engagement /marriage thread.

Take advice from someone who just had a destination wedding a month ago. We had it in punta cana at one of the nicest resorts. My wife planned the little things here in the states and the coordinator did the rest over there, so little stress. This is very key for you because the more stressed your women gets during wedding prep time is going to affect you whether you want to believe it or not. My immediate family and boys came, it was like a week long party. Our photos and venue were top notch, looked much better than even my cfo's (bosses boss) wedding. All totaling $11,000. When you factor in your getting a memorable trip and the cash you receive it really isn't bad.
 
UTVOL23 said:
We spent ALOOOTTT on our wedding, but the day was so far one of if not the best day of my life. Could that money have gone to other things sure but I dont regret it one bit. A good chunk of it went to our honeymoon which was second to none.
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That's what a lot of people won't really understand since they've "seen" all the bad/negative things that happens with marriage. You do get a good chunk of change back and that particular day will always be a positive day about you and your wife.
 
Mark Antony said:
So understanding these destination weddings, guests pay for their own flight and room?
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I think that's the whole point, weed out the people that really want to go. Instead of shelling out $40,000-$50,000 to invite a bunch of family and friends that are just going to eat and run :lol: I just proposed to my gf of 6 years in March. We're planning the same destination wedding. My sister is getting married next year and we're seeing how much she's spending on her wedding :smh: We both don't want to invite some bum *** relatives that we don't even like, so we're doing a destination wedding. Probably hawaii.
 
If you've been with someone for 6 years, proposing shouldn't be hard at all. I don't even get how someone could have nerves at that point. 
 
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jhova718 said:
Hey guys. Been with the bae 6 years and I want to propose. Im not nervous but I want everything to go smoothly. What were your experiences proposing to your gf ? Did everything go as planned? What kind of research did you do when it came time to buy the ring?
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Everything won't go as planned :lol: The way you see it in your head, isn't how it will play out. But just go with the flow and make sure its memorable.

DO your research, try to find out what she likes style wise. If she hasn't dropped hints already. My gf was already throwing hints at what she wanted so I already knew what to look for. I bought my diamond online from JamesAllen.com and had the diamond put on a ring by a local jeweler. Don't worry about knowing her size and all that if you have a legit jeweler they can figure out her ring size just by her height and weight. I was amazed when my jeweler did this. Get it appraised too so you know your diamond is legit. Don't break the bank on buying it. I think the suggested "norm" is like 2 months salary. That's not even true. From what I researched it's something that the jewelry marketing people made up. I wouldn't buy at those chain stores either they just trying to get you on their payment plans so they can charge you interest. If you have specific questions let me know. I researched for like almost a year before I popped the question.
 
We got married for less than 2k.  Engaged for mad long and got tired of pushing the wedding off, as big $$ things kept coming up.  We don't have a lot of family, so nobody was going to help pay for anything.  
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  So one day we said eff it....we're gonna make this happen within 2 weeks.  

We were able to get a dope venue for 2 hours, so we had the ceremony there, including a small reception for our small number of friends/family.  Then we carried the party over to a local spot for food/drinks in a private room.  

That 2k included a great photographer, too.  We got lucky b/c dude was on his grind just starting out, so he threw us an entire disc of 200+ professional, edited photos for $200.  

I would've like to do more for our wedding, but the money just wasn't there.  I'm glad we did things how we did and I wouldn't change a thing b/c we both enjoyed our day.  Celebrating 6 years in November.  
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Mark Antony said:
Question for you married/engaged nters, how did you know? Ever broken up for any amount of time?
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You just know. It's not even a question if that person is really the one. My gf and I never broke up for any period of time.
 
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Don't let what other people are doing for their weddings drive you crazy. Do you.

Like, we didn't have a wedding cake. We just got a gang of ILL cupcakes set up in tiers. So we probably saved some dough like that.

But our location was mad nice. Like I said it was in PR and it's where Marc Anthony did his first marriage.

Different things are important to different people. My mother did her 2nd marriage on an island with just 6 people there on the low.

It's just about what works for you.
 
illphillip said:
Don't let what other people are doing for their weddings drive you crazy. Do you.

Like, we didn't have a wedding cake. We just got a gang of ILL cupcakes set up in tiers. So we probably saved some dough like that.

But our location was mad nice. Like I said it was in PR and it's where Marc Anthony did his first marriage.

Different things are important to different people. My mother did her 2nd marriage on an island with just 6 people there on the low.

It's just about what works for you.
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This right here is great advice.

At the end of the day, this is the day for you and your significant other--nobody else.  If anyone outside of you two don't like your wedding plans, say holler at me and keep it movin'.  
 
pepperjackchees said:
If you've been with someone for 6 years, proposing shouldn't be hard at all. I don't even get how someone could have nerves at that point. 
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I'm not nervous. I want to make sure it goes smooth.


I thought about a destination wedding but her dad won't fly anywhere. Damn shame. The most important things to me are the food, open bar, and DJ. Venue, limo, flowers, etc are secondary .


Maybe @mayhemghatz can be my photographer :nerd:
 
Destination weddings I wouldn't call them cheaper, because my broinlaw is practically spending the same as I did and he's getting married in DR...what I would say is that they are definately more of a bang for your buck kind of deal, a destination wedding is a vacation, a multiple day celebration as opposed to a regular wedding and. That to me makes all the difference, for a Bride and Groom the wedding day is over before you can actually grasp WTH is going on, is really absurd....the beginning of the day is stressful and scary, the ceremony usually no longer than half hour, then you gotta do pictures and finally get to wind down at your reception after the speeches, greetings, etc etc at least in a destination, you get to plan over a longer period of time.

Here is the thing, people don't take the time to do proper research, be different and save money on things that are usually very expensive, a lot of things you can DYS as far as decorations, hell even centerpieces you can DYS and save a ton of cash, photography if you do your research you can get an awesome start up guy that'll give you a good deal, just because a photographer is well known and been shooting for a while doesn't make him actually good, just makes him EXPENSIVE. The venue, go for a restaurant as opposed to a ballroom, they actually provide a much batter atmosphere and often times much better food.

Just be smart and budget.
 
It took me 8 years to propose, thought it'll be easy, day I proposed I was a nervous wreck...so I can understand...lol
 
im all about the destination wedding! you invite the people closest to you and they get a vacation out of it and a beautiful location! i cant wait til i get married! but first i gotta get engaged lol
 
If you ain't gon spend atleast 10k on the ring alone then you minus whale not eem get married. Srs
 
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