would you let your significant other go to the movies alone with the opposite sex

If you're in a group setting with some other men, does that also make you upset because she's having fun with other men? Or is that acceptable because you're there to watch over her?

Keyword GROUP.

If she goes out with her girls and there happen to be some male friends in the group, why would I have an issue with it, she's not out spending time with 1 dude in specific.


I think ya trollin at this point.

I'm not trolling, I'm just trying to follow your logic. It's bad if a girl is having fun with a guy alone, but it's ok if she's having fun with a guy and other people are around?
 
But what you gonna do when you walk in on your girl shaving her legs prior to this movie date?​

You gonna be sitting there with the​


Face ***.​

Reminds me of that one movie where Tyler Perry's wife was packing a bunch of sexy new panties to go on her business trip :lol: :lol:
 
Yet you think she'd throw it all away over some overpriced popcorn?

Ya confused, I'm not worried about that, because my wife wouldn't even consider going on a date with another man...so I'm never even faced with the idea of having to restrict her
 
She creates her own situations. If she strays, then she gone. If I stray, I'm out. This is what is not being grasped as a concept.

And Henny, nobody is perfect. Just volleying back. I hope that you do find that trust and peace in life....

You're right. And you know your wife better than anybody else so there's really not a reason to be arguing with a bunch of younger NTers about it. They just won't understand.

Not sure why you came at me in the first place I agreed with most of your prior posts.

I hope I have what you have some day though. For real. Because that trust is one of he most important things to me. I really thought I had it with my ex but that crumbled and now I'm very careful and it takes a lot for anyone to gain my trust.
 
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I'm not trolling, I'm just trying to follow your logic. It's bad if a girl is having fun with a guy alone, but it's ok if she's having fun with a guy and other people are around?

Huh?...fam if your wife is in a GROUP of people and gravitating to 1 dude in specific the whole time, you wouldn't think anything of it?...
 
Hey man, this is gonna be endless, ya run ya relationship however ya see fit, ima continue running mines happily the way I have...I actually enjoy spending time with my wife and don't have to send her off to do things I don't enjoy with another man, but if ya do, who I'm I to tell ya to do otherwise
 
You're right. And you know your wife better than anybody else so there's really not a reason to be arguing with a bunch of younger NTers about it. They just won't understand.

Not sure why you came at me in the first place I agreed with most of your prior posts.

I hope I have what you have some day though. For real. Because that trust is one of he most important things to me. I really thought I had it with my ex but that crumbled and now I'm very careful and it takes a lot for anyone to gain my trust.

My post with regards to your behaviour, not you.... I apologize. I can see how I may have worded poorly.


Hope you find that, my man. I really do. I hope all of you can have this same convo with young cats on internet shoe websites when you all are my age, lol.


That's a part of the conversation, too. Age.
 
Huh?...fam if your wife is in a GROUP of people and gravitating to 1 dude in specific the whole time, you wouldn't think anything of it?...

There's no need to get defensive or put words in my mouth. I'm just asking you questions to understand why you feel this way.

I'm just wondering what is the difference between having fun with other men in a group setting and having fun with a man alone. Can a women never have fun with other men?
 
Hey man, this is gonna be endless, ya run ya relationship however ya see fit, ima continue running mines happily the way I have...I actually enjoy spending time with my wife and don't have to send her off to do things I don't enjoy with another man, but if ya do, who I'm I to tell ya to do otherwise


And I hope that you don't have to monitor your S/O and learn that you both can enjoy a platonic friendship with persons of the opposite sex where the first thought isn't that they are looking for the next best thing. You do you, who am I to judge?
 
There's no need to get defensive or put words in my mouth. I'm just asking you questions to understand why you feel this way.

I'm just wondering what is the difference between having fun with other men in a group setting and having fun with a man alone. Can a women never have fun with other men?

I just don't understand what is there to clarify, enjoying the company of a GROUP men and women is not remotely close to enjoying the company of one MAN....If I go out with my single friends and they happen to invite a group of girls, my wife has no issue with it, because there is trust and she knows my boys are single and there might be other females there, but I'm not there with 1 female in specific....now would it be the same if I go out on a date with 1 woman?....does that really need clarification to you?
 
And I hope that you don't have to monitor your S/O and learn that you both can enjoy a platonic friendship with persons of the opposite sex where the first thought isn't that they are looking for the next best thing. You do you, who am I to judge?

No need for platonic relationships with the opposite sex at this stage in our lives, we barely have time to hang out with our already established friendships....our time is focused now on far more important things and if we must hang out, we have each other and we know how to do that VERY WELL :pimp:

Perks of marrying your best friend
 
No need for platonic relationships with the opposite sex at this stage in our lives, we barely have time to hang out with our already established friendships....our time is focused now on far more important things and if we must hang out, we have each other and we know how to do that VERY WELL :pimp:

Perks of marrying your best friend

Cheers!
 
I was a "friend" with two different lesbian co-workers at two different jobs and both were in relationships and lived with their gf. BOTH of them on separate occasions domed me up. I smashed one in her Caddy and the other I declined because I had no condoms. She even called me over to their house one night while her girl was ot.

Both of these girls were "friends" according to them, but I knew what it was from the jump. I say all of that to say if your woman has a male friend that she's spending time alone with, you're tripping hard. If she's going to movies with him, you might as well take the L.
 
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I was a "friend" with two different lesbian co-workers at two different jobs and both were in relationships and lived with their gf. BOTH of them on separate occasions domed me up. I smashed one in her Caddy and the other I declined because I had no condoms. She even called me over to their house one night while her girl was ot.

Both of these girls were "friends" according to them, but I knew what it was from the jump. I say all of that to say if your woman has a male friend that she's spending time alone with, you're tripping hard. If she's going to movies with him, you might as well take the L.


LMAO stop lying you know damn well you dont use condoms its 2014... lol just playing thats whats up tho.
 
I was a "friend" with two different lesbian co-workers at two different jobs and both were in relationships and lived with their gf. BOTH of them on separate occasions domed me up. I smashed one in her Caddy and the other I declined because I had no condoms. She even called me over to their house one night while her girl was ot.

Both of these girls were "friends" according to them, but I knew what it was from the jump. I say all of that to say if your woman has a male friend that she's spending time alone with, you're tripping hard. If she's going to movies with him, you might as well take the L.

Nah b, is all about them platonic friendships.
 
So going to the movies is a date. ok so to all the people who said you wouldn't let your girl go out on a date.

Scenario: I'm pretty sure your girl has a male co worker, i'm pretty sure she went out to lunch with a male co worker once in her life just them two alone. don't care if it was McDonalds, Burger King, hell it could be a slice of pizza, your girl just went out to lunch with another dude, there for that is date. Since ya'll saying a movie is date.

Lol. Bruh, just go already and be done with it.

17 pages and a myriad of different viewpoints, and you still haven't changed your perspective - you just disagree with what half the cats in here are saying, and that's fine.

Relationships are all relative. You'd just be better off finding a woman who sees things the way you do. Your ex-wife doesn't, and she's not any more wrong for that than you are for feeling how you do.

@Fontaine & ksteezy ksteezy - love what you said here, game recognize game.

To everyone else, I wish you all the best in your relationships.
 
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i could see if i was wrong if it was with another female friend, but a friend that i been with 20+ yrs and who happens to be of the opposite sex to see a movie. i don't see anything wrong, especially when you don't have any intentions.
Yeah I agree.

Plus I'd be pissed if he restricted me from hanging out with my childhood friends.

Personally I don't restrict my significant other from hanging out with his friends because I trust him enough to not do something stupid behind my back.

If he's hanging out with his female best friend, I just tell him to say hi to her for me. I don't see an issue in this, I mean they hang out in groups anyways.

BUT if something made me uncomfortable, I would say so.

On the other hand. If he was being super dressed up to hang out with a female solo...... Uh. Of course id feel uneasy. I'd feel like that would be an inappropriate gesture.
People making it sound like this is a abnormality. "Why would you want to hang out with a girl if you not smashing?!" :lol: I guess lot of ppl went to all boy schools or something and never had friendships
 
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Nah b, is all about them platonic friendships.

his situation is a tad bit different tho. I smashed a few "lesbians" too with girlfriends. Now they have boyfriends. lol I dont get those chicks. they dont know what they want most of the time. i just call them bi.
 
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ksteezy spittin' too much sense for these dudes on here...

the protection of your marriage and safe guarding it does not make you weak or insecure...and in the same sense her allowing you or you allowing your wife to go out with the opposite sex one on one doesn't make you a bigger man and secure.

any dude who is chilling one on one with a married woman or one that is in a relationship is bound to look at her sexually, which is natural...and if he is not he is either homosexual or lame to be honest...men chilling with women as 'friends' is extremely feminine to me...i usually cut off dudes who come out to chill with a group of friends and then disappear on his own to chill with girls...pull ya skirts up!

at the end of the day all it takes is one small hiccup in these type of friendships to get things to pop off....i've smashed girls who have men and are 'on the rocks', trust me they put out...

one girl i was talking to wanted to date me and fell in love...i told her i don't date, she proceeded to get into a relationship with another man months later and they got serious...one small fight and she was in my office bent over....and you better believe i calculated all this by trying to stay relevant and be platonic friends with her even when she was with dude waiting for that exact moment...

dudes who get too comfortable and liberal with their girls need to wake up...
 
Being friends with girls is feminine, but there's nothing homosexual about chilling with dudes all the time? I've heard it all in here
 
Being friends with girls is feminine, but there's nothing homosexual about chilling with dudes all the time? I've heard it all in here

no there isn't anything homosexual about a bunch of heterosexual men chilling...

don't see how that is disputed...that logic was thrown out after high school...
 
Y'all sound like a bunch of women projecting emotion onto each other

Just do yaself and worry about the next man if you crushin on him.

Ain't nothing wrong with it - NT could use a coming out thread
 
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