How do you guys deal with flakey/unreliable people?

allreds

allreds

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Even after giving them the benefit of the doubt many times.

-stay friends with them because "that's just how they are"

-cut them off completely

What are NT's opinions? What does Ja Rule think of this?

Discuss.
 
Dealt with this last summer
Let me go man

Enjoy the time spent with your homies

Things change

Accept it and move on they come and go
 
Cut them off,b. It's hard at first, you feel like you did so,etching wrong on your end. You try and fix it, hoping that person will turn it around eventually. At the end of the day F them though. Like dude said, a flakey person ain't respecting you. No need for them.
 
TBreeze said:
Cut them off,b. It's hard at first, you feel like you did so,etching wrong on your end. You try and fix it, hoping that person will turn it around eventually. At the end of the day F them though. Like dude said, a flakey person ain't respecting you. No need for them.
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That's exactly how I feel at the moment. My dude literally lives like 7 minutes away. Known him since HS. I always went to his house majority of the time, he never bothered to show up to my place just to kick it for a minute. I usually don't keep tabs either but I always helped him favors and this #$%& was pushin it. Now he has a kid and works at a dead end job. Actually most of my friends are like that, so I got no one to kick it with anymore, but I'm pursuing nursing so that will keep me busy for a while.
 
allreds said:
That's exactly how I feel at the moment. My dude literally lives like 7 minutes away. Known him since HS. I always went to his house majority of the time, he never bothered to show up to my place just to kick it for a minute. I usually don't keep tabs either but I always helped him favors and this #$%& was pushin it. Now he has a kid and works at a dead end job. Actually most of my friends are like that, so I got no one to kick it with anymore, but I'm pursuing nursing so that will keep me busy for a while.
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Yeah man, don't even stress it to be honest. Dude got a kid so I'd cut him some slack but still wouldn't chase after any friendships. Do you, focus on yourself and fill ha free time studying, cutting up some female or at the gym
 
It's annoying, but if you're close with them and it's all good on both ends you just suck it up. If you're not close with them like that, then cut them off if you feel necessary.
 
I've been through this many times....and I've done this to people many times.

There's no hard and fast rule when it comes to things like this. So many different factors are involved, but ultimately it boils down to how close your are with this person, how much respect you still have for each other, the reasons why they're flakey/unreliable, and can you depend on them to be there for you in a quality and sincere/authentic way when you need them and vice-versa.

I got a friend right now who after he got his now g/f (around 2 years now) this dude been flakey as hell. Now I could'a got all butthurt about it but I stepped back and evaluated the situation objectively: Is there some sort of closeness that still exists? To some degree. Is there enough respect between us to remain friends? Yes. Why are they flakey/unreliably? Different station in life, trying to build a relationship into a marriage, busy with work. Can I depend on him when time gets rough? Most likely.

Now, this dude has historically been known for being whipped once in a relationship...but as his friend I gotta accept that it's who he is. Wasn't like he was talking **** about me behind my back or other types of nonsense. He's worth, atleast, to keep as a friend. Whenever he reaches out I'll reach back. We used to be better friends but life happens and it's understandable.

I mean you really need to understand why your getting so hurt over another person being flakey like this and figure if your wanna reclassify their position (until they prove you wrong) in your hierarchy of relationships.

/rant
 
Have a 'homie'... That's just like this.

We don't depend or rely on dude for anything.

We make plans with him knowing they'll fall through, so we don't attempt to follow up on them either. And if by chance he planned on following up.. Oh whale

Kind of starting to phase him out anyways, that's usually the trait of a snake.

Keep your grass cut b.

There's a difference between doing it every now and then versus consistently not being ****.
 
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Jay Patt said:
Have a 'homie'... That's just like this.

We don't depend or rely on dude for anything.

We make plans with him knowing they'll fall through, so we don't attempt to follow up on them either. And if by chance he planned on following up.. Oh whale

Kind of starting to phase him out anyways, that's usually the trait of a snake.

Keep your grass cut b.

There's a difference between doing it every now and then versus consistently not being ****.
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Yamcha said:
I'm usually the flakey one
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so I'm usually understanding.
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I see you snakes
 
I have better things to do with my time than spend it with worthless people that dont respect it.

Cut off my best friend in college for this reason.
 
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