Taking a break from a relationship?

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Im in a 4 year relationship with my girl, live together with our daughter
She just got a job and her priorities are good
Me on the other hand i have an alright job and just got in trouble with the law (paying the price for it) and my drinking problem has gone up
She just wants a break as i get my stuff together and it might work

Has anyone ever been in this position? Does it work or is definitely a break up
Just feeling :smh:
Mostly because of my daughter
Hate going through all this
Any help or input
 
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Im in a 4 year relationship with my girl, live together with our daughter
She just got a job and her priorities are good
Me on the other hand i have an alright job and just got in trouble with the law (paying the price for it) and my drinking problem has gone up
She just wants a break as i get my stuff together and it might work

Has anyone ever been in this position? Does it work or is definitely a break up
Just feeling :smh:
Mostly because of my daughter
Hate going through all this
Any help or input

its over bruh.
 
Sorry but she's leaving you bruh. Your perceived alcoholism and your acquaintance with the legal system means she views you as incoherent. She won't be honest with you and is giving you the measured response. Once you don't live together the whole break thing goes out the window.
 
Gonna agree with everyone else. Took you to long to man up and now she wants someone on her level. Sorry op just better your life for your kid now
 
Seems like she was already thinking of moving on before your trouble with the law. She's picking this "moment" to leave so she can justify it to you as to why she wants out.... all the while it masks her real reason for wanting out.

Just my thoughts though, I don't really know.
 
Just do you bruh. I know that feeling when she dont want you anymore. Stack your bread, blow that green and work out! Things will fall into place.
 
I've never put a relationship on hold.
The minute you say we aren't together anymore, I bounce.
Wish the **** I would buss out some drinks and drake over a broad.
Unless I love her
 
No such thing as a break...but go talk to her first before anything is truly set in stone.
 
Op you need to put your big boy drawz on and man up for the sake of your child. Asap.
 
normally (based on my experience) a break is a better way of saying "you're messing up and I'm on the verge of letting go.prove to me why we should still be together"

in some instances that proving would be disappearing as soon as she says that because the reason she wants the break is because you no longer are a "challenge" to her and she needs that gift of missing you.

in your situation it sounds like she needs you to step up your game. i dont know if what you said you been doing is her observation or your own based on how you feel now but it would probably be beneficial to step it up. considering your child together it may just be a warning that she needs you to be a better man.

all in all you know the relationships ins and outs better than anyone else so do what you feel is right.
 
She just wants a break as i get my stuff together and it might work

Has anyone ever been in this position? Does it work or is definitely a break up
You'll be fine, man.  A break means get your **** together.  You guys have a daughter, she'll give you another chance.
 
As the Mother of your Daughter and your significant other.

She suppose to be there for you for support, to guide you when you're down, through tough times.

This is another way for her to say that it is over.

Goodluck brother, I hope for the best for yourself!
 
Have to agree with Hawaii. She should be your solider with you through the thick and thin.

And of course it's better to talk it out with her but generally speaking it's not a good sign. Sometimes you do need a break from it all to truly appreciate your family and get ya mind right but it's tough doing it by yourself.

I wish you the best homie. Stay positive stay clean.
 
In the words of the "modern pedo poet" r Kelly
When a women's fed uuuuuuuuuuup
There ain't nothin u can do about it


Sorry fam hope u don't go into depression
 
It's over. She's gonna say let's take a break. You agree. She "finds someone"* and then you guys are split for good.

*She has been talking to this dude already she just trying to give you a smooth out and this guy a smooth in so things don't go down with a heap of drama.

I also think that she's giving up out of frustration.  Yea we all want a ride or die but in reality who is really a ride or die. Not many.  It's unrealistic and selfish to expect someone to carry a anchor along with them for years and years. I don't know if you guys really loved each other or not but regardless of how much love was there, she sounds like she doesn't expect much from you anymore and is trying to move on.

If you really like her I suppose you could get your life together and if she still loves you she'll come running back.
 
A female can be ride or die IF ur worth it
If u just taken a person for granted then Probably not
who the hell wants to ride or die for someone who doesn't appreciate it
 
I disagree with those saying she don't want you anymore OP.

When someone in a relationship asks for a break they're really asking for permission to bang the person they're already banging or want to bang for a while and then return to you after they get their rocks off/pounded thoroughly.

So if you're okay with your BM getting serviced by the next man and then coming back to you a little bit looser it can be okay OP, if you get your **** together.

Just know this has nothing to do with your problems. It'd be one thing if you were suggesting to go away to get your **** together but she's asking to distance herself from you. If she really wanted to see you do better she'd be supporting you through your hard times and trying to to help anyway she can but she basically see what you going through and don't want to deal with that ******** but she don't want to completely break it off just in case you bounce back and are in a better situation.

Good luck and don't stop being a father to your child, if anything become a better one.
 
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