Taking a break from a relationship?

Thatnks for the input guys
Means a lot
I see everyone with the different aspects and that's good
EXACTLY, everyone has a different aspect bcuz everyones situation is different so take these few points away from this thread OP:

- Fix yourself up. Join AA if you got to, work out, look for a better job. Do it for YOU and for your child. This way regardless of how the relationship work out, your on the right path to the next part of your life.

-If she's not with you through the thick AND thin, then you need a break from her so YOU can find someone better.

Now, here is my opinion...

- In my experience breaks dont work, all they do is prolong the inevitable, the break-up. BUT like i said, everyone's situation is different. Go talk to her and hear it from her what yall's situation is. I was once that "other dude- (i was just tryna smash tho lol)" to a girl who has 2 kids with her high-school sweetheart. He did 6 months for dealing or sum **** like that so he too had probs with the law, and this was a real good looking girl with brains too(pics below for the simps). She was a damn good smash. But she did go off/on with her man just because he was the father of her daughters, so she wants it to work out between them badly for them. I think u got that one up on the next dude. Girls will always try  n work things out with the father cuz they want a true family.

ITS NOT TOO LATE OP, FIX YOURSELF UP. MAKE IT HAPPEN.
 
Agreed. She is your daughters mom. There's a chance. Work on yourself and keep communicating. Tell her how much you miss her and want to be with her. Tell her but show Her as well. Don't take her for granted. Good luck.
 
Niketalk gave you what it could. Get off and stop drinking that Henny.

kek @ stroke game though 
 
She has been talking to this dude already she just trying to give you a smooth out and this guy a smooth in so things don't go down with a heap of drama.


When someone in a relationship asks for a break they're really asking for permission to bang the person they're already banging or want to bang for a while and then return to you after they get their rocks off/pounded thoroughly.


Good luck and don't stop being a father to your child, if anything become a better one.

Yep.

Don't be a sucker OP. Tell her cool, you're with it and go find youself some help and some new p. Don't try to get into another relationship, keep things casual, but don't let her put you on a shelf while she's out there slurping up nut from her new dude that has his **** together. And don't get emotional in front of her about the break either. Turn your deep freeze on.
 
Thanks a lot guys
Figured things out with her
Gotta do the changes that will make me a better man for both my girls
 
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Im feeling this idea lol. Random question, are you an introvert or extrovert.
Can't remember where I saw it but there's a whole group of married ppl that live this lifestyle. If I remember right the specific couples were married for over a decade. Take vacations by themselves, go out to clubs, movies with other ppl, and then plan on a time to meet up and spend a few weeks together to just do the whole thing again after some time (obviously in between work).

Can't really knock the lifestyle.
Yea but are they doing things with the opposite sex on a "dating" basis? That isn't what I was in favor of.

And remember, I wasn't really speaking about marriage, more so relationships. Just give each other space from time to time.

"This weekend, I am going to chill by myself." No harm in that.

@NikeTalker23 , define successful relationship?
 
Im feeling this idea lol. Random question, are you an introvert or extrovert.
Can't remember where I saw it but there's a whole group of married ppl that live this lifestyle. If I remember right the specific couples were married for over a decade. Take vacations by themselves, go out to clubs, movies with other ppl, and then plan on a time to meet up and spend a few weeks together to just do the whole thing again after some time (obviously in between work).

Can't really knock the lifestyle.
Yea but are they doing things with the opposite sex on a "dating" basis? That isn't what I was in favor of.

And remember, I wasn't really speaking about marriage, more so relationships. Just give each other space from time to time.

"This weekend, I am going to chill by myself." No harm in that.

@NikeTalker23 , define successful relationship?
No. Why would they? They're married. Also they're not dating anyone. They just go out with friends and have fun and live their life.

I just took what you said which reminded me of an elevated version with married ppl.
 
Get your **** together, b.

You got a woman and a daughter. You shouldn't be out here getting drunk and having problems with the law.

Would YOU want to be with someone like that, knowing you have a child? And a home to take care of?
 
She has been talking to this dude already she just trying to give you a smooth out and this guy a smooth in so things don't go down with a heap of drama.


When someone in a relationship asks for a break they're really asking for permission to bang the person they're already banging or want to bang for a while and then return to you after they get their rocks off/pounded thoroughly.


Good luck and don't stop being a father to your child, if anything become a better one.

Yep.

Don't be a sucker OP. Tell her cool, you're with it and go find youself some help and some new p. Don't try to get into another relationship, keep things casual, but don't let her put you on a shelf while she's out there slurping up nut from her new dude that has his **** together. And don't get emotional in front of her about the break either. Turn your deep freeze on.

I see this, but understand OP's current behavior is unattractive, he's not leaving her much choice, he pushed her there. Don't leave him out of responsibility here. She's looking for better because she deserves better. Be better, you owe it to your family.
 
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Idk how people get tired of seeing each other in relationships if yall both have full time jobs

My woman and I live together and I only see her on the weekend and maybe 10 mins in the afternoon when she comes from work so I could go to sleep before my overnight shift

When I worked the daytime shift we only saw each other in the bed
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Have a life outside of your relationship so you don't wear it out
lol! that aint ur girlfriend that's a roommate when u have sex with occasionally.
 
I see this, but understand OP's current behavior is unattractive, he's not leaving her much choice, he pushed her there. Don't leave him out of responsibility here. She's looking for better because she deserves better. Be better, you owe it to your family.

I agree and am not dismissing him from it at all. I'm saying his actions pushed her in the direction of another dude (most likely) and he shouldn't trick himself into thinking it is what it isn't with her. She sounds like she's had enough and dude is setting himself up for a reality check if he thinks once she has already taken that "break" she's going to come back to him. All I'm saying is accept it for what it is, take the L, grow from it and move on.
 
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It's not the OK job, it's the drinking, try to get clean and you will most likely get her back, do you realize how much work it is too keep a addiction under wraps the constant lying, remorse , regret, gotta break dat asap n just focus on your recovery before you do lose her for good. Edit. Also u won't get introuble with the law once you handle the drinking I can promise you that.
 
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Idk how people get tired of seeing each other in relationships if yall both have full time jobs

My woman and I live together and I only see her on the weekend and maybe 10 mins in the afternoon when she comes from work so I could go to sleep before my overnight shift

When I worked the daytime shift we only saw each other in the bed :lol:

Have a life outside of your relationship so you don't wear it out
Me and my girl both have full time jobs
So when we off we like to chill
Go take the kids somewhere
go to a nice restaurant and eat
Take a weekend trip since we both are off on the weekends
But I will admit I do sometimes enjoy just kicking it without her
Every once in a while
Like going to a game with my patnas or something
 
Thanks a lot guys
Figured things out with her
Gotta do the changes that will make me a better man for both my girls


I'm happy you're making some progress, but I don't know about this.

Are you going to be hanging from a thread on some last chance tip because if so I hope you're perfect from here on out.

You need to talk to her about this and see where her head is at.

I don't think I could be in a relationship or with a female if this were the case because you'd be walking on egg shells hoping you don't mess up because it will be the last time.

If she's willing to stick it out and work with you and see you making progress I think things will be for the better.

Either way good luck and I hope you guys stick together as a family.
 
I agree and am not dismissing him from it at all. I'm saying his actions pushed her in the direction of another dude (most likely) and he shouldn't trick himself into thinking it is what it isn't with her. She sounds like she's had enough and dude is setting himself up for a reality check if he thinks once she has already taken that "break" she's going to come back to him. All I'm saying is accept it for what it is, take the L, grow from it and move on.
pretty much this. But we dont know the whole story. His girl suppose to have his side not kick him when he  is down... dude need to man up and tell his girl we have a kid and live together. Isnt no such things as breaks when it comes to our relationship..... Im going to do me you do you but as far as me leaving I'm staying here

Thats why i cant stand women.LOl The both of you can be broke begging bums, but as soon as a women think she got a come up and doing alright and have a few dudes in her face she want to put these stipulations on the relationship etc

basically that girl is telling you to get your stuff together. I wouldnt want her if i was you since she cant have your back.. Stack up your money, set her up as a bad mom with kids, pics videos etc, hire a lawyer for joint custody and kick her out or move out and find you a new down broad badder them her

Or work it out for now, wait till she fall offf or get fired from her job and then tell her the same thing she told you then leave LOL
 
Idk how people get tired of seeing each other in relationships if yall both have full time jobs

My woman and I live together and I only see her on the weekend and maybe 10 mins in the afternoon when she comes from work so I could go to sleep before my overnight shift


When I worked the daytime shift we only saw each other in the bed
:lol:


Have a life outside of your relationship so you don't wear it out
lol! that aint ur girlfriend that's a roommate when u have sex with occasionally.

Nah my roommate when I was single didn't cook or clean :lol:
 
I see this, but understand OP's current behavior is unattractive, he's not leaving her much choice, he pushed her there. Don't leave him out of responsibility here. She's looking for better because she deserves better. Be better, you owe it to your family.

I agree and am not dismissing him from it at all. I'm saying his actions pushed her in the direction of another dude (most likely) and he shouldn't trick himself into thinking it is what it isn't with her. She sounds like she's had enough and dude is setting himself up for a reality check if he thinks once she has already taken that "break" she's going to come back to him. All I'm saying is accept it for what it is, take the L, grow from it and move on.

True. I will say, I hear this from all the older married women too, chicks nowadays don't tough **** out. Like how you sposed to know a ***** if you ain't been through some **** with him? No wonder p is so easy these days and there are so many single women.


Come to think of it, women in ops girls shoes are some of the easiest pickings.
 
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True. I will say, I hear this from all the older married women too, chicks nowadays don't tough **** out. Like how you sposed to know a ***** if you ain't been through some **** with him? No wonder p is so easy these days and there are so many single women.


Come to think of it, women in ops girls shoes are some of the easiest pickings.

They sure the **** don't. I have a rider who has been my friend for a long time and when I was at my worst and struggling helped me get back on my feet. She even put up with a lot of my old issues that I parted with because I realized what I had and decided that player **** wasn't worth losing a good woman for.

And to that second bolded part, :smh: it's crazy how easy it is to take a dude's chick these days if you're just offering some good pipe and a listening ear. I haven't been out there in a while, but bruh, a lot of these chicks are not loyal AT ALL. I've seen so many situations first hand, being the other guy. It's really a trip.

Being fair though, dudes like I used to be are a big part of the problem too. Watch these so called "friends," coworkers and classmates. Chicks smash dudes they're familiar with. Trust that.
 
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I agree and am not dismissing him from it at all. I'm saying his actions pushed her in the direction of another dude (most likely) and he shouldn't trick himself into thinking it is what it isn't with her. She sounds like she's had enough and dude is setting himself up for a reality check if he thinks once she has already taken that "break" she's going to come back to him. All I'm saying is accept it for what it is, take the L, grow from it and move on.
pretty much this. But we dont know the whole story. His girl suppose to have his side not kick him when he  is down... dude need to man up and tell his girl we have a kid and live together. Isnt no such things as breaks when it comes to our relationship..... Im going to do me you do you but as far as me leaving I'm staying here

Thats why i cant stand women.LOl The both of you can be broke begging bums, but as soon as a women think she got a come up and doing alright and have a few dudes in her face she want to put these stipulations on the relationship etc

basically that girl is telling you to get your stuff together. I wouldnt want her if i was you since she cant have your back.. Stack up your money, set her up as a bad mom with kids, pics videos etc, hire a lawyer for joint custody and kick her out or move out and find you a new down broad badder them her

Or work it out for now, wait till she fall offf or get fired from her job and then tell her the same thing she told you then leave LOL
Based on this post, women likely cannot stand you as well. 
 
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