Do men compare themselves to other men?

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I've been a long time lurker here. The atmosphere is different from women's forums and as long as I avoid the booty threads I almost always enjoy the discussions. It's also good getting a male's perspective.

I ask because a few months back I was seeing someone. Things were great, I thought he was very intelligent, had a nice body, and a good personality. Well, we ended up having a big misunderstanding. He did some disrespectful things. I said a couple things that hit him hard and though with time I wanted to reconcile, he was officially done. Yet, he wanted to keep contact with me.

I'm in my mid 20s, nice car, good job, very pretty face, and I run. I'm a petite hourglass.

Fast forward, a couple of weeks after he said he started seeing someone else, I go to a festival. I can easily make him out in the front of the stage. And please, don't judge, but this really tall, big girl was hanging onto him. Just going by how she looked, she didn't seem to take care of herself. She didn't look clean but she did look young.

She was blonde but balding at the temples, dressed just badly, and her back area was broad, twice the size of his. She was like a triangle shape.

He left with her about 5 minutes after he saw me.

Back story. This is the only man I've ever been intimate with. I just reached a point where I felt I was ready after being very religious. Everything about the situation has made me very , very insecure. I've reasoned that she's probably a good person, has some history with him but I'm also a good person. I wonder if his issue was that I wasn't what he wanted sexually...IDK. I also have suspicions that he was always with her but broke it off with me when I drilled him about a couple of things. She just looked in love and comfortable for just 2 weeks.

Do men do this to themselves?
 
Of course we do. Anyone that says otherwise is in denial

6INP
 
I'm a girl. Not posting pics of my body. I don't want admirers or not. Just advice.

Though I can't say I didn't expect the request.
 
Lol at DC frontin like she's a dude?

OP - I like the way you came off so I'll try to answer your question.

Yes dudes compare themselves to other dudes. At least those of us wanting to make something of ourselves always want to see how we stack up against our peers.

I don't really see how this question relates to your situation.
Sometimes I can choose hanging with the less attractive of two girls for several reasons.
Better convo, better BJ, better sexual chemistry, cheaper date, more open minded...the list can go on.


Also...pics of you wouldn't hurt.
This is NT.
 
Trying to quote but failing at it right now.
He was acting evasive. Went on a vacation for a week with his family to the beach and wouldn't answer the phone. I called twice.

He was only communicating through texts so my instincts kicked in. It was typical but if I call...

I told him he was treating me like ****. That he needed to do better for the next person. I also mentioned that his house was filthy. So I know I bruised his ego.
 
What did you say to him that hit so hard if I might ask?


I lost my virginity to him. How can I do better that women who've been with several men?

We had good conversations. We would talk for hours. He would even hang out with me when I asked to just be friends. The whole month we spent apart he kept contact.
 
In my opinion, if the girl is as bad looking as you say she is then she must have some good qualities about herself that only he admires.If it didn't work out for you and him then let it be. Like you say, your a good person but he's done with you just move on and face the facts that he found somebody else. Looks do play a part  but its not about that half the time. But most women will say a man has downgraded after them. Men are not as judgmental as women are though. 

Btw i'ma girl too 
 
Quoted the wrong person. Anyway. Still applies.

I'm just saying that seeing him with the girl he was with brought up all kind of questions/ insecurities.
 
Yes, we do. No need for us to go into some long drawn out spiel on the topic.

What did you tell the guy for him to be officially done?

At face value, it seems that it had to have been something substantial that cut him deep. If that's the case, then you don't need to worry about that man or how he chooses to live his life subsequent of you. Instead of concerning yourself with how the new girl looks, you should wonder what she does for him, or how she treats him that makes him look beyond the superficiality of her appearance. You yourself claim to be attractive and ended up losing the one man you've been intimate with. Fix yourself, b.
 
OP mad her ex tryna smash princess Fiona in Shrek mode...lulz

Also what's the point of this thread? Perhaps it's just me, but I don't see the correlation between the "story" in your OP and the thread title/question.




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He was messing with both of you that other woman was he's wife if your that attractive that you say you are you will find someone else but post pics tho if not catfish to the tenth level
 
Look ma, obtuse back put it on son plain n simple. U was a virgin, I'm 90% sure u do t know how to work that thang. If she ugly as u say she know she got a lot to prove to these dudes. U know who pinky is? She probably give that pinky dome. Sex just way better and she probably don't nag and bug him while he on the beach with his peoples. Don't complain about HIS crib or nothing, just shut her mouth and enjoys her man
 
You giving the other girl too much credit.
Everyone talking like she could be his new wifey when in reality she could just be the bust down du jour.

You don't know the details OP...

How old are you guys?

Also...Pics wouldn't hurt.
 
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