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What's your opinion on White parents adopting children of a different race?
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At times there is a thin line between good intentions and ulterior motives and I do think some adoption cases fall under the ulterior motives category but at the same time there's a child who needs a loving home and they are provided that. The pros outweigh the cons severely, if you want to call them that.
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as long as they love them. give these kids a chance/opportunity in life
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What are these ulterior motives y'all are eluding to?
As for white families and black families having differences - I think EVERY family has differences.
You trying' to tell me that you never been to one of your boys houses (of the same race) as a kid and not trip out cause of the weird differences they had compared to your family?
As for white families and black families having differences - I think EVERY family has differences.
You trying' to tell me that you never been to one of your boys houses (of the same race) as a kid and not trip out cause of the weird differences they had compared to your family?
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I would say ulterior motives relates more with celebrities. It's just another way to be seen but like I said beforehand, the pros far outweigh the cons of that situation. Kids need a home and they are providing them with one.
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I'd say the vast majority of folks out there adopting children have the child's best interest at heart and genuinely want to be parents. The adoption process itself is long, stressful, and scrutinizing. Obviously, like anything else in life, there are going to be exceptions to the norm. Some people just want to see the potential 'evil' in everything.
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Differing POV = blind, deaf, and dumb.
Maybe you should realize that not everyone's situation is the same and motives can be good/genuine during the adoption process.
Not everything in this word has to have an ulterior motive, bro.
Na, I agree with u on that.
Some parents just say give me what you got.
Im talkin about the Angelina Jolies of the world who purposely seek out black and African babies.
That's the thing, I don't know, but it's gotta be one.
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Whats the problem here? were all the same regardless of race
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LOL
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To be fair to Jemele, I'm not sure if she was alluding to celebs or to regular people.
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I think that if a couple can give a child a great loving home than their race shouldn't matter..but also most people choose to adopt in other countries is because it is sometimes easier than in our own country which is sad because there are so many children in need of homes here.
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Ill put it like this. I won't question the motive for adopting the child. If the parents the adopt the child provide it with a loving home and are good parents then that's what matter most.
However its probably best for the first option to be black foster parents to adopt black kids, white foster parents to adopt white kids and so on, and for the parents to be a straight male and female couple.
That said, if they can't find a sufficient first option, then nothing wrong with a white couple adopting a black kid if their doing it for the right reasons, or a gay couple adopting a kid if they provide it with a loving home.
Preferably they adopt American kids though instead of that brad and Angelina nonsense.
However its probably best for the first option to be black foster parents to adopt black kids, white foster parents to adopt white kids and so on, and for the parents to be a straight male and female couple.
That said, if they can't find a sufficient first option, then nothing wrong with a white couple adopting a black kid if their doing it for the right reasons, or a gay couple adopting a kid if they provide it with a loving home.
Preferably they adopt American kids though instead of that brad and Angelina nonsense.
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Unless you can provide the same type of love and stability they can for the child, regardless of motive, have a seat.
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Not following the thread, but I recently had a conversation with someone that brought up an interesting point.
It's ironic that society is more uncomfortable with minority parents(primarily black) adopting white babies than the opposite, because in reality minorities are far more likely to be equipped, from a cultural standpoint, to raise a white child.
It's ironic that society is more uncomfortable with minority parents(primarily black) adopting white babies than the opposite, because in reality minorities are far more likely to be equipped, from a cultural standpoint, to raise a white child.
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On one hand, it's good that a child will be cared for instead of possibly growing up in the system until they're of age.
On the other hand, it is unnerving to think about when the child is older how they will be raised and what some parents simply won't be able to teach or explain correctly.
On the other hand, it is unnerving to think about when the child is older how they will be raised and what some parents simply won't be able to teach or explain correctly.
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knew a chick that was raised by white folks.......long story short is I couldn't stand that ***** and she actually had the nerve to call me a -er
poor soul was ruined by WS
she's somewhere in America being someones bedwench
poor soul was ruined by WS
she's somewhere in America being someones bedwench
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and to the people who think celebs like angelina jolie and brad pitt are adopting kids for ulterior motives.. what? 
have you seen the long list of charities and NPO's these two are involved or donated to? that right there should tell you a lot about their motives.
furthermore, i'm 100% sure that you guys haven't been to or visited a third world country. really brings perspective to the situation.
have you seen the long list of charities and NPO's these two are involved or donated to? that right there should tell you a lot about their motives. furthermore, i'm 100% sure that you guys haven't been to or visited a third world country. really brings perspective to the situation.
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I always had adpotion on my mind and most likely would adopt a baby from Ukraine, Syria or some 3rd world country over in the Middle East. I'd do it after my first child is born though..primarily cause i remember thinkin back as a kid how cool it'd be to call someone else of a different orgin a brother/sister and genuinely mean it. And hell who knows, maybe they could grow up and help break the spread of racism just by having that special upbringing
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please explain.
This post is so full of faulty logic, I don't even know where to begin.
if a black child can be adopted by either a white couple or a black couple and both are good parents and in a stable living situation, which is the better option?
if a child can be adopted by either a straight couple or a gay couple and both are good parents and have their stuff together, which is the better option?
i'm not throwing shade at white parents adopting black kids, or gay couples adopting kids, but if its an equally good option parent wise of the kids own race or a couple that's straight that's the better option.
you should learn how to read a post correctly or think before you post something stupid, and if your going to talk stupid explain your faulty reasoning.
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No point of attempting to explain. People are FORCING themselves to ignore the race element of this whole process.
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Isnt that what people want tho?... To ignore the differences between people?.... Race, gender, sexual preferance, and anything else?...
That's the only way our society will flourish... And the best/quickest way "integration"... White families raising black kids and black families raising black kids... Lbgt couples raising children of any sort...
It's the children that make the difference on the future.... And for these kids to be color blind and non-caring to people's sexual choices.... Gives them such an advantage of producing a society where these things truly don't matter... Because they don't at all...
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Its nothing wrong with any of that. It just shouldn't be the first option imo.
Like I said, if a black kid is up for adoption and they can't find any capable black parents willing to provide the kid with a loving home, then by all means let another race adopt them if their able and willing.
Like I said, if a black kid is up for adoption and they can't find any capable black parents willing to provide the kid with a loving home, then by all means let another race adopt them if their able and willing.
