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@fong I felt like venue and DJ were most imoportant to me. Now that I getting into photography, that would have been up there too.
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Yea man I checked out this place as well. To get the room I wanted with the personal pool etc it really didnt turn out to be that huge of a difference because at jade mountain we did the all inclusive package and ladera wasnt. There was another reason I chose jade over ladera but I cant rememeber what it was now.
Just an fyi jade mountain has a sister resort called anse chastanet which is a little more afforadable but also lacks many of the amenities ie your own infinity pool, personal butlers etc.
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man all I need is lots of alcohol and self serve food... Dj is not a concerned because everybody will be to drunk to even start to think to themselves this dj suck, food will keep them going .
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1000 for an abortion? Thought they cost less than that...never had to go through that so Im going by hearsay
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Hey guys, is your fiance your best friend?
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^nice bro! Congrats
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Yep.
In related news, today is the big day.
congrats man
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Great question my friend.
Almost 15 yrs with my lady and we've finally came to a conclusion that we are best friends bout a yr ago. It took alot of time/stress and motions that are the hardest you'll ever encounter in life. And I know we got more trials and tribulations in the future. Becoming besties actually brings you closer. It's not about what you guys have in common, it's more of being understanding and attentive to the way they are and vice versa.
Oh yeah, and she ain't the homey if she calls you telling you she getting swerve with another cat :x
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Thanks!
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How do you even ask the dad for "permission" to marry his daughter? Never really understood how that works
Do it out of respect.
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That's all it is. My wife's father passed away 20 yrs. ago on this day, and before I proposed to her, I showed her mother the ring and seeing the joy on her face was pretty incredible.
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Pretty much, not that you really need to but do it if it makes her happy.
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take her parents out to dinner, without your girl obviously, and ask their permission.
when you ask them out to dinner they should already expect you to ask them so it shouldn't be too hard.
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Are you asking for permission or for their blessing? If I plan on marrying you're daughter, I'll let you know that. I'm not gonna ask. You're blessing is a whole other thing.
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Exactly. You can 'ask' their permission. For me, I went to her parents house and told them my intentions and my plans. I didn't really ask their permission, but I showed them that I was ready to make this important decision in my life with her.
If they said 'no'. I would have still married her.
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It's a sign of respect. It's as simple as "I love your daughter and I plan to marry her. I met with you today to ask for your blessing as we move forward".
Just think of it how you'd like your daughter's future boyfriend to address you. It is a necessary step, you don't want your marriage getting off on the wrong foot.
Just think of it how you'd like your daughter's future boyfriend to address you. It is a necessary step, you don't want your marriage getting off on the wrong foot.
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Whenever I hear a couple talk about being best friends I always find it weird. In some cases, over years and years of growing together, and the circumstances surrounding your relationship, it makes sense that two people deeply in love would become best friends. But for the majority of folks, it seems that it's less about growing into that kind of relationship and more about throwing out that label as some sort of false representation of the quality of their relationship. Folks will be in a relationship just a few years and then all of a sudden you're best friends? To me, that's a different kind of relationship. I've had 3 best friends for almost 3 decades now. I would feel weird even referring to my girl as such. It's a different relationship to me. It's deeper than friendship honestly but at the same time its way more volatile. A real and true friendship isn't going to make you go through the gamut of emotions a relationship will. Your wifey can make you sad, happy, frustrated and angry all in one day.
Or maybe its just some folks have never experienced real and true friendships and their s/o fill that role for them.
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You're looking at it the wrong way, in the case with your girl being your best friend, it's a strong foundation to build the relationship on, you may consider her that w/o actually using the term, but it's things you trust her w/ more than your homies. If yall are friends/best friends, then your relationship will survive arguments, times of sadness, etc.
Most couples get together based off of physical attraction, and once that fades, there's nothing else left for the relationship to build on.
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Of course you'll be friends but the question is BEST friend. I trust my best friends with everything. I don't know what I would trust my s/o with that I wouldn't trust them with. However, there's plenty I'd trust my friends with and not trust my girl with. And I disagree with falling back on friendship after physical attraction fades. You fall back on love. If you're no longer attracted to someone and all that's left is friendship, your'e going to find yourself seeking love elsewhere. Ask all the folks who are still friends with their exes and baby moms.
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Realized that when my daughter's BF asks for my permision, he better be ready to present his plans.
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I actually agree with you. I might be the odd one to say this but who throws around the "best friend" word around like it merits something that important in a relationship. There are so many factors now a days that something like that is just a percentage of what makes things really work. Plus friends are treated in such a different manner and mostly cause you see them periodically where as your girl is someone that is with you all the time.
Sad to say in these times, people marry for reasons that might not be right but it's not necessarily wrong as well. I know a guy that is so old school, he requires to have a girl that literally kisses his butt all day long. Kind of that Geisha girlfriend. I mean what best friend goes through that. But if that is something that he wants to have a so called "wonderful marriage" then that is on him and I am sure there are women like that who wouldn't mind a husband like that. It's all relative and no one relationship is perfect to the next one.
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And if he doesn't?
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i never thought of there being a distinction between the two but you're absolutely right. i asked for permission and her father gave me permission. don't know what i would have done if he said no. i also got his blessing but he told me what i had to do to get the blessing/approval from his wife. i don't think either of them really thought i was a suitable husband until we spent enough time together. when i proposed, i really hadn't spent enough time with her family and they felt disrespected. i had to rectify that real quick.
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