of friends whom I consider brothers, but even then I can't hang with them constantly.  Not many things I enjoy more than sitting on my back patio (overlooks Cincinnati, check bio link) with a beer and a bonfire going looking out at the city.  Anything I can do by myself with music I enjoy; driving, lifting, chillin, etc.

However, I also enjoy going to places where I don't know anyone as some people stated and just blending in the crowd.  
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You ever have a bad day because someone pissed you off and just want to be left alone? thats how i feel today... like dont even talk to me im in my own zone right now...usually this is fine because i am alone anyway but its tough feeling alone when being forced in a crowd.. ya im talking about work :lol:
 
I'm writing an essay about this very subject could everybody do me a solid and give me some pros and cons about being an introvert and what separates you from others



I got reps

Pro's:
- Personal freedom to do whatever it is that makes you happy. You don't have to cater to others needs to do things or go places. You follow your own path.
- No set schedule during free time. You flow on your own time.
- You get time to understand yourself better. Learn more about yourself.
- Possibly less stress from not dealing with others you run with (family, friends, s/o, etc.) in your free time. Possibly help you live longer.
- Your able to cultivate an identity because your not running with a pack. They say you're a combination of the personalities your around most of the day. Being an introvert with
limited social interaction allows you to possibly become something different. This could be a con as well.
- Based on your goals in life, being an introvert can lead to greater self-improvement because you can manage your time and use it to improve in some way whether it's
working out at the gym or understanding and improving issues with anxiety.

Con's:
- Loneliness.
- Become so much of an introvert that you become a casual observer of life rather than a participant. You miss out on life.
- Becoming stuck in your head thinking and rationalizing introverted behavior rather than following how you feel that moment or that day. Even though your introverted it doesn't
mean that everyday is one that you should be. Introverted people want to be extroverted sometimes.
- Failure to maintain relationships
- You develop a " **** you" attitude to the world which isn't good in terms of mental health. You become maladjusted to coexisting with others possibly.
- You may deny any social problems you have by labeling yourself an introvert.
- No one to rely on or talk to when you need to.
- Since being social with others can lead to happiness, it could also lead to a longer life.
 
I'm writing an essay about this very subject could everybody do me a solid and give me some pros and cons about being an introvert and what separates you from others



I got reps

Personally I don't have a full life of solitude. I just moved and I live in a city where I can count the people I know on one hand:

Pros
- I know I can rely on myself for things to get done/handled
- I feel it has made me much more observant to my surroundings and others in general.
- Not sharing the L
- No moochers
- Because of added time, I am consistent with my routines and activities. (staying in the gym, preparing for days)

Cons
- Sometimes I wanna hang out with people but the timing is never right...my fault
- I think people or coworkers associate my quietness for rudeness. Sometimes I really have nothing to add to their convo and would rather not sound like an idiot speaking about something I either have no clue about or am involved in.
- I have too much pride sometimes and after awhile not socializing damages that pride.
- Certain moments are better when you're with someone else


What might make me different/Side Notes:
- I do have a close circle of friends back home. I just only get to see them 1 or 2 times a month.
- I recently quit posting on social media as frequently. As mentioned above, I am taking time to be more observant of my true surroundings.

Overall, having a mellow life is really nice. I love to party out and hang with my bros, but I need that majority of time to myself to keep me in balance.
 
I'm introverted. Wouldn't have it any other way. Maybe its just the type of peers that are around me but I feel like many of them are being absolutely brainwashed by the media and they act really fake. I just don't feel the need to change the way I behave and think to interact with more people that I don't even connect with. I wasn't born introverted,but over time pts and those symptoms got to me and I no longer look at things the same way
 
This was my Monday night dolo and it was pretty much perfect.  Cincinnati from the NKY side (my back patio I previously mentioned), Goose Island 312, and a stogie.
 
Plan to do more things in LA dolo.

Like driving around and trying new places to eat at for lunch, solo missions to the beach, etc.

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