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You're just justifying lying to someone. Has nothing to do with the "meaning" of love. It's all about the commitment you made.
Admitting that you cheated vol. the right thing to do or selfishly ridding yourself of guilt
You're just justifying lying to someone. Has nothing to do with the "meaning" of love. It's all about the commitment you made.
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Prenups fix all that.
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she was just looking for any reason to bounce. tyrone prolly been with her on the side, now she gets the house/ alimony/ child support, and she can be with tyrone whenever.
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I would never ever tell even if we broke up because then i would be known as a cheater. That is one thing a man just dont do
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Uhhhh.... but you ARE a cheater. So what does it matter if you're known as a cheater.
It doesn't really make sense to me that you can claim to love and care for someone while consciously choosing to hurt them in one of the worst ways possible.
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Preface: My only experience cheating by its several definitions is going on a break, hooking up with somebody else, and then breaking it off with the girlfriend.
The difference between being one/being known as one should be pretty easy to figure out:
Being a cheater: you've done it, and there's one trail assuming you're not going around letting everybody know yourself: the girl you cheated with & whoever she tells.
Being known as a cheater: you've done it, there's two trails (the one that's added is the more dangerous of the two you'd have to think): the girl you cheated with & whoever she tells + your girlfriend and whoever she tells while in a rough place emotionally.
If you're about being up front and honest, well then just do whatever your gut says but if you're about minimizing risk then cutting the "trails" in half while also getting rid of the one that's more dangerous would be the most logical move.
Known as a cheater means the trail is now completely out of your control.
You could cost yourself other opportunities elsewhere with a girl you really feel great about who won't give you a chance, because you wanted to be up front with a girl you were willing to cheat on.
The difference between being one/being known as one should be pretty easy to figure out:
Being a cheater: you've done it, and there's one trail assuming you're not going around letting everybody know yourself: the girl you cheated with & whoever she tells.
Being known as a cheater: you've done it, there's two trails (the one that's added is the more dangerous of the two you'd have to think): the girl you cheated with & whoever she tells + your girlfriend and whoever she tells while in a rough place emotionally.
If you're about being up front and honest, well then just do whatever your gut says but if you're about minimizing risk then cutting the "trails" in half while also getting rid of the one that's more dangerous would be the most logical move.
Known as a cheater means the trail is now completely out of your control.
You could cost yourself other opportunities elsewhere with a girl you really feel great about who won't give you a chance, because you wanted to be up front with a girl you were willing to cheat on.
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Although you do have a point of definition. It doesn't matter here... even if you cheated only once, or cheated a hundred times.
If you get caught, you will be known as a cheater in my opinion.
Your ex would let others know that you cheated on her, and consequently people would assume that you've done it in the past.
If you get caught, you will be known as a cheater in my opinion.
Your ex would let others know that you cheated on her, and consequently people would assume that you've done it in the past.
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I'm a firm believer in lying to the ones you love and telling the truth or w/e to those that don't really matter in these sort of relationships.
I can see how somebody sees it as selfish cuz you're technically just hurting this person deep. It doesn't necessarily have to be about ridding yourself of guilt though. I've seen the truth come out in arguments where it's a tool to harm.
Of course you probably wouldn't cheat on the person you claim to love but telling them about it kinda compounds the pain you're inflicting.
I can see how somebody sees it as selfish cuz you're technically just hurting this person deep. It doesn't necessarily have to be about ridding yourself of guilt though. I've seen the truth come out in arguments where it's a tool to harm.
Of course you probably wouldn't cheat on the person you claim to love but telling them about it kinda compounds the pain you're inflicting.
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**** jenny and carly 
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**** jenny and carly
Zack out here ruining lives.
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small richard zack 
**** jenny and carly
Zack out here ruining lives.
Tyrone and John.
John, though! That MFing POS! You think you know a guy.
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don't forget X
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cheated on two of my ex's and if they ever asked me i'd probably deny it. not that i'll ever get back with them, but I still wouldn't do it. unnecessary to bring up something so long ago
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Ya'll better listen to Jody.
I make love to you.... but **** other girls from time to time! I don't know why, but I just do....
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No I didn't know what she meant. What if my girl doesn't think I'm faithful and honest?
matter fact my girl doesn't think I'm faithful but she knows I'm honest.That's the real problem here, ppl aren't themselves in the beginning on their relationship and create a illusion that isn't real. If your girl know what it is from the beginning none of this disloyalty/dishonest/disrespectful stuff would come up.
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Never cheated on my current chick, but was a heathen in the past. I guess its all about the respect level you have for your relationship. I think they were both comparable people and personalities, but I would be far more inclined to tell my current chick, if I did slip up vs. my ex.
I think us discussing the issue, would be me giving her and myself closure, moreso than any form of guilt removal. When you choose to share your life with someone in certain ways, its usually in both parties to be adults about the occurrences within said relationship.
I think us discussing the issue, would be me giving her and myself closure, moreso than any form of guilt removal. When you choose to share your life with someone in certain ways, its usually in both parties to be adults about the occurrences within said relationship.
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You don't understand. It's the equivalent of lying to her for 10 years. That is how women interpret. It may or may not have been different if he'd come clean immediately but the man waited 10 years. 10. Years. That's lying everyday for 10 years. Every time she tells her girlfriends she's got a faithful man who wouldn't hurt her, it was a lie.
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How about allowing the person your with to decide whether or not to stay with you after knowing all the necessary information.
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Exactly.
If your girl was messing around on you, I'd think you'd want to know to make the same informed decision of whether to stay or go.
Dude is dumb for even telling at that point... over 10 years, already married with 2 kids.
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