Seeing Someone for the Last Time

Good riddens.

She really wants to know if she can still be a big part of my life, someone I can talk to about my day, go to for advice, and to tell things to when I don't feel comfortable telling anyone else. She wants to make sure I'm okay and I know I won't be. She wants me to make a decision.

She'll probably ask me today in person and as of right now I don't think I can give her a straight answer. It's something I'll need to think more about.

What do I do if and when she brings it up?

Man this ain't quite the same as what I'm dealing with but there's elements:
I had a girl I was officially not with since last May when things collapsed completely, loved that woman though even through all Her craziness & the drama that came from it.

We were friends fore a couple years before we got together & I told her I wanted to go back to working on our friendship base first after a while(basically after all the drama we had there was no us getting along, she was at a point she wanted to get married but she didn't like the person I was trying to become & it was like we became strangers that were in love...best way to describe that situation shortly). I told her without us getting along we couldn't start a family or anything like that but she still wanted to make things work as disconnected as they were. That was all fine but we didn't get along or coexis & fell out after a few weeks for one reason or another all the time..

Every time I'd feel the need to say my goodbyes, tell her how I felt, why I felt that way & why I felt things were getting to the point they were, I'd tell her how much I loved her & all that. Idk if she listened(actually I know she didn't but I like to think she did) but I did it more for my own sanity so I didn't have to wonder about words never spoken.

I bring this up because the last time was 3 weeks ago, instead of doing the normal thing I just said I put her immediate on the block list & haven't looked back. Just abruptly made the switch & started listening to IDFWU whatever that Big Sean song is. Sometimes you want to do right & say your part but you can't always have that opportunity, but if it's there I say you take it 100% of the time. It kills me every day that things had to end the way they did because nothing else ever worked, don't let that be you unless it needs to be. Always just speak from the heart & leave it out there

It's gon suck. Don't feel bad taking time away from her to heal and cry it out. She probably won't understand, but she had time to think over and make that decision, and you'll need time to deal. Get your space, meet new people, check in with her when you feel better. Plus at 20 it's rare that she'll be it, not at that age/stage at least. But as a man you don't have time to dwell, life isn't accommodating to us like that.

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If neither of ya'll are dead then there is no such thing as good bye or "the end".

One of the best threads in a while. Situations like these are far too common and it's nice to know others have gone through it and came out better in the end.

kickstart said:

If neither of ya'll are dead then there is no such thing as good bye or "the end".

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that's what I thought. It's not over yet

Man I can relate to OP to an extent.  The day I got arrested was the last day I spoke to shawty.  Due to my severe circumstances, I pretty much had to cut ties with everyone except my family.  There was just once she contacted me and wrote a pretty devastating email.  Shed a few tears, and all I could reply back was to just wait for me.  It's been four months, and I still carry hope but all I can do is be the best man I can be now.  So when it ever comes time that I see her in the future, I can just be like ***** I made it.

If you love something, let it go.

If it comes back, then it's yours to keep.

To live is to suffer.

To survive is to find meaning in that suffering

I thought you were talking about someone on their death bed.

Young love doesn't last. (Had to spit another cliché)

life is harsh bro . I know that  well.....

had three of those situations already gets worst everytime  *

I thank myself everyday that im over the last one ...........

i'm going through the same thing. 3 year relationship.. and just about a month ago she told me she needs to find herself. mind you her best friend just died, she's graduating and just turned 25 so I get it..but it doesnt mean it doesnt hurt.

you gotta let her go and have the freedom to choose u again. tell her how you feel. listen to how she feels and allow her to express her feelings towards you. if you dont want to end it tell her that but also let her know that you cant lie to yourslef and accept a downgraded relationship. if she loves you she will come back but if not she did you a favor because being with someone that has resentment towards you is no fun



 

"Oh, you out?  iight gurh ...nah you good, NO serious, I'm FINE, catch you later..."
*smile like I'm still listening, not really paying attention*
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