Black Culture Discussion Thread

Rootin4EverybodyBlack said:

You’re right, lack of education doesn’t mean you’re a complete dunce, however, I’m gonna keep it real with you bro, a good portion of Black women have at minimum a bachelor’s degree. With the exception of one person, every woman I’ve met over their mid twenties without a bachelor’s has been an idiot

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it’s funny because i believe this is generally the case across ethnicities in western societies, women tending to be more schooled than the men is not just specific to black folk but it’s only in the public discourse as being an issue for black women…that is changing tho because the zeitgeist now is that boys & men across the board are falling behind & all the while women are still having kids (albeit less of them) but not linking with these men either because the women don’t really rock the guys in terms of seeing him as a viable mate or vice versa

Good Lord.

Open a window.

All this over...Amanda Seales? Word?

Sounding like an episode of "The View" in here.

Some of ya'll sound like the type of dudes to start acting weird when the women come around.

tokes99 said:

it’s funny because i believe this is generally the case across ethnicities in western societies, women tending to be more schooled than the men is not just specific to black folk but it’s only in the public discourse as being an issue for black women…that is changing tho because the zeitgeist now is that boys & men across the board are falling behind & all the while women are still having kids (albeit less of them) but not linking with these men either because the women don’t really rock the guys in terms of seeing him as a viable mate or vice versa

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Forefathers didn’t want women to be anything other than homemakers because they wanted to CONTROL and manipulate them. Times have changed.

People don’t understand that you can still be masculine, still be an alpha male and have a smart, well-to-do, smart and assertive woman. It’s a BONUS.

We still can exist in world where men can be masculine and still exhibit their innate, primal traits AS WELL as women being empowered. They can exist in unison. People don’t realize that

Present said:

Good Lord.

Open a window.

All this over...Amanda Seales? Word?

Sounding like an episode of "The View" in here.

Some of ya'll sound like the type of dudes to start acting weird when the women come around.

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You was the same dude that go to church every Sunday (and bible study on Wednesday) but complained about not being able to find chics and complaining about their code of conduct.

….Catch the sideline bro

I ain’t forget you “Oh… oh.. oh Mo’Nique let’s her husband be a man and call the shots… whyyyyy can’t I find a woman who who will acquiesce to my wants and needs?”

….. said by a sanctified man who goes to church You better go to one of them church convections and scout

finessence said:

Exactly. Bro, even some of the hood girls I went to school with, cared about their education and maintained GREAT grades.

I had a cousin who was a straight A student but her mom and dad didn’t really care about education so, she struggled at FAMU. Fast forward now, she works for Spirit airlines and travels across the country to train. She’s 32 and just bought a house 2 years ago.

I have cousins who graduated from Texas Southern, North Texas, Nova Southeastern, FSU.

My mom has held the same job at Broward General medical center since 1993. My Grandmother has been at her job since 1971.

I just come from a line of educated women so, can’t let them get slighted but, my “pimp hand” can still be strong.

My cousin in Texas owns two homes, literally would fly to audit banks WHILE pregnant. I have another cousin with an autistic son, she’s got degrees from FSU and NSU and she owns 3 homes.

Some of these women are GETTING IT!

My 23 year old cousin just got her pharmacy degree from FAMU.

6 females in my family all under 40 are KILLING the game.

I’m just saying, don’t know about some families out here but the women I grew with and around all had major hustle game.

My family is predominately women and it’s shameful but, they’re outpacing the me n.

Im one of the few males in my family who hasn’t done prison or jail time. I’m probably the only one without a criminal record

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No disrespect to you and your family champ…….and only because you didn’t mention it but if all 6 of those women in your family under 40 ain’t married then they ain’t killing NOTHING. Especially the ones with kids. Continue on though.

finessence said:

You was the same dude that go to church every Sunday (and bible study on Wednesday) but complained about not being able to find chics and complaining about their code of conduct.

….Catch the sideline bro

I ain’t forget you “Oh… oh.. oh Mo’Nique let’s her husband be a man and call the shots… whyyyyy can’t I find a woman who who will acquiesce to my wants and needs?”

….. said by a sanctified man who goes to church You better go to one of them church convections and scout

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finessence said:

Forefathers didn’t want women to be anything other than homemakers because they wanted to CONTROL and manipulate them. Times have changed.

People don’t understand that you can still be masculine, still be an alpha male and have a smart, well-to-do, smart and assertive woman. It’s a BONUS.

We still can exist in world where men can be masculine and still exhibit their innate, primal traits AS WELL as women being empowered. They can exist in unison. People don’t realize that

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we will see, because i believe at this point almost half of kids are born out of wedlock & almost a third without fathers in the home…where & from whom will these young chirren see as the example of masculinity, when most grade school teachers are women, there aren’t many invested men in these neighborhoods & even if there were there is a stigma around men & children…add in that the breed of masculinity that is acceptable & championed now is what is convenient to women’s sensibilities (even as the women folk reward the ‘toxic’ traits in their personal lives)

and no no doubt some men wanted to control their women, but not sure how broadly applicable that trope is…i don’t think any man has a problem w/intelligent women or even assertive women (given some caveats) but my guess is

1) it just isn’t a priority for most guys
2) those traits come with a suite other traits that make those type of women harder to deal with/less desirable
3) women that actually put these skills to use and become successful aren’t usually cool/satisfied with doing what men in their position tend to do, which is be the breadwinner that supports their partner indefinitely without the expectation that the spouse should eventually level up to exceed or at least meet them

for sure there are women that value men beyond their ability to earn, but as marriage rates are continually declining, not sure that most women agree with you

Attractiveness and personality are always going to be the first things you look for in a partner. I include how they think into their personality.

Everything else just adds to being relatable and compatible with them and their social spaces.