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Your time of greatness is coming OP, keep pushing my dude. 
Do anyone here feel like their life is at a standstill?
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Don't give up bro. I've been going through the same thing you have in a way. I've been applying to different Law Enforcement agencies since 2008 and all I've gotten is rejection after rejection saying "something in my background" but im clean as a whistle. I got really down esp. after doing a bunch of traveling and wasting a lot of money. I decided to join the military last year and I'm now a cop in The United States Air Force Reserve and have a security clearance. I'm back at applying to different agencies hoping they pick me up this time with my Military background. I'm 29 now and turn 30 next month if that helps. Again dont give up man. Stay clean and out of trouble.
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I felt this way for a long time before realizing I needed to take risks and dive back into school. Right now I'm working full time at a decent job while going to school to ginah my degree.
Don't just say you want a job. Be proactive. Do something. Make changes. Make a timeline. Set goals for yourself.
I know the feeling of not having or being where you want to be. You have to set realistic time frames for what you want. Be willing to move and follow the jobs if they aren't in your area.
Take a risk.
Don't just say you want a job. Be proactive. Do something. Make changes. Make a timeline. Set goals for yourself.
I know the feeling of not having or being where you want to be. You have to set realistic time frames for what you want. Be willing to move and follow the jobs if they aren't in your area.
Take a risk.
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^^^huh lol
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kinda glad i found this thread cause ive been feeling the same way, although havent gone through as much as you
i jst turned 25 and graduated with a BAS back in december. i still live at home, i work as a bartender, no gf, rarely go out, and have been watching, literally, all my closet friends start families, buy houses, and all that. for very brief moments, it does get to me that I need to, and should, be doing more with my life. sometimes i feel like everyone is moving on without me and that feeling of not doing enough suuucckkss
BUT... as soon as i stop feeling sorry for myself, I realize that i am ALOT better off than most of my friends and people i work with. A majority of people i know are having unplanned kids, are in relationships that they constantly question, dont have degrees or even bothered with college, are letting themselves go (physically and mentally), and work jobs that they constantly complain about. At the end of the day, im only 3 months out of college, the job I do have paid for every cent of college, im financially stable, and i have the time and resources to travel, start new hobbies, and do basically everything that i wanna do
moral of the story: dont ever settle and keep pushing on
rant over
i jst turned 25 and graduated with a BAS back in december. i still live at home, i work as a bartender, no gf, rarely go out, and have been watching, literally, all my closet friends start families, buy houses, and all that. for very brief moments, it does get to me that I need to, and should, be doing more with my life. sometimes i feel like everyone is moving on without me and that feeling of not doing enough suuucckkss
BUT... as soon as i stop feeling sorry for myself, I realize that i am ALOT better off than most of my friends and people i work with. A majority of people i know are having unplanned kids, are in relationships that they constantly question, dont have degrees or even bothered with college, are letting themselves go (physically and mentally), and work jobs that they constantly complain about. At the end of the day, im only 3 months out of college, the job I do have paid for every cent of college, im financially stable, and i have the time and resources to travel, start new hobbies, and do basically everything that i wanna do
moral of the story: dont ever settle and keep pushing on
rant over
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This. Don't let social media FB, IG, twitter fool you. Remember, your peers and other ppl you see on social media post and say what they want you to see and hear. No one is exempt from problems and struggle so no need to be naive in that regard and no need to let that get you down. Most of the time it's for their own validation. Bro, you seem like you have a good head on your shoulders so Keep it up!!! Millennials tend to be more impatient and expect more for less and part of that has to do with things like, technology and social media and the desires, due to society, to ascertain materialistic things thinking that will make us happy. I know it's hard, believe me i do. I come from a single parent household of 3 siblings all different fathers, grew up poor, mom on welfare, food stamps etc. I've been to 13 different schools as a result, got laughed at for not having nice clothes and shoes throughout. i moved out when I was 17 and told myself that if I'd ever have kids and a family, that I'm going to do WHATEVER it took to give them the life I never had and I'm going to take care of my mom as well and she'll never have to worry about sh**. Now, I'm 30 yrs old, married, have a 5yr old son and a daughter on the way in June. I have a great government job that pays well, my wife works and makes great money as well we own 2 cars, and we're in talks with realtors about 2 properties, one we'll live in and one we'll rent out. Now if I left out all the struggles the ish sounds like the ideal life, but if you know the full story there's more of an appreciation for the grind. I say that to say this, in getting where I have, it took work and a lot of it. More no's than yes', more failures than successions. No matter what you have to ALWAYS have to believe that there's greener pastures ahead but even more so that belief has to be reciprocated with a parallel work ethic. You got a degree bro!!! that's more than few hundred million people can say. You can go places. The NTers believe in you!! It's natural to fell this way hell we all do but you can't wallow in it too long or it'll break you down. Hope this motivates you....Peace!!
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Stopped reading after the first paragraph.
But why didn't you go out to the shooting range to practice? Especially if you've never held a gun/fired one before.
Edit: But I'm in the same boat that's why I clicked the thread title.
Found that unplugging for a few months is the best way to keep sane.
Best of luck to everyone.
But why didn't you go out to the shooting range to practice? Especially if you've never held a gun/fired one before.
Edit: But I'm in the same boat that's why I clicked the thread title.
Found that unplugging for a few months is the best way to keep sane.
Best of luck to everyone.
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thr last part. as long as u have drivw, thats all u need.
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Real Deep, I must say.
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needed this right now. thanks and repped
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I'm around the same age as you are, OP. I became an optimist several years ago and nowgo by the thought of the sun always coming out after the rain. Even though you don't feel like you've done much so far, I'm sure if you compare yourself to your classmates, you're in a decent place.
You're motivated so keep feeding the fire. You have to fall a few times before you can learn to walk. You have one thing a lot of people don't or lost along the way, and that's hunger. A lot of people feel privileged, especially when it comes to recent grads looking for jobs. There's been times where I reached out to my alma mater to give back to the program and would get new hires in. Kids coming out with a degree think they are in a position to call shots...ie I don't want to drive more than 20 miles, I want to make at least $xx,xxx a year, etc.
I used to feel this way a couple of years ago. I thought my MBA would be my golden ticket into all of the cool jobs I wanted, but I got a splash of reality.
The advices I can give you, or to anyone else, are to: 1. stay with like minded folks...this is huge. If you're trying to go places, you don't need deadweights holding you down or not supporting you, 2. network whenever you can, you wouldn't believe how far this goes....especially in the digital age, I think the degree of separation is less than 5 right now, and 3. never give up.
These are the rules I now live by. Some may call it stupid or unrealistic, but I beg to differ.
You're motivated so keep feeding the fire. You have to fall a few times before you can learn to walk. You have one thing a lot of people don't or lost along the way, and that's hunger. A lot of people feel privileged, especially when it comes to recent grads looking for jobs. There's been times where I reached out to my alma mater to give back to the program and would get new hires in. Kids coming out with a degree think they are in a position to call shots...ie I don't want to drive more than 20 miles, I want to make at least $xx,xxx a year, etc.
I used to feel this way a couple of years ago. I thought my MBA would be my golden ticket into all of the cool jobs I wanted, but I got a splash of reality.
The advices I can give you, or to anyone else, are to: 1. stay with like minded folks...this is huge. If you're trying to go places, you don't need deadweights holding you down or not supporting you, 2. network whenever you can, you wouldn't believe how far this goes....especially in the digital age, I think the degree of separation is less than 5 right now, and 3. never give up.
These are the rules I now live by. Some may call it stupid or unrealistic, but I beg to differ.
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starting a family at 25 :x :x :x
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Yeah, I'm not reading all that...
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Keep at it. For starters, Criminal Justice is a crappy degree if you're looking for a job you can live comfortably off of. I learned this the hard way--my first job in the field paid $8.50/hr. And even when you get a "real" job, you won't be making much. So if that doesn't bother you, keep on pushing. It took me 2+ years to find a good job in the CJ field, but I've never been about that cop life. So if you're looking to get into law enforcement, you'll probably find a job sooner.
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2012-now has been a rough start to my adulthood life. I kept slacking and ********ing thru school (not a book smart but can work with my hands) and caught up in dumb **** (my past low key haunts me) wasting time working odd jobs (a blessing) but there's always more out there for me once I step out and explore and travel. Currently aiming for service in the NAVY or Marines in December.
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I'm 23 but to the young folks reading please please stay in school (Do not chase fast money period jail sucks) focus work hard and graduate go to college/trade school because in today's world a high school diploma does not cut it anymore you need degrees for real employers to take you seriously. All importantly trust GOD Always[emoji]128588[/emoji][emoji]128588[/emoji][emoji]128591[/emoji][emoji]128591[/emoji][emoji]128591[/emoji][emoji]128591[/emoji]
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same thank you for encouragement God bless both of yall in everything you do
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You wouldn't be the only one. I've been out of school legitimately for 3 years and had to switch my whole heart and go in another direction. Spent a lot of time wanting to be a layer, now I'm trying to get certs in IT related things and project management. U gotta keep pushing, and stay off of social media, that crop isn't any good for you. On top of it making you feel inadequate, all of the hogwash on there dumbs you down. Makes it hard to focus on your goals
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Graduated in 2008.
$7k left on my BS in Biology.
Been working in dermatology since 2007. Recently realized I don't want to continue on the path I'm on. Not sure what to do next though
$7k left on my BS in Biology.
Been working in dermatology since 2007. Recently realized I don't want to continue on the path I'm on. Not sure what to do next though
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I'm sitting here sipping this Henny to drown my sorrows and felt like I needed to get this off my chest. I've never told anyone this, not even my closest homies.
- After suffering through unemployment for most of 2014, I found a job to get me back on my feet. It's a job, one that is rather dull, but pays decently.
- Although I just turned 23, mindlessly clicking away and repeating the same tasks everyday has really negatively impacted other areas of my life.
- I've grown restless even after trying new yambs and hobbies to get my mind away.
- While I'm grateful to just be employed, I've realized the hard way that a job =/= career. NT gave me flak for having $50k saved up, but I've learned that money only goes so far.
What's the point I'm trying to make? I guess it'd be to never get stuck/complacent.
- After suffering through unemployment for most of 2014, I found a job to get me back on my feet. It's a job, one that is rather dull, but pays decently.
- Although I just turned 23, mindlessly clicking away and repeating the same tasks everyday has really negatively impacted other areas of my life.
- I've grown restless even after trying new yambs and hobbies to get my mind away.
- While I'm grateful to just be employed, I've realized the hard way that a job =/= career. NT gave me flak for having $50k saved up, but I've learned that money only goes so far.
What's the point I'm trying to make? I guess it'd be to never get stuck/complacent.
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I just need to grow up
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working a job i hate just to pay the bills i went to school for...
its funny though, paying my loans back IS my main motivator at this point, not sure if thats good or bad...ahh well I've wiped out almost 90% of what was almost a six figure debt in a little over 4 years, so at least i got that going for me
its funny though, paying my loans back IS my main motivator at this point, not sure if thats good or bad...ahh well I've wiped out almost 90% of what was almost a six figure debt in a little over 4 years, so at least i got that going for me
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the last part SOML
Same situation too just turned 23 Tuesday I'm guilty of complacency for a majority of my adult life so far. Flunked out my first year of college in 2011-2012 because of poor grades & distractions & lost a job. Past 3 years been floating odd jobs to stay afloat. I currently work two jobs both very strenuous with ehhh so so pay. Every day I tell myself for how long will I keep doing this it's more out there for me for real. So planning to enlist in the Navy in December and see what doors will open for me then. One thing I've learned in this life always keep busy because once you have slow moments that your not doing anything that complacency sets in deep and you don't desire change at all....STAY OPTIMISTIC BRO GOD forever makes a way for us...blessings
