discipline with kids vol:no hitting

fontaine · May 24, 2015

How do you do it?

Dead serious...

Any nters that have kids but don't put them thangs in them..?

Do you have some bad *** kids and uoeno?

suberzat1 · May 24, 2015

I got my *** whooped when I was younger so only see right to pass it along. But na not sure how im going to discipline my kids with the way things are going in American and dudes getting arrest for said acts.

wayniac211 · May 24, 2015

I smack them when it's a safety issue. Strong verbal prompts when they get disrespectful and calm/nurturing reinforcement when explaining why I smacked em

kingfoamnyc · May 24, 2015

I dont... yet.

My 3 old daughter thinks she's the damn boss

Already know I gotta start smacking them hands soon

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ill steelo · May 24, 2015

Paging @DarthSka

RIP sleazyy · May 24, 2015

Stern voice plus loss of privileges. Only had to spank a few times, 3-4 tops.

Wayniac is dead on.

You should always explain why they're being punished too. Helps foster corrective behavior.

fontaine · May 24, 2015

See, I'm not trying to put them thangs on my kid a lot...

I see parents that kick *** a lot and it doesn't work...

More violence just makes kids think they can settle their life issues with violence

suberzat1 · May 24, 2015

I say yes and no, its the environment the kids live/raise can. Lack of any type of discipline could lead to violence.

jjs07 · May 24, 2015

I feel like you've either made this topic or had this discussion before :lol:

Anyways...I've never put a hand on my daughter. Worst thing you can do is take away her books or tell her she can't do "homework" (handwriting) as a punishment. I wouldn't want it any other way.

I've been talking to her like an adult since the day she came home from the hospital. She's had a CLEAR understanding of right from wrong at an early age. There's nothing that can't be accomplished (disciplinary) through a discussion.

No joke, before I had my daughter, I read a lot about what @DarthSka said about parenting. It resonated big time with me and helped shape they way my girl and I are raising her.

$tatus $ymbol · May 24, 2015

Link to ska dissertation on parenting?

fontaine · May 24, 2015

JJs07 said:
I feel like you've either made this topic or had this discussion before

Anyways...I've never put a hand on my daughter. Worst thing you can do is take away her books or tell her she can't do "homework" (handwriting) as a punishment. I wouldn't want it any other way.

I've been talking to her like an adult since the day she came home from the hospital. She's had a CLEAR understanding of right from wrong at an early age. There's nothing that can't be accomplished (disciplinary) through a discussion.

No joke, before I had my daughter, I read a lot about what @DarthSka said about parenting. It resonated big time with me and helped shape they way my girl and I are raising her.

Wasn't me famb...

I just saw a woman jack her kid up and call him ugly.

He was 2. :frown:

kingfoamnyc · May 24, 2015

Damn that's extra as hell

blakep267 · May 24, 2015

Fontaine said:
See, I'm not trying to put them thangs on my kid a lot...

I see parents that kick *** a lot and it doesn't work...

More violence just makes kids think they can settle their life issues with violence

Not every person is the same. So where as some people respond that way, others don't.

Like some people have kids that just a simple time out will do it. Others have kids that need the fear of God put into them. It isn't a universal thing

slighted · May 24, 2015

I got whupped with everything as a kid (belts, metal/wood chopsticks, judo sticks).

I really don't know how modern day kids can grow up to be decent, non-spoiled, non-******* people without getting the hands.

atlien seeko · May 24, 2015

I think you need a good book recommendation, which I don't have.

zapatohead408 · May 24, 2015

My old man only put hands on me a handful of times. I deserved it every time. If I ever hit someone he would hit/slap me in the same place and ask me how I liked it. If I was behaving bad and he gave me the look I knew to calm down because he wasn't afraid to lay down the law. He always spoke to me in a calm and mature manner and questioned why I did whatever I did. I'd say that's the reason I was one of the more mature kids my age, I learned I needed a reason to do whatever I was doing.

edit: He also made examples of just about anything he could. If he saw some dude high on drugs acting a fool, he'd always point them out and say "Don't worry mijo, drugs don't do anything to you" in a sarcastic manner. A couple times in public places when some youngster would be acting a fool, he'd point them out especially if they were in a group. He'd always emphasize that it's easy to act tough and do things in a crew, so don't let that get to my head is what he said, and if I was about that life, I'd better be the same if I was alone.

******* love my old man! :pimp:

andretti · May 25, 2015

Fontaine said:
JJs07 said:

I feel like you've either made this topic or had this discussion before

Anyways...I've never put a hand on my daughter. Worst thing you can do is take away her books or tell her she can't do "homework" (handwriting) as a punishment. I wouldn't want it any other way.

I've been talking to her like an adult since the day she came home from the hospital. She's had a CLEAR understanding of right from wrong at an early age. There's nothing that can't be accomplished (disciplinary) through a discussion.

No joke, before I had my daughter, I read a lot about what @DarthSka said about parenting. It resonated big time with me and helped shape they way my girl and I are raising her.

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Wasn't me famb...

I just saw a woman jack her kid up and call him ugly.

He was 2.

damn son

It's really some ****** parents out there
I remember I was in Walmart and this toddler pointed towards this book bags that was hanging up and said he wanted it

His pops yanked him up by the arm and told him to **** :smh:

gentrification · May 25, 2015

They act outta pocket whoop they ***!!

moe fab · May 25, 2015

I'm the one that takes responsibility for disciplining my little brother n nephew. My Pops is too lenient, n my sis is too strict. Therefore, they usually refer to me.

I feel I'm fair in their punishments, majority of the time I kneel, so I can be eye-to-eye with them, n explain why what they did was wrong.

Sometimes, around family n those close to me, I may lose my temper after having to repeat myself, or fight to keep their attention, n yell at them. I'm not gonna lie, there are moments I do cuss, but I don't call them names. I don't cuss to degrade them, it's more of a way to emphasize my anger n embarrassment.

I also whip them with a belt if they deserve it, although this is very rare, n always done privately; no one needs to see that, this isn't a show. I will whip them once with my belt, n allow them to finish crying before voicing my discomfort doing so, then explain the error in their ways. I will also slap their faces, if they continually lie to me; I will not stand for lying.

However, most times I inform them of a whooping, I elect not to follow through. I use it as a way to show I'm always paying attention, n that I've given them enough chances, but when we go to another room, I lecture them, so as to teach them.

I always hug it out n tell them I love them after any type of discipline as well. I don't discipline them to be mean nor hurt them, it's so they learn how to conduct themselves as boys, n eventually as men. Love them too much to ever do anything out of malice.

sn00pee · May 25, 2015

Physical discipline hurts the mental development of children and show no benefits.

Taken there is so much info on the subject, I don't understand why people continue to use this method, especially in America.

Kaleo15 · May 25, 2015

Depends on the situation and severity of it. Children don't really grasp and understand Respect, but they know Fear.

BukHumYai · May 25, 2015

blastercombo · May 25, 2015

http://niketalk.com/t/589637/parent...anking-their-kid-and-uploading-to-facebook/60

Here's a previous thread about the topic. There are others if you search spanking or discipline.

Here's what I said:

"The physical part of discipline should be obsolete by the time that child learns the meaning of consequences. The point of spanking is to be able to create a remedial consequence during the years a child doesn't have the mental capacity to comprehend cause and effect."

PRIME · May 25, 2015

Well, my son is only 1, so nothing real yet except a lil smack on the hand when he tries to yank stuff out of the outlets

I got my *** whooped as a kid, but not OD. So I plan to carry out a similar act of discipline.

Just like someone already said, verbal correction when it's nothing serious, a few licks when it's something that's putting them in danger, and always explaining why they are being disciplined.

Imo that's the best way for a child to learn that there's repercussions for their actions.

Now if one day I have to pick his grown *** up from the police station for some stupid ****, Ima cave his chest in.

But that's gotta be extreme. I remember my dad used to go upside my head :smh:

spacedoodoo · May 25, 2015

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