Real talk...why is the Prenup taboo?

The question should really be why dont they change the divorce laws so that they need a prenup in the first place?  They should just get rid of that whole "take half if it dont work out"  thing so you shouldnt have a prenup to begin with?
 
silkboi said:
I never got the logic of "we're not millionaires so we don't need one". It's not just about money. If you have any shared assets with a spouse (house, car, etc), you risk losing something no matter how much its worth.
Click to expand...

If you get married, share assets, and divorce. You will lose something, there is no "risk" :lol:


and :stoneface: at everybody comparing your wife to a car or house insurance, srs? :x
 
Last edited:
Mister Friendly said:
I agree family law should be reformed

But you have to look at from a woman's perspective too
Click to expand...
What is the womans perspective tho?  Esp in this day and age?

Like should the time and energy spent be compensated for monetarily?  And if so where is my 40 acres and mule at? 
 
heLiumcLinton said:
If you get married, share assets, and divorce. You will lose something, there is no "risk"
laugh.gif
Click to expand...
But why possibly lose more than you have to, or something that you owned/earned before you were even married?
 
Fontaine said:
but stats prove that, doe.
Click to expand...
You commit yourself TIL DEATH, for better OR WORSE... but you still saying leaving is an option because statistics say it is? Then you might as well just be together without the marriage. This is exactly why I would never get married aside from the purpose of raising my own children  (Which I don't plan on having...)  in a stable household... There is seriously no other incentive. Most couples don't even trust each other enough to file taxes jointly and share bank accounts. That's not marriage.

/End thread. If you don't trust birds don't marry em.
 
Last edited:
WillzWay26 said:
Mister Friendly said:
I agree family law should be reformed


But you have to look at from a woman's perspective too
Click to expand...

What is the womans perspective tho?  Esp in this day and age?


Like should the time and energy spent be compensated for monetarily?  And if so where is my 40 acres and mule at? 
Click to expand...

Even in this day and age, women end up sacrificing career wise than men do in terms of havinfg a family

Men make more money than women

Who misses more time from work when having a baby? Women

Who nuitres the child? Women

Who loses more going back in the dating scene after divorce? Women

Any of yall trying to date a divorced woman with kids? :lol:
 
I get all that but what Im saying is should a woman get compensated financially for that? 

Because men make a lot of personal sacrifices as well but we dont ask to get compensated for them.

I understand woman make sacrifices, but even still none of those examples are a result of marriage.  And secondly I still dont see where women should get paid for making a commitment that doesn't work out.  Because love is one thing, but when money is involved then it becomes a financial commitment and that to me complicates divorces more than anything else
 
DH1Water said:
by that logic by having any type of insurance means my house will get broken into, my car will be totaled, I'll die early, etc. etc. If you're not marrying someone for their money that they made themselves then what exactly is the problem of signing? 
Click to expand...

Ehh, that comparison doesn't really work
 
DLee23 said:
 
You commit yourself TIL DEATH, for better OR WORSE... but you still saying leaving is an option because statistics say it is? Then you might as well just be together without the marriage. This is exactly why I would never get married aside from the purpose of raising my own children  (Which I don't plan on having...)  in a stable household... There is seriously no other incentive. Most couples don't even trust each other enough to file taxes jointly and share bank accounts. That's not marriage.

/End thread. If you don't trust birds don't marry em.
Click to expand...
you can commit yourself to a significant other and share the benefits it brings, that doesn't mean he or she is automatically entitled to your self-created wealth for the simple fact your relationship did not work out.  I don't see what people are talking about.  Sure you commit til death do you part, honor, love thy wife/husband, etc.  But at the end of the day **** happens.  No need to be cashing out on someone who did not help you earn that money. If he or she loved you so much that they wanted to commit their life to you, they should be cool understanding the fact that if it doesn't work out they don't get half your bread.  Like you said, it's for better or worse...not my bank account. 
 
Yeh my thing is, if you really love me to spend the rest of your life with me, why would you care about a prenup?

Like yall said just thinking about it brings the possibility of the marriage not working, so if you're really confident about the marriage working, why not sign it?  Its not like youre gonna get divorced.......right?  So whats the problem?

So when I bring it up I get mixed answers obviously.  My personal preference, is to have a woman confident enough to sign one.  I like a woman who feels good enough about the relationship or her finances enough to not have to think about getting half in a divorce. 

Trust me theyre out there, Ive met many;  Intelligent responsible women who love a man enough to not care about signing a prenup.  If thats what you want in a woman you can find them.  Not everyone cares about it as much as yall think
 
just going to throw this out there as well because I don't think it has been mentioned yet: the majority of people who get married do not have that significant enough of a gap in income where it warrants a prenup.  Therefore the majority of people don't have one.  For the simple fact most don't somehow makes it a 'taboo' conversation. If I'm making 90K and my wife is making 75K there really is no point...and that sums up the majority of people who get married.  
 
WillzWay26 said:
 
Yeh my thing is, if you really love me to spend the rest of your life with me, why would you care about a prenup?
Click to expand...
I agree with you.

I love how females try to shame you and get all riled up when you mention prenup. My uncle flipped it back on his ex* with the above rationale (which makes a lot of sense) and she started complaining.

When it comes down to it, a prenup doesn't really matter in the grand sense. After all, prenups end after 10 years, correct? Does that mean she doesn't see you guys lasting at least 10 years? What does that say about her?
 
Last edited:
^^^ As far as I know prenups usually last forever, unless there is a clause in it that says it expires after a certain period of time.

Could be wrong though
 
Last edited:
They can be forever. Most common pre nups are nothing if we last less than 5 years, 25% for 10 years and 50% for 20 years.

.. word to Chris Rock having a pre nup and deciding to divorce his wife after 23 years when his pre nup expired :lol:
 
DH1Water said:
just going to throw this out there as well because I don't think it has been mentioned yet: the majority of people who get married do not have that significant enough of a gap in income where it warrants a prenup.  Therefore the majority of people don't have one.  For the simple fact most don't somehow makes it a 'taboo' conversation. If I'm making 90K and my wife is making 75K there really is no point...and that sums up the majority of people who get married.  
Click to expand...
Who would keep the house if you guys split?
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

The ultimate sneaker enthusiast community.

NikeTalk was created as a way of giving back to both the sneaker enthusiast community and to the greater global community of which we are all a part.

NikeTalk is NOT affiliated with Nike Inc. in any way, shape, or form. All opinions expressed herein do not necessarily reflect those of Nike, Inc.

© 1999-2024 NikeTalk.com

Share this page

Back
Top Bottom