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Dead, b.
I'd never do that to my boy
I'd never do that to my boy
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at the video.
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because it's hard to conceptualize it...
And because our parents whipped is and we turned out fine (common thing people say)
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Mayweather's dad used to punch him in the face...
...look how well he turned out.
...look how well he turned out.
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Every blue moon and it's never by surprise. I tell my 2 when they're approaching the point of being "recalibrated" ive moved away from it because social media puts the negative spin on everything. Cats beating their kids for likes. Same thing with the hair cuts. Not saying it's a horrible idea but 1. My kids are too young for Facebook so what am I proving by posting it? 2. Public humiliation to me is as damaging if not more than spanking. Kids look to their parents for security, even when they're wrong. I tell my girlfriend, the few times I've laid hands, an hour or so later my son or daughter are up under me apologizing and looking for a hug. It's possible to give structure and protection at the same time. And let's me know I'm doing something right
Sorry for thelong read btw
Sorry for thelong read btw
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Nah fam we get dem legs where I'm from.
You won't be walking right for the rest of the day.
But in all seriousness, hitting or popping helps kids remember, it's negative reinforcement.
"Oh, whenever I touch this heater cord, mom whoops my leg, maybe I shouldn't do that **** anymore."
When my nephew gets put in timeout, if he gets down he gets whooped. At first he'd always get down and run away and get whooped, but now he won't even get up when you tell him to, you have to pick him up out of the seat.
You won't be walking right for the rest of the day.
But in all seriousness, hitting or popping helps kids remember, it's negative reinforcement.
"Oh, whenever I touch this heater cord, mom whoops my leg, maybe I shouldn't do that **** anymore."
When my nephew gets put in timeout, if he gets down he gets whooped. At first he'd always get down and run away and get whooped, but now he won't even get up when you tell him to, you have to pick him up out of the seat.
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In my house we call it "Correction".
I only correct my kids when they disobey me, or break my set rules.
If they behave in a way I dont like, I train them on it.
If the break or spill something, its not an offense unless they've gone against set training in
doing so. (Then I retrain) I don't correct my children when I'm angry. I get my emotions in check first,
so I dont go over board and so they don't feel anger pointed at them.
I correct them in private so there's no embarrassment.
When I do correct my children. They know why they are getting correction/ what training
they went against before hand. And we talk and hug it out afterwards. I make
sure they know I still love them and I am only acting out of love.
I only correct my kids when they disobey me, or break my set rules.
If they behave in a way I dont like, I train them on it.
If the break or spill something, its not an offense unless they've gone against set training in
doing so. (Then I retrain) I don't correct my children when I'm angry. I get my emotions in check first,
so I dont go over board and so they don't feel anger pointed at them.
I correct them in private so there's no embarrassment.
When I do correct my children. They know why they are getting correction/ what training
they went against before hand. And we talk and hug it out afterwards. I make
sure they know I still love them and I am only acting out of love.
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ask peterson n howard
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I'm whole-heartedly against hitting kids as a means of discipline/punishment.
Using violence as a means of discipline is not only lazy, it's irrational. It's your job as a parent to figure out why the life you're responsible for is acting out, not to hit them until they do as you say.
Not to mention it sets a template for conflict resolution that has no practical application within adult relationships. It's your job to teach them how to be an adult and how to be reasonable. There's really no situation where violence is reasonable.
It's just a punk move to assault someone who poses no real threat to you, then lie to yourself AND them by saying it's "for their own good."
If you can explain why it was for their own good, then you can explain why what they did was wrong.
Using violence as a means of discipline is not only lazy, it's irrational. It's your job as a parent to figure out why the life you're responsible for is acting out, not to hit them until they do as you say.
Not to mention it sets a template for conflict resolution that has no practical application within adult relationships. It's your job to teach them how to be an adult and how to be reasonable. There's really no situation where violence is reasonable.
It's just a punk move to assault someone who poses no real threat to you, then lie to yourself AND them by saying it's "for their own good."
If you can explain why it was for their own good, then you can explain why what they did was wrong.
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If you dont train your children, the world will, and you will have to live with those results.
Proper training reduces the need for discipline.
"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it."
Proverbs 22:6
Proper training reduces the need for discipline.
"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it."
Proverbs 22:6
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1-2 back hands to my 3 year olds thigh does the trick.
Also use a time out when at the house.
There's not much I can take from a 3 year old so Im not on that yet.
Also use a time out when at the house.
There's not much I can take from a 3 year old so Im not on that yet.
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Do you have kids?
Easier said then done.
My daughter respects my voice and tone 90% of the time but at the end of the day she's a child and she seems to need a good reminder of that.
I agree with you if your speaking to those who use violence as their only deterrent but I believe spankings are a very useful tool when used reasonably.
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Whether I have kids or not is irrelevant. An argument stands on its merit. It doesn't stand on who's presenting it.
Just because you can't think of a better way to control your kid doesn't mean that spanking is an acceptable solution to a problem. The only thing it does is force a child to obey authority out of fear, which sets children up for a bunch of problems down the line. You're trying to teach them that acting out is wrong when you yourself are acting out because you can't control your problems or effectively identify what's causing your child to act out.
If it's not okay to hit your wife, why would it be acceptable to hit someone in the must vulnerable and helpless stage of their life?
Oh...I'll just leave this here while I'm at it: http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/09/090924231749.htm
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i condone spanking...if not you are sheltering them because that's what will happen to you in real life...especially as a minority.
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Yeah it kinda does matter.
You obviously are just talkin out your ***.
Posting a link supporting your stance is an indication of that.
Anyone can google a stance a find a study that supports it.
But hey, best of luck raising your future kids via text book studies.
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please find a report from a reliable source that state the vast pros of physically disciplining your child. we'll wait.
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Look...either give me a solid argument on how spanking is a healthy way to discipline your child or stop posting.
While you're at it, find me a link correlating corporal punishment/spanking to any positive finding. I mean...you can find ANY study to support any position, right?
Because as far as I can tell, your reasoning is "I can't control my kid sometimes and I can't think of a better way to discipline them, so I spank them....and spanking works because spanking works."
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http://time.com/3387226/spanking-can-be-an-appropriate-form-of-child-discipline/
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/hea...ore-successful-later-in-life-study-finds.html
http://time.com/3387226/spanking-can-be-an-appropriate-form-of-child-discipline/
NT purest at their finest i see.
Stop assuming everyone uses the tool one way.
We ain't out here AP'n ****.
I don't use belts or switches or anything but my hand.
I don't use all my force and I'm never angry when I do it.
It's a very useful tool when used properly.
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If you can raise your child without using the rod.... props.
But get off your high horse by tellin people like me Im wrong for doing so.
Who the **** are you?
Thats what pisses me off.
And people without kids need not ever tell anyone how to raise their child.
You can get yourself hurt for that
But get off your high horse by tellin people like me Im wrong for doing so.
Who the **** are you?
Thats what pisses me off.
And people without kids need not ever tell anyone how to raise their child.
You can get yourself hurt for that
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If you can raise your child without using the rod.... props.
But get off your high horse by tellin people like me Im wrong for doing so.
Who the **** are you?
Thats what pisses me off.
And people without kids need not ever tell anyone how to raise their child.
You can get yourself hurt for that
This.
There's a huge difference between discipline and abuse.
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The primary results of spanking kids: unneeded aggressiveness. Why you so angry b? Oh you were spanked as a kid...If you can raise your child without using the rod.... props.
But get off your high horse by tellin people like me Im wrong for doing so.
Who the **** are you?
Thats what pisses me off.
And people without kids need not ever tell anyone how to raise their child.
You can get yourself hurt for that
But seriously, why not try to raise a better society instead of looking for instant gratification? You seriously have nothing to lose. It doesn't make you less of a parent, the positives out weight the negatives by a landslide, I mean seriously, what is there to honestly lose???
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And BTW you only posted one semi valid article(the telegraph one) and no sources are included in it.
Oh abd even that one isn't so credible it seems...
http://scienceblogs.com/appliedstatistics/2010/01/05/spanking-makes-kids-perform-be/
Like jayz said, we don't believe you, you need more people
Oh abd even that one isn't so credible it seems...
http://scienceblogs.com/appliedstatistics/2010/01/05/spanking-makes-kids-perform-be/
Like jayz said, we don't believe you, you need more people
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