So my Mom doesn't enjoy my Dad, and expects me not to either?

• Nov 27, 2014

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jayzz

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So my parents are divorced.
I live with my mom.
My dad lives with my aunt (his sister)
My mom has a boyfriend
My dad prolly got hella h03s

So here's what happened.
It started this morning, I drove to the store for her and came back.
I asked "Is dad coming?"
"No, why would your dad be coming?"
Me-"Because he's my dad???"
"Well what does that mean?"
Me-" That he should be here???"
"No because (insert her boyfriends name here) is coming and that would be akward"
Me-" So what is he doing for Thanksgiving?"
"He said he was going to stay home and just eat because he was tired and didn't feel like going anywhere"
My sister jumps in
"Why don't we bring him a plate?
Me-"Yeah let's do that"
Mom-bs I didn't care to listen to.

Fast forward to after dinner, I fix him a plate, and I'm looking fir the pie.

"Mom where da sweet potato pie at?"
Mom-" Don't be sending him my pie"
*Ignored, found the pie myself and put it on a plate"

Fast forward to when my family is leaving, my cousin is asking me do I want to go out with him and his friends.
"Nah I can't go, me and my sisters are going to my dads house to bring him a plate"
Mom-" You might not make it to do that"
Me-" I'm bringing my dad a plate, even if I have to drive myself"
Mom-" Shut up, you always runnin off at the mouth, just be quiet"
*Long stare at her*

*Walk away*

It's like she doesn't want me to care for my pops, the dude that raised me for a good portion of my life.

Was I wrong anywhere in here? I just needed to vent, sorry if you don't care about my problems, ignore it.

Pics for the fiends

 

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a blinkin

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Where does your barber tie into this story?

 

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jayzz

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Yo this isn't the time. Save your jokes for when I'm not pissed

 

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a blinkin

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Seriously though. No, you weren't wrong. Divorces can be hard on people. It's not uncommon for someone to harbor resentment towards an ex-spouse. Sounds like this is the case with your mom. I don't know the deets that lead to their divorce, so I can't speak on why she has disdain for the man. But he's your dad. Wait for her to cool down and have a mature talk with her letting her know that you'll always have love for your dad, whether she does or not. Make it clear that her not having anything to do with him is her choice, but she can't force that decision on you as well.

 

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Pics of ur mom

 

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a blinkin

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Jayzz said:

Yo this isn't the time. Save your jokes for when I'm not pissed

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Easy champ. It's jokes. You know the deal when it comes to posting on NT. Lighten up.

 

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a blinkin said:

Easy champ. It's jokes. You know the deal when it comes to posting on NT. Lighten up.

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My bad, I'm heated man.

 

• Nov 27, 2014

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Divorced parents are always tough. You weren't wrong, but you weren't exactly right either. You gotta understand your parents may still have issues that were never resolved and it makes them having an amicable relationship almost impossible.

Do your best to respect your mother's wishes while still being a good son to your pops.

I feel like your mother saying your dad couldn't get any pie was a sexual innuendo

 

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a blinkin said:

Where does your barber tie into this story?

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Wooooow. This is.not the time for jokes man. Amh

 

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are you 8? how does you mother talk to you like this? address that.

 

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I know the situation sucks bro. But let cooler heads prevail. Just talk to your mom my dude. Wait til things calm down between you two first. That's really all that you can do in this case.

 

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DCAllAmerican said:

Wooooow. This is.not the time for jokes man. Amh

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Jeeze you all are a touchy lot today.

 

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At least they're divorced. My parents have been goin through a real rough patch, most of it I've missed being at college. Came home for break and its been hella awkward and they got in a big fight right before dinner. Feel like sayin "don't stay together for me, if you aren't going to work out end it because this is making it worse". Feel bad, I also feel like they always think your choosing sides. 

 

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Your moms still has (romantic) feelz for yo dad.

 

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andretti

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Your not wrong man

That's your pops and you just wanted to do sometjing small n ya moms was in the feels

That's her problem .

 

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do ur thing brah, you aint hurting your mother by caring for you father. if she claims to be then shes selfish.

 

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If things went down the way you described; no you weren't in the wrong. I didn't get the vibe that she necessarily expects you not to like him as well though. Just that she wants nothing to do with him, even if excluding him impedes on your relationship with him. Which is lame imo.

 

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All honesty some things should be kept to yourself or with family/ close friends. Hopefully things get better.

 

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Jayzz said:

Freeze said:

are you 8? how does you mother talk to you like this? address that.

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I got 1 more year till I'm out, I'm saving up funds so I can dip like my dad did. My dad drives trucks so he's rarely home, she knows I can't say ish back because she can just kick me out and I won't have anywhere to go. Next year she can kiss my ***.

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My man. I respect that. So often guys in that position don't recognize the pecking order and end up staying on their friends couch. Just bid your time. Stack your chips and prepare to bounce. I suggest you keep it lowkey though. It'd be like like your current employer know you're looking for other jobs and if your mom is already kinda feisty, she might catch those feels when she see's your intentions. Just stay chill, until you're able to make your move, then one day she comes home from work and all of your furniture is gone like an abduction.

 

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You're not wrong at all OP. And props to you for bringing your pops a plate. Im sure he appreciated it for real. 

 

 

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WorldGoneMad said:

You're not wrong at all OP. And props to you for bringing your pops a plate. Im sure you appreciated it for real. 

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WorldGoneMad said:

You're not wrong at all OP. And props to you for bringing your pops a plate. Im sure you appreciated it for real. 

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This.

Yo pops prolly be like


Where you fd up tho is bringing him yo momma sweet potato pie.
U know damb well not to do that.

 

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Freeze said:

My man. I respect that. So often guys in that position don't recognize the pecking order and end up staying on their friends couch. Just bid your time. Stack your chips and prepare to bounce. I suggest you keep it lowkey though. It'd be like like your current employer know you're looking for other jobs and if your mom is already kinda feisty, she might catch those feels when she see's your intentions. Just stay chill, until you're able to make your move, then one day she comes home from work and all of your furniture is gone like an abduction.

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'Thanks man

sckid20 said:

This.

Yo pops prolly be like


Where you fd up tho is bringing him yo momma sweet potato pie.
U know damb well not to do that.

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Ok this actually made me laugh

 

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You never know the details of an adult relationship, so good to remain neutral. Just remind her you love her, but you still love the man as well. Don't approach your mom heated on some **** boy ****. Matter of fact starting with a hug, kiss and a "you know I love you right?" Will go a lot smoother.