NT, I'm at a crossroads and I need help.

adobecs4

adobecs4

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Family, I think I've reached my lowest point. I don't have anything positive to look at. Borderline depression, majority of being lazy and not motivated. 23, still at a community college. Feel as if I'll be here forever. Stressful work environment, but just got a promotion/transfer. No girl. Don't keep close friends because I've been dealt a shady hand more than a few times :smh: can't sleep at all because I know I should be doing something to reach my potential, but I don't know where to start. Worst part is, I have no one to talk to this about. I'm stuck :frown: sorry for the long rant. Had to get it off my chest.
 
Try to stack up some money, take a trip, have a good time, get away from that life, even if it's only for a couple of days. Most important thing I would say is to stay active, look for stuff thatll take you out of your comfort zone while giving you something to do. Who knows, maybe you find something you genuinely like and you'll be able to pursue that with everything you've got.

I know it's easier said than done my man, but you've just gotta try to keep pushing. If worst comes to worst seek therapy.
 
Contrary to the stigma therapy might be a good option. I'm sure your school provides complimentary mental healthcare services on campus. Start with that at least.
 
I'm sorry to hear how your feeling. But keep your head up and try to stay as positive as you can. Your very young and have your whole life ahead of you. Life is full of ups and downs, and right now you are down. but if you stay strong and keep fighting things will work out for you. Stay positive and don't give up.
 
don't be so hard on yourself man. focus on making incremental improvements on things that you can have control over. small steps towards your goals. don't sweat things you don't have control over.

and having no girl can be a good thing. talk about stress :wow: :lol:
 
everyone struggles not knowing WTF they are doing with their life man, you're not alone in your thoughts. It took me two years to get where I am and I still feel like I have a long way togo in terms of work, education, personal development, and satisfaction with life. hope you can find something worth having.
 
AdobeCS4 said:
Family, I think I've reached my lowest point. I don't have anything positive to look at. Borderline depression, majority of being lazy and not motivated. 23, still at a community college. Feel as if I'll be here forever. Stressful work environment, but just got a promotion/transfer. No girl. Don't keep close friends because I've been dealt a shady hand more than a few times
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can't sleep at all because I know I should be doing something to reach my potential, but I don't know where to start. Worst part is, I have no one to talk to this about. I'm stuck
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sorry for the long rant. Had to get it off my chest.
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Hang in there bruh, I was in the exact same place 8 months ago flunked out of two schools, no close friends, had to go see a therapist
Biggie62 said:
Contrary to the stigma therapy might be a good option. I'm sure your school provides complimentary mental healthcare services on campus. Start with that at least.
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This, I was in the same place as you I was lazy, flunked out of school twice and had no other options around me to go to, working a low paying job with no chance of moving up and pretty bad social anxiety and gained about 50+ lbs from depression. I ended up going to a therapist as a last ditch effort and having someone there to listen to your problems is a huge load off your shoulders as well as the ability to have someone to help you find ways of living better.   
 
Maybe the beaten path isn't for you OP. Maybe school isn't your thing.

While you're working, start focusing on what you want out of life and maybe take a shot at something other than the cookie cutter lifestyle. Even if you don't strike it rich, you may find that happiness is worth more than money.

Once you're happy with your life and yourself, women and fun and all of that will fall in line. But not too many women are attracted to depressed dudes, so forget about a gf for a while and get yourself straight.

I wish you the best OP.
 
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You're probably having a quarter-life crisis. I went through the same thing last summer. I felt I wasn't going anywhere n like I was trapped. Get away for a few days, clear your mind so you can gather your thoughts. It seems like your going through a lot of stress, so get away from that stressful atmosphere n do some things that make you happy. Take a walk every now n then, it helps with self reflection. Don't worry OP, you're just starting your journey, you'll be just fine.
 
Damn you only 23? Thought you were at least 25 :lol:

Hold ya head up...I've been down that road

Also join your local gym...it's a stress reliever IMO...best decision I made this year was to get back in the gym
 
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I feel where you coming from OP 
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Just remember there's a 120 page thread filled with people who can't get a job 
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wonder how many other 23 year olds feel exactly like you. whatever u do don't turn to drugs.
 
Appreciate the support, fam. Took a nice long drive to clear my head. I came to realize that I'M the only one holding me back :smh:. Like Mike Jack said, gotta start with the man in the mirror.
 
Keep ya head up man! Seems like you're pretty stressed. Go out and have fun. Go and do something that makes you happy. Also, surround yourself around good people. Positive vibes will help you do better! Everyone goes through downs in their lives, just got to overcome them. I'm young too. I also feel down sometimes, like what's the purpose of school. Feels like I do the same thing every year. But just keep ya head up and pull through. Feel free to vent though. Sometimes that's just what you need... To let it out.
 
What kind of work?

Maybe stressful but positive -  you got a promotion and transfer.

No girl - positive you 23 why do you want to be tide down - with that extra cash flow spend some on taking out the ladies and enjoying the single life. Keep trying until you find someone you vibe.

23 and Community college - positive - you are still young no kids and its not the end of the world. Go to CC at night and you see a lot of older people trying to do what you are doing.

No Friend - positive - there are very little true friends. That word friend is loosely thrown around. Positive - you are in college fam, meet some cool people to hang and chill.

No one to talk to - positive - you have NT fam - sure some dudes up in here are jerks and will make fun of your situation, but there are others that will listen and help  you out.

Seek them out and go to summits man ....

Its not the end of the world my dude - you have so much to live for - everyone get in a funk, but you shouldn't think about it the way you are .... just that **** happens!
 
Keko Jones said:
What kind of work?

Maybe stressful but positive -  you got a promotion and transfer.
No girl - positive you 23 why do you want to be tide down - with that extra cash flow spend some on taking out the ladies and enjoying the single life. Keep trying until you find someone you vibe.
23 and Community college - positive - you are still young no kids and its not the end of the world. Go to CC at night and you see a lot of older people trying to do what you are doing.
No Friend - positive - there are very little true friends. That word friend is loosely thrown around. Positive - you are in college fam, meet some cool people to hang and chill.
No one to talk to - positive - you have NT fam - sure some dudes up in here are jerks and will make fun of your situation, but there are others that will listen and help  you out.
Seek them out and go to summits man ....

Its not the end of the world my dude - you have so much to live for - everyone get in a funk, but you shouldn't think about it the way you are .... just that **** happens!
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Thanks for breaking it down for me. I'm glad that all of you see what I'm going through first hand. I think my biggest problem is I don't take things a day at a time. I want everything to happen right away.
 
Have faith man. Gotta stay positive, especially at your worst. You're almost there, just know that. Keep being positive and waking up each day feeling energized and ready to live well. You'll find that chick soon. I was in your shoes and things turned around for me because I stayed positive. Stay positive and take chances. Talk to people, women, etc. just live well and confidently.
 
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Have faith man. Gotta stay positive, especially at your worst. You're almost there, just know that. Keep being positive and waking up each day feeling energized and ready to live well. You'll find that chick soon. I was in your shoes and things turned around for me because I stayed positive. Stay positive and take chances. Talk to people, women, etc. just live well and confidently.
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No doubt, my man. Thanks for those words. I need to find a way to remain positive. My anger is triggered to quickly it's a shame 
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