Pawn in a parental game vol. Manipulative parents

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Coromanti

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I know NT has a leaning of pro mom f dad but hear me out

For years I felt like my mom never cared. I was an asset. Little more than a stock or bond.

She invested in me as a parent should but she treated me like a show dog, always caring about the result and not my well being.

Some of you might say F the emotions give me the cash but it doesnt workout how you think.

Especially when your mom has all the signs of a text book narcissist and borderline psychopath, it doesn't work out how you think.

It's hard. Since I felt we grew apart (aka when I developed the ability the think and she couldn't easily control me anymore) I've always been at odds with her.

She was always emotionally distant, and I wasnt used to it going into my teen years so that culminated into years of rage. That rage only subsided this past October.

And for a few months we got along great.

Then today I learned once again I was being used as pawn in her schemes.

However this time I'm not angry. I'm disappointed in myself. I let her in. Sure I kept her out behind a wall of flames but she was out regardless.

Now she's out once again and I'm comfortable with that decision.

I will always love her for what she has done for me but I can't continue to let her use me and manipulate my emotions.

I'm done.
 
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Haven't talked to my mom in four months.

But I sleep better, am in a better mental state with the reduction of stress. As a teen, she would kick me out of the house for breathing wrong and she literally chose men over her children. They would be men she'd just met too. You don't know pain until you get it through the person who birthed and raised you. I literally walked in on one of her boyfriends snorting coke, told her, and she called me a liar.

We both knew it would happen one day. We saw an episode of some show where the mom of some girl approached her grandchildren with their father from across the street. It was her first and only time she'd see them. My mom mentioned that it would probably be her in the future.

When I moved away from my hometown for school it was the greatest blessing. All she knows how to do is hurt people.
 
Just do what I did to my moms fam.

Put her on that permanent blacklist. My mom knows damn well to not come close to me or attempt to interact with me for any reason whatsoever.

Life bruh.

Haven't talked to her in...... 2-3 years? Never cared to keep track.

Stereotypical black dad in reverse. FTB
 
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bro my mom is a textbook narcissist. after studying narcissistic personality disorder for years i am 100% sure she has it. she does not care for anybody but her self and will talk trash about any body behind there back. these ppl are EVIL. I am going NO CONTACT in the future.

her insults and manipulation has F'd me up through the years. all they care for is looking good in front of ppl.

i pray for all the kids like me... shes the reason i have anxiety disorder as an adult.

trust your instincts...if you feel like they dont love you then they really dont.

i compared my mom to my friends and cousins moms... my mom was coldhearted when theirs were loving...a real mom.

my mom never hugged me or wanted to talk to me. it sux but it hardens you and makes you stronger. i try to learn from it and not let it get me down.

for sure they had their own parents that did not care for them...abuse them and what not...and they made a false persona and somehow went psycho in the process...

respect over anything.. even family... if they cant respect you then they are NOTHING.

funny how they can trash talk all they want but when they get just a lil bit of criticism they cry and play victim...

they are children stuck in an adults body

imo this is an epidemic... i see so many narcs out there in the world its ridiculous...
 
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This domino effect damages the soul too deep. Break that **** and do the opposite of whatever she was!
Keep your head up OP
 
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Damn op stay up man..I'm sorry to hear that...I hope everything works in yor favor over time and that y'all will be able to have a genuine relationship
 
My mom raised me and not my dad so obviously I'm biased.

But sorry your mom is like that. I've seen that before I would not have that either.
 
Damn OP :frown:
keep your head up and try to stay positive .
the best advice that I can give you is do what makes YOU happy.

What exactly happened today that made everything blow up? (If you don't mind sharing)
 
FlyNY said:
Damn OP :frown:
keep your head up and try to stay positive .
the best advice that I can give you is do what makes YOU happy.

What exactly happened today that made everything blow up? (If you don't mind sharing)
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nah. Its definitely going to court and a high likelihood of me going too. If I've learned anything from TV, internet, media in general, its to keep quiet
 
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This domino effect damages the soul too deep. Break that **** and do the opposite of whatever she was!
Keep your head up OP
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Realist post in the thread lowkey.

Going to have to get over it, the world won't care.
 
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**** off. I could be dragged into court over the stunt she pulled today. So please go away.

Y'all nt jokers never know when to quit.
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you were obviously breast fed way too long...
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you don't know the pain so you have no idea.

I'm baring my soul on this forum cuz I thought nt was a family in a way. I guess not.
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Sorry I was being insensitive initially. I just didn't like how you came back at me, but its all good. No hard feelings.

Hope things work out between you and moms. Sometimes the ones closest too us hurt us the most, especially because of their role and access.
Everyone is wired differently. You would expect maternal instincts to kick in and override some bad habits and ways of thinking. But that isnt always the case.
We are all damaged and unfortunately you are a victim of her damages. Maybe with some time and gained wisdom, this will be revealed to her,
so she can repent.Til then, show her love (everytime you encounter her) but remain cautious and remember who you are dealing with.
Much blessings.
 
Good luck OP. My parents and I don't have a great relationship but it ain't nothing like what you're going through
 
Tldnr

Just came in to say hope you get your **** right..

And...


People never give props to papas...

I got reps for all the daddies in here
 
Sorry to hear that, I have a great relationship with both parents. Everyone I know that lost a parent wishes they would have made amends or at least forgive and let go. Something to think about .
 
my mother is a controlling person, but those elements have come from trying to fill a deep void due to depression. her ideal child-parent relationship is to how a dog and owner interact, full on obedience, despite some really stupid/poorly calculated moves my mother has made over the years. 

her and mine relationship was strained, but its better now. however, my adopted younger sister catches the brunt of the **** from my mother. i feel for the kid but there isn't much i can do besides tell my mother to calm down if she is giving my sister more **** than she deserves. 
 
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Fontaine said:
Tldnr

Just came in to say hope you get your **** right..

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People never give props to papas...

I got reps for all the daddies in here
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My dad is A1 bruh.

S/O to the NT fathers holding it down
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Sorry to hear that, I have a great relationship with both parents. Everyone I know that lost a parent wishes they would have made amends or at least forgive and let go. Something to think about .
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You've just met one that could care less.
 
smh  at all the scumbag moms.sorry to hear bout that 

my mom was great , my dad is still  great but i gave my kids a pos mom..... 
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 feel bad for my kids. thats why i make it a point to make my kids my #1 priority. nothing comes before them....
 
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My mother had a ****** mother. She physically abused my mom as a child. my mother had multiple chipped teeth from it and her back looks like Lupita's from 12 years a slave. Legs scarred up too.

She ignored my moms complaints about the abuse, cussed her out all the time, berated her for barely finishing college, criticizing her choosing my dad when she kept my mom sheltered her entire life.

She used to drive over to a mans house to cheat on my granddad, and left my mom in the backseat of the car while she was inside. The car windows were rolled up & the AC was off.

Even through all that, my mother kept trying to build a relationship with the woman until my mom was 50. Then my mom finally cut her off. My mom Wrote her a letter detailing how terrible her childhood was and how she's cutting all contact.

After a few months my grandma apologized profusely about everything. Even told my mom that she loved her for literally the first time.

My grandma passed away suddenly shortly after that. My mom was crushed.
 
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My dad is A1 bruh.

S/O to the NT fathers holding it down
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You've just met one that could care less.
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360waves said:
Sorry to hear that, I have a great relationship with both parents. Everyone I know that lost a parent wishes they would have made amends or at least forgive and let go. Something to think about .
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For some. It's one thing to be around someone who made a mistake and learned from their actions. This man just told you his mom did something that will eventually bring him into court.

Some people, even blood, will use and manipulate you as long as they have access to you. They have no sympathy for you being their child. The best way to love sometimes is from a distance.
 
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Haven't talked to my mom in four months.

But I sleep better, am in a better mental state with the reduction of stress. As a teen, she would kick me out of the house for breathing wrong and she literally chose men over her children. They would be men she'd just met too. You don't know pain until you get it through the person who birthed and raised you. I literally walked in on one of her boyfriends snorting coke, told her, and she called me a liar.

We both knew it would happen one day. We saw an episode of some show where the mom of some girl approached her grandchildren with their father from across the street. It was her first and only time she'd see them. My mom mentioned that it would probably be her in the future.

When I moved away from my hometown for school it was the greatest blessing. All she knows how to do is hurt people.
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I hate women like this. I know some now that are that type 
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