Folks in late 20s - early 30s: looking back at your early 20s..

Wish I would have took college more seriously the first time around. Sucks being in your 30's trying to finish school!
 
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Solemate96 said:
I wish I went out more and traveled like everybody else in their 20s'. I am 28 now and I know I can still do it but I work two jobs 7 days out of the week and it is such a pain. I am just working now to pay off my student loans.
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I sacrificed a lot for my family by staying local to help them out with the restaurant. There was something that happened to me in December 2014 where I was hospitalized at a mental health facility because of my anger which came from living with my parents and them being Asian parents didn't help. They would always scold me, tell me I am stupid and that I was a drug addict for smoking weed. The reason why I smoke weed is to ease the stress from them. To make a long story short, I decided to never communicate with them again. I know time heals all wounds but at this point in time, I think everybody needs a breather from it. To me, it is still very very new.
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Dang bro, thats tough. Heres a hug man, I wish the best for you bro.

But I wish I didn't waste my time from high school and in college with an unhappy relationship. I was dating this chick for 8 years and was so unhappy, she was horrible man, and instead of walking away, I just stayed around like a dummy. But I learned a lot on how a relationship ISN'T supposed to be and now I can't be happier.

Also, wish I saved my money and didn't get into so much debt with nonsense. CC bills are dumb right now, paying for things I spent in college haha

Oh, wish I took working out seriously, I would be good now! haha now I'm 27 barely trying to get in shape and man it is HARD!! My old *** cant keep up with these young cats haha

Wis, whats up man! Haven't seen you too active on IG lately brother.
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Sup, man. Been MIA pretty much on all platforms for the last several months...going through personal issues at the moment. Thanks for the concern, man. It's wild. I talk to my close friends (couple I met on here) almost daily to discuss my situation.

8 years! Man. Would love to know the details if you care to share (via PM if it's too personal).

I had a Korean friend from high school. He was super cool and came from a rich family. Was driving an RX7 in 12th grade and moved onto a super nice SC300 and E55 AMG in college (this was like in 2005). He was dating a black girl, mom asked him to get serious and break up and marry a Korean girl. He said no, she said she's failed as a mother. She took back all belongings and they stopped being family pretty much.


There are too many quotes I wanna hit up because I can relate for sure.

I wish I would've gone out more. I was always an introvert in undergrad, and was always shy/mad (typical NTer persona, right?). I always hung with the same dudes when not studying so we always drank and shot pool. I wish I would've gone more to social events and did stupid stuff when time allowed. I'm making up for lost time now. I focused on a scientific field and I guess I was boring as a result, but I got into my more creative side recently so I'm breaking bread more with folks and enjoying life.

I also wished I dated more and enjoyed being in undergrad. Looking back, it was a blur. I just remember spending a lot of time studying and trying to lay out my future for the path I thought I was going into. 10 years later, my attitude is more relaxed and more go with the flow.
 
KiefUrban said:
If I could go back I wouldnt have continued drinking into my 20s I didn't put it down until I was 29 but now I'm disgusted by just the thought of it.
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Were you out of control with your drinking? I was the youngest one on the team so when I turned 21, it was game on. I'm still convinced we put a couple of shot girls through school. I eventually stopped 2 years later because I adopted a healthier lifestyle and dropped from 220 lbs to 140 lbs in 1.5 years or so. I recently started drinking socially again, and man...I'm gone after 1 margarita :lol:
 
I had it up in my early 20s, I'm 29 now and will be 30 later this year.  I spent money recklessly, traveled frequently, cut people on/off like light switches, tore through people's feelings, and drank way more than I care to remember.  I was on a plane almost every other weekend, I invested in foolishness (at one point I owned several horses, ******* HORSES!), I drank like there was no tomorrow and somehow pulled it together to go to work the next day, only to repeat it that night, I was totally unconscious of people who cared about me and their feelings, I didn't care about paying retail for anything I wanted, blah, blah, blah, the list goes on.

If I could do it again I would have saved more and partied less.  Maybe taken my graduate program more seriously.  There are some weekend trips I wish I never took, some relationships I wish i could repair, a bunch of money I wish I had back, etc.

Since about 27 I just don't feel that 'bulletproof' vibe I had when I was younger and it's for the best.  I'm way more conscious about money, try to treat other people way better, and enjoy some of the simpler things life has to offer that I took for granted in my early 20s.  All a part of maturing I suppose.  
 
zapatohead408 said:
I'm turning 20 next month and would have done a thing or two different. One of them would be to take my mom to the mother son dance.

Hopw to get some great advice from you guys. :pimp:
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Man, what I would give to be 20 again with what I know now :lol:


Enjoy life. Be respectful. Study hard. Party hard.
 
Wish I didn't sell my Starbucks stock while it was in the teens.
Wish I started my career straight out of HS instead of wasting time and money in college (which I didn't finish)
 
I wish I could've been more open with people.
I have a lot of good friends and family but I keep everyone at a distance. Now that I'm older it's very hard for me to open up to anyone...and the biggest struggle I have now is getting people to really understand me. Being misunderstood all the time is a terrible feeling.


I have been all around the world and seen and done things I've never imagine myself doing but of all the memories I have made I realize now the things I remember the most are all the people I've met.
So some advice I would give to everyone would be to be good to people and build genuine relationships with people. Your world becomes a much better place when you treat everyone with respect and kindness.
 
At what age do you guys think is your last chance to choose something Career wise? I'm turning 24 next week and i did one year of computer programming but didn't like it.
now I'm kinda stuck on another career choice.
 
7Jordan7 said:
At what age do you guys think is your last chance to choose something Career wise? I'm turning 24 next week and i did one year of computer programming but didn't like it.
now I'm kinda stuck on another career choice.
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Bro you can be 50 and you ain't stuck
 
If I could take it all back now, I wouldn't
I would have did more **** that people said that I shouldn't
But I'm all grown up now and upgraded and graduated
Did better drugs and updated
But I've still got a lot of growing up to do
I've still got a whole lot of throwing up to spew


I would probably smashed more girls
 
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My whole life I've always felt like I was playing catchup.
The mistakes I made along the way surely didn't help.
For whatever reason I always resented the ppl with
the "easy life". The kids growing up that had everything,
no worries whatsoever. In college I was the guy that
had multiple jobs and barely had time for school or
anything else for that matter and now being in my late
20's I really feel like I missed out. I wish I could have
just went to school, got an education and experienced
**** for what it was at the time. I know ppl say life goes
on and everyday is a new day to turn it around or
whatever, but that's way easier said than done. Time
is everything and if you can try to capitalize on as much
of it as possible WITH THE THINGS THAT MATTER MOST!

Also is it just me or does life speed up when you hit 25?
It's like where did the time go??????? TAKE ADVANTAGE PPL!
 
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I would not be so sensitive, and would've actually stuck to exercising the whole way through back then instead of the start/stop stuff I was doing.
 
I graduated from college 10 years ago today. I definitely did NOT take life serious enough back then, and honestly I was a bit spoiled. I'm 31 now and i definitely see things a lot more clearly now. I'm in a decent position with a job that suits me well.

You've GOT to have the mentality that you made the best decision for yourself at the time and you're exactly where you chose to be. You can play 'what if' ALL DAY, word to yeezy.

Realistically, if something was important enough for you to accomplish, you would've done it. Period. I wanted to go to law school. Kinda. Which is why I still haven't done it. Kinda ain't gonna cut it. If it's an emergency to you then it will get done. If not, it may or may not.
 
But forreal so many.. life wasnt meant to be perfect, just dont make the same mistakes twice.
 
My advice to everyone in here. Give your dreams and goal at least a few tries. You don't wanna be on your death bed saying "coulda', woulda', shoulda'."
 
wj4 said:
Were you out of control with your drinking? I was the youngest one on the team so when I turned 21, it was game on. I'm still convinced we put a couple of shot girls through school. I eventually stopped 2 years later because I adopted a healthier lifestyle and dropped from 220 lbs to 140 lbs in 1.5 years or so. I recently started drinking socially again, and man...I'm gone after 1 margarita :lol:
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i looked back and realized that alcohol was involved almost every single time I got in trouble. I did a lot of things that went against my character and it got harder and harder to just brush off. A car accident a few years ago was the last straw and I haven't touched it since. All of a sudden it just clicked. I went out a couple of times with my boys but soon realized I hate drunk people and am genuinely embarrassed that I did that for so long. Yeah bro the weight just fell off my body after I stopped. I also adopted a healthier lifestyle when I stopped and I can't ever see going back. You cant gain anything from it.
 
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GrimlocK said:
Wis, I'm going to be 30 this year as well brother so I know why you ask the questions you ask.

IMHO here are 2 wisdom pieces I hope younger and older NT'ers will understand...

1) The grass will ALWAYS be greener....if you live with some sort of regret about the past

and

2) Hindsight is always 20/20....

It seems to me that this is a human condition for people who are either trying to be successful in the present, feel stuck in life, and/or live with that regret.

there's tons of things I wish I did differently to be honest. I think about it daily. But over the past year i've learned how to better cope with the setbacks i've come across.

So for anyone making a big decision (e.g., type of girl your dating, lending/borrowing money, financial investment, career, education, etc.) I urge you to take the time to gather the facts about the situation....especially the fact about how you feel about the situation and make the best decision possible. The best decision is not always the one that will make you feel good though...initially.
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Were mistakes made in the past? Sure, without question, but what good does it do me and y'all to lament over what "could've been" and "should've been"? Everyday is an opportunity to live or work towards the life you have always imagined for yourself. Seize these present moments and brood little about foregone matters.





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SuperAntigen said:
Were mistakes made in the past? Sure, without question, but what good does it do me and y'all to lament over what "could've been" and "should've been"? Everyday is an opportunity to live or work towards the life you have always imagined for yourself. Seize these present moments brood little about foregone matters




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looking back at past decisions will give you insight about how you may feel about your current decisions in the future. They say keeping one foot in the past and the other in the future will have you pissing on the present but you can't make sound decisions without reference points.
 
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Fontaine said:
Grass is always greener, b.

I'm 25... I wish I could fast shared to 35, get all that knowledge, then come back to 25.

That would be :pimp:
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THIS RIGHT HERE......PERCEPTION IS EVERYTHING.....

I turn 35 later this year and there is a ton of things I would of done differently........not that I have

any regrets, but when your perception changes your like...damn I coulda been doing like this all along.

I will probably feel the same way at 45 also...
 
No regrets... lived life wild from 18 - 23.... met my life partner at 23, i have 3 beautiful kids and a decent job... i wouldve finished college if i actually paid for it...
 
KiefUrban said:
wj4 said:
Were you out of control with your drinking? I was the youngest one on the team so when I turned 21, it was game on. I'm still convinced we put a couple of shot girls through school. I eventually stopped 2 years later because I adopted a healthier lifestyle and dropped from 220 lbs to 140 lbs in 1.5 years or so. I recently started drinking socially again, and man...I'm gone after 1 margarita :lol:
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i looked back and realized that alcohol was involved almost every single time I got in trouble. I did a lot of things that went against my character and it got harder and harder to just brush off. A car accident a few years ago was the last straw and I haven't touched it since. All of a sudden it just clicked. I went out a couple of times with my boys but soon realized I hate drunk people and am genuinely embarrassed that I did that for so long. Yeah bro the weight just fell off my body after I stopped. I also adopted a healthier lifestyle when I stopped and I can't ever see going back. You cant gain anything from it.
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everybody hates drunk people....when they are sober.

moderation is the key to life.
 
Am 30 now.. but now that I think of it I wouldn't have always tried to be in a relationship in my 20s.  Spent way too much money on those chicks lol. but you live and you learn.

From a school perspective glad I got my MBA right after undergrad and bought the crib on the downside of the market.. Having large amount of equity in  your home at 30 is a wonderful thing.

Besides that... to my youngins don't wife up any chick unless she is Sansa Stark and got that Winterfell Money.
 
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