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You have the right attitude, my friend. Don't let others affect you. Be who you are always.
If anything, it will make them look embarrassed when they look back upon this.
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If anything, it will make them look embarrassed when they look back upon this.
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I've been an intern at a university business office, yet some of my coworkers still treat me as "Random Student Employee #X since March." I've tried to be nice & friendly but some people don't reciprocate. Then again, everyone there is there because they're getting paid to be there, so I try not to take it personally.
It's definitely added to my life experience though. I had expectations that everyone would be supportive of me but it just so turns out that no one really G.A.F. about what I'm doing most of the time other than the two or three supervisors I work for. I was stressed out for the first two months or so because I hated trying to feel like I needed to appease the new people I met. Now I just worry about two things, getting my work done and saying "Hello/Good morning" whenever I can. Cuts down my cortisol levels.
I'll just say that whatever situation or place you put yourself in, you got to at least do something like communicate to them that you're trying to make a positive impression, especially if you're the minority in the crowd. Maybe it'll get you lunch, maybe you'll get a cold shoulder. Same rules always apply to you as well!
It's definitely added to my life experience though. I had expectations that everyone would be supportive of me but it just so turns out that no one really G.A.F. about what I'm doing most of the time other than the two or three supervisors I work for. I was stressed out for the first two months or so because I hated trying to feel like I needed to appease the new people I met. Now I just worry about two things, getting my work done and saying "Hello/Good morning" whenever I can. Cuts down my cortisol levels.
I'll just say that whatever situation or place you put yourself in, you got to at least do something like communicate to them that you're trying to make a positive impression, especially if you're the minority in the crowd. Maybe it'll get you lunch, maybe you'll get a cold shoulder. Same rules always apply to you as well!
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Being cordial got me my first degree related job. Just made casual conversation with the secretary. HR told me that sealed the deal. The HR manager asked the secretary about what she thought about the candidates. You could say it helped seperated me from the pack.
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being introverted doesn't mean your shy tho. I'm introverted and sometimes i just don't know what to say, like i have to think about it first before I blurt it out. You just have to practice at it. I know that might sound silly to some people but social skills takes work its not going to happen over night. Just say hi, hello, how's your day etc. I know introverted people don't like wasting their breath talking about non sense lol 
but a simple how's your day going can make a difference in how people perceive you.
but a simple how's your day going can make a difference in how people perceive you.
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Have a similar story. Talked to this older man at the gym everytime we bumped Into each other. Mostly small talk and sports, nothing important. I tell him about my degree plan and he asks me if I was interested in working for the same company he does. He ends up being one of the higher ups and I was in.
I'm. It saying be nice to people to get something out of it, but that you just never know who's who
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What ethnicity are you? lol Random question I know but from my observations white guys do the downward head nod and all other ethnicities (black, hispanic asian) do the upward nod lol anyone else notice that?
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I'm black and I always do the downward nod. Should I change my ways?
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I'm only cordial when at work. Otherwise, couldn't care less unless spoken to. I'm not going to greet every other stranger I see.
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On a side note who is doing that weak *** fist bump after shaking hands. U know who you are. Some random ppl will always give that wet noodle handshake and then hold out their fist afterwordfrom me every time
You need to talk to NT's resident SoCal members. That week **** is strictly from down south.
On the topic of race and daps, I swear middle age white men need a ****** instruction manual. For certain reasons I interact a lot with older white men outside of work in what's a very loose and casual setting and it's all good until these dudes try and dap me. It's so awkward I swear it's been shaving years off my life.
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At my job, I was helping out this older white gentleman.You need to talk to NT's resident SoCal members. That week **** is strictly from down south.On a side note who is doing that weak *** fist bump after shaking hands. U know who you are. Some random ppl will always give that wet noodle handshake and then hold out their fist afterwordthat gets the
from me every time
On the topic of race and daps, I swear middle age white men need a ****** instruction manual. For certain reasons I interact a lot with older white men outside of work in what's a very loose and casual setting and it's all good until these dudes try and dap me. It's so awkward I swear it's been shaving years off my life.
He tipped me $5.
At the end of our interaction, he tried to give me the obama dap.
But he ....ed up on the elbow-to-chest part.
Somehow he thought that there was another step before the elbow-to-chest part.
Now I'm involuntarily doing ninjustu with this gentleman's right hand.
While our faces are inches apart.
Awkward as hell.
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Lol that looks similar to the stone shake up. Most likely a coincidence.
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i never seen it that way.
im pretty shy round ppl i dont kno but i alway can say whats up to everybody. just not good with one on one convos with random people. plus i gotta a speech impediment,
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You need to talk to NT's resident SoCal members. That week **** is strictly from down south.
On the topic of race and daps, I swear middle age white men need a ****** instruction manual. For certain reasons I interact a lot with older white men outside of work in what's a very loose and casual setting and it's all good until these dudes try and dap me. It's so awkward I swear it's been shaving years off my life.
bruh I'm dying right now because this is the truth! When I first moved out here and got to know some of the people, when I went for that hand shake it caught me off guard. My Latinos love that slap dap
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What New York folks don't do
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I don't know, I usually feel weird when all I have to say is good morning or what's up or hey (unless I'm in a rush)... Like I'm a social ****** or something
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Seriously, Is Saying "Im An Introvert" The Cool New Trend?
"I'm naturally an introvert..."
There's nothing natural about not interacting with people.
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Seriously, Is Saying "Im An Introvert" The Cool New Trend?
"I'm naturally an introvert..."
There's nothing natural about not interacting with people.
that moment when you use words you don't really know the meaning of.
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I thought I was weird...but I just have my quirks.
You ****** are weird.
You ****** are weird.
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Seriously, Is Saying "Im An Introvert" The Cool New Trend?
"I'm naturally an introvert..."
There's nothing natural about not interacting with people.
Right, because introverts don't interact with people.
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