Did anyone else become significantly less competitive/ambitious/career-driven after adulthood

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I definitely can say that that has been the case for me... coming ahead of others (in life in general or sports or any given activity) used to be a such a huge thing for me before... proving and displaying that I was the best and better than others...Now, I couldn't care less. I'm much more happy in general so... I guess I don't need to compensate, perhaps ? I can't pinpoint what that change in attitude is exactly due to, but i was definitely more competitive and ambitious during my teenage. 
 
Idk if this counts
But what 2pac said at the end of kendrick lemars song in that "interview"
On how black men only have a certain amount of years of fight in EM
I know I not using the exact wording
But I kinda feel like that described me
 
When you aint got responsibility or a care in the world you will fight for everything.

As we get older we get wiser but also jaded


You realize that you might be the best but then someone comes along who is better, so what is the use.

You also stop trying to empress everyone

Though you believed that ambition/competitiveness was for your own satisfaction, it wasnt

You just wanted to look good in front of everyone and now you dont care

And honestly after you've tried so many things and nothing came out the way you wanted you lose hope, you dream smaller



AKA "The state of being realistic"
 
I have noticed his in basketball. I used to be ultra competitive

Now as I see 30 approaching, that attack the rim life ain't for me anymore.

I'm jacking 3s now, if they don't fall "meh, I'll get them next time" :smokin
 
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I just pick my battles better. Still go hard in the things that matter and street fighter :lol:









:nerd: yall don't want this work on psn
 
I became more career driven once I left college and entered the work world. 
 
Went to school all your life just so you can work for someone else and make a decent salary. Nah man, that's not enough. I am sketching up drawings on clothing I want to create. I am also lookin' for people to teach me the fundamentals and basics of making beats. I just want to know the start up stuff and then I'll take it from there.
 
I think because its more difficult to direct your ambition when you're an adult.

As a youth you have an easy to follow blueprint...get good grades...go to college...get a good job.

As an adult, you've reached the end of that road metaphorically speaking, and you need to carve your own path for what your life is going to be about.
 
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^Very good perspective.

I think some of the problem is the societal norms, which have been ingrained in our mindsets from the moment we started going to school (and other factors), that tell you that you've fallen short of your potential as a human if you don't hold a certain status or achieved such and such by a certain age. Then overcoming that and resetting life, essentially, seems too draining moving forward so we're stuck on autopilot. Physically, but mainly on a mental level.

All it takes is a re-moldining of that perception in order to achieve what your new and matured self recognizes as success. Easier said than done, but that's why the cliché of finding a passion or following your passion becomes integral moving forward.

Some of us...most of us, have disappointed our past self, but it could simply be because of wreckless or aimless ambition and not truly understanding what we want and/or not understanding how to achieve that.

In certain sports settings my competitiveness resurfaces with a vengeance and it feels great. In the professional world, I sometimes find great competition that reinvigorates me. But until I start doing something that stokes my passion, it'll always come and go. The goal is to find something out here that keeps that fire going. ***** no joke. Experience, learn then move on for the better or give in and stay complacent.

Look at SP...He's happy. Fire is burning. Find that. Even if you have to go against the grain for awhile.

I'm with you bros. Working everyday to change my mindset. It starts there. I just know it
 
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There should come a point where you only need to prove things to yourself.

Sounds like you hit that junction... As long as you're satisfied that's all that matters.
 
professionally yes, and its biting me in the ***...hit my "glass ceiling" at work and am bored as **** on my assignments, yet only to apply to a handful of other places 
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I honestly felt that same way a couple months back, unsuccessful business ventures and missed goals. Had to go back to work to get things in order. It wasn't until I received a few texts from fam that got me back on course.

Whatever it is you want just work hard and go for it. Sounds cliche, as it might be. I just hate to see people lose creativity and let go of their dreams.
 
No, still competitive. Still wanna beat everyone. Still wanna make every shot. Still want a better job.
 
I'm approaching 30 and if anything, the hunger has intensified. I'm making good money but not enough for that porche panorama gts and that beach house on the islands.

I'm super competitive at the gym too. I have been seriously lifting for 2 years and what pushes me is seeing stronger people in the gym. Same on the basketball court.

I refuse to be stagnant.
 
I realize that my teenage dreams to become rich and a womanizer was just the brainwashing effect of watching too much movies and rap music. Now at 25 years old, i found the right recipe of my happiness and i think many people have different perspectives in this regard, if your path to happiness requires to be more ambitious than the rest, as long you happy with that, thats okay. But i think a lot of people have choose this path just because they were brainwashed by our culture of capitalism (hip hop, hollywood movie, etc.) and not because they think this steps could lead them to happiness, the only question you have to ask yourself at the end of the day is this : Are you happy ?  
 
No. Everything is a competition at my job. Not in a bad way but a push each other way. Even down to the girls. "You don't pull in on her I will". It's great though we push each other and most people are smashing. :lol: whole lotta testosterone at my job.
 
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No. Everything is a competition at my job. Not in a bad way but a push each other way. Even down to the girls. "You don't pull in on her I will". It's great though we push each other and most people are smashing. :lol: whole lotta testosterone at my job.
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lol damn, what do you?
 
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MPLSdunk said:
No. Everything is a competition at my job. Not in a bad way but a push each other way. Even down to the girls. "You don't pull in on her I will". It's great though we push each other and most people are smashing. :lol: whole lotta testosterone at my job.
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lol damn, what do you?
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I'm a cook. It's just a different setting than most kitchens. We all kick it outside of work but not doing drugs like most kitchens. It's more like going to the gym or side hustling in the industry or getting at my boy's gf fine *** friends he always puts us on.

Kitchens can be a very depressing place with the wrong group. I'm happy I'm out of that scene.
 
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