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Used to catch the fade from mom dukes all the time...my daughter is 7 now...i dont think ive even ever yelled at her.
discipline with kids vol:no hitting
Obviously you turn the burner on high and force their hand onto it.
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Dude is 1.5 yr old. Not just his age but his attention span in seconds.They can understand emotion/tones/ but they dont know wtf you saying.
Block off the kitchen, yea. That would do it, but the lil hulk broke the baby gate.
In the scenario, I swatted him twice on the backside of his thigh, looked him in his teary eyes and said "No" while shaking my head. So he make that connection. He hasn't done it since.
Small children act off of impulse.
We as parent have to guide them and help them control their behavior in spite of their impulses. They are not going to absorb
your lectures at that age. But they can feel and understand their are consequences for certain actions. Not every kids needs to get hit, and you shouldn't be having to spank your kids on a 'regular' basis once they are over 4. Its a tool of training that should be used with love and self control, not anger or habit.
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Im not out here supporting hitting babies who don't know any better that's sick.
But my daughter's 3.
She has a good enough concept of right from wrong.
Y'all takin the extremes as the norm.
Most people who say they "spank" their child do so with a couple slaps to the clothed leg or but.
I don't do them southern grandma beatings.
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Ok thought it was a trick question 100% on the connection explanation.
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wat are southrrn grandma beatings?
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i used to think the same thing until i was proven wrong over and over watching my wife and son interact. i think children can understand more than parents give them credit for at an early age. the smartest kids out of all my cousins were these 3 that got perfect SATs and got into top colleges with scholarships and they also went to public school. asked my auntie how her kids got so smart and said she talked to them using proper sentence structure and never babyspeak from when they were infants and encouraged them to read from an early age too.
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Growing up, I found that taking away my privileges was much worse (effective) than beating me.
The pain mostly subsided after a few hours, days at the most severe.
But telling me I can't go outside nor play video games for weeks? That **** was like prison.
I remember one time my dad took my CLOTHES fam. I had a buncha throwbacks, girbaud jeans in every color, and of course tons of shoes. What had me bugging is that dude didn't even buy half of that ****
technically half that stuff was mine. Of course I ain't say that though
This guy took ALL of that **** and put it in storage. Had me rocking fruit of the loom plain shirts, plain jane Levi's and my creased up shoes i used to hoop in :x
That right there was MUCH more devastating than any *** whooping I ever got.
The pain mostly subsided after a few hours, days at the most severe.
But telling me I can't go outside nor play video games for weeks? That **** was like prison.
I remember one time my dad took my CLOTHES fam. I had a buncha throwbacks, girbaud jeans in every color, and of course tons of shoes. What had me bugging is that dude didn't even buy half of that ****
technically half that stuff was mine. Of course I ain't say that though This guy took ALL of that **** and put it in storage. Had me rocking fruit of the loom plain shirts, plain jane Levi's and my creased up shoes i used to hoop in :x
That right there was MUCH more devastating than any *** whooping I ever got.
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Growing up, I found that taking away my privileges was much worse (effective) than beating me.
The pain mostly subsided after a few hours, days at the most severe.
But telling me I can't go outside nor play video games for weeks? That **** was like prison.
I remember one time my dad took my CLOTHES fam. I had a buncha throwbacks, girbaud jeans in every color, and of course tons of shoes. What had me bugging is that dude didn't even buy half of that ****
This guy took ALL of that **** and put it in storage. Had me rocking fruit of the loom plain shirts, plain jane Levi's and my creased up shoes i used to hoop in :x
That right there was MUCH more devastating than any *** whooping I ever got.
If you were old enough to buy your own Girbaud jeans, this thread isn't about you
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Spanking ain't all that bad. Me my bro and cousins turned out fine. Some kids really do need the belt to that backside to straighten up. Just depends on the extent of the action. Should touching a hot stove deserve a spanking? No. But a kid acting up in school or public causing a scene does deserve a little pop on the legs or arms in private. Taking johnny's gameboy for a week doesn't work on everyone.
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How's a 1.5 year old breaking down a gate and getting to a stove quick enough to turn it on?
C'mon, bro...
No one is "lecturing" a kid at that age, man. Think about their attention span. However, if you talk to them from an early age (studies show this)...like actually have conversations, they will increase their vocabulary capacity as well as their cognitive ability to learn NOT to do things due to safety reasons. And trust me...they do understand what you're saying. Kids aren't dumb.
Simple as that.
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How's a 1.5 year old breaking down a gate and getting to a stove quick enough to turn it on?
C'mon, bro...
No one is "lecturing" a kid at that age, man. Think about their attention span. However, if you talk to them from an early age (studies show this)...like actually have conversations, they will increase their vocabulary capacity as well as their cognitive ability to learn NOT to do things due to safety reason.
Simple as that.
the lecture had me lol too.
this is common.sents
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Thats great that worked out for them. I never said that talking doesn't work. I'm saying sometimes it is not enough.
And 'correcting' your child is a viable tool in training children.
I never baby spoke and I would read to my children in the womb regularly.
My girls are highly articulate and sociable. This is consistent feedback from people who observe them.
But earlier on, got 'corrected' tho when they were disobedient. Now they have come to understand boundaries
an respecting authority be it another adult, a teacher at school, etc.
How's a 1.5 year old breaking down a gate and getting to a stove quick enough to turn it on?
C'mon, bro...
Simple as that.
He didnt do it in one motion, on some tazmanian devil steez. He broke it a few days earlier
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Thats great that worked out for them. I never said that talking doesn't work. I'm saying sometimes it is not enough.
And 'correcting' your child is a viable tool in training children.
I never baby spoke and I would read to my children in the womb regularly.
My girls are highly articulate and sociable. This is consistent feedback from people who observe them.
But earlier on, got 'corrected' tho when they were disobedient. Now they have come to understand boundaries
an respecting authority be it another adult, a teacher at school, etc.
How's a 1.5 year old breaking down a gate and getting to a stove quick enough to turn it on?
C'mon, bro...
Simple as that.
He didnt do it in one motion, on some tazmanian devil steez. He broke it a few days earlier
Even still...doesn't explain how a 1.5 year old is fast enough to break a gate down and get to the stove without an adult intervening. Unless he's unsupervised, there's literally no way this could happen.
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Thats great that worked out for them. I never said that talking doesn't work. I'm saying sometimes it is not enough.
And 'correcting' your child is a viable tool in training children.
I never baby spoke and I would read to my children in the womb regularly.
My girls are highly articulate and sociable. This is consistent feedback from people who observe them.
But earlier on, got 'corrected' tho when they were disobedient. Now they have come to understand boundaries
an respecting authority be it another adult, a teacher at school, etc.
He wasnt left in a empty room. We were both in the kitchen and he has a toy he plays with in hand. As Im talking to my wife and he walks over to the stove and turns the knob. I say "No, Stop" and call his name. ( He's aware of those words) But, looks at me a laughs and he wrenches the knob faster, pushing on it and almost turning it on. I walk up him so I can control the situation and said No louder, shaking me head in fright. I was hoping he would stop himself /mercy. He didnt. so I swatted him. Then I talked to him about it. The end.How's a 1.5 year old breaking down a gate and getting to a stove quick enough to turn it on?
C'mon, bro...
Simple as that.
He didnt do it in one motion, on some tazmanian devil steez. He broke it a few days earlier
Even still...doesn't explain how a 1.5 year old is fast enough to break a gate down and get to the stove without an adult intervening. Unless he's unsupervised, there's literally no way this could happen.
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I never have hit my daughter and you better believe she never acts up. I can't stand when people let their kids punk them.
Back when she was young and would have a temper tantrum I'd just make her go to her room. Told her to come out when she can talk instead of cry. A few months later she quit with those and she's been super easy ever since.
Imo if you have to hit your kids to get them to listen you need to work on getting them respecting your words so it doesn't need to get to hitting.
Back when she was young and would have a temper tantrum I'd just make her go to her room. Told her to come out when she can talk instead of cry. A few months later she quit with those and she's been super easy ever since.
Imo if you have to hit your kids to get them to listen you need to work on getting them respecting your words so it doesn't need to get to hitting.
Kind of semi off topic... but based on reading everyone's response here... instead of starting a new thread, I should ask here...
How do you feel about people correcting you? As far as parenting?
Based on the responses in here, some of you come off as "I'm right, you're wrong" type of person.
How do you feel about people correcting you? As far as parenting?
Based on the responses in here, some of you come off as "I'm right, you're wrong" type of person.
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If someone tried to correct me on my parenting I wouldn't take kindly to it. Put it that way. I don't explain myself to people I don't need to and that falls into that category.
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^^^ Im the same way.
But I am open to council from people I respect in child training: people who have raised multiple children with high character qualities.
But I am open to council from people I respect in child training: people who have raised multiple children with high character qualities.
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I come off as I know what works for my kid. While I don't agree with hitting a child, to each his own.
Not gonna judge the next person for how they do things (within reason), but I feel as though conversation goes a long way in parenting.
As far as someone correcting me...nah. My ego isn't big enough that I can't ask for advice, because I most certainly have. However, it's more along the lines of me seeking out assistance, rather than someone telling me how to do things.
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Of course, I just don't think many people are as smart as me honestly and my daughter is a great kid. She's nine now.
Let me rephrase. If some random tries to correct me or someone I don't respect I'm not going to listen and get mad if they push the subject.
If my homegirl with two genius kids says something to me I'll listen. We have a lot of the same qualities as parents.
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Let me rephrase. If some random tries to correct me or someone I don't respect I'm not going to listen and get mad if they push the subject.
If my homegirl with two genius kids says something to me I'll listen. We have a lot of the same qualities as parents.
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Dont take this the wrong way but is child training ministry talk?
Never heard anyone say raising a kid as child training and even when I google child training a lot has something to do with religious groups in someway.
Never heard anyone say raising a kid as child training and even when I google child training a lot has something to do with religious groups in someway.
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Not to my knowledge.
I say child training because it helps me. It reminds me what I am supposed to be doing; training them for life.
Helps me be more involved and stay involved.
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